I really had to think a long while before I could form my question because everything feels complicated. Before I go on, I must have a disclaimer that my mother is not a terrible mother, I have never felt like I wasn’t protected under her wings or that I couldn’t turn to her if I was having troubles in my life. She made many sacrifices to put the family ahead and I am grateful for that.

Now to the story, my mother is pretty opiniated about a lot of things and unfortunately most of the time I disagree with her due to personal reasons. It ranges from things like not using a microwave oven, putting your phone far away from your head when you sleep, not walking about with wet hair after shower to things that are considered ‘pantang’ or taboo like getting a tattoo, going home late at night (even though I freaking had to work till late and cab is expensive) and all the traditions that some of us are probably familiar with.

I would count it as a blessing that she does not stay with me as she’s based in Malaysia so after living with her rules for about 20 years I’ve shifted here and started to slowly do things that I like.

Thus, if I happen to go against her restrictions, she takes it personally because she thinks I did it solely to piss her off. Which is not true, it just so happens that she puts so many restrictions in life that its impossible to not hit something at some point or another.

There are many many examples over the years that usually ended up in us having an argument and her giving me the radio silence for a few months before talking to me again. Initially, I just let it slide even if I don’t concede to it, cause she’s entitled to her own opinion and I think we can still have a r/s with our differences. But she always grabs onto the issue and refuse to let go till she says her piece (I am arrogant, I think I know everything, why can’t I just listen for once) and even going to the extent of making me promise I “won’t do this again”.

After some time I’ve had enough, after I got married and got my own place, I started digging my foot down on certain things. She was furious that I got my first tattoo but it was my plan to eventually get a bigger one so when I did, I sent her a text to inform her that I like it and I hope she can respect that I can make my own decision. We were already on uneasy grounds because few months prior to me moving out, she threw a huge fuss about finding an auspicious date etc but it was during the freaking pandemic, my S/O and I were really looking forward to having our own space after months of delay on our house. I honestly couldn’t care less when I move in and I fail to see why we need to inconvenience our lives even more so in the current situation. So we moved in and that was the starting of this whole shaking ground we’re on. I had to tell her that no I might have own beliefs and it might not reflect the same as hers.

That did not go down well. I got off the phone feeling hurt cause she made it sound like I am a disappointment for her that I turned out like that.

But as you know after reading that chunk of text above, she called me one fine day and suddenly everything was fine again. Like I said, I love her and when she asked if she could crash in my place if she comes down to SG (I think I was going to be away that time) and offered to compensate me, I refused and told her to come and stay without worrying.

A few days later I remembered that I do not have a kettle at home and that I lack a flask to store hot water. The reason being that I use a hot water dispenser (it is my favourite appliance in the kitchen). Problem is, she was abhorrent against using that because according to her it causes health issue. She added a request that I stopped using it. Something in me snapped and I flat out told her no, I will not stop using it, I love that thing because it’s so convenient and if she has an issue she can bring her own kettle and flask.

You can probably guess what’s her reply. In short she basically said she won’t need to come and stay at my place anymore and I’m free to do whatever I want.

I know she didn’t mean it and she’s pissed at me again but I am so done with this hot and cold cycle. I am genuinely not trying to find an argument with her but I don’t know how else to deal with this. It is not like in western culture where you can just cut off contact, it’s just not acceptable in my family to do it even though everyone knew how difficult she can be.

Is this something many of you experience and are rebelling against? How can I tell her once and for all that if she’s going to throw another tantrum at me, this is the last time it will happen?

In the hustle and bustle of daily life, we often find ourselves on the road, navigating through the challenges of traffic. However, sometimes, the unexpected occurs, such as a driver falling asleep at the wheel, bringing a startling pause to the flow of vehicles. This incident unfolded near The Frontier Community Club along Jurong West Central, where a driver’s unscheduled nap became a public spectacle. In this article, we delve into the details of the incident, highlighting the importance of road safety and the intervention that prevented potential harm.

The Incident Unfolds

It was a typical day until a passerby stumbled upon a rather unusual sight – a driver sound asleep at the wheel, with his car conveniently parked in the middle of the road.

This unexpected event took place for a staggering 15 minutes near The Frontier Community Club, although the road was pretty much devoid of traffic at the time.

In this age of smartphones, the passerby quickly seized the opportunity to capture the incident on camera.

Intervention by Authorities

Fortunately, the story doesn’t end with a driver catching some Zs in the middle of the road. Prompt intervention by two police officers and a paramedic, accompanied by an ambulance, turned the situation around. The ambulance, with its lights flashing like a Christmas tree, provided a visual cue to other drivers, signaling an unusual occurrence. The authorities ensured the driver’s well-being and safety, awakening him from his impromptu nap.

Addressing the Issue

Falling asleep at the wheel is not only a risk to the driver but also to everyone on the road. It raises concerns about the consequences of driver fatigue and the need for heightened public awareness regarding road safety. As we navigate our daily commutes, it becomes imperative to recognize the signs of fatigue and take appropriate measures to stay alert on the road.

Road Safety Tips

To prevent such incidents, drivers are reminded of the importance of taking regular breaks during long journeys. Fatigue can set in unexpectedly, and a short break can make a significant difference in staying alert. Recognizing the signs of tiredness, such as yawning or difficulty focusing, is crucial for preventing accidents on the road.

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COVID made me realize I was horrible to my husband. I thought I ‘settled’ when I married him. I was a bad girlfriend and wife. I’m going to be different from now on.

My husband didn’t excite me when we were together. There were never big ups or downs. He wasn’t mysterious, he didn’t seem indifferent and he didn’t play games. Other boyfriends were investors who racked up credit card charges on credit cards for impromptu getaways to the islands or Europe.

My husband is a nurse, saved his money and planned. I was so bored, but I hated being alone. So I married him. My mom told me it was a mistake. My father told me it was the best decision.

My friends figured we’d get divorced after 12 months. He had debt from his doctoral program. We weren’t living the high life. I was 28 and wanted to be young and free. He was talking about health insurance. I liked him, but I didn’t think I loved him.

I got annoyed with him all the time. I was quick to snap at him. He would go out of his way to be kind and while I was appreciative, I didn’t realize how kind he was. I took for granted that I was ‘owed’ that experience and he was just fulfilling his obligations. I really

Then COVID hit.

I was obsessively worried about him. I couldn’t calm down and I couldn’t figure out why I was so amped. He works in surgery and the ICU and has really technical skills, so he was being deployed to help with the influx. When I couldn’t reach him one day I got so stressed out that I threw up and passed out. For much of 2020 I missed my period, I couldn’t sleep and eventually my hair was falling out. The only time I was “okay” was when I could physically see him. I realized then how shitty I had been. I got into therapy.

I realized that every guy who had been flashy, a big spender and cool and mysterious were scam artists/a man child looking for attention or a leech. They were throwing around money they didn’t have. None of those couples are still together.

The couples that threw around money and spent without care are destitute and no longer together.

The couples with the big ups and big downs are broken up. None of them could make it work.

The only couple going strong is the one I was certain was destined to fail.

The big ups and downs take an emotional toll on you. They weaken the bonds of your relationship. Volatility is bad. My mom is like that. Extreme swings, constant need for excitement in a relationship or its “boring.” Stability is bad, so she’s always looking for instability. It’s something I thought was normal.

I like “boring.” I like that we save for vacations and I am on his health insurance. I like that he is sweet and emotionally available. The “boring” guy does laundry, cooks, cleans and is a full-fledged adult with interests and goals and ambitions and passion. We have a marriage where we are together. We support each other and I have never felt as free to be vulnerable ever.

I was horrid. I was cold. I looked down on him. I can’t believe how unhappy I was. Hopefully he never finds out about the things I said. It would be cosmic justice if he left me. Now I worry about that. I just hope he doesn.t

My partner of 6 years uninvited me to an event and I feel heartbroken.

I’ll preface this by saying I love being social and going out, but sadly don’t have many friends who want to do this.

I’ve always asked my partner to join me for a night out – dinner, dancing, music, etc. but he always said it wasn’t his thing.

So recently he started a new job, in the field of his degree. It’s a female-dominated area so I always knew he’d make more female friends.

But since he graduated, he’s been going out more and more with these girls (and a few of their partners).

I’ve met the new friends a handful of times and we’ve hit it off, he said they love me.

One of the girls invited us to her party this weekend, and I RSVP’d saying I’d love to go. He then tells her I can’t go and tells me he doesn’t want me there because “it’s not my scene”.

He’s recently started drinking. He says he’ll be “fine” so he can blow off steam. But I feel so heartbroken that he doesn’t want me there, we even got into an argument because I said I’d love to go, and he told me to get my own friends.

It hurts because I was actually invited by the friend. We’ve been together for so long, talked about children and weddings. Feels like another failed relationship for me.

I’m 28 this year and the thought of me approaching 30 without a life partner to settle down has become a source of mounting anxiety. The pressures of societal expectations, coupled with my own desires for companionship and a meaningful connection, intensify the struggle. As friends begin to pair off and start families, I find myself wondering if I’ll meet someone special before hitting that milestone.

Are there anyone who feels the same and how do you overcome it?

Here are what netizens think:

• Sometimes, it’s better to feel anxiety than ending up in the wrong relationship. Be patient.

• When I was your age, I was engaged, but he called it quits 5 days before the ROM. We broke up for good when I was 29. Turning 34 this year, I no longer feel the pressure of marriage. It dawned on me at 30; my perspective on life changed, and I began to see things differently. I’m glad I dodged ‘that’ bullet. By the way, married people have their struggles too. You’re still young. My advice: live in the present and stop worrying about something that hasn’t happened. Marriage isn’t the sole key to happiness; find that within yourself first. Maybe try to explore new hobbies? The right one will come to you when you least expect it. Oh, and I’m still happily single!

• I was like you before. I went on several dates over a period of time and couldn’t find the right one. Either they liked me and I didn’t, or I liked them and they didn’t, or simply dated for a while and decided there was no chemistry and ended things. It was too tiring after some time.. I found myself hung up over some because of my insecurities due to my background. I realised I needed inner work. Don’t be pressurised by anything or anyone. Being single has its own perks when you have laser focus and plenty of time on building and improving yourself. By that I don’t mean necessarily having to do actual things like exercise or running a side hustle, it includes understanding your inner self better eg. your weaknesses, your strengths and how to become a better person or partner. That is very important for your growth and in finding your partner. To find a partner, it’s still necessary to put yourself out there, whether through apps or networking sessions. I know, not easy, but I hope you will find someone for you one day. If it is of any comfort, I met my partner eventually on the dating app again! All the best

• I’m 30 and I’m getting jaded by dating apps. I am not good looking neither am I earning a lot. Getting passed like salt on a dining table