A netizen shared how he started balding when he was only about 14 or 15 and how it has ruined his life.

Here is the story:

Extreme early pattern baldness ruined my life and now I’m an old man

I was fairly advanced balding by 14/15, and it’s no exaggeration to say this wrecked my life. School was nightmarish – even the teachers were laughing.

I’d stay up late trying to hide it with hairspray, then slept like I was in a coffin so as not to ‘unstick’ everything. Due to stress and sleep deprivation my grades plummeted but I didn’t care.

At university I was the “guy with that hat” on campus, terrified by sudden gusts of wind.

This may sound amusing to some but I guarantee most people wouldn’t have taken it in their stride.

Balding so early was like having acid thrown over my social life: Dating wasn’t an option while other guys thought I was a joke.

I’m in my 40s now, never been in a relationship, had a circle of friends or any of the typical young person experiences. A 40+ virgin with less life lived than someone half his age. Funny huh? Yes indeed

I’ve let it get the best of me but balding as a kid is a very peculiar experience, totally different to that of an adult where most people have matured and are bound by social etiquette. There’s a sense of being robbed of youth while still being stuck in that phase psychologically.

Many men can rock bald with confidence and look decent, even balding in their 20s, but this does not apply to everyone. How you look bald is VERY dependent on head shape and facial structure, and if you aren’t so blessed here it can look horrible.

A few years ago I finally took the hat off, and while don’t look too bad from the front, from profile I look ugly. My head is flat at the back and juts forward from my neck, accentuated by a long beak of a nose. It’s shocking seeing photos of me from the “wrong” angle to the point where I can’t believe it’s me.

Not sure what my options are now. I can’t shave it close because I look so damn ugly from the side but the hair is very thin all over so it doesn’t seem like a transplant would take.

I mean at 42 life is practically over anyway, dating and having a family is all but out of the question, I’ll be greying soon, so is it even worth travelling to somewhere like Istanbul and spending 40k at this point?

I have really enjoyed hanging out with this girl who I have known since the start of poly. She is gorgeous and sweet but she had a boyfriend that had very unfortunately passed away.

Early last semester. I talked to her at the bar and she gave me her number. We had texted over break and I saw her the night she arrived back in town.

We have hung out twice since then and we have hooked up one night at the bars. But when I was in her house she had 10 pictures of her previous boyfriend on the walls in her room that I could not help but stare at when she was not looking.

She also had a scrapbook on her nightstand. She did bring up his death once to explain a story but to be honest, it made me a tad uneasy to hear and I kept the conversation moving. Her friend told me she was doing better and I had nothing to have any big worries about, she seemed motivated and has a clear direction.

She said she smoked and drink a lot to help cope but has since stopped. I was hoping to maybe get some insight from you guys about what she is thinking and how I can be the best to help her if this does turn into a meaningful relationship of mine.

Here are what netizens think:

• My first decent boyfriend died when we were 20. One of the hardest things about it was that people are really uncomfortable discussing death. Try to listen. Don’t feel like you’re in competition with this guy, or that her grief lessens her feelings for you. A few weeks after he died I was back to work and basically functioning but it took at least a year before I was back to normal. Expect that certain days might be hard like his birthday and death day.

• Don’t bother too much your competing with a dead person, you will never lose

I’m dating a widow. In short I let her take things at the pace she wants to do them and don’t pretend that her late husband doesn’t exist.

Just be respectful. If she needs a moment to mourn about it let her.

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My partner wants to transition and I feel like I lost the love of my life.

We have been together for nearly seven years, since our schooling days. I love her with all my heart and want to support her in any way I can, but she told me how they feel towards me is now platonic and it really hurts that I can’t be supportive because I know I’m going to lose the person I fell in love with.

It really sucks to mourn the loss of a person who is still alive. This is the end of our relationship and I’m holding her hand while we walk through it together.

Deep inside, I know this will make her so much happier. I hope I can find peace knowing that she is slowly finding herself.

I was gonna propose this year.

Netizens’ comments

• Man that’s rough, hope you find silver lining at the end of this.

• Sorry dude, that’s rough. Sounds like you’re handling this as best as one possibly could. The pain will ease with time, but in the meanwhile hang in there!

• IMO, This person put themselves first and you should too. If it hurts you to walk them through this process then let them figure out someone else to hold their hand through it. It’s not cool to be the only one in agony while you’re propping your partner up. I’m glad they found their happiness, but you should go and do that too

A guy shared how he found his cousin’s explicit photos on an escort website and has been “using” the photos for his own pleasure.

Here is the story:

“A little while ago one of my cousins that I’m no longer very close with added me on a social site. I honestly didn’t even recognize her.

One of her posts included that she is an escort now. Curiosity got the better of me, and being a degenerate pervert, I ended up looking up her name.

It didn’t take me long to find pictures of her without clothes as well as in the process of carrying out her duties as an escort.

I ended up saving them and have been “making use” of them regularly since. She’s still fairly attractive and her body is pretty damn nice.

If we weren’t cousins, I’d have no issue and no shame in cranking one out to her every so often. But, since we are, there’s a little extra taboo bent to it.

Mind, I would never actually do anything in real life with her. I don’t really feel like I’m invading her privacy or anything. I mean, they’re literally on public websites posted BY HER.

No, I’m not going to divulge her name. No, I’m not going to share them with anyone else. It’d be too risky and easy for identify me if she found out.”

I am so tired. Been crying for the past 2+ hours.

For context, this person in the past has made rude and racist comments about my race before, and I reported him to HR a year ago about that comment, he was evidently put on a sensitivity course. There’s a history of tension between us at work even before that.

Fast forward to last week, at a work dinner, this person got inebriated, said to me that we should ‘make babies tonight’, and that ‘let’s F I don’t care if you say no’. Unfortunately, there were no other people around so no witnesses. I reported this incident to HR, and HR suggested that I should speak with him and try to reconcile.

I stupidly took that advice and met with him and HR today. In the meeting, he said that there’s no way he would have said that because his mom was raped at a young age. And that I seemed fine the rest of the night and took pictures with him and it must mean that I’m not affected. He also questioned the validity of my accusation since I didn’t say anything to him the second day when we saw each other again. I got so angry at the situation I smashed a mug against the wall.

I am just very tired of the inaction by the company. This very shitty person who has a history of making racially or sexually inappropriate comments is going to get away with things again. I love what I do so I don’t want to take the easy way out by quitting. Outside of that, I’ve been told that I can’t tell anyone about what happened, likely to protect his reputation within the company.

I was assured by HR that reporting helps to prevent incidents like these from happening again, or to other people in the future.

But what about me?

My 20-year-old daughter has a troubled relationship with her boyfriend who is one year older.

They’ve been dating since the age of 16 and break up constantly. She is moody and proud, always picks fights over small things and has a hard time apologizing. I was widowed last year and she has been living with me ever since. She’s not a good girlfriend, but she’s a great daughter.

Last year I noticed that she uses a really stupid tactic to attract him. She keeps some important things from him and when she wants to get back together, she tells him to get them. They talk, go to the bedroom and are together again. The funniest thing is that she always keeps important things hostage: school books, documents, work materials… This time it was a PlayStation 5.

I just don’t understand all this drama. They have broke up once more and I saw his console in a box. She wasn’t home, so I decided to send the box through a delivery app and text him to let him know. He thanked me a lot. When she arrived, she noticed that the box was no longer at our house. I said what I had done and now she is mad at me.

She says I’m being an “extra” for having delivered an object that wasn’t mine. In my defence, I said the console wasn’t hers either.

She calls me a busybody and I’m feeling guilty, but I believe she needs to stop acting so immature.

Did I do wrong?

Here are what netizens think:

Get your daughter some help and tell her you won’t tolerate this kind of behaviour in your house.

If she’s been doing this for years then the boyfriend is probably used to it, yet strangely doesn’t pack all his stuff up when he leaves.

This is a typical Stockholm syndrome, ur daughter might be a psychopath.