I have always wondered why some people in Singapore appear to be upset with Malaysians coming to Singapore to work and not spending money here.

Caveat, I’m not a Malaysian but my whole family on my mother’s side is.

Malaysians come to Singapore to work. They don’t come here and we pay them for doing nothing. They do something for our companies, and our companies pay them money for it.

Our companies, in turn, produce goods and services for the consumption of Singaporeans, and for export, from which we make money that eventually gets paid to Singapore-based workers, most of whom are Singaporeans.

The reason why there are so many jobs in Singapore, even for Singaporeans, is the availability of a high-quality labor market, of which, nearly 2 million are foreigners, a plurality of whom are Malaysian.

The presence of Malaysian workers make our industries more viable than if we were an island of 3 million. The presence of Malaysian workers enable us to fill in all the gaps in the labor market that we would otherwise find great difficulty in doing ourselves.

The presence of Malaysian workers, reduces the insurmountable costs that our government budgets every year to support families in the raising of children.

We don’t have to bear a single cent to raise from infancy, an accountant from Malaysia, who did her schooling in Malaysia, and subsequently earned an accredited degree from a reputable university in Australia.

Make no mistake, our economy owes an enormous debt to the many Johoreans, brothers, who come across the borders every single day.

What they do with their money is their prerogative. They earned it. The least we can do is to acknowledge the fact that we’re not the center of the universe.

Netizens’ comments

1. Funny because they’re the ones choosing to come and take advantage of the better currency rates. Same can be said for other foreigners from other countries with weaker currencies. They’re paid for their work here and nobody owes them anything.
2. We need each other. We need them to fill on the shortage of labour. They also need the currency for living. Instead of bragging who gave who a better life. We should be thankful to each other.
3. Own them? So, when our employers hire us for the job, they own their success through us? It may be true but bear in mind, we are paid. It’s a 2 way street.

I installed a camera in the living room and caught my husband making out with the babysitter.

I have been having suspicions for almost 4 months since I hired this (19-year-old) babysitter for my 3-year-old daughter.

I’m a nurse working full time while he works three nights a week and comes home to sleep during the day.

I felt I was going crazy because something was off and he refused to ease my mind and answer questions I had – so I put a camera in the living room and saw nothing til day 4 where he and the babysitter were making out on the couch behind my daughter’s back while she was watching tv.

I felt like my entire world came crashing to the ground. I felt all kinds of negative feelings including guilt even though I just wanted to keep my job when he complained about me pushing him to the side.

He started crying when confronted, tried to get me to listen but I took my daughter and went to stay with mom.

It’s been a whole month now. The babysitter is gone and he’s still crying about his slip up, even went as far as say the babysitter was the one initiating.

I feel like I’m done with him after this. He managed to make me feel guilty for not dressing up or giving him enough attention now I do strongly believe I bear part of the blame in what happened.

I feel disgusted and my mind and heart keep racing not knowing how to deal with all of this. he’s begging for a second chance and his family is defending him against me.

A couple of months ago, my wife invited her sister and a couple of friends over for drinks and a movie night.

I kept to myself for most of the evening, partly because of the abundance of romantic comedies and the lively girl talk.

Everyone except my sister-in-law decided to take a cab home, while she opted to spend the night in our guest room.

Red wine always seemed to have an interesting effect on my wife, making her more amorous. It didn’t take long after she joined me in our bed for her to become intimate, her lips tenderly caressing my skin.

She took her time, lavishing attention on me, as she always does.

That’s when something caught my attention from between the crack in the door. My wife never fully pulled the sheet when she came to bed.

Suspecting what might be happening, I chose not to alert my wife as her head moved rhythmically between my legs.

Once I confirmed that it was indeed her sister watching us, I decided to introduce an element of fun. I gently guided my wife into a position where she was on all fours on our bed, her back side and allure exposed to the door.

I retrieved one of her intimate toys and began using it on her, positioning myself to the side so her sister could have a clear view.

After a while, I carefully rotated my wife into the same position but made her face the door. I moved behind her and started an intimate encounter, ensuring she kept her head nestled in the sheets so she couldn’t see her sister discreetly observing our room.

A few minutes of passion later, I surrendered to my wife’s irresistible allure and our connection reached its peak. When I looked up, her sister had discreetly left.

The following morning, my wife never mentioned seeing anyone outside our door, so it was clear she hadn’t noticed anything unusual.

My boyfriend (M27) didn’t propose to me(F26) in the agreed upon time and I feel like I’m going crazy
My partner didn’t propose in time and I am considering leaving

It’s been over 8 years. We started dating at 18. I understood that we would have to wait to get engaged because we were so young. However I feel that it has been too long. He says we are almost at the finish line but I keep seeing that line being pushed further and further back.

First we said we would wait until we were financially stable. Then he wanted to go to law school after 2 years of being out of college. We always said we would be engaged when law school was over but then the bar exam came and sidetracked that. We recently moved and now we are waiting to see how much our old apartment charges us for damages.

My deadline was the day after he graduated. I had already been waiting an extra 3 years because he chose to go to law school. We have enough money in our bank account.

I get that he wants to be extremely financially stable but it’s September and I am breaking. Every time I talk to him about it, it gets pushed further back. He says we are 2 months away but I ran out of patience 4 months ago.

It’s driving me crazy and I feel like it has ruined the idea of being engaged for me. I wanted it to be spontaneous and out of love but I don’t think that was ever going to happen. I don’t think he’s scared of marriage, he offers to marry me at a court house all the time. I just think he doesn’t care about all of the romantic stuff and he’s just going through the motions for me.

I have been pushed 4 months past my breaking point and I don’t know if I have ruined our relationship by pushing the issue. Right now it’s to the point where getting engaged will no longer make me happy. Is it over? Am I just fooling myself? Have I gone mad?

Are there any chill, stress-free or even boring office job?

I am currently pulling more than 60+ hours excluding Saturday and Sunday. that is to say I am also putting in hours during Saturday and Sunday too.

My workload is just never ending with lots of meeting packed during the day and real actual work can only be done after working hours. I cannot imagine a life where I do this long term or for the rest of my life.

are there any chill, stress-free,minimal human interaction, no meetings,no PowerPoints, repetitive or even boring office job out there to recommend please!

I’m in engineering consultancy. work load and meeting are just crazy high. lots of time spent on PowerPoints to try to impress client that I feel isn’t really meaningful to the actual engineering work.

Netizens’ comments

1. Japanese companies. They talk so much until there is no time to do work. That’s why things are slow
2. You can look into, tech support roles. All you do is answer calls and guide people. Most of time you will be sitting down using ur phones and waiting for calls.
   This jobs usually have a spreadsheet of how to solve most issues and in cases where you dont know how to you simply escalade it to someone who knows.
   Very chill job with lots of “lepak time”
3. What kind of job u doing so we know to stay away
   • engineering consultancy
4. Any admin support role should be low stress enough . Just take instructions
5. I used to work as a Content Moderator for one of the trending social media platforms. No interaction other than your own colleagues, bi-weekly meetings (I don’t need to talk), extremely repetitive, no powerpoints. Mine is a shift work, they do have separate teams that only has normal office hours, even if it was a shift work, it’s not hectic for me because I spend 8 hours on the desk, no hard labour.
   downside: can’t access external links like YouTube, Netflix etc. It can get very very boring and sleepy. Left because the job is too repetitive for me, I’m someone who prefers to meet clients.

FA Industry in SG

Those who have worked as a FA/engaged with one, what was your experience like?

I was a FA once, and I have to say it’s a pretty bullshit job lol.

I’ve witnessed ex-colleagues telling themselves that they’re working as FAs to help the public with their financial decisions, but honestly it’s just a bunch of lies to make themselves feel better.

From directors to agents, the top motivates the bottom to hard sell products to anyone and everyone in their life. Friends and family not spared. They mention things like, if your friends refuse to buy from you, theyre not your real friends because they dont support you.

I’ve quit the position after witnessing how selfish people in the industry are. Needless to say, I won’t engage a FA myself.

People n friends here please share your stories in the comments!

Netizens’ comments

1. Wtf is a financial advisor. It’s just insurance agent.
2. I always get arrowed by FA, especially the girl one. Maybe it’s because I have a simp face.
   One time I damn retarded, actually went to meet up with this FA to listen to her share more about investment plans. Talk talk talk then she went in for the kill, ask me to sign on her iPad. I said need to think leh. She cornered me until I can’t say no.
   Then I really put my foot down, she turned soft, put on a sad face, like almost want to cry, begged me to sign, say she came all the way from Pasir Ris to Jurong East, cannot go back empty handed. Then I turned my head away from her cos I was paiseh like wtf.
   She immediately changed face and tone, and said during training, they taught her my body language means no deal.
   Then after the longest 1 min of silence, she just got up and left. Damn cold expression on her face. She was so good that I felt I let her down cos I never signed up.
   That was the last time I stay nice to FA. Nowadays I just pretend they don’t exist.
3. FA, Property Agents, parasites. They’re all synonymous
4. I decided against being one in the first place, lo and behold, now for every other person in my batch, one is an FA or in a similar role. I can’t bring myself to sell products i knowingly know are BS, since I am pretty educated in this area (finance was my major + I read fine print), so when FAs try to smoke me, I just call out their shit (like question them why it would even be good if […] + some quick math).
   I wish more people will take their time to educate themselves on the options out there and on basic financial instruments (part of the reason why i took my major ; kill 2 birds with one stone). The basics really really don’t take that long and the benefits can go a long way.
   Also, in dealing with FAs, it’s important to hold your ground, as with most other interactions. They can’t force you to sign anything and if you have any questions, make it a point to get a satisfactory reply before proceeding. Also, take your time to review the terms before signing, until then, ball’s in your park. If they can’t respect your basic rights before you sign, you can’t trust them to have your best interests at heart after becoming your FA. Relatively speaking it’s easier for me, cause I like and can cut through all the bs.

My boyfriend admitted he hasn’t proposed because I’m fat.

I (26f) and my partner (26m) have been together for 5 years. It should be noted that I am overweight, and I was when we met.

Over the last couple of years, I gained more weight due to chronic illness and mental heath issues. I have been working to lose weight and even seeking help from doctors for weight loss meds/surgery because my illness makes it nearly impossible to lose weight on my own.

This has really affected my mental health and is a big reason for it worsening. However, he always made it a point to reassure me that he supports me and loves me either way and loves my body.

Well, around 2.5 years, I started dropping hints that I wanted to get engaged (like sending pics of rings). By 3 years, I was actually saying that we should get married straight to his face.

It ended up becoming a cute thing between us, and I would say it multiple times a day as another way to say, “I love you.”

After the 4 year mark, I started getting a little upset that he hadn’t proposed. Every time I asked, he would say things like, he doesn’t have the money to buy a proper ring or that he wants to do it the “right” way.

Understandable. Besides, I’m willing to wait for the one I love. Over the past few months, I noticed him starting to get a little agitated when I would say my usual phrase, “Hey, we should get married.”

So, I slowly started to stop saying it to avoid having my feelings hurt. Our 5 year anniversary was coming up, and it was painfully obvious that he had no plans to propose anyway.

Recently, I hit a wall with my mental health. It’s gotten to the point that it has been severely affecting my work/home life. I knew I had to do something, so I called out of work for a couple of days when at my worst and spoke with my doctor and therapist to create a plan.

On one of those days, he hit me with the question, “How committed are you to actually losing weight?” Which was followed by, “Not that there’s anything wrong with the way you look, but I don’t want to get married to someone who is going to develop health issues and die like 10 years down the road.”

It felt like a train hit me. My lungs stiffened. I could feel the tears welling up as I tried my hardest to push them back, but it was too late.

I was already sobbing uncontrollably. After about 10 minutes of him consolling me, I was able to calm down enough to say that now wasn’t really a good time to talk about this until I get a grip and we could revisit the topic. I then proceeded to sit outside and cry for what felt like an eternity.

I honestly feel devastated. All my fears were confirmed in an instant. How could someone love a mess like me? I feel like I have no right to be upset because he is right. It’s not fair to him that the person he loves and wants to spend the rest of his life with is likely to die young unless they lose weight.

I just can’t help but feel like he was being inconsiderate in the moment when he knew I was really struggling. I also can’t help but be distant now, which makes me feel even more like a villain when I know it came from a genuine place in his heart, even if he just approached it wrong.

Why are low paying jobs so damn stressful and demanding? I can’t take it anymore. This is the third job this year I might have to quit.

I took this job because the job market sucks and I have bills to pay. The job seemed chill, not demanding because I’ve been dealing with so much stress from not being able to find a job that I took what I could find.

But wow, this job is starting to give me really bad headaches, stress, and anxiety.

Here’s the thing, my department consisting of me, my direct manager, and the coo. I was hired as an Assistant and literally in the job description they told me you did not need experience because they want to train and build the person. Cool.

Two months, and I realize there people don’t know what they want.

They’ll give me a task/project, (mind you I’m working on new software I’ve never used they aren’t hard but it does take a bit to learn) and once I’m done, I’ll get feedback on exactly how to redo, their way.

These people keep telling me that they want me to use my brain, think critically, do stuff in my own style but as soon as I do that I am critiqued heavily and given guidelines that aren’t written anywhere.

Also, they want me to think like them but here’s the gag, they both have ADHD, (not that that’s a bad thing) BUT I think it’s unfair of them to expect me to think like that when that is not how my brain works. I’ve literally sat down in meetings every week that are hours long of them just ranting about any and everything.

Another issue is when I interviewed, they offered me to interview again for a different role in events because of my background, I declined. It was the same pay rate yet a higher position.

Why am I now in charge of a yearly dinner? My coo decided they wanted to hand this off to me when this is not even a part of my job description. And working with them has been so stressful.

This person literally told me they are going to grill me with questions about the restaurant that they chose so I have to compile a basically a presentation.

instead of just doing my job I now have to anticipate this persons every question. And they changes their mind every meeting we have, talks forever, and gives me new tasks to do that they changes their mind about later on. ALSO coo has their partner go and call the restaurant to ask the same questions. Like, wtf??

I asked my manager for advice without saying explicitly you guys are stressing me out. This is their response:

“do what coo wants but don’t do what coo wants”

“We want you to use your brain and do things your own way in your own style” this was said to me after manager took a project I worked one and re-did it in their own style and then proceed to tell me how I should do it that way.

“I’m not always going to give you the answers” after I’ve asked for help on how to create something coo asked for in our two hour meeting where they go on tangents.

”I know cooo talks a lot and they change their minds a lot but, I’ve learned to read coo mind, I’m not saying you have to but you have to kinda have to anticipate.”

I’m just over it. I make only $2k a month.

Also to add I always get told I do well/good in my projects they just want it exactly how they envision it in their heads. I did not know I was a hired psychic .

How do I go about quitting my office job, effective immediately?

I’ve been at this job for about 4.5 months now and I’ve hated it since day one. I’m doing a volume of work that should be split between two people, the culture sucks.

There’s a ton of little things that make it just miserable and I’ve hit my breaking point. I’m done.

I called in sick yesterday and today because I’ve had a horrible migraine. I hadn’t had one in over a year before this so I’m attributing it to the stress of this job. So I decided to just quit tomorrow, effective immediately.

I’ve never not given notice so I have no idea what to say or what to expect from my supervisor when I tell her.

She’s definitely going to call me into her office tomorrow morning to talk about me missing two days so it’ll probably come up very quickly. Help!!

Netizens’ comments

1. “Sorry, this isn’t working out and isn’t worth my health. I’m quitting effective immediately. Bye.”
2. You don’t even have to go in, you can send that email right now.
   OP if you have stuff that’s yours at work, go in, grab your stuff, and then send the email and walk out.
3. Why are you even wasting time going in? Don’t show up tomorrow, block their numbers, you’ve already quit, they just don’t know it yet. They will figure it out lol
4. Just quit. You hate it anyways. Who cares. Why even show up?
5. Consider not quitting just yet. The worst thing the boss can do to you is fire you, and quitting pretty much fully negates that power. Just stroll in, do a really half-assed job, agree to everything the boss says, never actually do any of the stuff the boss says, take long lunches, and maybe even work on getting the next gig lined up.
   You can always just walk away whenever you feel like it. For me, that is a feeling of wonderful freedom, and you can get a couple of extra days worth of pay out of it.
6. If you don’t have any personal items that you need, don’t go back. You haven’t been there long, it’s absolutely not worth getting sick over a job you hate. Email the supervisor, tell them you are resigning for personal reasons “effective immediately”, and move on and find a job you will enjoy. Life is TOO short.