A girl shared how her friend asked her to pretend to be a gold digger on his Instagram but she rejected him.

here is the story:

My friend Aloy posted this fake story on Instagram:

I drove my Tesla and asked a chiobu if she would get a drink with me with me. She said “Noooooooo, I have a boyfriend.” I said fine, and got in my car. She said “Never mind, I was joking, I’m single! Can I get in? I don’t have plans right now, let’s go!” I said “no way, gold digger” and drove away.

I don’t support posting lies on social media, but whatever. None of my business, right?

Someone said it didn’t really happen, and Aloy said he had video proof. So now he is trying to get me to pretend to be a gold digger to help him act it out. His dad has a Tesla we can use.

All of Aloy’s female friends have been in pictures with him on social media, so apparently I’m his only choice.

But I don’t want to. He’s saying that I’m a terrible friend and should just do it. I said no way in hell. Now he’s mad at me, and is giving me the cold shoulder.

Aloy is more part of my friend group than my friend. He says we’re friends when he needs something. I don’t really hang out with him, but my friends invite him when we hang out as a group.

Asking for advice.

BTOs waiting time is way too long.

Want to go for resale HDB, but am not sure how to inspect internal, deep-rooted conditions such as pipe issues, drainage issues, sink issues etc etc.

Anyone has experience of buying resale without agent to assist? I see all these agents with their flashy watches and cars only focusing on closing condo sales and boasting about it, they likely won’t put as much effort for us commoners who can only afford HDBs..

Thanks in advance.

Answers:

Certainly, buying a resale HDB without an agent is a feasible option, and many people successfully navigate this process on their own. Here are some tips to help you inspect internal, deep-rooted conditions and manage the process:

1. Research and Understand the Process:
   • Familiarize yourself with the resale process for HDB flats. There are various guides and resources available online that can provide a step-by-step overview.
2. Attend Open Houses:
   • Attend open houses in the neighborhoods you are interested in. This allows you to get a feel for the area and inspect different flats. You might also get a chance to speak directly with sellers and gather information.
3. Building Inspection:
   • When you find a flat you’re interested in, consider hiring a professional building inspector to assess the overall condition. They can identify potential issues such as structural problems, water damage, and faulty wiring.
4. Check Documentation:
   • Request and review all relevant documentation, including renovation permits, receipts for maintenance work, and any history of repairs. This can give you insights into how well the property has been maintained.
5. Plumbing and Drainage:
   • Check for signs of water damage or leakage. Turn on taps, flush toilets, and inspect the water pressure. Check under sinks and around bathroom fixtures for any signs of water stains.
6. Engage a Licensed Plumber:
   • If you have concerns about the plumbing system, consider hiring a licensed plumber to inspect the pipes. They can identify potential issues like blockages or leaks.
7. Electrical Systems:
   • Ensure that the electrical systems are in good condition. Check the circuit breaker, outlets, and switches. If you have any doubts, consult with a qualified electrician.
8. Ask About Renovations:
   • Inquire about any renovations that have been done to the flat. Find out when they were completed and if they were done by licensed contractors. Poorly done renovations can lead to issues.
9. Neighborhood Research:
   • Explore the neighborhood during different times of the day. Consider factors like noise levels, accessibility to public transportation, and proximity to amenities.
10. Legal and Financial Aspects:
    • Familiarize yourself with the legal and financial aspects of purchasing a resale flat. You may want to consult with a conveyancing lawyer to guide you through the legal procedures.
11. Negotiate Fairly:
    • When you’re ready to make an offer, negotiate fairly based on your findings during inspections. Be prepared to walk away if the terms are not favorable.
12. Consider Engaging a Property Agent for Specific Services:
    • While you may not want a full-service agent, you can consider engaging one for specific services, such as handling paperwork or providing advice on market trends.

Remember, it’s crucial to take your time and thoroughly inspect the property before making any decisions. If needed, seek advice from professionals in the real estate industry, and ensure that you are well-informed throughout the process.

A woman shared how she is obsessed with strangers and addicted to see what they are doing with their lives on social media, and she ends up being envious.

Here is the story:

I obsess over strangers

Anyone else constantly comparing their lives to people on social media? Just me?

I have a decent life. I’m a happily married stay-at-home mum, with a beautiful house and the husband and children I’ve always dreamed of so why am I always so fixated on what other people are doing?

I’m happy with my life until I get on social media and see other people getting new cars or going on family vacations or even just posting cute family pics and then I get so envious.

Is something wrong with me or is this normal? How do I enjoy my own life AND be happy for others when they experience good things instead of the “why not me” feeling? It’s so ugly.

Netizens comments

You gotta take a break from social media. Its a constant comparing game seeking validation from strangers. I just deleted my instagram and tik tok, and I already feel a lot better about myself

It’s pretty normal to feel that way, but that doesn’t make a good thing. Social media is where everyone posts stuff that makes their lives look great. It’s not an accurate representation of what’s really going on in their lives. Sometimes information avoidance is the route to go for lack of a better method.

Delete It all. It’s the worst. My overall mental health has gotten so much better. Since then I’ve found it easier to give up other bad habits as well. It’s insane how much of an effect social media has on our brains.

I am a Grab driver in Singapore, and I make five figures a month by driving without sleep. You might think I am crazy or lying, but I am not. I have been doing this for over a year now, and I have no plans to stop. Here is my story.

I started driving for Grab in 2022, after I lost my job as a sales manager due to the pandemic. I had a wife and kids to support, and I needed a way to earn money fast. I had a car that was eligible for Grab, and I had a valid PDVL. I thought it would be easy to make a living by driving people around.

But I soon realized that it was not as simple as I thought. The competition was fierce, and the demand was low. There were too many drivers and not enough passengers. The fares were low, and the commissions were high. The expenses were high, too. I had to pay for fuel, maintenance, insurance, and rental. I barely made enough to cover my costs, let alone my family’s needs.

I tried to drive more hours, but it was not enough. I tried to drive during peak periods, but it was not enough. I tried to drive in high-demand areas, but it was not enough. I was always chasing after the next booking, hoping to make a decent income. But I was always disappointed.

I was desperate. I had no other skills or qualifications. I had no other options. I had to make this work. So I decided to do something drastic.

I decided to drive without sleep.

I figured that if I could drive 24/7, I could make more money. I could take advantage of the surge pricing, the incentives, and the tips. I could avoid the traffic, the congestion, and the competition. I could maximize my earnings and minimize my expenses. I could achieve my goals and dreams.

So I did it. I drove without sleep. I ignored the warning signs of drowsy driving, such as yawning, blinking, nodding off, and drifting. I ignored the dangers of driving while sleep deprived, such as impaired coordination, reaction time, judgment, and memory. I ignored the risks of falling asleep at the wheel, such as crashing, injuring, or killing myself or others.

I used various methods to keep myself awake, such as drinking coffee, energy drinks, or water, chewing gum, playing loud music, or talking to passengers. I won’t tell you what they were, but they worked. They kept me alert, focused, and energetic. They also made me feel euphoric, confident, and invincible.

I drove without sleep for days, weeks, and months. I drove without sleep for over a year. And I made a lot of money. I made five figures a month by driving without sleep. I was able to pay off my debts, buy a bigger house, send my kids to better schools, and spoil my wife with gifts. I was able to live the life I always wanted. I was happy.

But I also paid a price. I paid a price with my health, my relationships, and my sanity. I suffered from various physical and mental problems, such as headaches, nausea, fatigue, anxiety, depression, and hallucinations. I alienated my family and friends, who were worried about me and tried to help me. I lost my sense of reality and morality, who I was and what I was doing.

I don’t know how long I can keep this up. I don’t know if I want to keep this up. I don’t know if it’s worth it. I don’t know what to do.

But I do know one thing. I am a Grab driver in Singapore, and I make five figures a month by driving without sleep.

I had a guy at a club ask me if I had ADHD because I didn’t “maintain proper eye contact with him while he’s speaking.”

He was dead serious. He then proceeded to go on a random rant about how he hates girls with BPD, and how his ex girlfriend had it.

This dude took my hand and raised it in the air, said “this is what girls with bpd do to you, they lift you up and love you to gain your trust…” then he dropped my hand, “and then they destroy you and manipulate you into hating yourself.”

I told him I bet he didn’t think I had BPD when he hit on me, his response was: “well I dated a girl with bpd so I know what your kind of people are like.”

I then told him I had a girlfriend and he straight up said “I don’t believe in that. I don’t believe in girls dating girls or guys dating guys.

I walked away lol. Talking to him felt like I was speaking to a sociopath. The level of entitlement was unreal.

To make things even worse, he went up to my friend later (assuming since his advancements didn’t work with me), and tried hitting things off with her.

She obviously turned him down for saying those things to me and he was genuinely confused. My friend asked him to step away because he was all up in her space, he responded by accusing her of having OCD because she’s “afraid of germs.”

The other night, my wife met up for drinks with both a current and ex colleague , who are somewhat close guy friends (call them Andrew and Matthew). I didn’t think much of it as this was nothing out of the ordinary. In fact, she even invited to come by towards the end, but I’ve been busy with work etc. so I declined.

Time goes by and I realize it’s been a few hours… OK, she’s catching up with an old coworker, whatever. Finally she calls and tells me she’s coming home. She comes across as a bit loopy and I eventually suggest maybe she’s a bit drunker than she’s letting on.

she comes in and she’s being pretty unreasonable and rude; I try to make it better but to no avail. Eventually, we’re just lying in bed and she’s clearly texting nonstop (to who, I have no idea, yet). She falls asleep and I get to thinking… why is she so, well, bitchy, to me, and apparently the rest of the world is so interesting? She likes her social media, but it was abnormal to see her fingers fly all over the place versus scrolling and occasionally liking/responding/sharing/whatever.

To preface this, we’ve both agreed that we can both look at each other’s phones whenever. We know each other’s passwords and have each other’s fingerprints stored in the other’s phone. Overall her behaviour that night was pretty odd: staying out later than normal, trying to hide her inebriation, being rude when she gets home, and messaging so much. So now my curiosity is piqued, and I grab her phone. You can probably guess that I don’t like what I find. Two chains of texts in particular:

1) Some guy from an even older job talking about how he wished he had a blacklight when he “jizzed on her back”. The conversation seemed to be full of inside jokes and memes, of which I couldn’t quite follow, but mentioned orgasms and such.

Her old-but-more-recent coworker Andrew, about Matt. She deleted it before I/we could look later, but I know for sure I saw the following. Somewhat paraphrasing but this is definitely close:

a) “I would do nasty things to that man if it weren’t for boundaries”

b) “I shouldn’t have a crush like this, I’m a woman who’s almost 30”

c) “Please don’t tell him I love him”

d) “I hope I looked cute enough for him tonight”

The argument got crazy and she finally admit she has been sleeping around with multiple guys for many years. I recorded the conversation secretly. I don’t wanna get any diseases.

Can anyone advise the prices of divorce in Singapore, I already managed to restores the messages and I have collected enough evidence.

My head is all over the place right now so I apologise in advance if this doesn’t make a lot of sense.

I was engaged 6 years ago. We were living together but one day I went home to find all of his belongings gone and a note saying he was sorry and that he loved me so he was setting me free. I tried contacting him but he had blocked me on everything, I tried contacting his family and friends but everybody refused to tell me where he was or if they had even been in touch with him to make sure he was okay. It was the worst time of my life and it took me 2 years to feel like a semi-functional human being again.

Yesterday my dad told me we would have a guest for dinner so I should dress up nicely (I live with them now and have for the past 6 years). This isn’t unusual since my dad sometimes invites his associates/clients for dinner.

The guest was my ex. I was completely blindsided because I never expected to see him again and my dad absolutely hated him back when we were engaged (enough to disown me unless I broke up with him) so it made no sense that he would be inviting him for dinner. The longer he was there, the more it started making sense. My ex has changed a lot, now he’s the type of person my dad would respect and it was obvious my dad liked the new him a lot.

I tried really hard not to cause a scene but half-way through dinner I just lost it. I was crying a lot and demanding to know why he was here. My dad suggested the two of us talk privately so we went into another room.

The conversation we had was long but the short version is he left because he felt guilty for making me choose between him or my family and he could see I was unhappy that they had cut me off. He wants a second chance now that he’s back because he thinks things will be different now.

I don’t know what to do. Part of me has never stopped loving him but a huge part of me is scared to get hurt again. He is also so different now and I don’t know if things would be the same between us. I also know my dad was a big reason he left me in the first place, which I always suspected but it hurts having it confirmed.

Any advice?

I’m 31 been going on dates with a 32 y.o woman for a little over a month. We matched about two and a half months via online dating. I’m confused because I really like her, but it seems like she’s not fully comfortable with me and projects very reserved, somewhat standoffish body language when we’re together. We’ve kissed several times (haven’t made out or had the “special time” yet) and after Date 5 she reached for my hand and we walked together back to our cars. That’s as far as we’ve been physical.

Date 1: Coffee. Date 2: Dinner. Date 3: Came to my house to cook dinner together and watch a movie, but left after an hour due to “feeling sick.” Date 4: Lunch. Date 5: Dinner. Date 6: Her place to eat takeout and watch a movie.

During date 6 we sat on the couch together and shared a blanket, but her body language came off as distant and cold — like she wasn’t trying to get to close to me, but still sat close by me on the couch. I didn’t make a move as I’m not sure if she’s still uncomfortable or whatnot.

I’ve initiated all of the dates and we have an awesome time in person, I’m just wondering why she seems so reluctant towards me. I know she likes me, as she deleted her dating account to only focus on me. Is this just an instance where she’s very inexperienced and/or simply nervous around me or what? I’ve never experienced anything like this before.

Here are what netizens think:

I’m a very awkward person and I give off a ‘don’t touch me vibe’ even when I don’t mean to. I come across as very stand-offish and it has more to do with unresolved childhood issues than it does inexperience or not liking a person.

There could be lots of reasons as to why she’s coming across this way with you. The best thing you can do is talk to her about it. It may just take her a while to warm up or she may just have a low interest in physical touch. You’ll never know till you ask

Hi I’m the same way, and this is the biggest problem in my dating life… 😕 I feel like I’m constantly “acting” just to try to show the interest I’m actually feeling.