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MAN LEAVES WOMAN AFTER DEALING WITH HER AND HER BAGGAGE FOR 3 YEARS

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When you enter into a relationship with someone, it’s important to recognize that everyone carries some form of emotional baggage. Whether it’s past relationships, family issues, or personal traumas, these experiences shape who we are.

Here is the story:

Right person, wrong time

We had 3 short years together. I know the love we had for each other was special, we both had never felt this way towards another. But we both had baggage that either of us couldn’t overcome, no matter how hard we tried.

I finally came to terms with it, and gave you the ultimatum. You decided to walk away, and i agreed. It was hard, super hard to walk away from you, from a love that was beyond special, from my twinflame. It was especially hard since we also work in the same company, luckily different offices… so we could avoid each other mostly.

We didn’t contact each other for months. And i moved on first. I found someone else who could accept me, and my baggage. You got to know, and you got angry, implying that you had the intention to find me back again.

My heart breaks that you’re reacting this way. I do understand the hurt and pain you must be feeling, but i feel its unfair coz we broke up cleanly, with no intention to get back together again. I still care deeply for you, even though I’m with someone else. I hope the future is kind to you. And i hope you’ll find someone who’s better suited for you, and loves you more than me, F.

Love,

F.

1. Understanding Their Baggage

The first step in dating someone with baggage is to understand the nature of their emotional burden. It could be a divorce, a difficult breakup, or unresolved family conflicts. Taking the time to listen and empathize with their past experiences is crucial. This lays the foundation for trust and open communication.

2. Patience is Key

Baggage doesn’t disappear overnight. It takes time for individuals to heal and work through their issues. Patience is a virtue in such relationships. Be prepared for moments when your partner may need extra support or space to process their emotions.

3. Open and Honest Communication

Communication is the cornerstone of any healthy relationship. Encourage your partner to share their thoughts and feelings with you. Create a safe space where they can open up without fear of judgment. In turn, express your own needs and concerns openly.

4. Boundaries

Establishing boundaries is essential when dating someone with baggage. Discuss what you’re comfortable with and what you’re not. Respect each other’s boundaries, as this will help prevent misunderstandings and conflicts.

5. Be Supportive

Offer your support but avoid trying to “fix” your partner. Sometimes, they may need a listening ear rather than solutions. Be there to reassure them that you’re by their side, no matter what.

6. Seek Professional Help

In some cases, the emotional baggage may be too heavy to handle alone. Encourage your partner to consider therapy or counseling if needed. Professional help can provide the tools and guidance necessary for healing.

7. Self-Care

Remember to take care of yourself in the relationship. Dating someone with baggage can be emotionally draining at times. Ensure that you have your own support system and engage in self-care practices to maintain your well-being.

8. Evaluate Your Compatibility

While love can conquer many challenges, it’s essential to assess whether your partner’s baggage aligns with your own values and long-term goals. Sometimes, despite the strong connection, compatibility issues may arise.

GIRL GOT SCOLDED BY “FEMINIST” FOR SHAVING HER LEGS, STARTS ARGUING

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I just had an argument with a ‘feminist’ about why I shave my legs and armpits

I’m a young woman who suffers from sensory overload. The best way I can describe it is like having strobe lights being flashed into your eyes whilst being spun around and then being made to walk in a straight line.

It’s that kind of disorientating.

I know it’s not the same for everyone, but that’s my experience. I usually experience SO when there’s lots of noise, but every now and then when my arm and leg hair gets too long, I freak out.

It begins to hurt, first of all, and I get this thing about bugs being inside me. It freaks me out. It’s only happened a few times and I learned when to shave to avoid that feeling.

I recently got into an ‘argument’ with a roommate of mine who refuses to shave. I don’t give a shit, but they care about me and my habits. I was freshly shaven and in the communal area when this roommate comes in.

She looks at my legs and asks why I shave. I tell her I want to (I don’t like telling everyone about my SO unnecessarily). She then went on about ‘well you do it for men, no?’ and all of that.

After enduring a few minutes of this, I turned and said ‘if I don’t shave, I’d literally skin myself alive to get the imaginary bugs out of my skin. get lost.’

I’m so angry AND SHE CALLS HERSELF A FEMINIST.

Netizens’ comments

  • Same for me!! my body hair drives me insane like when it rubs up against your pants! I shave for the same reason, i’d rather not be overstimulated or overwhelmed in my own body constantly!!
  • Nothing to do with a feminist. She’s just full of hate imo. Hope you can change of roommate.

Also sorry to learn about SO and you suffering from it. Ofc carry on shaving if it helps!

  • Some people just hide behind the word feminism to bully women and manipulate the narrative in a way you’re the one in the wrong for doing what’s best for you. They don’t even get what feminism is so don’t even bother with them.

S’POREANS TO GET EXTRA CASH PAYOUT OF UP TO $200 IN DEC, ON TOP OF $600 AP CASH PAYOUT

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In a significant move aimed at supporting its citizens, the Singaporean government has introduced a comprehensive Cost-of-Living (COL) support package, which is set to benefit approximately 2.5 million adult Singaporeans.

This one-off cash payout of up to $200, totalling S$1.1 billion, is scheduled to roll out in December 2023.

Additionally, all Singaporean households will receive S$200 in Community Development Council (CDC) vouchers, allowing them to make purchases at participating heartland merchants, hawkers, and supermarkets.

This is on top of the cash payout of up to $600 which is part of the existing Assurance Package (AP) cash payout.

Understanding the COL Package

The COL package, recently unveiled by Finance Minister Lawrence Wong on September 28, 2023, is designed to address the pressing issue of inflation that affects the everyday lives of Singaporeans. It includes a multi-pronged approach to alleviate financial stress and provide much-needed relief.

Enhancements to Assurance Package
Assurance Package (AP) Cash Special Payment· Additional payment of up to $200 cash for 2.5 million eligible adult Singaporeans
· This one-off special payment will be disbursed in December 2023, together with the existing AP Cash component.
· In total, eligible adult Singaporeans will receive up to $800 cash in December 2023.
· This will provide more support to lower- and middle-income adult Singaporeans.

28 Sep PR Final
CDC Vouchers· Additional $200 of CDC Vouchers for every Singaporean household in 2024. This will bring the total amount of CDC Vouchers to $500 for every Singaporean household in 2024
· The additional CDC vouchers will be allocated equally: $100 for spending at participating heartland merchants and hawkers, and $100 for spending at participating supermarkets.
· The 2024 CDC Vouchers should be claimed digitally at go.gov.sg/cdcv from 3 January 2024 onwards. The vouchers can be claimed any time during their validity period. Those requiring further assistance can approach their nearest Community Centre/Club (CC).
· The vouchers will expire in end-2024.
Additional Service & Conservancy Charges (S&CC) Rebate· Additional one-off 0.5-month of S&CC rebate for 950,000 Singaporean HDB households
· This will be disbursed in January 2024, together with the regular S&CC rebates.
· This will, on average, fully offset the S&CC increase in the first year of increases for 1- to 4-room HDB flats and about 85% for larger HDB flats.
Additional U-Save Rebates to cushion impact of increases in carbon tax and water price· Additional $20 per quarter of U-Save rebates from January 2024 to December 2025, or a total of $80 per year for 2 years, for 950,000 Singaporean HDB households
· These rebates will be disbursed together with the regular U-Save rebates and will cushion the impact of the increases in carbon tax and water price in 2024 and 2025.
· Over 2024–2025, the additional U-Save rebates will, on average, fully offset the increase in utility bills for 1- to 2-room HDB flats, about 80% of the increase in utility bills for 3- to 4-room HDB flats, and about 65% of the increase in utility bills for larger flats.
Public Transport-Related Measures
Public Transport
Subsidies
· Additional subsidies of about $300 million in 2024 to cover the deferred fare adjustment quantum of 15.6% that will be carried over to future fare review exercises as announced by the Public Transport Council on 18 September 2023
· This additional subsidy helps to moderate the fare increase and pay for higher costs of providing public transport services due to the continued increase in energy prices in 2022, core inflation, and strong wage growth.
Public Transport
Vouchers (PTVs)
· PTVs worth $50 each for resident households with monthly household income per person of not more than $1,600
· The PTVs, which will be disbursed from end-December 2023, can be used to top up fare cards or buy Monthly Travel / Concession Passes.

MAN SAYS THAT HE INTENDS TO DIVORCE HIS WIFE ON THEIR SON’S BIRTHDAY

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A netizen shared how he is planning to divorce his wife on the 5th birthday of their son.

Here is the story:

Tomorrow is my son’s fifth birthday and i am going to give divorce papers to my wife.

This pandemic has destroyed my relationship. Her company fired her senior and she was promoted. From then on, my sweet and caring wife became a demanding and volatile freak.

She became a perfectionist and would yell at every little thing which isn’t done according to her. She started spending most of her time at her office.

When i tried to communicate with her about our relationship, she involved both of our family in this mess and i was labled as being jealous of my wife’s growth and wants to sabotage her.

Only thing which have kept me sane is my little one. And by my knowing of her, she wouldn’t let me have any custody of child.

Now when my son will turn 5, I will finally file for divorce and custody. But honestly, I am still in love with my wife and maybe it can open her eyes and save our relationship.

Netizen comments

My mother gave me a letter to give my dad on the day of my high school graduation asking for a divorce. I didn’t realize how messed up that was until I became a parent.

Instead of celebrating my own accomplishment… I was worried about stuff between my parents… that was my normal.

Don’t let this day be about you.

IF THE MEN CAN DO IT, SO CAN WE – S’PORE WOMAN’S FOOTBALL TEAM KENA WHACK 10-0 BY NORTH KOREA

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The Singapore Women’s football team got smacked 7-0 by North Korea three days ago at the Asian Games, before getting whacked 10-0 again by the same team three days later – all in all, they shipped in a total of 17 goals and scored none in the span of three days against the same team.

A Disheartening Start: 7-0 Drubbing

The Lionesses kicked off their Asian Games campaign with a tough match against North Korea. Unfortunately, the result was far from ideal, with Singapore losing 7-0. The defeat undoubtedly set the tone for the remainder of their tournament run.

The Rematch: A Double-Digit Nightmare

Just three days later, Singapore found themselves facing North Korea once again. This time, the outcome was even more devastating. The Lionesses suffered a humiliating 10-0 loss, with North Korean striker Kim Kyongyong scoring an astonishing five goals. The lopsided scoreline sealed Singapore’s fate in the tournament.

The Lionesses’ dismal performance did not go unnoticed, and the Football Association of Singapore’s Facebook page was flooded with reactions and comments.

Netizens’ comments

  1. Is this our senior national team or some U23/U18 team? I’m trying my best to justify our heaviest defeat here 
    • it’s the senior team but this roster does include a number of u19 players and we are missing some seasoned veterans for this competition, and some that just returned from injury. No excuses but still not an ideal squad to be sending for Asian Games
  2. How can we help our local football? Do we spend 30-45mins playing with the kids at home? Or do we send them to Academy and let the coaches do their job?
  3. Oh well. Sometime even good teams will kena thrashing. I’m sure they tried their best. Just lack of experience.
  4. What is this. Firstly you girls show us defensive football. Secondly easily let them cross and head. What is this seriously 10 against 7 also they manage to score
  5. The question is not what is on the score board, the team has to be cleared what is on their head. Is this a free tour or a fight for sports spirit?
  6. Well, back to the kitchen.

 

17 Y.O AMONG 7 PEOPLE CHARGED FOR MONEY LAUNDERING ACTIVITIES

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Seven persons, aged 17 to 46, will be charged in court on 27 September 2023 for their suspected involvement in money laundering activities linked to banking-related phishing scam cases involving malware, which resulted in losses from victims’ bank accounts.

Between 3 June 2023 and 24 August 2023, the Police received several reports informing that malware was used to compromise Android mobile devices, resulting in unauthorised transactions made from the victims’ bank accounts, even when they had not divulged their Internet banking credentials, One-Time-Passwords (OTPs) or Singpass credentials to anyone. In these cases, the victims responded to advertisements (e.g. on cleaning services, pet grooming, food items such as mooncake, durian, seafood, groceries, etc.) via Whatsapp and Facebook. They were then instructed by the scammers to download Android Package Kit (or APK) from non-official app stores to facilitate the purchase, which led to malware being installed on the victims’ mobile devices.

The scammers would convince the victims via phone calls or text messages to turn on accessibility services on their Android phones and by doing so, phones’ security would be weakened, and scammers would be able to take full control of the phones. Scammers could then log every keystroke, steal banking credentials stored on the phones to remotely access the victims’ banking apps, add money mules as payees, raise payment limits and transfer monies out to money mules. The scammers could further delete SMS and email notifications of the bank transactions to cover their tracks.
Through follow up investigations, officers from the Commercial Affairs Department arrested the seven persons. Investigations revealed that the seven persons are suspected to be involved in the following cases of money laundering. The cases are:

  1. In March 2023, a 26-year-old man responded to an online advertisement on Telegram which offered him fast cash, and later agreed to disclose his three Internet banking credentials to an unknown person who had offered him at least $1,200 monthly in return for renting out his bank accounts. His bank accounts were subsequently used to launder proceeds of crime;
  2. In June 2023, two teenagers, aged 17 and 18, agreed to disclose their Internet banking credentials to unknown persons after responding to an online investment scheme and fast cash opportunity separately. Their bank accounts were then used to launder criminal proceeds;
  3. In June 2023, a 46-year-old man responded to an online job advertisement which offered him a sign-up bonus in return for using his two bank accounts. Two new bank accounts were later opened without his knowledge. His bank accounts were subsequently used to launder proceeds of crime;
  4. In July 2023, a 21-year-old man responded to an online advertisement on Telegram which offered him fast cash, and later agreed to disclose his Internet banking credentials and personal information to an unknown person. Three other bank accounts were later opened without his knowledge. His bank accounts were then used to launder criminal proceeds;
  5. In August 2023, a 22-year-old man responded to an online advertisement on Telegram which offered him fast cash, and later agreed to disclose his Singpass credentials to an unknown person. His Singpass credentials were subsequently misused to open a bank account which was then used to launder criminal proceeds; and
  6. In August 2023, a 18-year-old teenager handed over his Internet banking credentials and ATM card to an unknown person who had offered him cash in return for usinghis bank account. His bank account was subsequently used to launder proceeds of crime. 

For disclosing Singpass credentials, the offence under Section 8(2)(a) of the Computer Misuse Act 1993 carries an imprisonment term not exceeding three years or a fine not exceeding $10,000, or both, for a first-time offender.

For conspiring to cheat the bank into opening the bank account, the offence under Section 417 read with Section 109 of the Penal Code 1871 carries an imprisonment term not exceeding three years, a fine, or both. For abetting unknown persons to secure unauthorised access to the bank’s computer system, the offence under Section 3(1) read with Section 12 and Section 14 of the Computer Misuse Act 1993 carries a fine not exceeding $5,000, an imprisonment term not exceeding two years, or both, for a first-time offender.

The Police take a serious view of these offences and will not hesitate to take action against individuals who may be involved in scams, and perpetrators will be dealt with in accordance with the law. To avoid being an accomplice in these crimes, members of the public should always reject seemingly attractive money-making opportunities promising fast and easy pay-outs for the use of their Singpass accounts, bank accounts, or allow their personal bank accounts to be used to receive and transfer money for others. The Police would like to remind members of the public that individuals will be held accountable if they are found to be linked to such crimes.

For more information on scams, members of the public can visit www.scamalert.sg or call the Anti-Scam Helpline at 1800-722-6688. Anyone with information on such scams may call the Police Hotline at 1800-255-0000 or submit information online at www.police.gov.sg/iwitness. All information will be kept strictly confidential.

14 Y.O AMONG 124 PEOPLE INVESTIGATED FOR UNLICENSED MONEYLENDING ACTIVITIES

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The Police are investigating 124 persons, aged between 14 and 72, for their suspected involvement in unlicensed moneylending activities.

During a five-day anti-unlicensed moneylending operation conducted between 18 and 22 September 2023, officers from the Criminal Investigation Department and the seven Police land divisions conducted simultaneous raids island-wide.

Preliminary investigations revealed that 11 persons had allegedly conducted harassment at debtors’ residences, 40 persons, believed to be runners, had assisted in unlicensed moneylending businesses by carrying out Automated Teller Machine (ATM) transfers, and one person is believed to have provided false contact information leading to harassment being carried out at an innocent victim’s residence.

The remaining 72 persons are believed to have opened bank accounts and provided their ATM cards, Personal Identification Numbers (PINs) and/or Internet Banking tokens to unlicensed moneylenders to facilitate their unlicensed moneylending businesses.

Investigations against all the persons are ongoing.

Under the Moneylenders Act 2008, when a bank account, ATM card or Internet Banking token of any person is used to facilitate moneylending by an unlicensed moneylender, that person is presumed to have assisted in carrying on the business of unlicensed moneylending.  First-time offenders found guilty of the offence of carrying on or assisting in a business of unlicensed moneylending shall be punished with imprisonment term of up to four years, a fine of not less than $30,000 and not more than $300,000 and caning of not more than six strokes. First-time offenders found guilty of the offence of acting on behalf of an unlicensed moneylender to commit or attempt to commit any acts of harassment shall be punished with imprisonment term of up to five years, a fine of not less than $5,000 and not more than $50,000, and caning of not less than three and not more than six strokes.

Any person found guilty of the offence of providing false contact information to obtain loans from unlicensed moneylenders shall be punished with imprisonment term of up to 12 months. Under the National Registration Act, any person who is guilty of an offence of failing to report a change of address within 28 days shall be punished with a fine of not more than $5,000, or to imprisonment term of up to five years, or to both.

The Police will continue to take tough enforcement action against those involved in the unlicensed moneylending business, regardless of their roles, and ensure that they face the full brunt of the law. This includes taking action against those who open or give away their bank accounts to aid unlicensed moneylenders.

Unlicensed moneylenders are increasingly using text messaging or online platforms to send unsolicited loan advertisements. Members of the public are reminded not to reply or respond to such advertisements and to report these messages as spam. Members of the public are also advised to stay away from unlicensed moneylenders and not to work with or assist them in any way. The public can call the Police at ‘999’ or the X-Ah Long hotline at 1800-924-5664 if they suspect or know of anyone who could be involved in unlicensed moneylending activities.

MAN SHARES ADVICE ON HOW HE IS ABLE TO MAKE $500K A YEAR IN HIS LATE 20s

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I made SGD$500K last year.

Male, late 20s, Sinagporean.

It’s 6 a.m., I just woke up and saw a post of someone sharing their success story and decided to chip in a little.

While I have no idea what % am I in Singapore, I think it should be fairly decent with this level of income per year for me. I am happily attached and I have recently proposed to my beautiful gf.

For a brief background, I am more than just an ordinary guy. I am just me, I grew up in a below-average income household. I used to get as many bursaries as I could just to get that little additional money. I went to neighborhood schools from Primary 1 to Secondary 5.

My results weren’t amazing either, but I’ve always been slightly below average on bad days and above average on good days. I couldn’t even afford to fly scoot when I was younger, going to Malaysia was considered a luxury holiday for me.

Now, I have 1 car because I’ve always believed that a car is just to fetch you from destination A to B. In my personal opinion, I think it’s a decent car. But to many, it would be considered a high-end car (For anyone guessing, the car badge is a shield).

No one knows how much money I make, especially my parents because otherwise they will be asking me for money non-stop. I grew up in a traditional family and they always believed that their kid should be “filial” and give them money. However, I have always believed that tradition as such is the reason why many people are stuck in the endless loop of being poor.

I make my money mostly through trading, my yearly income from my salaried job is only $100K a year and my $400K comes from trading/business. I try to diversify my investment as much as possible, and the bulk of my money comes from ETFs, good timing into the market, and buying the correct bills/bonds.

I have a graduate degree, but I’m going to try out for my master’s degree next. I believe that going into the real world earlier or later doesn’t mean that 1 will make more or less money. It’s all about timing, if you go in at the right time, and you’re at the right place at the right time. Things will definitely work out for you.

But I do agree that army is a waste of time because 2 years of your time is stuck in a place where you’re limited by circumstances and there’s no “right place and right time” when you’re stuck in an army camp.

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Here’s my opinion;

1. Enjoy your life no matter what, it’s all about the experience at the end of the day. Mistakes are made, and life goes on. Nothing will matter as long as you’re experiencing it. If you’re sad or angry, you’re just putting your emotions before anything else.

2. Money matters, big or small. Money is money, it doesn’t matter if it’s $1 or $100. People always say that rich people see $1000 as poor people’s $1. That’s definitely not true, even when I’m making $500K I still complain when my teh O or teh increase price by $0.20. I don’t make more money by spending more money.

3. Your most valuable commodity is your time, so use that time wisely. I agree completely because, at the end of the day, time directly equates to your experience. The more time you spend on something the more experience you have.

So my message to all, just enjoy your life.

EX-MAYBANK MANAGER STOLE $1.4M FROM BANK VAULT, BRING $400K TO MBS CASINO & LOST IT ALL

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34-year-old Phua Kai Liang, a former Maybank Singapore service manager, misappropriated more than $1.4 million in total from his workplace safe over a span of 15 occasions from March 23 to June 10, 2021, according to The Straits Times.

He pleaded guilty to charges that included criminal breach of trust, and he was sentenced on 27 September to three years and 10 months of imprisonment.

He is currently out on a bail of $30,000 and is required to surrender himself on 30 October to the State Courts to begin his jail sentence.

A Desperate Gamble

Phua, who held the position of a service manager at a Maybank branch located in Choa Chu Kang Avenue 4, was responsible for counting the cash in the safe and managing its security alarm, including arming and disarming it.

In early 2021, he suffered heavy losses from trading in the foreign exchange market which left him unable to repay his mounting credit card debts.

Desperation pushed him to borrow money from friends, family, and licensed moneylenders in an attempt to alleviate his financial woes.

In a bid to recoup his losses and repay his debts, Phua resorted to gambling at a casino. This decision only compounded his problems, as he continued to lose money. With no other viable options, he made a fateful decision in March 2021.

The Perfect Crime

Phua was well aware of the bank’s internal workings, including the whereabouts of the safe key and the combination password.

The key was stored in an unlocked desk drawer, shared by him and the bank’s cash officers. To execute his plan, Phua would discreetly disarm the security alarm of the safe and, when the coast was clear, open it using the key and password.

He would then help himself to the contents of the safe, carefully rearming the security alarm before leaving the bank.

He would then convert the money into casino chips or deposit it into his POSB bank account for his personal expenses as well as to use it for forex trading.

He had used more than $1.3 million of the stolen money to convert into casino chips, returning part of his winnings from gambling back to the safe and keeping the remaining amount for himself.

Phua’s meticulous approach was designed to avoid detection. He ensured that the cash he took was returned to the safe before the start of the next business day, meticulously maintaining the cash records to avoid suspicion.

The Unraveling

However, Phua’s luck eventually ran out on June 11, 2021. On this ill-fated day, he took a staggering $404,000 from the safe and lost the entire sum at the Marina Bay Sands casino. Facing the harsh reality of his actions, he turned to his fiancée for guidance.

In a bid to make amends, Phua confessed to his wrongdoing and received $404,000 in cash from his fiancée to put back inside the safe.

He then confessed to his crimes to the bank’s branch manager after asking one of the cash officers to help him replace the amount.

Following his conviction, Phua has since made full restitution to Maybank. He is also no longer an employee of the bank and is currently working for another company.

MAN’S 19 Y.O SON GOT MARRIED IN SECRET, NOW JOBLESS & LIVING OFF HIM

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My son is 19 and he’s married. He and his wife got married without telling anyone because they both feared that nobody would ” understand their love” and somehow they felt doing it like that would be extra romantic.

After my son was fired from his job in November, he and his wife begged me to let them lived with me while they ” figured everything out”.

His wife wasn’t working because she assumed they could both make it on whatever he made.

We’re now on Month 4 of this and I’m stuck with 2 teenagers who sleep until noon or 1pm, what little job hunting that does get done is done by my son, its just a lot of lying around in bed it seems like.

Any time I try and motivate them a little, I’m met by my son’s wife who brings the not-so-great argument that because he’s my son, I have to support us otherwise I’m a bad father and of course when I try and converse with her, she goes and whines to my son that I’m being mean to her.

As much as I want them out, I don’t think I can do that since neither of them have incomes.

Netizen’s comments

If my son’s wife told me I was a “bad father” and I’m required to support them, They would have thirty days notice to leave and I would enforce it by changing the locks.

This is dependency and the longer they have it on you – the harder to get rid of them and more negative impact it will have on you in general.