My wife is going on a girls trip with her friends.

It is a mystery trip so most of the group will not know what resort/island until they arrive at the airport. I’m a little worried the resort may be swimsuit optional(at least topless in designated areas).

My main concern is many of the women are not in great marriages. Some are totally on the rocks. Also, most of the other ladies are quite overweight (obese).  My wife on the other hand is very beautiful and has a nice body. I’m afraid they will want to go topless because their husbands don’t show them any attention and would not care if they did. 

The problem is my wife WILL get attention from men. My wife and I have great nightly “activity” but I have always been the initiator. She doesn’t show much interest.

For me, it is a source of sadness. I’m afraid I will be hurt/jealous if she joins in on the fun as she will be looked at basically not wearing anything on the top by other men and may like it.

I know technically she would not actually cheat on me with another man but I am not eliminating any possibilities. Sometimes it could be going with the flow as the rest of her friends are some would be described as “The seafood seller’s oyster rotten already and giving it out for free”. If you know what I mean.

But I am still very nervous about this possible scenario. If she does goes topless and see/talk to other men, (or maybe see other men).

Does anyone think I have a right to be upset? Would this be considered cheating? 

A girl shared how her friend asked her to pretend to be a gold digger on his Instagram but she rejected him.

here is the story:

My friend Aloy posted this fake story on Instagram:

I drove my Tesla and asked a chiobu if she would get a drink with me with me. She said “Noooooooo, I have a boyfriend.” I said fine, and got in my car. She said “Never mind, I was joking, I’m single! Can I get in? I don’t have plans right now, let’s go!” I said “no way, gold digger” and drove away.

I don’t support posting lies on social media, but whatever. None of my business, right?

Someone said it didn’t really happen, and Aloy said he had video proof. So now he is trying to get me to pretend to be a gold digger to help him act it out. His dad has a Tesla we can use.

All of Aloy’s female friends have been in pictures with him on social media, so apparently I’m his only choice.

But I don’t want to. He’s saying that I’m a terrible friend and should just do it. I said no way in hell. Now he’s mad at me, and is giving me the cold shoulder.

Aloy is more part of my friend group than my friend. He says we’re friends when he needs something. I don’t really hang out with him, but my friends invite him when we hang out as a group.

A netizen shared how he told his sister that it was her fault that her son is being tormented by other kids at his school.

Here is the story:

So my 7-year-old nephew is an awesome boy and I love him to death. He is a pretty smart kid but has a pretty obvious speech impediment.

He talks pretty similarly to his 3-year-old cousin. for example, he says yeyyo instead of yellow, gween instead of green. He sounds pretty child-like compared to other children his age.

If you don’t know my nephew, you’d probably have a harder time understanding. It often frustrates him to repeat himself while we try to understand.

I really want my sister to get him help. I have suggested speech therapy for years. This obviously affects him negatively.

After the holidays, he’s back in school. He’s been getting targeted by an older kid since the first week of school, who calls him a baby.

And I’m certain the speech issue is why. I’ve also heard of an incident happening at school where the kid kept asking “are you sure this kid is older than me?” Over and over.

It breaks my heart and makes me furious at my sister who has never once tried to get him help. She doesn’t even try to correct or coach him at home. His father is out of the picture so it’s really up to her.

My sister was yet again crying about him getting targeted at school. And I told her I’m not sure why she’s upset considering it’s 100% her fault that he is getting bullied.

We’ve known this is an issue since he was 4. Now our mom is involved and angry at me because “if I’m implying that it’s her fault, I’m suggesting that he deserves to be tormented at school”.

It’s such a sensitive issue in our family but nobody seems to want to do ANYTHING to help.

Anything ya’ll can help me with on this current situation that I’m having?

I actually met a guy 2021 November two years ago, and he was really nice, we hit it off pretty quick, and eventually asked for it, but not after I told him we should date first and he should become my boyfriend. He then agreed and we dated and then two months later, did it.

But two weeks after he did it with me, he immediately started distancing me and became uncontactable. He finally was contactable one week after that and he said he was getting a gf. I was stunned. Maybe I didn’t know him well enough. But he broke up with her one year after that and I continued talking to him to know him better. However, six months ago, he eventually got a new gf again without telling me. I found out from a source. I was still remembering six months ago if he was talking or friendly with any girls and he said no. What may I do in this current situation? He lied to my face. And told someone else a different story.

Now this has come to a point that it is affected my functioning because it was actually the first time with a guy, and he took my virginity. Now it’s affecting my functioning abilities and I’m having really bad thoughts and Idk why this is happening to me and always am thinking to self-destructing or negative thoughts in general.

I can’t look past why he did this to me or why this type of people exist in general, though they are all around us and worse of all why did it happen it me? Pls help me on this. Any advice is greatly appreciated.????

Here are what netizens think:

• Not going to make you feel worse but the reality is, these kind of guys are everywhere…. Which is why my advice is never trust words, only actions. The fact that he left you 2 weeks after doing it shows what kind of man he is. Yet you still harbor the hope of making him your bf? Move on and drill my advice into your brain. Nv trust words, only actions. That is going to save you alot of heartaches in the future.

• I am sorry to hear of your experience and pain. In practice it is easy to fall into taking decisions disproportionately risky/ detrimental to oneself when another person paints some vision of a good relationship giving one false hope. It was immoral of your ex to enter into a relationship with you while never intending to put up that level of commitment. It was severely unethical of your ex to use your false hope to procure S with you; he profited incurring a disproportionate mental health cost on you. I hope that you focus on your recovery. Don’t self-harm because it really gets one nowhere. I hope that you have sufficient support from friends and family who value you as you are, for who you are. For future relationships it is best you develop a radar of some sort to detect people who display inclinations to harm you when it’d mean they get to reap a profit. The balance between being giving– putting up commitment to let your relationships thrive, and taking excessive risk, is quite delicate. I hope your next partner will treat you right and work with you towards a genuine vision of a relationship. Take care.

• You got used. Plain and simple. Next time don’t have S relationships so easily if you know you are not able to handle it. The guy was making use of you. You were not his gf. So wake up and move on.

• It is very common dating back to as early as 60s, 70s etc ..these kind of guys exist everywhere. Maybe your parents didn’t counsel you during your growing up stages. I always tell my daughters what to be expected to be happening in a relationship. Don’t be upset by such thing. Most importantly is protect yourself by taking precautions durin the “procedures”. Look for counselling if you really needed.

I found out that my boyfriend of 2 years is married and has kids, I’m showing myself to his family tomorrow at his church.

I’m just so confused right now and need to talk to somebody.

I’ve been seeing this guy “Adam, 32” for 2 years. We don’t live together but he visits me on weekends. I never met his family, friends or been to his house.

3 weeks ago, I found out that he’s actually married and has 2 kids, I was devastated and in a state of disbelief but most of all, I was mad, especially after I confirmed this via his wife’s social media account.

We’re still talking and I haven’t broken up with him yet…I planned and decided to show myself to his family on Sunday at his church and let them know that he used me and took advantage, I plan on ending it right there and then.

I’m doing this tomorrow and no one knows except myself, He’s still texting me lies thinking that I’m stupid or ignorant.

I feel terrible but something’s pushing me to do this. Don’t know if it’s anger or feeling bad for his wife and kids..

I just…I’m not gonna lie I’m worried this might backfire on me but at this point, I have nothing to lose, I just feel like I need to get my respect and dignity back after being lied to and fooled for 2 years.

Can anyone give me any advice or tips on how to pretend and look like I am busy working at the office, since I am sitting right next to my manager.

Working as an office admin for MNC. I send a couple of emails in the morning, maybe some in the afternoon too but I always seem to have excess time on my hands.

Sitting close to the managers who ALWAYS seems so busy on their computers is so stressful cause I feel I need to look busy too.

What sites can I have open on my screen so I look like I’m doing some rando research. Wanna look like I’m super hard at work but not too try-hard. Not amber heard level actress.

Unpopular opinion: I miss the lock downs during peak covid because I the office environment is super stressing me out.

Netizen’s comments

I’ve had this problem before.

I used the free time to pick up Excel skills, because nobody would question you if you had an Excel spreadsheet open on your screen. And even if it’s not work related, you can just say you are learning Excel skills and no one can really fault you for it because extra skills that are potentially useful for work doesn’t hurt.

Try to work on an Excel project that interests and/or benefits you personally, like calculate your monthly expenses, or which credit card rewards system gives you the greatest benefit, which carpark in town is the cheapest to park at, project how many years are needed to save enough cash + CPF for the deposit and fees required for your next dream home, etc.

At more advanced levels you can also pick up VBA and do stuff like HTML web scraping for data, program a sudoku solver, batch rename/move files in bulk, or automate simple tasks like generating a report or mass sending emails from a template.

Before you know it, you’ll get engrossed in it and the time flies by really quickly.

I just got dumped by my boyfriend because I lost a lot of weight, and he explained that it was because he likes big and beautiful women (BBW).

I met my ex-boyfriend when we were both 18 years old, was about to start an internship and he was currently working at a supermarket and we just had a connection. At the time i was overweight at over 100Kg, it was hard to breathe, walk or do any activity without feeling extremely tired and sweating almost instantly. Also i couldn’t lay on my back as my own weight wouldn’t let me breathe.

He still would often tell me how sexy and beautiful i was and that was all i needed back then.

He was also overweight at about 150-175 Kg, and i didn’t care, i just loved his how he made me laugh and made me feel.

Things started changing about 1 year ago when we were 21 and i started to loose weight and looking back i see how the more weight i loose the more he would “avoid me”

I went from over 100 kg to 58 kg,so needed to buy new clothes as mine were now all baggy and my pants would fall off my body. When i happily showed my clothes he started saying how “weird” it was for me to buy and wear clothes that seem to only fit kids. That hurted but took it as a joke.

Some time after i bough a fanny pack and he said it was “gross” that i have to set it in the smallest adjust to feel comfortable wearing it, still took it as a joke.

The last few months we were barely talking or seing eachother, he would blame his work but stopped sending me his schedule as he used to for me to plan time for us…

Finally about one week ago i confronted him and said he just wasn’t attracted to me anymore and that he hadn’t been for some time and that’s when it all made sense.

He has always been attracted to BBW so he wasn’t happy when i lost weight and just lied saying he still loved me and…we even talked of getting married so i guess he lied about that as well.

It’s hard to think that once i shared everything with him and now all that link us is our shared Spotify account…

If you read all of this, thank you for bearing with me. Might not seem much for most but i just feel destroyed now and it will be very difficult for this to heal.

I have been with my girlfriend for about 5 years, and the last time we had intercourse was back in March. She refuses to get intimate with me and will do anything to get out of it.

If I touch her in bed, immediately she’ll say something like “oh man I sure do feel sick right now”, “wow I have alot of vaginal pain tonight, oh and hear this [clicks jaw]. Hurts alot”. She even tries to make me grossed out or repulsed. If I do try initiate (kisses, touching etc) she’ll say something like “I wouldn’t go down there if I were you, I’ve had explosive diarrhea all day”. Even if I go in for a spoon, a platonic cuddle or whatever she’ll always comment “you’re not going to try to do it with me are you?”.

If I try ask her in advance, like booking a date, she’ll tell me that planning it makes her anxious and puts pressure. If I try be spontaneous, she “doesn’t have enough time to consent”.

Obviously I have talked to her about this and how it makes me feel. Depending on her mood, it goes either 3 ways:

• she insists theres no problem and our intimate life is normal
• she gets mad, blames me for pressuring her
• she starts crying, saying how much of a bad girlfriend she is and begs me not to leave her

When we aren’t in bed, she clings to me hard. Won’t leave me alone, wants to spend the whole day watching movies (she has literally no hobbies) and gets upset if I want to do something different (“you dont love me? You don’t like hanging out with me?”). How can I want to spend time with someone who is repulsed by the idea of intimacy with me? She won’t even let me shower in peace, will literally just jump in with me and start showering. But god forbid my genitals touch her. Even if I’m on the toilet she’ll be outside talking to me. The only break I get is at work. But even then if I dont nonstop text her on my break I “dont love her enough”. She’s utterly codependent.

The rare times we do have intercourse, foreplay is all my job. I might get a non-interested 30s handy before her “arthritis” starts hurting. She won’t even attempt oral with me. She won’t get on top either. Its always “too difficult”. Basically she’s just a piece of plywood in bed. But despite her best efforts not to enjoy it, I always make her come 2-3 times. But me, I can’t finish anywhere in, on or near her (tissues only). Afterwards she tells me how good it was and we should do it more. But if I try to initiate in the next couple of days, she’s in “too much pain from last time”.

Two years ago when my birthday was approaching, I asked her months in advance if she could do something naughty for me. All I asked is if she could wear some lingerie I bought her and if she could try initiate with me the morning of. She literally fake slept until noon, and when I was in the shower she got up and made pancakes as an apology. I said its fine and we can maybe try again tonight. All of a sudden, she drops the sharpest kitchen knife we own on her foot. Blood everywhere. Ensue hospital trip. Spent the whole day in emergency. Afterall, why was she using a sharp cooking knife for pancakes? Obviously I can’t prove it was on purpose.

Now before everyone starts having a go at me, I’m not some intimacy-deprived machine that’s constantly trying to molest her. I try to initiate maybe once a fortnight, and in between that I always try be very romantic by taking her on dates, buying her gifts and visiting her at work. I honestly have no memory of any time where she initiated. I’ve asked her about this, and she straight up will tell me “I wont initiate. I dont like to”. She won’t elaborate any further.

So I am engaged to my boyfriend (now fiance) and the truth is, I am only with him for his money, and he is only with me for my good looks. We are getting married very soon, and he is probably going to have an affair and cheat on me sometime in the future but that’s fine with me.

Context: I am aromantic, so I don’t really feel love, ever. Because I am with him, I get to take my friends on holidays twice a year etc. He knows I do not love him. He gets to show me off to friends and I do the housework. Its a win win.

FAQ:

1. What if he leaves you?
   • I have a masters degree and 100k in savings
2. What if he makes you sign a prenup?
   • I will sign it. A prenup is a pre-negotiated set of terms before a marriage in case of divorce. Its not just “she doesnt get anything”.

If there is a prenup, I will ask for the condo and one of the cars along with maybe one other property. I am not sure there will be though, because we are ring shopping and it has not yet come up

Netizens’ comments

1. I think it’s fine if you are both on the same page and ok with the arrangement. This is how marriage has worked for many couples for thousands of years.
2. Listen, I married for love & I’ve been broke all my life. You do you, sista.
3. My best friend and I joke around all the time that we’re going to marry some rich old guys and then marry for love after they die. We happened to be saying this while at Victoria’s Secret one day when the woman in front of us turns around and says “I did it, it wasn’t worth it.”
4. I’M SORRY, I CAN’T HEAR YOU OVER THE SOUND OF MY FERRARI
5. I have divorced in exchange for debt, does that count?

I have two biological daughters “Cara” and “Daisy” and a stepdaughter “Emma”

I married Emma’s dad when they were all in their early teens. I’m going to be honest, and I’m not trying to get slammed for being a bad mom, but Daisy was a bad child.

she threw temper tantrums well into adulthood, snuck out at night, talked back to teachers.

I did take her to multiple therapists, but it didn’t help.

Cara was a very easy child, and Emma didn’t get in trouble but can be very rude, selfish, and when she was older she slept with a boyfriend of Daisy’s (Emma’s dad refused to put her in therapy and claims she’s fine)

Emma and Cara are best friends. They do literally everything together. Daisy is not close to either of them.

I would also like to say Daisy has grown up to be a lovely young woman. She does still struggle with emotional regulation but she is 85% better.

Cara got married 4 years ago and Daisy was pretty jealous. Emma was the maid of honor and was not nice to Daisy.

Daisy ended up dropping out of the wedding the day of because she had been in the bathroom for a while (crying I think) and when she came out, Emma said if she did anything to mess up the wedding, she would push her into the cake.

Everyone laughed and Daisy left and turned her phone off for 3 weeks.

Daisy got a boyfriend about a year later and got even better with her emotional issues, and I’m very proud of her.

Daisy is now getting married, but is embarrassed because she only has one best friend and he had a lot of people to be groomsmen, so she asked Emma and Cara.

Emma declined because the dress didn’t match her hair. Cara said she didn’t want to do it without Emma.

This annoyed me because Cara literally doesn’t do anything without Emma. it borders on co-dependence.

I snapped at Cara that her hair matches everything, so she doesn’t have an excuse and it is pretty sad that she is more concerned with her step-sister than her real sister.

I told her I was disappointed. Daisy began tearing up and asking me to stop because I was embarrassing her.

Cara yelled back that I always prioritized Daisy’s issues and she feels Daisy was mean to her and she can’t move past it and hopes Daisy’s fiancé cheats (I found that awful because Daisy is so in love, I’ve never seen her like this)

Where we are right now is Cara is hardly talking to me, Daisy is saying if she was mean to Cara it was only because Emma was mean her, and Emma is saying if she bullied Daisy it was because she was being ill treated at her mom’s house and we weren’t helping her (unfortunately we didn’t know)

I hate how divided we are, and I hate that Cara thinks I love Daisy more and doesn’t want to talk to me because I lost my temper with her.