I’m staying with my cheating boyfriend for the money.

I was so head over heels in love with my boyfriend. The type of relationship you see on TV and you just know neither of them would even consider another person, because they’re just so perfect together.

I was living alone and really struggling. I have a lot of debt from the last couple of years. I admit some of it was me being reckless, but the majority is just life hasn’t been kind to me. My parents died 6 months apart and I had to take loans out to pay for their funerals.

We had been discussing moving in together and I was thrilled because it was reaching a point where I’d pay off part of my credit card and then be charged interest, then I’d run out of money by the end of the month. I was spiralling.

He moved in and I was so happy. So in love. The bonus was that with my bills being halved I could finally pay off my debts.

Then I found out he’d cheated on me. Within a week of him moving in. My heart was shattered. I never, ever expected it or suspected a thing. I felt like a moron.

He begged, he cried, he assured me it would never happen again. I felt sick. I knew the relationship was ruined.

But I thought “my life is bad enough, now you’ve broken my heart, why should my life be even more f-ed up financially?”

I decided I’d “give him another chance” and “work on us”. I’ve made a plan with the extra money and I can pay off all my debt within a year.

I’m pretending to fix things, that things are improving, so I can finally be debt free then break his heart like he broke mine.

I’m so excited. I know it’s wrong.

But the alternative is I keep getting into debt until I can’t afford my place at all. Why should my life be turned upside down because he was an a-hole?

For those concerned, he will be using a condom when we do get intimate and I am on BC.

My boyfriend (26M) and I (27F) still haven’t slept with each other even after 8 years into the relationship. Is he still interested in me?

8 years into the relationship, we still havent gotten intimate or slept together at all. We are both virgins and very loyal to each other and very much love each other.

But im worried that he might be frustrated with our lack of intimacy by now and I would sometimes ask him if he would like to do “it”.

He would not answer and just continue to look at his phone. I also do the advancing because Im the one who has a strong libido than him and we only rub our parts together, without the penetration.

and everytime I know that he is really turned on hard, I would tease him to insert it into the hole but he would stop and say he felt something and he doesnt want to continue because he is scared that he might come in me.

I dont force him to insert it but I would suggest to buy condoms while we’re super turned on. but he doesnt want to.

Which left me feeling frustrated and felt like he was not interested in me or is he scared that I might get pregnant? I am overthinking?

Update:

Reasons : Im guessing he is not ready for a child. Ive tried to talk to him about getting birth control pills and condoms but he would lose interest right away.

Marriage : were not married yet

Yes we do give oral, but mostly just me. He doesnt like the idea of going down there. He doesnt like the feeling of something like a slimy texture ( even food ) We touch each other yes, and we tried drinking wine and set up the mood but we only ended up stopping because he was scared he might finish early.

Netizens’ comments

1. 8 years! What the actual f
2. Keep this up and another 8 more years will fly by.
3. You need to draw the line somewhere. In my opinion. It should have been 7 years and 10 months ago, but better late than never. Tell him you want to get laid, and if he’s not interested in that, then it’s time you both move on from this relationship
4. 8 years is a long time. Are there reasons? Marriage? Beliefs? Birth control and condoms are a step to not getting pregnant…. Do you both give each other oral? Have touched each other?
5. honestly my feeling is that if your bf isn’t showing a keen interest after 8 years maybe he isn’t into doing it with you for some reason. I’m not saying you are not attractive – I mean maybe he’s not into the whole thing generally or he has a completely different physical “type”. Or maybe there are aspects of his preferences he hasn’t fully explored. Is this causing you to feel undesirable? If yes, you may need to consider whether this is a good relationship for you. Another 8 years could fly by pretty quick

I just found out my husband got another woman pregnant and I’m relieved.

I can’t even believe I’m typing this out right now, but I just found out my husband got his “fling” pregnant and there is a big part of me that is glad to hear the news.

We have had a problematic relationship for a while, but our problems really started a month ago. I found out that he was talking to a female coworker and hiding it from me so when I confronted him, it originally was said to be a “little crush” that snowballed into us agreeing to take a break because we both needed time.

After establishing the break, I then find out that he actually slept with her but it was “only one time while I was drunk”.

Fast forward to now, where I find out that it was multiple times, everyone at his job knows about it and knew about it prior to the first issue so I’ve been left looking like a fool, and now she’s pregnant with what they think is his child.

I’ve known I wanted a divorce for a while because although I have my issues, his are much worse. And even through the rest of the bullshit I was thinking that we should give it one more try, go to counseling, do whatever we could to save the marriage.

But after this, I know that this needs to end now. And although I’m hurt by what he’s put me through this month, and quite frankly the majority of our relationship, I feel like a giant elephant has stepped off of my shoulders because now I know without a shadow of a doubt that this is going to END.

I will be by myself(besides our kid) but I will be free and happy, I won’t be anxious wondering what the mood is today and what I can say and do.

And if me chewing to loudly will send him into a rage. I can breath, and I would rather be struggling financially but feel at peace than be able to stay home and constantly be anxious.

He’s always going to be my best friend, and once we get through the divorce I’m excited to get to where we can just be really good friends and coparents together, but I never want to have to live in the same house as him again. And congratulations to both of them on the new baby

[F21] My Mum definitely thinks I’m a cheap ho now after what she just seen

I still live with my Mum and I had a boy over from a dating app, this was his second time over to “visit” me.

We both only use each other for physical activities only, and we both know it so he just comes over and we are usually just straight into it, but this time my Mum was in the house so it made things kind of difficult.

He was swcrewing me pretty hard and my door was locked, he had his hand over my mouth so that I couldn’t be too loud and let my Mum hear.

We finished and I instinctively got on my knees and let him finish all over my face, I usually had a box of tissues in my room to clean it off but the box was empty.

My split second idea was to run to the bathroom which was a few doors down from my room, so I did, and with a face full of come, my mum was already in the bathroom cleaning the mirrors, what were the chances!

I felt like such an idiot and she definitely saw it all.

This happened earlier this afternoon now I don’t know what to do.

Netizens’ comments

1. Just so you don’t worry too much, I am sure your Dad came on your mother’s face many, many times. Consider it a bonding moment.
2. It’s embarrassing of course but u will laugh at it later
   When u get coffee and someone mentione cream u will look at her or she will look at u . She knew what you were doing with him she’s not an idiot 
3. Hopefully it’ll just be a funny moment honestly
4. The smart move is to confess that you were alone a and safe and nothing got weird

What can my friend do? (Alleged unfair hiring practices)

Context:

My friend is currently working in the ** sector in a tech related role. So about 6 months ago, there was a top tech company that laid off their entire SG engineering team, they were known to be paying way above market rates for their hires.

The company that my friend works at decided to absorb about 60 (with varied seniority from associates to senior director level) of them, still offering them their old pay and even WITHOUT any interview (my friend say he hearsay only, so IDK if true anot), so this means that these special new hires are being paid about 20% more than what the others are getting.

Heard that they are all placed in a new department. In particular, someone with <6 months of experiences are paid like 20-30% more than their fellow fresh grads and even have a higher job grade than someone with 2-3 years of experience.

He also say that as they were hired in a hurry (hearsay to secure the top talents), there was no concrete plan or work for that team, so they were just bing chilling at work (once again is hearsay)

I feel that the friend should be upset at his management instead of those new hires as who will reject such an incredible offer, especially when you are jobless.

I also feel that there is some serious problems in their hiring process. In the MNC that I work for, when I want to change department, I have to go through the entire process of a new hiring and have obtained a certain minimum grade during performance review.

So my question is can anything be done as my friend felt it was unfair. Is there any platform for him to voice his grievances? Or he can only keyboard warrior, suck it up and go back to work on Monday?

I cannot reveal more details as my friend needs the job.

A netizen shared how his family thinks he has made it, with a stable office job and etc; but his friend just bought a resale HDB and has a watch collection worth more than the house.

Here is the story

I have a long-time friend since sec school. Really smart and humble guy. Awesome dude all around, always treats our clique with meals whenever we go out.

We always knew he is earning more than us, but we just assumed it was slightly more.

He bought a resale HDB flat with his wife recently, nothing too extravagant, 4 room flat that just MOP. During the housewarming, as he was showing us around his study… that’s when we saw his watch collection.

4 watches that cost more than the entire house. We questioned him abt it and he just sidestepped our questions. He did let us admire and touch the watches though.

Damn………. thats when I realised how big the ability gap is. We started from the same sec school. My family all think I “made it”, local grad, office job, stable pay and all.

While my fren here is just keeping quiet doing his own thing. Made me realise how big the world is.

Netizens’ comments

• There will always be a bigger fish . Stay humble and keep going

• At least he is humble and not the flaunty type!