My Boss Didn’t Pay Me For a Month because She Didn’t “Have Enough Money”

Okay, this was the first ever crazy experience I had working for someone. I worked for a small business. I used to go to this store as a customer because I absolutely loved the products and the owner’s vibe.

Eventually, I stopped by again and she asked me if I wanted a job. Me, excited and looking for a second job, I said yes. I was getting paid minimum wage, but I didn’t mind.

She was the only person operating that store and she just opened a year ago, so I understood she was making only so much.

After going through training, she had to leave for a certification she was training for. That means I was going to manage and oversee her store.

Before she left, we discussed when I would be paid while I managed the store during her absence. We agreed I would get paid on Saturday every week.

Moving forward, she had another friend watch the store on my days off, so I wouldn’t have to work 12 hours a day for four days a week.

I didn’t mind it working four days a week and I could have used the money, but both her friend and I needed some extra cash. I worked two days a week— working 12 hours with a one hour unpaid break. The job itself was laid back. It was a small store and the days were slow.

Fast forward, after two weeks of not getting paid, I talked to her about it and she explained to me that due to the unexpected amount of money she had to pay for her trip, she was tight on money and couldn’t afford to pay me yet, but promised she would pay me at a certain date because she would receive a check.

I was very understanding and I trusted she would pay me when she could, so we agreed I would get paid the stated date she mentioned so I would be able to pay my bills on time.

After the stated date passed, I didn’t get paid. I reached out to her and explained to her my situation that I had bills due and I really needed the money.

It has been a month by now. She explained to me that she still didn’t have the money? This is when I started to get a little frustrated.

“You stated that you would be able to pay me at this date, but now it has been a month. I explained to you my situation and I really am in need of this money.” She wouldn’t budge.

She said she would pay me later. Also, there was this one day I had clocked out late and she requested I change my clock out time on my “Closing Sheet.” I said no.

Moreover, I explained to her, “Not paying your employees the wages due is considered wage theft.”

This is when she thought I threatened legal action, which wasn’t my intention at all. I just explained to her a fact.

I asked multiple times and very kindly that I just needed the money— not even all of it, but some of it— so I would be able to pay my bills. She refused. After trying and to no avail, I decided to state that I will take legal action.

You know what the funny part is? Her friend heard about the situation, talked to the owner, and reached out to me saying that if I apologized, they would be able to pay me the rest. I decided to do so because I really needed the money, and they paid me everything.

I don’t understand why we had to go through all this trouble just for the owner to pay me afterwards when she could have done so earlier and we could have avoided the situation.

I didn’t work there anymore since she no longer trusted me for wanting to take legal action in the first place. The bridge has been burned and I don’t even go there as a customer anymore. There is so much more to this story, but I didn’t want to make the post too long.

My sister (40f) and I (34m) recently lost our last remaining parent. We are both devastated, but regardless, the logistics all need to be worked out.

Our parents were very clear in their will that our inheritance and all property are split evenly between the two of us. It’s to the tune of around $1 million.

Here’s where the problems start. I’m gay, I live with my partner who I’m not married to, away from the rest of my family.

My sister and her husband have 3 small kids under 11. My sister said that since it’s highly unlikely I’ll ever have kids (which still remains to be seen, I haven’t decided that yet) and because I live a comfortable life currently, that I should take at least a quarter of my inheritance money and open bank accounts for her kids.

Instead of using her own money to do that, she wants to buy a bigger house to get out of their smaller cramped house.

Basically implying that her and her family need the money more than I do since they’re married with kids and I’m not.

She thinks my parents were unfair when they created the will and that I should “do the right thing” to make up for their mistake.

Our entire family is split on the issue. My BIL is obviously on my sister’s side and says I’m being greedy and don’t care about my siblings’ future.

Our aunts and uncles and cousins all have differing opinions, with the more homophobic side of the family saying I’m being a greedy a-hole.

This is causing a major rift and I’m worried that eventually she’ll cut me off and wont let me have a relationship with the kids anymore. Part of me thinks maybe they do need the money more than me. Maybe I should just let the money go.

Parents found out I’m active in bed with my boyfriend and want details?

I’m 18f and I’m not sure why they’re surprised but I had my boyfriend over when they were gone and I guess they found evidence. My boyfriend threw the condoms in the rubbish bin beside the toilet instead of flushing them.

So it was really awkward they sat me down and gave me the ‘talk’ which up until now they’ve never even brought up.

So they want to know how often I was doing it, with how many guys, am I being careful and how, do I want babies etc.

The worst one was my dad asked exactly how my boyfriend was doing it and was it anything I didn’t want to do or made me feel ashamed.

I told them it’s none of their business and not telling anything since it’s personal. But I got the whole under my house as long as I live there.

I told them this discussion is over but they demanded answers and I better have them next time we talk. I feel so embarrassed and like it’s some invasion.

How can I get them to realize this is crazy I’m a grown person that can sleep with who I want and not answer to my parents even if I live in their house? Can I be reasonable with them without details? Should I just not f anymore at home?

Netizens’ comments

1. Just tell them something like “I use protection and if my bf tries to force me into something I will dump him” you are not giving details but just telling the truth
2. Send this via text: “I know how to set good boundaries for myself and how to demand respect for myself. I need you to trust that I do that in my relationships. I’m not comfortable discussing the details of my intimate relationship with you. That’s private and crosses a boundary. Thank you for caring about my safety. If I need anything, I’ll come to you.”
3. Most 18 year olds aren’t very responsible TBH, your parents are right to he concerned. Maybe their delivery wasnt great, but a lot of maturing still happens after 18.

Almost everyone at my job quit at once and now the place is closed with the lights off because there are no employees.

Last night my boss texted us in our group chat a goodbye message and explanation that she quit in protest about unfair, and unreasonable things coming down from corporate.

The rest of us, minus two girls (that I’m aware of at this time) took the opportunity to quit as well.

All of us had been frustrated, overworked, and underpaid for quite some time, but we stayed out of loyalty to our boss, and the friendships we had among us.

I know it’s cringe to say, but we really were like a family. We all got along. My boss was like a mother figure to the younger girls, giving advice and helping in life situations that they didn’t know how to handle, etc. We also had a very close bond, and called each other our work wife.

I didn’t quit last night with the others, I didn’t know what to do or think at first. I don’t have another job lined up, so I was worried about quitting suddenly.

So, I went to work this morning, but it wasn’t the same. I’ve been telling myself I needed a better job for a really long time, so why not do it, especially now.

Then my ex boss came in to talk to me, because she knew how I’d be feeling. We both cried, or more like I sobbed on her shoulder. She told me she wanted me to make the decision for myself, but if I really wanted to quit, she would help me.

So, I quit too, and they had to lock the doors because there was no one to work.

Tomorrow she’s coming over to my apartment to talk about what I’m going to do next, and I’m going to go do some delivery job with her to see if I wanna do that, at least for now.

From what I hear it pays better than what I made at that crappy job, so even that is a step up.

My (35F) fiance (37M) keeps checking out other women and I’m considering calling off the marriage.

He can’t help himself. He always looks. It’s infuriating. I told him if he considers me an option and wants to see what is out there, he can leave.

I’m sure it would be easy for him to find the woman he’s looking for because he makes more money than I do and I’m sure women would flock to him.

He’s interested in bimbos who wear tight clothing and that’s just not me.

In addition to my frustration on his looking around, I do fine for myself and I’m the only woman he’s every dated with her own money, career, and house, and an advanced degree.

Everyone else has made significantly less than he has. He throws money at women and his poor exes but is up in arms about having to help me with anything financially.

I don’t make a lot of money but I’m not on assistance like his exes have been. I just make enough to survive paycheck to paycheck.

I’m seriously considering calling off the marriage and making him move out. Anyone else been through this?

Netizens’ comments

1. I hate the “he can’t help it” narrative. Of course he can help it.
   Things we can’t help: farting, burping, going to the bathroom. Aka, biological functions.
   Things we CAN help if we care enough: most other things.
   The real truth is that he doesn’t want to and can’t be bothered to even try to pretend to not do it around you.
   I can’t decide for you if you should stay or not, but you should for sure do lying to yourself about what is capability and what is choice on his part.
   And I will point out that a core component of love is respect. This doesn’t sound to me like he has even an iota of respect for you… Do with that as you will.
2. There are men that don’t do this. My boyfriend never looks at other women when I’m around. He never hits on other women, isn’t interested in it. Maybe he checks out women a normal amount when I’m not there which is fine, it’s natural to a certain extent. He speaks to everyone with respect when we go out and doesn’t change his demeanour when a pretty girl is around.
   What you’re describing is completely disrespectful. The fact that he throws money at women who aren’t you and completely disregards your feelings is awful. I wouldn’t feel secure with a guy like this, especially if his type is bimbotic sugar babies and that’s not you. You are setting yourself up for a lot of heartache if you marry this man.

My employer never pays me on time. I work part-time for a very small sales firm 4 days a week, I’m off on fridays and paid hourly.

I get paid monthly but I’m never paid on time. I’ve been working here for about 4 months now.. the first pay check I received was almost 2 weeks late, the other ones a few days late, and when they do come they’re always short a full amount I’m owed.

I was supposed to be paid Thursday and still haven’t gotten it. We have company meetings on fridays that I’m unwillingly always apart of (since I’m off Fridays) and mentioned yesterday I still haven’t received my check.

Was told i will be paid in 24 hours and still nothing… mind you it’s me and another guy working for him and just my boss so 3 people combined, I don’t think it should take 24 hours to get paid especially when it’s through Venmo I would receive it right away.

It’s even more frustrating because if he catches you slacking/ not doing what you’re supposed to do he brings up how much he’s paying you and that’s it’s my job to be doing so and so and he shouldn’t have to close my deals. He’s very degrading.

Does anyone have advice for me?

Netizens’ comments

1. Look for a new job.
2. You can’t solve this boss except by leaving them.
3. My advice: look for a new job asap. Either this is blatant wage theft or the owner can’t make payroll.
4. Either the owner is a thoughtless jerk or he has serious cash flow problems. Regardless, start looking for another job. I own a small business with 15 employees and my number one rule is to always make payroll on time. People count on it.
5. I had a similar issue. Boss would pay us a week late and our check would just sit in his desk. Figured it out he would jus play games with us by doing this, while his company was making bank. My advice look for another job. Not worth your energy to try and change people. Until you find a better job jus cruz at work and see if he notices and play games with him and see how he likes it

My [32F] married friend [36F] asked me to sleep with her husband.

So to start this off, I’m using the term friend loosely. We worked together years ago and kept in touch through Facebook and Instagram comments.

We ran into eachother about 2 months ago and caught up over coffee. I told her I’m recently single and told her I’m not looking to rush into anything with anyone and she told me her and her husband have been going through a rough patch but they’re working on things. She didn’t go into details and I didn’t ask.

Earlier this week she reached out and asked if we could grab lunch. I said sure and we picked a time and place. I could tell something was wrong so I asked her and she told me that rough patch in her marriage is her fault.

She admitted to having an emotional affair with someone she met online, her husband found out and threatened divorce.

They went to counseling and while things have been better he’s having issues. They haven’t slept together in months and he said while he wants intimacy, he doesn’t know if he wants it from her anymore.

I asked why not just get divorced and she said they’re both committed to make their marriage work and are continuing counselling.

That’s when she told me she wanted to give her husband a hall pass. A one time pass to sleep with another woman.

I asked why and she said she knows she destroyed him with the emotional affair and this is her way of “making it right” and since he wants to f but not with her maybe it’ll help him realize what he actually wants/needs.

I asked her if she’s spoken to her husband about this and he agreed to it and wants me to be the one he does it with. To say I was shocked was an understatement.

I asked why me and she said she doesn’t want it to be a stranger because that’s not safe and someone she’s closer with would be weird, and she knows I’m not looking for a relationship and won’t try to take her husband.

So here’s where I’m conflicted. I could tell she was desperate. She asked me to think about it and get back to her by the end of the day Saturday, which is today.

He’s an attractive man, but this just screams bad idea BUT she seemed so desperate for this to happen, I just don’t know what to do or say to her.

Please help. Do I go through with this or tell her to find someone else?