What is it like visiting a prostitute? I am super curious

Closest I ever got to was standing outside a sleezy massage parlor in JB while my buddies egged me to go in. I was virgin and they were willing to pay for it. I was too paiseh to accept

That was many years ago. I am married with kid so I won’t ever try it, but still so many men around me have visited and I seriously feel like I am missing out. Can anyone shed some light please

1. In general, what is it like to visit one?
2. How do you even discuss the price?
3. What if you fail to climax?
4. What if you dislike the women you are assigned? E.g. she looks worse irl than in photo
5. Did you enjoy the experience?

Netizens share their experiences

1. For me, I went to scope the different houses first to see which one has the prettiest looking girls, and decided on one with thai girls.
   Got quoted $150 for 2 shots (back in 2018, haven’t been back ever since) and after that the boss will bring you to choose a girl that you like, with all the girls sitting behind a huge glass window.
   All of them are wearing number tags so you just choose which girl you want, like “I want number 5” or “i want number 69”.
   You can also ask the boss for recommendation on which girl is the best and he will make a suggestion.
   After that the girl will come out and hold your hand, leading you into one of the rooms where you will take a quick shower to wash yourself up, before she starts off the whole session with her “mouth”.
   Sometimes the girl will also lick you in your “behind”, but it really depends on the girl, and they will spray some disinfectant first before doing it.
   You then proceed with the deed, and depending on the girl, sometimes they will provide you with a massage after you finish and there is still some time.
   Then when time’s up, you shower and clean up before leaving.
   I don’t think the price can be discussed as geylang brothels are mostly fixed.
   If you fail to climax then bopian, nothing can be done.
   One thing to take note is never ever french kiss them, although some singapore men like to do it, because their mouths have “been very busy”.
   Better to play safe, even though they are regularly tested for any STDs.
2. I am like you. I’m always the one outside while my friends go in to try. I have a long-term committed girlfriend so prostitution is something I’ll never do.
   However, during my recent Thailand trip, I have had the chance to go inside one of the “Fish Tanks” with my friends. Like yourself, I was curious and just wanted to see how things were like. Ultimately, I left the premise while my friends enjoyed themselves.
   Here was my limited experience:
   • It is a nicely decorated lounge area where there are many nice sofas. You sit on one of the sofas and you WILL HAVE to order a semi-overpriced drink (can be water, coke or alcohol). This serves as your entrace fee. In front of the sofas is a stage with bright lighting where the girls are seated. They are all skimpily dressed.
   • Each of the ladies has a numbered and colored tag. The price of each lady is determined by the color of the tag. For example, Black is the most expensive. Once you see a lady you like, you tell the male-staff which girl you like and they will call her down and she will follow you back to a room after you paid. Just want to add, some of the expensive-tagged girls are really pretty, they are probably prettier than any other girls you know personally. I can understand why so many men fell into the beauty-trap of the Thai women.
   • I was told that you have a time-limit with the girl of 1-2 hours or 1-2 shots, whichever comes first.
   • You already saw the lady on the stage before picking her. So this shouldn’t be a problem?
   According to my friends… apparently so.
   Edit: Before anyone starts asking or critisizing my friends…
   1) they are single men, and they are very good friends of mine who went through thick and thin with me.
   2) They just so happen to be very unfortunate with genetic lottery (short, balding, out of shape, not handsome) and as a result, they don’t get much luck with our local ladies.
3. Like going to the doctor.
   At first you have a concern
   See already over in a few minutes
   Then bill come you faint
4. I only ever had experience from rentmen. Saw his profile and thought he was hot. Messaged him on WhatsApp to confirm price then he send me his hotel address. Met at lobby and brought me to his room. I placed money on the table then we got down to business
5. So as a 20 (M) youngster who wanted to lose my V card. I’m gonna put this post as my experience might save youngsters their important hard earned part time money. As any other curious young male who never lost his V card before and wanted too, I went to geylang.
   I was advised to try the vietnam brothel as their “tight and hygienic” I’ve only went once so I can’t say for sure about the hygiene part. Now the main part of the post, was it worth it? Personally and likely for majority males who have went before, no it was not. Firstly, the ladies there look great and work great. Respects to them for being nice and professional.
   But honestly, all of their efforts and kindness were wasted upon the condoms provided. Yes I understand that condoms are necessary for protection from STI and pregnancy BUT, the issue is the quality. It is HORRIBLE, I felt more for the unprotected BJ then the protected intercourse itself. It was so bad that my purchase ($120 for 1hr) felt wasted. I went limp couple of times, thankfully the prostitute was kind and gave me raw BJ (dangerous) to get me to be hard again. To summarise in short, you might wanna consider an escort over geylang prostitutes, unless you’re a cheapster.

it feels like he moved my organs. I just f-ed my bf, it was rough and since we finished I’m in unbelievable pain.

We are together for more than two years and we get rough in bed fairly regularly, he is really large down there and he often hit my cervix but it’s usually not so painful for me and I know what does that feel like but this is completely different…

It feels like he hit my ovaries or something, it feels like he moved something in there and it’s so painful especially when I move even a little bit…

does anyone knows why can that happen, I go to my gynaecologist regularly so I know that I’m healthy and that I don’t have any cyst…

I never felt anything like this before, it feels like the worst period cramp ever. There is no blood and we didn’t do anything unusual…

Netizens’ comments

1. Getting your ovaries knocked during deep penetration has been described as similar to testicular pain from blunt trauma. So, I suspect that is what you’re experiencing. His size down there might be a factor but Olympic-style f-ing can do this to any woman. YMMV but be careful with sport f-ing
2. Speaking as a girl who loves to get her brains fked out, my advice is if it ever gets painful, just have him ease up. “Too hard” does exist.
3. I got fisted one time and literally couldn’t walk for a week. Just swelling and cramps
4. Just be sure to pay attention to how long it lasts and how severe it is because if it lasts too long or prevents you from going about your life, you should seek medical attention.
5. Well… I hate to be the outlier here… But it could just be the lay of the land as it were. Give it time, lay on your back. Give it more time, and then try walking around. Things may settle.

What’s a day in the life of someone who is affluent?

I’m not rich and even if I “work hard” my entire life I’ll never be rich rich. Comfortable yes but rich nope.

But watching Korean dramas on Chaebols and stuff makes me wonder who is a day in the life the of the affluent in Singapore is like? This is by no means comparing or anything just curious on the lifestyle they lead. Also cause people always say they wanna be rich wanna be rich and by being rich you can truly find happiness so I’m curious on that aspect.

My friends will say stuff like “They can buy Chanel Hermes and many Rolex that’s why they’re happy!!” But if you’re rich rich, and you have that many Rolex, wouldn’t it come to a point where that watch is akin to how we ordinary folks view Casio and Seikos.

And say like if frequently eat at high end restaurants or Michelin food everyday, would it come to a point where they view that food similar to how we see our Nasi lemak and roti Prata since they have it oh so often? Like what’s luxury for us may be their every day.

Do you have friends or yourself is affluent? How’s your lifestyle like?

Netizens’ share their stories

1. Ah, my family’s rich, so maybe I can pitch in. I usually work office 8:30 to 6 on Monday to Friday, gym at Anytime a few times a week, meet friends on weekends and play games/read before sleeping.
   I notice that I don’t put much thought about getting grab or going to fancy bars/restaurants, but I still mostly eat at hawker or home cause it’s convenient.
   I have nice watches, but I usually just use my garmin and switch for events. I typically take the train and bus for work, but can drive if I don’t feel like it.
   When it comes to clothes, I don’t mind shopping at places like Balenciaga, but I’d usually just go to Uniqlo. Essentially, being rich doesn’t stop you from enjoying cheap things, but it does make you less reluctant to try out the expensive stuff.
   Overall, the nicest part is just the comfort of a safety net, so I never have to worry what would happen if things go wrong.
2. I have an acquaintance who is a taitai.
   According to Instagram:
   Morning = gym sessions then atas breakfast.
   Afternoon = fetch her kids from school followed by atas lunch at restaurants I’ve never heard of.
   Evening = hosting her friends at her semi d with wine and atas food for dinner.
   And also constant travelling since her kids are already in jc.
3. Well, I know a couple of people from families with old money.
   One goes to work anyway (lowkey white collar job) but also has properties, tenants, and manages the family’s investment portfolio.
   You will never think they are rich. They bring their own lunch to work and sometimes cook for their co-workers. Once in a while, they do go to nice brunches at places you have to drive to on the weekends.
   The other one doesn’t work but has private bankers work for them to make money. Work out at the gym in the mornings, play golf on the weekends, read up on investments, global news, etc. For meals, there is a variety. Usually take meals at home cooked by the maid… unless it’s a special recipe, then they make it themselves. Often hosts dinner at their place, usually private bankers, other well-connected people, family friends, etc.
   On weekends, dines at hawker centres, cafes or Michelin level type of restaurants. Generally, they do not spend money like water; they put it into investments.
   Again, you cannot tell they are rich from just appearances – well, unless they drove their car to meet you. I only knew the extent of their family’s wealth when I went with them to visit their parents’ estate one year.
   My take is that money amplifies and enhances your life. If you are sensible and level-headed, you will use money wisely and make it work for you. If you enjoy luxury goods and material things, you will spend money on that.
   Money cannot buy happiness but it definitely solves many problems that make life difficult.
4. I am not affluent nor do I know anyone filthy rich but I feel “rich people feel happy because rolex” is a tad over simplified.
   Yes luxury items come with diminishing return but they can also buy experiences. Won’t you be happy if you can quit the job you hate any time and go travel the world? Or try any niche expensive hobby like skiing or horseriding anytime you want to?
   Or if you’re feeling altruistic you can anytime donate to a cause, start a foundation or have the free Time to go volunteer.
   And another aspect is safety. Not having to worry about your mum’s medical bill or your children’s school fees is pretty happiness inducing or at least worry reducing I think.
   Of course I’m not saying all rich people are happy.
5. We had a towkay who gets chaffeured to office, every one jokes that he just turns on PC to check his bank account balances after reading his newspapers. Morning wait out hangover, his khakis come office sit down talk shit then go to lunch where the maitre d know u by name and u have special off menu dishes for u. A
   fter go country club, night time dinner then work begins at the KTV, gotta go thru the ang pais, but after all those news of ktv models dying of alcohol poisoning for big tips they don’t play so hiong anymore.
   Back to ur 11000 sqf minimum house. Repeat next day until one day u say ur sons hate u for never being there then try to salvage n be family man
   Next tier one maybe spend more time at the casino. One daughter’s sole occupation was to ensure her mother does not lose more than 250k usd a week. Bankers go to mbs for meeting with them.
   Biggest flex we witnessed was some rich ppl discussing flight out of SG, one offered another (foreigner) a ride with him to airport , response was I don’t think we going same direction, I going Seletar (private jet).

Girlfriend Doesn’t Want to Post Relationship on Social Media. Worried about Co-Workers

Me (M28) and my girlfriend (F29) have been dating for 1 year and a half. I’ve already met her family and her friends and we are very serious about the relationship.

She’s been very hesitant about posting any pictures or anything about us on social media.

Recently, it has gotten even worse after tagging her in a Facebook post I saw (we are both looking for an apartment).

She basically said she doesn’t want me to tag her in any posts because she doesn’t want people to see anything about our relationship.

She tells me that it’s because of her co-workers and that her co-workers like to gossip and create drama.

I understand keeping the relationship private, but this seems like overkill. Especially after dating for a year and a half.

What’s the best way to sit down and talk with her respectively about our relationship and social media?

Netizens’ comments

she needs to remove her coworkers from Facebook. just tell her to tell them she isn’t using Facebook anymore.

i work in a company and i have the same issue with coworkers gossiping and causing drama. in particular this 1 person who always talks crap about every single person behind their back.

i specifically don’t add anyone from my work on my Facebook because of this particular person. i have a Instagram/twitter that is work related/business and i just add coworkers on that.

I’m in a pretty bad situation. My pay barely covers monthly utilities, transport for all my family members, HDB rent, medication for my parents, groceries & and my little brother’s school fees & costs.

I’m working on a contract basis for a IT company as well as a Grab delivery rider on the weekends. 7 days a week.

Total monthly I’m able to bring back combined $3k. I’m the sole breadwinner for my family.

Once I get into NS in a couple of months, 80% of my pay will be taken away. I have no interest in serving NS at all, because pay is completely messed up.

Like even I heard financial assistance max is $500. Even then it’ll be $1130. Nowhere close to what I need to run my household.

If the army is willing to pay for all my house bills, medications & other bills, I’ll accept $630 with my mouth shut.

Who do I approach before NS? My principal focus is on my parents medicines, HDB rent & school fees. Food & transport I’ll manage. I need someone to cover the full costs of those.

I dont care abt the SAF, NS or anyone at all. My family comes first. I’ve no intention in NS life other than caring for my family & till my little brother is able to find a job after his poly studies.

I need some solutions, becos idw AWOL or go to prison for putting my family first.

Netizens’ comments

• hi i’m a clerk who handles financial assistance for my unit. it does not cap out at $500 and i’ve seen it go up to $2k+ in certain situations.
  Go to your S1 or relevant commander and explain to him your financial situation. They will help kickstart the FAS procedure.
  I will say it is a rather slow process so do provide the necessary documents ASAP. They will ask for copy of all IC’s, CPF statements of all family members, divorce letters and alimony details(if applicable) and a commander may conduct a house visit.
  More documents may be required in more obscure scenarios. DM me if you need more information regarding this.

• There are SAF financial assistance schemes that can help to alleviate your financial burden if your household income is sufficiently low.
  Alternatively, if you seek proper approval for your superiors you may be granted permission to work elsewhere to earn additional income, on a case-by-case basis.
  Stay strong bro!

In November – December I found out that my dad was cheating on my mom for 2 years with my teacher(Not a school teacher just some random girl who taught me and my brother tuition) after a bit my mom goes to stay with her parents after she confronted dad about the cheating.

My dad started saying what he did was fine and she shouldn’t have to apologise for anything that he did. My mom divorced him and I found out about this in December 23th and my dad has still not told us about what he did, thinking we do not know anything (me and my older brother haven’t told him we know only our oldest brother has)

My dad keeps trying to himself look good for out mom for example im gonna buy a gift to my mom and he says “tell ur mom I bought that” it annoys me a lot and I don’t see him as the person I looked up to before.

My dad also spread rumours about my mom stealing his money and more nasty rumours and it just pissed me off more. (My dad always beat me and my siblings when we were kids) I have trouble showing emotions and I have anxiety because of him. I keep telling him that my mom won’t come back and the next time he tells me that I should hope that he and my mom get back together I would say “Dad, mom dosnt want u anywhere near her and u should accept it and move on”.

Here are what netizens think:

• Your dad sounds like a very toxic, selfish person. Work on setting up boundaries with him because he is just going to keep pushing. He doesn’t care how anybody else feels.

• At the same time, your dad seems clueless. All you’d be doing is making him upset.