I hate having old parents, I (21F) have both my parents still with me luckily (M69) and (63F) but I hate that they had me so old.

I’m finally growing into adulthood where I could enjoy their company but they’re old now too. It’s 3:39 am and I’m sobbing because my dad is going to turn 70 soon enough and I’m so scared.

Sometimes I purposely don’t pick up the phone so he will leave me a voice mail I can keep if he passes just in case.

I’m so scared of the future without them. I don’t want to lose my mommy and daddy. I’m just now healing from trauma I had when I was little and I spent years being bitter and wanting away from them but now I just want to hug them forever.

I’m so scared I can’t stop crying..they mean the world to me and they’re the only family I have besides my pets..

I’ve told my mom this before and she said she worried when she was 30 and her parents didn’t die until she was 50 but thats the thing..she had them until she was 50 YEARS OLD.

If I’m lucky mine will be around maybe until I’m 30-35 that’s too young. I want to take them on vacations with me, have dinners, have the life I want them to experience, everything but what if they get too old before that?

What if they see me not get married before then? I’m so scared why do parents have to die? I just want my parents to be in their 50s..I need more time..

Now I know by the knowing their kid for that long I should’ve known who it was but I had never met them I think and if I did, I probably forgot.

So they are the new person at my work and I thought they were kind of cute and I like older women anyways so I hit on her a bit and such.

A good line was that “you make 44 look good” got them blushing a lot. Well after work I sat and talked with them a bit after work and hit on them some more. When they asked my last name they had said that they know my family and was gonna have a good laugh with my mom and them about it because I’m so young she said.

They had also told the people at work also that I had done it. They are 20 years older than me so they found it funny and embarrassing which made me instantly kind of regret hitting on them.

Now when I’m sitting at home and I get a message from their daughter asking if I tried to hit on their mom. I just replied with an “apparently so” However now I’m feeling a bit embarrassed by it and kind of have weird feeling of being exposed I guess since they are so close to my family.

So now I have work with them tomorrow and I’m honestly not sure how to approach it.

Here are what netizens think:

• You’re only embarrassed because you knew the family?

• you’re gonna live with…this for a while, look at the bright side, at least well…people just think about it as a joke, not criticize you or anything similar
• Ok leh, new achievement unlocked

A small intro. I’m a 25 year old male currently work full time and overtime in the security field. Not much to note other then overworking myself.

My gf is 23 years old with a list of self-diagnosed issues.. Including claiming to have DID but only when an adult talk comes around then she acts like a 5yr old. Or passes out when confronted with her own behavior.

I have been with my gf for almost 2 years now and she is my first partner. Things were going great at the start but like a love blind youth with my own family issues, she talked me into getting an apartment together with her after only 6 months. At the time we both had Okayish jobs and the promise was to split the bills. Well moving time comes and she doesn’t want to work her gig jobs alone so I ride along on them. No biggie more time together

Jumping forward a year. Ive jumped jobs for better pay and career advancement, working 60 hours a week and cleaning the house. While she quits jobs faster then she can get them cause they are hard (retail) or they dont respect me (she they tell her what to do). We have a joint account for bills but she spends the money on fast food or game streaming supplies, claiming she will make that her job. Being supportive i get her set up but make the rule she needs a normal job until streaming makes her more Than her day job. She agrees.

Jumping to today. Our lease is almost up, she lost a cushy manager job I pretty much handed her (whole blown out resume which the owner loved) on the 2nd day cause she agreed to 10 hours then told them she can’t work more than 6. She’s been without a job for 2 months and does nothing but make messes and play vr chat. She will sit in piles of trash and whine at me to clean it up. I currently work 2 jobs 7 days a week to make ends meet and am dead at the end of the day.

I do love her very much but the effort of caring for her and keeping things afloat is causing enough stress my liver is struggling (according to my doctor) and my hair is falling out. Im not sure if i should ask her to move back home when I renew the lease or what. If i bring it up to her she starts crying about me being just like her exs and i hated her this whole time.

Erm so my dad is nearing his 60s and has been a taxi driver for a long time. My sister and I have grad and are working rn. I have been giving a small sum of money (~$400) to my dad monthly, which is about 10% of my salary, the same amount is given to my mom too so total 20%. I really cant afford to give more. I’m not sure if my sister gives him an allowance but I don’t think so cos my sister tends to ignore him.

My dad doesnt have much savings (still can go overseas though), and is tired of working. So recently he asked for more money. I told him to ask my sister instead since she earns more than me but somehow he only dares to ask for money from me. He is threatening me using the parents maintenance act, saying like he wants me to take care of him, and will see dr to say leg pain so cannot work.

So I just want to check if he really files against me, do I really need to pay much more? Will they take into account my husband’s salary? I paid my uni fees myself, so other than bills I dont owe him alot of money per say. If my mom knows that my dad managed to get more money from this act maybe she also wants it. Will they also sue my sibling too?

And even if I need to cough out more money, will they legally force me to bring my parents to my home to take care of them?? I’m really scared pls help me.

This stupid law is making me so stressed out tbh, how can people fuck up their retirement plans and decide to screw their kids. This is like a vicious cycle, some parents didnt think that their kids need the money for their future but just their retirement plan.

I’m a teacher looking for work in a new private company I have 7 years of experience and a Masters. I recently interviewed for a position and I felt it went really well.

A few days later, I got a call and was told, “you’re not our top choice, but you could be if you were willing to come in with only 4 years of experience.” I could not say any fast enough! This would be an almost $8,000 deduction in my annual salary and it also would have impacted my extra/co-curricular stipends (which would be based on my salary) shorting me over $10,000 annually.

The posting said their ideal candidate would have 5+ years of experience and a master’s degree in either education or your content area. Yet, they’re only willing to pay for 4 years of experience? There’s already a teacher shortage- crap like this doesn’t help.

I know that this is a common thing for teachers. Usually if a company does this, they include it in the staff handbook, bargaining agreement, and/or contract. Those are all documents I review before even applying and avoided districts with language that suggested they would not honor years of experience. These companies didn’t have anything of the sort in those documents so I was annoyed/insulted when they asked me to accept a lower salary than I am worth.

I would never have interviewed if that was a possibility and I took time away from my life to prepare for an interview and meet with these people. Thankfully, I was offered a position elsewhere that honours all of my experience and education.

My husband had a history of cheating on me and he’s doing it again

Recently while he’s working overseas once again I caught him lying about his whereabouts and timing after his company dinner. Simply just disappeared for two hours, couldn’t find him, he’s not picking up calls.

He only answered the video call when he was back in the hotel room. He said he was charging his phone inside his bag that’s why cannot hear when I called him. All these are bs. How can he miss out my calls when I tried to reach him for 1hr?

So now. He has been twisting around his stories when I told him I have already called and checked with the restaurant. He still not admitting to anything, still going on like nothing happened.

Why? What have I done wrong? I have never failed as a wife. Been through difficult times with him, never left him no matter what he did outside. End of the day, 13 years of marriage is just nothing to him. I am just nothing to him. I am not working because my three children are still very young. Only the eldest sitting for PSLE this year. I have enough of this man and his nonsense yet I am so lost and with no income and help. I couldn’t sleep for the past few days, couldn’t do stuffs with my children.

What should I do?

Here are what netizens think:

• divorce loh, talk so much also no use

• you say only no evidence, I got accused of not picking up phone cause I pang sai before.

• Sometimes this is call, no problem find problem, sorry to say you got some insecurity issues.

Long story short(ish), a few months ago she came and admitted to me that she had a crush on her coworker, which, I was okay with. Feelings are feelings, and acting on them is a different matter. I’ve had crushes on coworkers before, and shutting that down cold would’ve deprived me of some of my best platonic friendships once the infatuation subsided. I’d be a hypocrite for being the overbearing jealous boyfriend and shutting down a potentially good friendship just cause it’s another dude.

Fast forward a few weeks, and now she’s doggedly asking about opening up our relationship. Obvs I knew what it was about, and my response was an honest “Yeah maybe! But not right now.” and that was the end of it. In the meantime she’s still seeing him at work regularly, and hanging out with him a couple times outside of work, and I’m ignoring that niggling feeling in my brain. (At the same time, our sex life was great, which probably helped with looking past some stuff)

Eventually they got hauled up to a manager and reprimanded for being too friendly on the floor and my gf got questioned about her relationship (which, regardless of the situation, isn’t management’s business, imo ) so in the meantime I’m defending her to my coworkers because I still think platonic friendships should be fine and healthy, regardless of gender!

Now in the meantime, one of their after work hangouts she absolutely lied to me about where they were, and I tried to explain it away to myself. After the management incident they haven’t had a chance to hang out, which brings us to the other day. I was using her phone to mass call the passport office before the trip we had planned, and while I was waiting to get through curiosity got the better of me and I ended up two months deep in their text conversation.

Which, before the management stuff, included a couple nudes from her, plenty of sex talk, references to her grabbing his dick at work, all kinds of talk about making out, sneaking around the store, their “car hangouts ” among other stuff.

Tack that onto finding this out literally a week before a three-week vacation with my entire family and I feel like I’m stuck between a rock and a hard place. I can’t go with her and have this in the back of my brain the entire time, but I also can’t just break up with her and leave her home with all of my stuff for three weeks.

This has nothing to do with money. We split the rent and we share everything 50-50. I am an engineer and my GF works in healthcare. One month ago her contract at ended and she has been unemployed since.

She has already found another job but she would be able to start two months after her previous job ended, that means in a month from now. So for the past month she has been living her best life. She’s spending her mornings studying for her new job but also reading, watching Netflix, going to the gym and for runs with her dog etc.

However she hasn’t started contributing more to the household. I mean she still cooks and cleans every day but she still expects me to wash the dishes and she won’t pick up my clothes after I have returned from work. The other day I left a bunch of my mail on the table and when I returned it was left unopened, I asked her why she didn’t look through it and she told me she’s not my secretary. I have been hinting that she should be picking up more chores now that she’s unemployed but she says that she’s not my housekeeper, she does more than half of the chores and since my workload has not increased I should be able to do mine.

I mean yes, I am able to do it but I am tired from work and she isn’t so I had expected her to step up a little but no, she claims this is her break from working hard and other hurtful things, like she didn’t go to med school to be a live-in maid etc.

So am I wrong For expecting her to do most of the chores while she’s unemployed?