A girl shared how she got scolded by her boyfriend while having “special time” with him over his positioning and her feeling pain, they even stopped midway just to argue.

Here is the story:

“Are there fellow females out there who was scolded by their boyfriends during intercourse?

Me and my bf were getting it on but he was hurting me (i thought it was due to the angle he was hitting it at) so I kept telling him to centralise his body, he shifted a few times but I was still feeling pain whenever he thrust so I kept telling him to move to the centre.

he then got angry at me and shouted “it’s already in the fucking centre la”.

there were also other times when we would argue mid-intercourse due to our rs problems (he would start shouting at me and we would stop intercourse halfway cos our mood was spoilt).

Traumatized

I feel like he has traumatized me and my perception of intercourse bc of the bad experiences I had w him, and I don’t know how I’m going to ever heal from this.

I can’t be the only one who was scolded and shouted at during intercourse right? (it wasn’t in a kinky way btw, but he was legit mad at me)”

Editor’s note: Just scold him back and stand up for yourself.

My (37M) wife (28F) just received a bracelet from a friend (~30sM) in front of me.
This happened over a planned dinner with the guy friend. The guy friend knows the chef at the restaurant we were eating at and brought out some gifts for the chef. At the same instant he gave my wife the bracelet and kept it in her bag.

While chatting I caught the guy friend winking at my wife. But I just ignored it because we were laughing and stuff.

After dinner all three of us were walking in the mall, and the guy friend asked about the bracelet, my wife suddenly wears it.

After we dropped off the friend at his place, I teased my wife about how a lot of guys are attracted to her. And the conversation went this way:

Wife: (Seeming irritated) You know, I hate it when everyone assumes that something is up when guys talk to me back in college.

Me: That was in college, but I’m just teasing you right now. Why do you think he gave you a bracelet?

Wife: He also gave a bracelet to the chef and another one for the chef’s wife, it’s just his way of thanking the chef, for dropping by and getting us a discount.

Me: (Puzzled) But why did he give you one then?

I said to myself, what was he thanking you for then??

I’m super stressed about it. I can’t sleep.

Major edit: just to add some details, the friend works in a hotel. Over the month of April, my wife has asked to have her “me time” spent in that same hotel. She does get a big discount when the friend books for her.

While writing this I realized both overnights were on Thursday night.

A man who took videos of an elderly man and alleged that the man wanted to follow him into the toilet, even after he was out of the toilet the man approached him.

He tried to shoo the man away to no avail and decided to film the man. The netizen said that he has since reported the incident to the Police.

Here is what he said:

Hey not sure if this is allowed but I wanted to share it to raise awareness.

Was walking around Changi Beach when this guy approached me asking if I was swimming as I was going to the toilet. He then asked if he could follow me into the toilet but obviously I told him no and asked him to go away.

After I got out I walked around again and he somehow managed to find me. This time he asked for my name, where I stayed etc. but I just waved him off and continued walking.

Then about 10-15 minutes later he found me again and then decided to sit beside me. This time asking to be friends and if I was schooling etc. Initially I didn’t want to make a big deal of it but I got more and more annoyed. Then he went on to clarify that he ”liked young guys” and wanted to follow me into the toilet because he wouldn’t know if he could find me again.

I raised my voice then told him to just go away and not waste my time. Initially he refused to but then left when more people came about.

I wasn’t bothered by him, but I also noticed a lot of younger school kids around. So if you’re a parent or teacher bringing your kids or early teens here, do be wary and watch over them as at the beginning he seemed to be loitering around the toilet area.

**UPDATE**

Thanks for the suggestions everyone, I have just made a police report on the matter.

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A guy shared how he asked his girlfriend for permission to hang out with a friend and she said yes, so he went ahead but then she got angry because he went ahead with it.

He then asked whether women mean yes when they say no, and no when they say yes.

Here is the story:

“I asked my GF if she’ll get mad if I go hang out with a friend and she answered ‘No’, so I went ahead.

However, when I got back, she is mad at me.

I thought ladies always advocated for ‘No’ means ‘No’? So for my GF does ‘No’ mean ‘Yes’? Do I flip everything around?

So I feel like I am a dog now, ask me sit must sit ask me stand must stand. But no I worse than dog I told to sit I sit but i tio gan.

Editor’s note: I guess its true when they say men are from Mars and women are from Venus.

I resent my husband because he makes very little money.

Me(F37) and husband (38) have been married 10 years and have 3 kids. I have so much pent up resentment because he can’t and will never make enough money to meaningfully contribute to our home.

I’m the main bread winner and right now the only bread winner. We live modestly and we never go hungry but we live paycheck to paycheck.

With the cost of living skyrocketing and wages barely creeping up we have never been able to save much. Or we save and then some huge thing happens that depletes all our savings.

I have a degree and make ok money. Less than 80k a year and I’ll never make too much more. We live a simple life with few luxuries, second hand clothes, old car, no real vacations besides some camping trips or a drive to visit relatives.

When I met my husband I encouraged him to go back to school. He never believed in himself and didn’t feel he could do it. He’s worked crappy low paying jobs our whole marriage which is just enough to pay our daycare and maybe a few groceries.

Basically working so someone else can care for our kids. Also you can’t move up in these crap jobs if you don’t work yourself to the bone and put in 60 hours a week.

Which still left me supporting the whole family and doing all the work at home too since he was gone all the time. Then he had a health problem come up and his body could not handle it.

He’s not technically disabled but he can’t do those jobs anymore. There is nothing wrong with his brain. If he had a degree he could work in some professional field or other that doesn’t require wrecking your body.

But now he’s a stay at home dad until our youngest is in school full time because there’s no sense in him working to pay for daycare.

I love him and my kids but I did not want this. I did not want to basically support a whole family. I did not want to live paycheck to paycheck.

I don’t need fancy things or a lot of material things but I walk around with the stress of being the breadwinner all the time! I don’t even make that much to begin with.

Had he gotten SOME KIND of degree maybe he could actually make enough money to contribute to our home! Even just like a certification in something would give him more opportunities.

I get so jealous of my friends whose husband have professional jobs and make good money. I don’t want their material things or even their high income.

I just want their sense of security that their partner can contribute just as much as they can. Some cushion. Or even the ability to cut my hours a little or not have to pick up overtime.

Sometimes I regret marrying him. I’m angry that he didn’t listen to me when he had the opportunity to go to school and now look at the pickle we’re in.

I regret putting myself in this situation. I knew better but I did it anyway. Money doesn’t buy happiness but lack of money sure does lead to a lot of stress and unhappiness.

here i am again, to seek advice. this time, it’s about my mother.

she has been diagnosed with bipolar type 1 (bpd1) and i am her sole caregiver. i’m 18 (f) and left alone with her without any relatives as they cut her off due to her illness. my dad has been out of the picture since i was young.

she has been in and out of imh since i was sec 3, approx every 2 years. she is unable to hold a stable job as she keeps getting admitted and upon discharge, she is less functional, thus affecting her ability to work. however, she is highly educated. it’s just that she’s on the extreme end of bpd, which means her relapses are a never-ending cycle, so her intelligence and qualifications doesn’t matter if she’s unable to cope with stress and keeps relapsing.

i’m in my final year of polytechnic, and i’m in one of the better courses (r4 ~7pt). i previously dropped out of a good jc as i thought getting a diploma and going straight to work would be a better idea, given the unpredictability of my mom’s illness. i’m determined to get a job first and then apply for uni or a part time degree once i’ve settled down.

as of now, my mom provides me allowance monthly, and that is all. my social worker and some imh personnel have told me that if it is not possible or ideal for me to be taking care of her, i have the option of keeping her inside for a few years until i settle down. it was also encouraged because i am “only 18” and i shouldn’t be responsible for my mother right now.

as her sole caregiver, ngl i’m really honestly very burnt out. i used to score straight As when my grandma was helping out too but now that she’s out of the picture, my grades have been impacted tremendously. i’ve also been working part-time but i think it’s just barely enough to cover the rest of my poly acad year.

my mom keeps gaslighting me and telling me she had it worse, even though people have been paying off her debts and cleaning up after her mess over and over again throughout her entire life. she also kept taking my savings away from me. she dumps all her emotional problems and vents onto me expecting me to be able to handle all of it on top of my own stress. i can’t, and she knows that, but she does it anyway because she has already pushed all her friends and loved ones away due to her crude and harsh words/actions. she also spam calls me and messages me every single day and it’s super distracting especially during class. this happens even if she’s not relapsing.

moreover, when she gets these relapses, she may harm people in public (she has tried to, multiple times before) thinking they are her “enemies” or “zombies” or whatever nonsense the voices in her head tell her. she will also perform stunts like strip in park beaches and i’m afraid one day she’ll get stomped or go viral, affecting her reputation forever. the police has always been involved and it’s very frustrating on my end.

i am aware that people with bpd do not have control over their actions, hallucinations and thoughts. i have been trying my best to understand her as a daughter. but for some reason, i am so freaking tired of being her daughter. my social worker called it “caregiver burnout”.

if i keep my mom inside for a couple of years, i’ll have to rely on myself financially etc, which i do not mind, although it will be very difficult. i will also forgo university for now. my mental health will definitely benefit from this option, but i’ll feel incredibly unfilial and bad. although my relatives cut her off, they are still in contact with me (they refuse provide me with any assistance, however) and will probably scold me for doing that.

if i discharge her after a month or so, the cycle will keep repeating but at least i’ll have some money to pull through university with the allowance she provides me (given she gets another job) and won’t have to worry as much about monthly expenses etc.

what should i do?

Netizens’ comments

I used to be a psychiatric nurse and I can see the drain in people’s families when they have someone with a severe mental illness. I’ve seen them progress for the better when their family member is committed and they have less of a worry and are able to recover.

I have an aunt with bpd with psychosis and fortunately (as much as that word works), she’s not violent. won’t take meds and unfortunately it’s only my mom (her caregiver) who ends up suffering from helping care for her as sometimes she skips baths, meals, etc.

If you’re able to get her committed, do it. It’s literally what’s best for you and your mom (and strangers she might hurt). It’s unlikely your mom will start being compliant with her medications and therapy to prevent herself from relapsing, or at least seeing the signs of a relapse happening and being able to get proper help.

Also, as you’ve said, you’re burnt out. Regardless of age (but worse since you are only 18), it’s hard to have such a physical, emotional, financial drain on you when you’re barely self-reliant. If it’s possible to commit her as a long-stayer, she should go.

after that, if you’re able to, get some help for yourself, whether it’s resources to help with finances or therapy for your own traumas, you need to start healing so you can recover from this.