I Like To Pretend Sleep So I Can Hear The Sweet Things My Boyfriend Says About Me

Whenever I’m asleep and he’s still awake, my boyfriend will hold me in his arms and whisper the cutest things to me.

He tells me how much he loves me, how lucky he is to have met me, how he can’t believe he met a girl so perfect.

He does this every night that I sleep at his house and he even does it on the occasions that I fall asleep on a call with him.

Sometimes I pretend asleep to hear all of the cute things he says when I’m passed out.

It’s not that he doesn’t say them when I’m awake, he absolutely does – I just love that he tells me even in my sleep that he appreciates me.

Netizens’ comments

• I think he knows and I think its awesome

• Such a rare thing you have in this day and age! Hold on to him support him make sure to end fights fast and with love in your voice and the love you share will only get stronger and better

• This post single-handedly restored my faith in humanity, there really are precious people like your bf out there <33

• I’m not jealous… I’m not jealous… I’m not jealous… I’m not jealous…

Is it just me or Singapore is getting even hotter?

I knew Singapore was getting hotter but I didn’t expect what was to come this year.

Usually I try not to use air-con but since the start of the year I literally have had to turn on the ac for most of the day, even at night, if not my room becomes a furnace.

Anyone else feeling the same? How often do you turn on your air-con?

Netizens’ comments

• it’s freaking hot… i don’t have an air con in my room, some nights i really couldn’t sleep despite maximum my fan speed

• It is super super hot. I used to stay away from the outdoors at 11 30 onwards to 330 cos you can feel the heat of the sun.
  Now by 930, you can feel the heat of the sun. It’s insane. We used to have more huge green land parcels. It’s next to nothing now. And we used to have huge rain trees for shade. Now we have thin narrow trees lining the roads. It’s damn hot.
  It’s concrete jungle everywhere and you can feel the heat radiating from the roads. Last time all schools had no aircon. Now they do have some aircon in some classrooms. Also buses, bus interchange, all shops in your town centre. Also town centres used to have shops. Now you have a mall using aircon throughout. Aircon makes the surround hotter.

• no aircon and never open windows also. ok lah. used to it.

The collective use of aircon makes the country’s temperature even worse so even if I could breathe without my nose getting blocked, I will not contribute to the rising temperature as far as I can help it

So yeah I needed to get this off my chest. It’s thrown me for a loop. I am 46, and I was with my husband since I was 21. We got divorced two and a half years ago. We just grew apart and mutually agreed that the best thing for us was to go our separate ways. It was relatively amicable as these things go. We have three boys (22, 19, and 16).

My sister also is in the process of a divorce. Her soon-to-be ex was cheating on her with a coworker of his. My sister has two kids. (10 m and 6 f). Apparently one night last year after my cousin’s birthday party the two of them ended up sleeping together. I remember the night because my sister showed up in a very revealing outfit and was turning heads all night. Little did I know one of the heads she turned belonged to my ex husband!

They’ve been sleeping together off and on ever since. I know they’re both adults and neither is in a relationship but it still seems weird to me and I don’t understand why my sister would go there. For that matter I don’t understand why my ex would do this. He’s a really attractive man, he always has been. He shouldn’t have much trouble finding a woman to date yet he chose my sister?!? Perhaps he’s more angry about our divorce than I thought?

My niece mentioned to me that he’s been around with mommy a lot. So I asked about it and he just flat out admitted what’s been going on. When I confronted my sister she didn’t even try to deny it and said they’re both adults and they’re not hurting anyone. According to her it’s just no strings attached and there are no intentions of them being together as a couple.

I don’t know why this has bothers me this much. Maybe because when I met my husband we weee in college and my sister was in elementary school. Were they looking at each other while they were both married? I asked both of them if they ever messed around while we were married and they both denied it. Maybe I’m foolish but I believed them.

My ex-boyfriend broke up with me after 4 years of our relationship.

The reason is our relationship is no longer ‘exciting’. We talked about getting married, building a family together, and even meeting each other’s families.

Everything seemed to be set and going well until suddenly one day we argued that he has changed over the years and so have I. As working adults, we don’t have much time for each other except after work or the weekends. At some point, the frequency of meetings has reduced although we still call each other every day. The effort was diminishing and so was our love.

Shortly after our breakup, he became aggressive about meeting new girls, chatted with them, and met up with a new one every week. 2 months after we broke up, he met this girl and posted an official couple photo on his Instagram and Facebook a month later to announce that he is now a taken man. I heard from my friends that he said the new girl isn’t good-looking in a sort of tentative manner.

Which I feel is not something nice and should be said about someone you are planning to date. My heart is torn into a million pieces and I can barely move on from such a heartless man.

Some advice would be appreciated and maybe I am not seeing my ex for the person he is. Possibly, as an outsider a more objective POV could be provided on his character and whether or not it is time for me to truly let go of him…

Here are what netizens think:

• cannot understand why you need to follow him on social media and from friends. both of you are no longer together why hack care about what he is doing? what kind of person he is, is none of your business. you should be happy that the relationship has ended since love has gone, but why refused to let go? why acted like a victim? when there is no victim here, he only started chasing girls after the breakup what is wrong with that? he didn’t cheated on you during your relationship. only you can help yourself.

• From a guy’s standpoint, I don’t think he’s heartless. In my opinion, he’s a realistic man – he doesn’t wallow in self-pity and wants to find his next dream girl asap. And to the OP, do yourself a favor and stop stalking him. Unfriend him if you have to, so you don’t trap yourself in a cycle of depression. He has moved on. And you need time to recuperate emotionally… and you WILL find a more suitable guy. Jia you!

• You still gotta move on ma. If you think he is wallowing in self-pity like you, think again. Have happier days la. Come on. Hugs.

• Imagine if you get married and he now lost the feelings and look for another “exciting” relationship. This guy doesn’t know anything about real relationships

A degree graduate recently shared on social media about the difficulty of getting a job without any experience. Which made the graduate think if the “piece of paper” is worth it.

Here is the story:

We all know that studying for a degree is not cheap for both public and private schools. Some courses can even go to almost 6 figures. But is it really worth it?

I recently finished my Bachelor’s program and I have been job hunting for several months with zero responses. I am not picky at all, I applied for jobs that are above $2,000 which is not something of a high standard

I am not from a rich family, but my family has always been against me going for part-time jobs which resulted in me having zero job experience records in my resume. The only job experience I have is an internship that is pretty much useless.

What I want to bring across is that degrees are not as valuable compared to my parent’s time. Back in the 80s, a diploma was a big deal and my mom managed to get a job as a bank manager.

But in current times, a local degree also can’t get a job and a private one is even worse.

So my question is… Is it worth it to get into debt in order to get a degree?

Here are what netizens think:

The degree has always been a piece of “backup” nothing special.

Try applying for Govt job if you have a local degree, chances are they will take you.

You are right, in this day and age a degree is nothing more than a piece of paper. Job experiences are for the win.

My boyfriend keeps pressuring me to sleep with him.

This seems like a safe place to post so here goes. My boyfriend says he will leave me if I don’t get intimate and sleep with him.

We’ve been together for 2 years and before beginning a relationship I told him I wanted to wait for marriage, that is my choice btw.

Our relationship was fine but now he says he will leave me if I don’t sleep with him.

I love him but I still want to wait, but I also don’t want to lose him. My friends say i’m the problem and should just do it.

I know most people my age have done it already, im 18, but I just don’t want to.

Netizens’ comments

• You two aren’t right for each other. You want to wait and he doesn’t. That’s not going to change for him, and it seems like it won’t change for you either.

No point in trying to keep sailing if you’re already got a huge hole in your hull. You can only bail out water so fast..

• If you want to wait until marriage then wait.

No one should pressure you to sleep with them and you should never feel forced to do it. You won’t enjoy it and might regret it for years to come.

You’ll know when it’s the right time.

I previously posted here a long time ago, but here I am again because attempts to resolve the problem have not worked.

Background: So my father has been super paranoid and suspects my mother for adultery (which I’m pretty sure is not true). This is to the extent that my father will do crazy things like stalk my mother at her workplace and spam the alleged adulterers on Facebook with somewhat accusatory comments. His thoughts have absolutely consumed him and he has been rambling about this “adultery” for years! (and saying the exact same words each time like he was reading a script!) Marriage has been rocky from day 1 and mother has wanted to divorce multiple times in the nearly 30 years of marriage, but in the end my mother still stuck around to preserve the family unit for my sake (which in retrospect wasn’t a very good idea lol). And because father does not agree to divorce, they have to separate for 4 years before mother can file for divorce, but obviously we have all been living under the same roof. Looking at father’s behaviour, it’s very clear to me that he has some mental issues along the lines of ASD (no friends, extreme dedication to routine, low EQ, strange habits of talking to himself and stimming with hand gestures) and/or BPD (fear of abandonment explaining his reluctance to divorce, control freak mannerisms). Probably also had bouts of depression as I’ve heard him say he doesn’t want to live anymore.

What I’ve done: For now I’ve tried to go the wholesome route by trying to get him to get a mental health assessment so that we can address his issues and make life easier for everyone. I managed to connect him to the Family Service Centre so that he can talk about his problems, and I informed the counsellors to try and get him to have a mental health assessment. Unsurprisingly he refused. The contact has been going on for a few months, I don’t know exactly what happens at the sessions but it’s clear that he’s still as crazy as ever.

Looking forward: Well now I’ve more or less given up the wholesome route. He’s not helping himself by not cooperating. The FSC has not really been able to do anything as well. I definitely have to get away from the house with my mother to ensure our safety and well-being. It’s not just my mother who’s been subject to bad stuff, I’ve often been at the receiving end by being his emotional dumpster and getting stressed about things I’m not involved in at all, and being worried about others because he seems to be on the verge of going berserk on everybody and I am the final safety catch. His presence alone drains my mental health. Maybe I’ve even been traumatised to some extent because I sometimes shudder when I hear his voice. I see no way I can have a good life if he doesn’t get out of my life (there are many other reasons for this which I didn’t mention in this post). I know it sounds unfilial but then again, if I can pay him his current monthly salary in exchange for cutting contact with him, I would do it (maybe when I start working). Anyway, since he’s not helping himself, I guess there’s no other way other than for things to get ugly. Divorce is the number one priority I have for my parents now. Unfortunately my father has been very smart about preventing a divorce. There is very little evidence we have to justify the divorce without going through a 4 year separation. There is no adultery on his side, no physical abuse, no vices, etc. I intended the mental health assessment to have a secondary purpose of being used as a justification for divorce if we really went that route, but obviously we don’t have it, and I suspect he may have seen through the plan. I realise he’s also been very emotionally manipulative by constantly trying to brainwash us that a divorce would be impossible because my mother has been a bad wife and the judge would side with him, but luckily I’ve seen through him. Anyway, I would appreciate any legal advice on this matter, I am hoping that we will be able to expedite the divorce proceedings without having to do the 4 year separation thing, and perhaps some advice on how to best handle my father so that he can no longer cause distress for me and my mother’s family. Thanks.

I am 29F I grew up in a divided family, my parents hated each other forever. My dad has businesses and we weren’t close to being poor but he was cheap and never gave my mom any gifts or money.

Culturally, we don’t move out of our family’s house until marriage. But I got a good reason to get out of this house which is studying abroad. Now I work and live abroad alone, no friends and no family around. I worked so hard to get my masters abroad (my tuition was paid by scholarship) and got a job after that. Sometimes I get depressed and feel lonely then I call my mom she would just complain about my dad all the call and wouldn’t care about me at all.

Today she was complaining that dad doesn’t give her money and asked me to pay her bills there, she said that my brother 38M (he lives with her and doesn’t pay much) and only pays for the water and food and I need to help them. I told her that I pay my rent, and all bills, and I’m trying to save up to buy a car and paying for my driving lessons because I could not afford to learn it in SG.

I never ask them for money why would she ask me to pay their bills too especially since I don’t live with them?

She doesn’t listen to me when I say that, she ignores me and says that my brother pays some of the bills and I gotta pay part of it. I got really angry and told her that I won’t pay a single cent and I don’t owe her money and she hung the phone up on my face.

Am I an wrong for not wanting to send her money and being angry at her?

Here are what netizens think:

you don’t live there, you’re an adult with your own bills and rent to pay. She should be charging her son rent if money is an issue, not begging it off the child who is living independently

Supporting your family is always a choice that you make yourself. You’re not obligated to fund your family in any way.

if she doesn’t have enough money she needs to get a job/look for a higher paid job and ask the son who’s still home to contribute more. Just because something is cultural to your family doesn’t mean your obligated to do it.

but I hope I can get some input here. ????

I have a 4-room flat and my bf has an EA. Both of us bought this under single scheme last time.

We always think that once we get married, one of us have to sell one of the unit. But recently there are 2 agents told me 2 different things:

1. As long as both unit pass MOP (after 5 years), HDB won’t ask us to sell either unit. Agent A said that he called HDB and got this answer. However, we are skeptical.

2. Another agent said, by right, HDB will send us a letter to inform us to sell either unit within 6 months. However, there are many ppl take the “by left” option. As in, HDB isn’t firm on this.

Can any kind soul who have been in a similar situation shared some input?

We have been putting off the idea of getting married because we are not ready to let go of either unit, for sentimental and practical reasons ????

Here are what netizens think:

• Hmmmm of course you want to keep both unit la. Very practical. The fact you both can buy such units in the open market under singles scheme means you both are quite strong financially. So? Sell your Hdbs and buy private condo la. You both still have 2 units just that they are upgraded to private. Leave the Hdb for families who need them.

• It’s crystal clear that one couple can only own one HDB. Just a matter of time when you will receive the letter from HDB , asking you to dispose one.

• Once you get married, you become a family unit. So can only own 1 HDB. Meaning you will have to let go of 1 of the units, however practical or sentimental it is unfortunately.

• Even if the value of the unit has grown 1000%, if you do not realise the value, it will always be on paper, might as well recycle the value and constantly put it to good use to grow your networth. This is a more practical approach. If for sentimental reason, then you guys will just have to pick one. You can always consider after ROM since you have 6 months to sell. Otherwise one party will find themselves holding on to the short end of the stick should the situation deviate from your current plan.

What is it like visiting a prostitute? I am super curious

Closest I ever got to was standing outside a sleezy massage parlor in JB while my buddies egged me to go in. I was virgin and they were willing to pay for it. I was too paiseh to accept

That was many years ago. I am married with kid so I won’t ever try it, but still so many men around me have visited and I seriously feel like I am missing out. Can anyone shed some light please

1. In general, what is it like to visit one?
2. How do you even discuss the price?
3. What if you fail to climax?
4. What if you dislike the women you are assigned? E.g. she looks worse irl than in photo
5. Did you enjoy the experience?

Netizens share their experiences

1. For me, I went to scope the different houses first to see which one has the prettiest looking girls, and decided on one with thai girls.
   Got quoted $150 for 2 shots (back in 2018, haven’t been back ever since) and after that the boss will bring you to choose a girl that you like, with all the girls sitting behind a huge glass window.
   All of them are wearing number tags so you just choose which girl you want, like “I want number 5” or “i want number 69”.
   You can also ask the boss for recommendation on which girl is the best and he will make a suggestion.
   After that the girl will come out and hold your hand, leading you into one of the rooms where you will take a quick shower to wash yourself up, before she starts off the whole session with her “mouth”.
   Sometimes the girl will also lick you in your “behind”, but it really depends on the girl, and they will spray some disinfectant first before doing it.
   You then proceed with the deed, and depending on the girl, sometimes they will provide you with a massage after you finish and there is still some time.
   Then when time’s up, you shower and clean up before leaving.
   I don’t think the price can be discussed as geylang brothels are mostly fixed.
   If you fail to climax then bopian, nothing can be done.
   One thing to take note is never ever french kiss them, although some singapore men like to do it, because their mouths have “been very busy”.
   Better to play safe, even though they are regularly tested for any STDs.
2. I am like you. I’m always the one outside while my friends go in to try. I have a long-term committed girlfriend so prostitution is something I’ll never do.
   However, during my recent Thailand trip, I have had the chance to go inside one of the “Fish Tanks” with my friends. Like yourself, I was curious and just wanted to see how things were like. Ultimately, I left the premise while my friends enjoyed themselves.
   Here was my limited experience:
   • It is a nicely decorated lounge area where there are many nice sofas. You sit on one of the sofas and you WILL HAVE to order a semi-overpriced drink (can be water, coke or alcohol). This serves as your entrace fee. In front of the sofas is a stage with bright lighting where the girls are seated. They are all skimpily dressed.
   • Each of the ladies has a numbered and colored tag. The price of each lady is determined by the color of the tag. For example, Black is the most expensive. Once you see a lady you like, you tell the male-staff which girl you like and they will call her down and she will follow you back to a room after you paid. Just want to add, some of the expensive-tagged girls are really pretty, they are probably prettier than any other girls you know personally. I can understand why so many men fell into the beauty-trap of the Thai women.
   • I was told that you have a time-limit with the girl of 1-2 hours or 1-2 shots, whichever comes first.
   • You already saw the lady on the stage before picking her. So this shouldn’t be a problem?
   According to my friends… apparently so.
   Edit: Before anyone starts asking or critisizing my friends…
   1) they are single men, and they are very good friends of mine who went through thick and thin with me.
   2) They just so happen to be very unfortunate with genetic lottery (short, balding, out of shape, not handsome) and as a result, they don’t get much luck with our local ladies.
3. Like going to the doctor.
   At first you have a concern
   See already over in a few minutes
   Then bill come you faint
4. I only ever had experience from rentmen. Saw his profile and thought he was hot. Messaged him on WhatsApp to confirm price then he send me his hotel address. Met at lobby and brought me to his room. I placed money on the table then we got down to business
5. So as a 20 (M) youngster who wanted to lose my V card. I’m gonna put this post as my experience might save youngsters their important hard earned part time money. As any other curious young male who never lost his V card before and wanted too, I went to geylang.
   I was advised to try the vietnam brothel as their “tight and hygienic” I’ve only went once so I can’t say for sure about the hygiene part. Now the main part of the post, was it worth it? Personally and likely for majority males who have went before, no it was not. Firstly, the ladies there look great and work great. Respects to them for being nice and professional.
   But honestly, all of their efforts and kindness were wasted upon the condoms provided. Yes I understand that condoms are necessary for protection from STI and pregnancy BUT, the issue is the quality. It is HORRIBLE, I felt more for the unprotected BJ then the protected intercourse itself. It was so bad that my purchase ($120 for 1hr) felt wasted. I went limp couple of times, thankfully the prostitute was kind and gave me raw BJ (dangerous) to get me to be hard again. To summarise in short, you might wanna consider an escort over geylang prostitutes, unless you’re a cheapster.