I found out my husband of 6 years watching “Son-and-daughter” videos

I am 29, my husband and I have a beautiful 3 year old daughter. I recently went on his phone while he was sleeping and found weeks of these types of searches, and various videos.

I’ve asked him to buy cameras so we can put it everywhere in the house but he refuses saying there is no need.

I don’t know what to do or how to confront him about this. I slept with my daughter the past 2 nights and didn’t tell him why.

If I confront him he will 100% yell at me for going through his phone. I cannot leave as I have no where to go. What would you do if you were me? I feel trapped, scared and ashamed.

Netizens’ comments

• Don’t let the people in these replies make you feel bad for being concerned and disgusted by what your husband jacks off to. But do talk to him about this.

• I’ve been an escort for around 15 years. Although I don’t know his exact circumstance, I used to get a lot of guys who wanted to role play in similar scenarios. (Some ask for stepdaughter role play, some say niece role play, et cetera.) 

• Ignore everyone else, just talk with your husband, don’t let your marriage end because of bad communication

I joined a company recently. My manager was very friendly towards me for like the first month. As I am new to the industry she was very helpful in coaching me on the basic procedures. I was very grateful to her and trusted her.

As the day goes by she started to reveal her true character. I was performing well in my job and everyone in the company was praising me. But my manager did not praise me once even then I was not bothered as my responsibility is to complete my job perfectly and get my remuneration on time.

Things got worse, every morning she came to the office she will ignore me but I will greet my colleagues and also will greet her genuinely. She will not reply and I was not affected. She started to monitor me very closely.

She will stand behind my desk, shouting at me in front of everyone despite it being a small blunder. But when another team member does a mistake she will be like tell them nicely and say all will be fine.

My laptop given by my company was defective and it will shut down on its own. I have highlighted this issue to her several times but she turns deaf ears to me. She expects me to reply to her emails and supplier emails promptly. Due to my laptop problem, I couldn’t work efficiently because it keep shutting down.

Other department managers request the new purchase of laptops for their staff, unlike my manager who just ignore our team’s request and ask us to use the same old laptop. We don’t mind using it but it’s laggy and she is pressuring us to submit work on time and be productive.

She dislikes us advising as she thinks she is the only one who knows about everything.

Many staffs working under her tender their resignation as she keeps being unreasonable and taking credit for our work.

Since there was a high turnover, she ask me to do the work of the staff who left.

I just joined I have to cope with my workload and also juggle 3 person’s workload.

I didn’t give up I worked overtime and also worked on Saturday and Sunday to complete all the work.

But still, she scolds me saying I’m not efficient!

After much consideration, I left the company thinking that there would not be a career growth or work love balance here.

My dad wants me to stay with my cheating ex.

Over the past few year, my mom was dying of cancer and I balanced my time between my girlfriend and taking care of my mother.

Despite this, she keeps complaining I spend too much time with my mom and that to cut it down to an hour per week at the most. It even got to the point where she is angry at me just because I’m not in the mood for intimacy.

About 2 months ago, my mother finally passed away and my girlfriend seemed relieved (offering her condolences but didn’t see sad about it).

She then started pressuring me to get intimate not even 4 days in and I had to tell her over and over now is not the right time. What I saw a week ago shocked me.

As I wanted to surprise my best friend [26M] for his birthday, I went to his house and I saw him and my girlfriend passionately kissing.

Despite their begging and insistence that it didn’t go any further, I told both of them to stay out of my life. With my mother dead and my now ex-girlfriend not being faithful, I decided to turn to my father in hopes he can help.

Instead, he is begging me to reconcile with my ex (apparently, she confessed to him before I told him) and insisted she helped me before.

How can I get my dad to see that my ex is actually damaging me more than helping me?

Netizens’ comments

• That’s none of your father’s business. You don’t need to make him realize that you don’t want to be with her.

• Who cares what he wants? It’s your life. Make decisions that are best for you

With the number of scams out there, one always has to be careful who they talk to. A woman shared how she was scammed after talking to a man on Facebook.

Here is the story:

I knew Justin (jwc) from facebook and he portrayed a luxurious life with strong forex trading. Taking a leap of faith, I opened a trading account and made money at first. He then asked me to pool the money with him as he is having too many customers and is hard to do the trading 1 by 1.

He also has some investors to transfer money to me and said that it can be held as collateral and profit disbursement as his personal bank account is constantly maxed out with transactions daily. Things started to get ugly when he couldn’t give us back the weekly profit as promised. I then received a text saying that I may have transferred money to an account related to an investment scam which I made a police report promptly.

His investors that transferred money to me also made a police report against him but as the money was transferred to me before RELEASING it to him, I’m now implicated and my bank account is frozen. I called up the investigation officer and was told that i’ll be called down for an investigation.

I now live in anxiety as i have 2 young daughters and a wife to feed and this happened just because i trusted his forex investments.

Avoiding scams:

For more information on scams, members of the public can visit www.scamalert.sg or call the Anti-Scam Hotline at 1800-722-6688. Anyone with information on such scams may call the Police Hotline at 1800-255-0000 or submit information online at www.police.gov.sg/iwitness. All information will be kept strictly confidential.

With the borders now wide open and travelling made easier, more and more people are discussing and planning to go overseas.

One of the easiest countries to enter without needing much planning is our neighbour Malaysia, as the country is just a short bridge away from Singapore.

Singapore Uncensored ask several Singaporeans what are the things they worried about the most when travelling to Malaysia or other countries and here are the responses.

Robbery and Petty Crime

Crime rates are higher compared to Singapore but it is really not as bad as one would imagine. Just think of the people commuting daily to work in Singapore.

A Malaysian told Singapore Uncensored: “Just don’t appear to be flashy and don’t wear jewellery or branded stuff, you will be safe”

Vehicle Theft

In Malaysia, vehicle theft is common. According to statistics reported by the Vehicle Theft Reduction Council of Malaysia Bhd or known as VTRERC, they published a study stating that in year 2020 every 75 mins a vehicle is stolen countrywide.

A local Malaysian said that “No matter how old is your vehicle, always use a steering wheel lock and park in well-lit areas”

The steering wheel lock acts as a deterrent as carjackers will realise that it will take a longer time to steal the vehicle, therefore, giving up and looking for another target.

Kidnap

This is a crime that is very rare in Singapore but not unheard of in Malaysia.

Back in November 2021, a 13-year-old girl escapes from a kidnap attempt right in front of her school, reported Malay Mail.

The victim was taken onto a vehicle and drove for 400 meters before the young girl escaped.

Here is a statement published by the Malaysian Police:

“Police received a report on the attempted kidnapping incident that went viral on social media and investigations found that after the victim got down from her school van, she was approached by a man driving a Perodua Kancil car asking her to deliver a form to the school.

“The man then asked the victim to get in the car but she refused. The victim was then dragged into the vehicle and the suspect then off before the girl managed to escape about 400m away from the scene of the incident,”

Corrupted cops

This is nothing new and most veteran drivers going to Malaysia will always prepare a small amount of spare cash in the car.

This is also known infamously as the “Kopi money”.

A Singaporean once shared an incident at Johor Bahru Pelangi stating that a Malaysian Police gave up after realising that he could not get money out of it.

“I was at Pelangi and I made a U-turn, moments later a Police stop me and told me that I made an illegal U-turn. I straight away told him I have no money and its no problem if he issued me with a ticket.

The officer step away from the vehicle and discussed with two other Police officers before returning and said “You are free to go”

Recently an old video of a Police officer accepting a bribe has resurfaced on Facebook with over 1,000 shares

The story I’m going to tell you is true. It happened at my previous house at Toa Payoh (Location: the block opposite Phillip Factory Lorong 1). I shall not expose which floor I actually live so as not to frighten the existing occupant (just in case they read this site).

This incident happened many years ago. When my parents got married, they bought this unit and a year later they got me. At first, no eerie incidents happened but the moment I was born… all the nightmares began!!

You see, my parents were young at that time (25 yrs old) & still working. So, most of the time they’re not at home. Sometimes they sleep at my grandparent’s house. But only after they got me, that they spend more time at home and my mum resigned from her work to take care of me full-time.

According to my mum, when they first brought me home from the hospital, I refused to step into the house by crying hysterically as if noting there was an existence in it.

But my parents ignore the signs and brought me in without having a second thought. And on that night itself, something happened….

Mother

At around 3 am, my parents who were sleeping in the living room with me, heard the clinking sound of keys, as if worn around the waist of “somebody” in the kitchen toilet..

The sound grew louder and water gushed out from the tap in the toilet as if someone is relieving his “business” there. Then the toilet door was heard to be swung open and footsteps walking towards the living room!!

My mum and dad were terrified but kept cool and recite all the prayers they knew. My mum managed to keep her eyes slightly open because she was curious to see who it was. To her shock, there… standing at the Kitchen door was this tall black guy staring down at her with his bright red eyes before quickly disappearing.

Due to that incident, my mum was down with a fever for many days. Even by then, I was still crying day & night… even some of the neighbours popped in to ask what happen to me!! (I guess my cries have caused some inconveniences in their sleep!!)

My mum told them she do not know why I kept crying. Then, came the revelation of the strange happenings in the house…

History

According to one of the neighbours, a Chinese family ever reside here and the elderly man hangs himself in the room (which is my room, no wonder!), later the rest of the family moved out of that unit because one of the grandchildren actually saw their grandfather walking IN the kitchen wall…

That explains why during my primary school days I always wonder why there is a kind of hole (a metal hook) at the ceiling in my room… came to think about it maybe… that is the place where he hangs himself!! (Err, scary man..) Well, this is not all… wait till you hear what my dad encounters!!

One night, my mom & dad quarrelled over some small matter. My mum got so angry, she picked me up & went to her parents’ house leaving my dad alone at home.

Father

Everything seems ok but not when it was about 12 midnight… My dad was sleeping in my room (you know, that room!), and he heard someone in the kitchen washing dishes. He thought it was my mum but then he recalled, no, it was not his wife because his wife has left earlier on… Who is this in the kitchen??

He tried to console himself that it was his imagination but no, he heard footsteps coming towards the room… Guess what he saw?? A lady who exactly looked like my mum (his wife)!! He trembles, close his eyes and began to recite prayers. At that moment he can feel the cold smooth hand touching his own hands and caressing him, he then feels “her” lying down beside him.

Yeah, I know it’s hard to believe it. Fancy having a ghost sleeping beside you.. that must be a “gatal” (means mischievous) ghost!! But that’s the truth.. My dad tried to reach for the “Surah Yassin” that is placed above the bed head but seems that his hands got numb and heavier every time he tried to stretch it further… (Must be that ghost trying to prevent him from doing so!!)

So, do you know what happened next? The ghost hugged my poor dad throughout the whole night and left by dawn. And the moment she left, my dad quickly ride on his bike and find my mum at his in-law’s house and told her the whole story. My mum laughed at him and even joke, why didn’t he make love to that ghost?? But my dad was too shocked and trembled that he stayed dumb the whole day..

OK, you have heard about my dad’s encounters.. now it is my own encounter..

Me

There were always these 3 things that disturbed me throughout my 20 years living in that room. (Practically, it happens every night without fail)

1) My bed will suddenly shake in the middle of the night as if someone did it but everytime i check there was no one there

2) I would encounter both legs to be cramped in the middle of the night (after reciting some prayers & rubbing the legs the cramped soothe away),

3) The scratching sound at the aluminium window

And there is only one incident that I could not possibly forget throughout my whole life… it is the nightmare that I had!!

One night I dreamt that I was being dragged by a very strong force from my bed to my room door.

It seems so real because I’m sure that I feel that bed shaking again before being dragged down from the bed to the floor.

I tried to shout for help but my voice couldn’t come out. I choke and couldn’t breathe…I recite all the prayers I know… but still this “fellow” dragged me!

I was in a state of giving up but I tried again this time by shouting “ALLAH THE GREATEST, THE ALMIGHTY” 3 times!! And that “fellow” dropped me so hard to the floor exactly at my room door.

I suddenly woke up from my dream and thank God, I was still on my bed and not at the room door! I was so shaken by the dream (because it seems so real and I can actually feel my back aches) that I slept with my parents for the next 1 month.

Bomoh

Due to all these unwanted incidents, my parents had actually consulted a bomoh to cleanse the house. It is found that the disturbance came from a ghost called “Jerangkong”… (maybe the unrest soul of that elderly man himself)!!

Although the house has been cleansed and the ghost has been thrown into the nearby forest (behind Phillip factory near to Thompson), that “fellow” still comes back to the house… except that he couldn’t enter due to the protection.

Well, funny but true… there’s one time we found a few baby footings in black shade on the upper part of our front door. And in my room itself, at the aluminium window there are four finger print (as if someone is trying to open the window from outside). Though we try to clean it off with detergent, it still can’t be erased… so we paint over it.

And throughout i stay there for 20 years, it was like hell… my parents always quarrelled with each other and they even come to a stage of divorce! Luckily, we are able to calm down and did more prayers together… This helps to improve the unexplained strange feelings surrounding the house…

It’s true, even when we’re performing prayers, we can even feel that something is watching us or surrounding us like a vulcan and its prey!!

We could no longer stand such things and finally agreed to buy this new house at Hougang and move out from that “hell” house!! I’ve stayed at this Hougang house for nearly 3 years and so far no weird incident happen.

Except that I miss the shaking of the bed, you know, fancy living with it for 20 years and suddenly it just gone with the wind.. it is a bit not the norm… (ha..haaa..haaa)

And the best part, the occupant who took over the unit after we left is a Chinese family. And it happens to be my younger brother’s primary-schoolmate.

Well, I wish them good luck… Hope nothing bad happen to them…

Why is everyone so offended that I don’t want a wedding?!

I don’t want a wedding. I just want to go to the ROM. My boyfriend and I both don’t want to do the whole ceremony and formal reception.

He wants a barbecue-type party with friends and family to celebrate, no dj/band or photographers or floral arrangements or anything that goes along with a typical reception.

Both of our families are offended we don’t want to do the wedding thing.

For me, I dread being the center of attention and the idea of everyone I know staring at me all night is my absolute worst nightmare.

My mom saying it’s selfish not to have a wedding and stupid because of all the money we’d receive as gifts. His parents are devastated we never planned on a church wedding(which wouldn’t happen even if we decided to have a ceremony).

My aunt said I can’t ruin her dreams of me having her kids walk down the aisle as ring bearers/flower girls. That is everyone else’s opinions and desires. And not mine.

Am I so wrong as to not want a wedding?

Netizens’ comments

• I’m the same way. Weddings are overhyped, awkward, insanely expensive parties that the bride and groom don’t even get to enjoy.

• our aunt’s big dream of showing off her kids at your wedding?? Sorry, but this is so twisted it’s funny. I wish I was your friend to hug you and laugh together at what families can be. Relax. Tell your aunt she is free to get (another, eventually) wedding herself and torment her kids for the ceremony. Tell your mom everyone must be so perfectly healthy and content in life to make such a big deal over this. Your wedding. Your joyous occasion. They must not spoil it for you. Unless you’re unconsciously using their protest as a way to express your own inner doubts, there’s no reason why you should sacrifice this perfect day in your life for being a people pleaser. Plus, barbecues are fun.