I (f23) caught my bf (m25) doing something gross

My bf (M25) and I (F23) have been together for about 2 and a half years now. I discovered something he does that I think is disgusting.

After he finishes pleasuring himself, he eats his own nut. I have insomnia so it takes me a really long time to fall asleep so I think he thinks I am sleeping when he does it.

I don’t lay there and watch him, but I can obviously tell what he’s doing. I don’t know how to bring this up or if it’s even a big deal. How abnormal is this? How do I bring this up in conversation?

EDIT: when he KNOWS I’m awake while he’s doing it, he gets up to clean up afterwards. He never does it knowing I’m awake

If you think I’m shaming him, you’re wrong, I have an opinion and personally do not enjoy eating it. I’m trying to learn more. I think this is more laziness than anything else anyways.

To those asking why he’s even self pleasuring in the first place, I’m a woman who gets a monthly period and he doesn’t wanna touch me during that time since he’s so grossed out by it

Netizens’ comments

1. Just quietly say “…what are you eating?”
2. Like how does he eat it? Licks it off his fingers like when you’re eating potato chips or like KFC, finger licking good?
3. Just wait till the next time and the second he starts you go.. “Nomnomnom”
4. What are the calories on those things, does it help him lose weight?
5. Tell him to store some to use as seasoning for your cooking..
6. Is he a broke body builder trying to save money on protein by eating his own protein?
7. What in the world is wrong with all you people lololol

Are balding males in their early 20s a turn off for girls?

Hello there! I just wanna know if balding males in their 20s who are looking to be in a relationship are a turnoff/dealbreaker for girls?

I’m in my early 20s and I’m already balding because of androgenic alopecia. I’m currently taking Finasteride (a long-term medication) on a daily basis for about 1 and a half month already.

This seems to be taking a toll on me in terms of being in a relationship. Some told me that this is a dealbreaker.

I also feel that this balding thing is also taking a toll on my self esteem. 🙁

Netizens’ comments

• Be confident!! Ignore haters and love the lovers!! Work on areas you’re proud of. Be it appearance and non appearance.

Bald is not unattractive. Making fun of bald people is. But dun slap people.

• Its not a dealbreaker but lets be honest here – looks are important to a certain extent, especially at the very initial phase of getting to know someone (dont lie)

Once you are past that phase, the person should love and accept you for who you are, and not purely just based on looks (we’re all gonna get old and saggy one day anyway)

Easier said than done, but you just gotta look for someone who will appreciate you for who you are

I’ve been dating this sweet guy for a few months and today while we were getting intimate he was looking into my eyes and I just got so emotional and overwhelmed and started crying and he was all like “are you okay? Did you remember something bad?”

And I tried to explain that everything is fine, and told him that I’m just not used to being treated so gently and carefully, and how new it is to me to have a physical relationship while also forming an emotional bond with someone.

My past is kinda complicated, and while I won’t go into detail, I will say it has affected me and I’ve been healing and working on myself for the last year.

nd when I met this guy I told him I’m not ready for a serious relationship because I still don’t feel whole as a person, but one thing led to another and now I have this amazing, supportive and understanding partner.

My approach towards love and emotions has always been cynical due to my upbringing and other reasons, and it’s difficult as fuck to truly open up to someone, and it’s scary but freeing.

So right now I’m in his bathroom while he waits for me in bed, in two days we’re going to celebrate my birthday and I think I’m starting to really love him.

I just wanted to let this off my chest.

I wish I was attractive to men other than my husband

I got married to my husband at 19, he was my first ever boyfriend. We’ve now been married almost 8 years and we have 4 children together.

I’m finding myself feeling utterly unattractive and self conscious… I really wish that other men found me attractive even though I don’t want to cheat, I wouldn’t cheat, but it just feels really bad to feel unattractive.

I wish men would flirt with me. I feel like I really wasted my prime by getting married and having kids so young…

And especially now that I’ve lost a lot of weight and I’m finally… Not fat… I just wish somebody appreciated it. I wish I felt appealing.

I just feel like I’ll always be unattractive and gross even though I’m still relatively young.

Netizens’ comments

• Sounds like a case of FOBO to me. This is generally how cheating starts. You should talk to your husband.

• That’s a slippery slope you’re trying to go down, tread cautiously.

Recently started working at a hospital 5 days ago, and signed up as an admin assistant to handle patients discharge and registration, etc. Along with basic paper work and data entry. First two days was pleasant and colleagues were super kind and friendly, and I was adapting well. Suddenly, today I was transferred to a new ward that is very different from my previous isolation ward. I was sent to a general ward where it is more busy and there is very little isolation within patients.

Along with the sudden transfer, I was very stressed when my new supervisor started being very aggressive to me. I have a bad history of chronic anxiety and I react badly to triggers. As the workplace routine was different from my previous post, I followed the routine in my new place and got scolded by the SV, with her shouting in my ear which caused me a lot of alarm.

On top of that, when I keyed in a data entry wrongly (as I was following the previous post’s format), she hit my hand (not too hard but still pain could be felt), and it triggered me very badly, to the point where I had two anxiety attacks and I threw up in the toilet and broke down. I am extremely sensitive to harsh verbal and physical attacks due to my past experiences and this was very alarming for me.

After which I was also informed that as I was working a PM shift , I had to do para nursing duties (like cleaning patients, feeding and carrying them etc.) Which was NOT informed in my contract, and I am uncomfortable with as I am generally quite a frail person and I’m living with two elderly, so they are very against me having contact with the patients as much as I don’t wish to say this in a bad way.

The supervisor further added that since the PM shift already has enough admin assistants, I will be mainly doing the nursing duties which I was very displeased about, as she was indirectly saying that I am doing the job of a FT nurse while severely underpaid under the job title of an admin assistant. This is something out of my job scope and I have no experience with, much less being comfortable and willing to do it.

After which, I called my hiring agent and told her about the events as well as the changes, and she aggressively replied that her other colleague had informed me about the said necessary nursing duties needed through a phone call before. I had no recollection about this, and my chats with her and the contract stated no such things, other than to do ad-hoc duties, but not to totally change my whole job scope!!

When I asked to be transferred back to my original post, she also said that she won’t do so if I can’t agree to do the nursing duties. But back at my old post, NONE of the admin assistants had to do them because we were simply not trained and not allowed to touch the infectious patients. FYI, there was also another hired temp staff that didn’t show up since the first day of work as she was on indefinite leave. Why couldn’t they just have had me replace her than to waste our time too?

I’m really frustrated as I can’t terminate my contract because the agent had mentioned that I will have to pay liquidated damages (which I can’t afford because I come from a very disadvantaged background and I’m already working hard for this…). I would like to seek advice from fellow healthcare workers or people in the knows in general as I also reached out to my peers and they just felt like they were exploiting and bullying me since I’m a young temp staff. Is there any way I can reach out for help such as from MOM? I’m really crushed and disheartened by this after a wonderful first two day of work and then being mistreated like this after.

PS: please don’t call me sensitive or a strawberry as it’s very invalidating of my trauma and I have the rights to feel that way too. I’m generally a very resilient person but I don’t think these forms of harassment are acceptable.