Finding a girlfriend or a boyfriend is something everyone wants or secretly wants, a netizen posted a question on how he can meet girls and find a girlfriend.

Here is his question

Just curious. Hate me all you want but I don’t really trust dating sites as they’re full of questionable people and I feel like the site profits on failed matches. But anyways onto the main point.

For those who found love without a dating site, where did you find your significant other and how did it happen

Responses

There were a few valid replies such as:

• I met my wife at work, same graduate program. We were just close friends and hung out together for lunch or teabreak in the office. Only after we both left years later did we start dating.

• Was supposed to date a guy i met online, but he brought his friends along (10 guys vs 1 girl at coffeeshop. Damn sus) Ended up dating and married one of his friends

• He sold me a fish tank and pump. Didnt know how to operate the pump. He came my hse to fix it and asked me out for lunch. Tog 9 years this year.

One of the responses that stands out and became a thread on it’s own was this:

• Met my ex when I was on vacation in Aus, stayed in touch after the trip and was tgt for 4 years LDR. Knew my current gf from online forum(don’t ask me which), she found out I went to the same secondary school and DM-ed me. 2 months later she just became my gf.

Questions started coming in and ask if the forum is Sammyboy Forum

• Which online forum? Sammyboy?

I am getting married to my fiance in May.

I was adopted when I was a baby and my adoptive parents (50s) did their best to raise me and support me through uni. We always had a good relationship and I obviously love them.

When I was 23 I decided to search for my biological parents,and long story short they were teenagers(14) when they had me. They are still together and they have 2 more children. They said they wanted to keep me but they couldn’t raise me so they decided to put me up for adoption. The thing that really hurt me was that in my childhood and teenage years they tried to contact my adoptive parents and have a relationship with me, but my adoptive parents refused.

When I confronted my adoptive parents they said that they were afraid that I might prefer my biological parents, so they tried to keep them away.

I was hurt and disappointed and decided to go low contact. Over the years we managed to build a better relationship but it’s not like before.

So ,for my wedding I decided to ask my biological father to walk me down the aisle and he obviously said yes. When my adoptive parents learnt it they were hurt and said that their worst fear had come to reality and if I insist to put my biological parents before them then I shouldn’t invite them to the wedding.

My answer was that they are not invited then. Since then all my adoptive family are calling a piece of S

A man shared an embarrassing story of his friend that he described as “something very far from intelligent”.

Here is the story:

I went for a massage with my friend and we assumed that it was a normal clean massage until the masseurs started to get naughty.

I politely rejected it, my friend who is in the other room decided to pay for the extra services.

After we exit the massage parlour, he told me that he took her Wechat contact so he can know when she work and return if he is feeling “tired”. I did not think much of it as I know EXACTLY what kind of person he is.

One month went by and I met him again for dinner and he started to tell me how he has fallen in love with the masseurs after that “short romance” session.

I told him that he is crazy and that what he felt is not love. He told me that he borrowed the masseur $1,200 as her mother in Vietnam is sick and requires money for medications.

I slap myself on the forehead after hearing it as I know exactly what had happened and kept quiet.

A few days later, he called me while crying saying that the girl is gone and no longer working there.

Here are what netizens think:

• a typical guy who thinks with the wrong head

• Another bites the dust, welcome to the world.

• Maybe he really feels affectionate towards the massage lady and took a leap of faith. Lucky only $1,200 not $120,000.
• The massage macham milking the cow sia. or literally. LOL

Broke up with my GF as she was going on holiday with her EX and refused to let me come.

So my (24M) now ex-girlfriend (34) had a holiday planned with her EX before me and her met 4 months ago.

They’re now good friends so not to much on an issue just a little weird they’ve only known each other 18 months, they then proceeded to book further holidays together.

I asked if I could come to their most recent one and she got very aggressive and was incredibly vehemently against it.

She is now spinning this saying I’m a micromanaging controlling arsehole and I’m to young to understand I’m really feeling like utter shit.

Could really do with some support right now.

Netizens’ comments

• You were a rebound, lose her.

• Dude you meet her 4 months ago.

Tell her to kick rocks.

• Better off without her. She will be screwing him on the trip… that is why she didn’t want you to go. You can do better.

• thats some big red flags here. she being rude to you, the timings of relations… leave bro! this women will drain you.

Yesterday, and while I was about to do the laundry, I grabbed his work pants and dug my hand in its pockets to empty them before putting it in the washing machine like I always do. People that look the laundry will know what happens if there is tissue paper.

My husband just happened to walk by when he saw me searching his pants pockets. He rushed in yelling at me to put his pants down.

I already had a folded piece of paper out but he snatched it and then started screaming at me about how I have no respect for his privacy and that I shouldn’t be getting my hands on his things. I was genuinely dumbfounded I told him to take it easy I always do this before laundry.

He lashed out saying I had no right and should’ve come to him and asked him first because he was worried about important documents getting lost like the one I pulled out. I said important documents shouldn’t be inside his pockets and asked to see the paper but he said he won’t show me. I asked why and he said I don’t get to ask him after I disrespected his privacy.

I almost laughed because what privacy does he have in his pockets? It wasn’t like a stranger was digging into them.

He refused to speak to me and later brought a new closet with A LOCK and moved his clothes inside of it. I asked if he was serious and he said this will teach me to respect his privacy and deter my snooping. Then went back to not speaking to me.

I’m genuinely confused

Here are what netizens think:

• Checking pockets for things that don’t go in the washer is one of the first steps of laundry, it’s not snooping. That’s a really weird reaction.

• Confirm something fishy going on, sure is cheating

• Maybe got receipt from expensive restaurant with ANOTHER GIRL

When people are travelling, the number one priority is often safety while others prefer to be a walking ATM.

A netizen shared his concerns about travelling with a friend that insist on wearing his branded items to Johor Bahru.

Here is the story:

Thanks for accepting my submission. To make it clear, I’m a Malaysian that has been working in Singapore for over 10 years and most of my close friends are Singaporeans.

My colleague and I planned a 1 night trip to Johor and he told me to meet at his house before driving in. While I was drinking coffee at his home, he was preparing to change clothes for the trip.

I noticed he put on his Rolex and gold chain and I told him not to wear them to Johor. I’m a local johorian, even my 30-year-old Toyota has a steering wheel lock and he is wearing this that could make us a target.

He insisted on wearing them as he wanted to attract easy gold digger girls for a “good night”. I told him not to as it might bring unnecessary danger to us. But he die die want to wear, So I told him good luck and let him be.

After we arrived in Johor and check-in at a hotel, he started to doubt himself as he realised that a lot of people were staring at him shortly after he left his vehicle.

He then started to be scared as we have plans to go out for a drinks tonight, he finally removed the gold chain and rolex and placed them in a hidden compartment of his luggage.

My moral of the story is, even for local johor people we do not wear like this when going out so please remember sometimes safety is more important than how you look.

I lost my virginity tonight and I regret it a lot

I (20f) met this guy(21m) on my campus and we had been talking for a few days when he asked if I wanted to go to his place and watch a movie tonight.

I went to his place and we were sitting in the living room. He then asked if I thought his bed would be more comfortable because I was getting a little cold so we went to his bed and then we cuddled.

One thing led to another and we were making out and then he stuck his hand down my pants. I had a shocked face and I confirmed that I wanted it.

Then we ended up f-ing. It didn’t even feel that good. He couldn’t hardly find my cl it after I was trying to help him. He never got a solid rhythm and he kept changing it up.

We lasted about 4 rounds. The first two he had a condom and then he ran out and decided to go raw.

I asked him to be careful not to finish in me and I don’t think he did. Anyways, after I got back home I was suddenly hit with a wave of guilt and regret.

I didn’t really want to f and I felt like I was rushed into it, yet I could’ve stopped it at any time and I didn’t. I don’t know if this is related but as soon as I got to my door I got really dizzy and could hardly stand.

I also felt like throwing up because my stomach was in so much pain. I cried for about 30 minutes because I just felt so bad.

I always imagined my first time with someone special to me and instead I let my urges get the best of me and I f-ed some guy I barely knew.

I didn’t even get to finsih and don’t think that bothered him at all. To top it all off, after we f-ed he asked what I was looking for.

At this point I thought I had made it very clear that I wanted a relationship. I really liked him. He proceeded to tell me he just got out of a long term relationship and just wanted something casual, so basically to him I was just a random hookup.

That made me feel like crap. And for the cherry on top he stared at me the entire time I got redressed and left a hickey after I asked him not to.

I know this maybe normal but it’s not normal to feel this bad after. I feel very mad at myself for letting this happen. It completely ruined my day

my parents F really loudly when they think i’m asleep. This is as embarrassing as it sounds.

I still live with my parents. Typically i’d be trying to go to bed when i hear them getting it on, although i think they try to be subtle they still make noise loud enough for it to be heard from my room across.

The part that triggers me is the fact they most likely know i’m still awake, they’d usually have the lights on prior which i’d tell them to turn it off – which they respond to, then minutes later go at it.

this really makes me uncomfortable, maybe a stretch but i’m bordering on this being harassment because i really don’t want to have to listen to that (when i have to wake up at 5:30am).

i really want it to stop but i don’t know how.

EDIT:

Okay so clearing up some things.

beyond some of the top comments i’m noticing some repetition in things being said so i’m gonna address them:

“why would this affect you so much” i guess not wanting to hear someone related to you getting it on is too far according to you guys.

“get headphones” so i’ve been doing this lately and it’s probably my best solution, thanks.

“grow up” wow thanks i didn’t know i’m not allowed to express complex emotions. maybe it’s something i was just unaware i should be fine with and mature with but like i said before, i guess not wanting to hear someone related to you getting to on is too far.

“move out” im also looking to do this also for reasons beyond this LOL

“be grateful your parents love each other” i don’t really know when y’all got that impression, when i just said that part makes me uncomfortable.