My husband cheats on me sometimes, but I don’t care because I’m very well taken care of
I know this is against the norm because cheating is looked down upon and I used to care a lot more when I was younger but now, not as much.

My husband and I have two kids together and I consider myself fit, curvy and beautiful. Most people can’t tell that I’ve had kids. I run a few businesses and we also have a nanny which really helps both of us when it comes to having our own time.

I have always known my husband had wondering eyes and for the most part he is amazing. Except for the times where he will go fool around with someone when he goes to Vegas for the weekend or something. Before these trips, he will always leave me extra cash and, he always brings me back something. It’s never the same person and always a one-night thing. He doesn’t take girls on vacations, he doesn’t have sugar babies, he only does hookups. He doesn’t want to commit to anyone else even though in the traditional way he’s not fully committed to me either.

He is safe and I also test myself regularly. We don’t talk about it out in the open and it’s kind of one of those things I know but don’t speak of unless something in particular upset me. We are loving, intimacy is great and nothing is amiss. He lives with us and comes home everyday.

The main reason why I don’t care so much about his occasional ONS is because I’m very well taken care of. Anything I want, he will get me. If I tell him I want to go vacation somewhere, he will take me. I don’t look at the prices when I shop. And if I do decide to leave him (he doesn’t want me to but I do feel that one day I might), we have already discussed my monthly alimony and child support, which is close to the mid-5 digits. Right now, everything I spend is on his card that he pays off and he also gives me monthly allowances for me to keep/save despite me having my own money from my businesses (that he helped me open).

I have never spoken this aloud because I know people will tell me it’s wrong for me to value a comfortable life over a monogamous marriage and call me a gold digger. But the truth is, I’ve been with my husband since he was flat broke. And while I would love to have a faithful marriage, if I had to choose between that and never having to worry about money, I would and am choosing the latter.

My husband’s best friend “Nate” got a new girlfriend “Camilla” about half a year ago. She moved to our city recently so she doesn’t really have any friends here, but she and I hung out a couple of times and started to get friendly.

For context: we are all in our twenties, my husband and I both have nice jobs, we own a small flat, play tennis as a hobby (Camilla thinks it a rich people sport) and we regularly travel by finding cheap plane tickets and staying at cheap hostels for ~3 nights at a time.

Now to the point: my husband and I were hosting a little get together. Nate, Camilla and a few of our other friends were invited. At one point, the conversation went to topics like the current level of inflation, how the lockdown affected people and jobs, the housing market, etc and I had something to say too, agreeing with Camilla.

Camilla cut me off and said something like “Haha, no offense, but you are way too much of a spoiled privileged girl to understand things like this. You would need a tragedy or two in your life to understand struggle. I love you, but you never experienced any hardship in your life, haha.”

The room went dead silent and nobody said anything. After some awkward silence, I stood up and said: “Well, is anybody hungry? Shall we eat?” and we never went back to that topic.

Camilla messaged me the next day asking me how could I do this to her. Nate told her afterwards that I had an abusive father and I fell ill as a teenager, spent months in the hospital, had to have multiple life-saving surgeries and it took me a month to learn to walk again. Camilla is mad at me for not telling these very personal things to her before and for making her look terrible to Nate’s friends. She said that even correcting her at the party would have been better because then she could’ve apologized to me in front of everyone, but I took that chance away from her and now she will never make friends here.

Honestly, this whole thing is ridiculous and I don’t really think I’m the bad person, but it never hurts to ask. Maybe I should have gently corrected her after she said that.

Or Maybe I should just flaunt my father’s wealth since everyone will assume that I am a rich spoiled brat.

In a recent post that was shared of Facebook recently, a man stated about his happiness as he found the right girl to marry. Compared to other materialistic girls out there, she did not expect luxury items from her boyfriend at all.

Here is the full post.

Wow.. reading all these posts of girls expecting their bf to buy luxury engagement rings and even condo, I feel so lucky that I have an awesome gf who doesn’t even expect me to buy her anything.

So recently we were discussing our future and I asked her what kind of engagement ring she prefers. Surprisingly, she asked me not to buy any engagement ring for her as she feels that it’s not necessary.

I also suggested to her that we can get a resale flat because I would personally prefer to not wait 3 to 5 years for BTO. She told me that resale flats are quite expensive and she is ok with staying with my family while waiting for BTO.

As for our wedding, I told her I would prefer to have a banquet of 20 tables but she said she would personally prefer to have a house party to celebrate our wedding as she thinks that banquets are not necessary. But she said she would respect my decision if that is what I want.

I am impressed by how frugal and considerate my gf is. She keeps saying she doesn’t want me to spend money unnecessarily because I only started working for about a year. I’m really amazed by her. She has so many guys chasing her and some of these guys are apparently more well off than me. I once asked her why she never consider those rich guys and she told me she doesn’t care about living in big houses or driving posh cars because she justs wants to be with me and she would gladly marry me even if she has to stay with my parents and two sisters in a 4-room flat. I feel so lucky and I can’t wait to marry her and make her my wife.

Guys, if your gf ask you to buy her all those unnecessary material stuff, I think it’s best for you to reconsider the relationship. If a girl truly loves you, she would always help you save money and not find every chance to spend it.

Basically the my fiancee is “doing” my best friend.

Okay so the basic love story, met in uni fell in love blah blah blah. I and my best friend have been best friends since JC. I found out through a mutual friend that she (my best friend) told me for some reason, I guess she thought that she wouldn’t tell me because they’re closer?

Anyways I don’t believe at first because you know That’s my best effing friend, but the mutual goes into detail about times my fiancé was “working late” or “visiting his sick mom” in which he refused to let me come because of the pandemic which I understand okay, but it was all fake he was with her. So I sit on the new all day come home he’s acting normal telling me he loves me, but I wait till we go to bed and when he’s asleep I check his phone.

so nothing on iMessage nothing on Facebook nothing on Snapchat then I open Instagram….. message after messages of Texting, nudes, talking about how they enjoyed each other bodies talking about how stupid I was for not knowing.

I go to the bathroom all the way on the other side of the apartment we share and have a mental breakdown I was hurt and still kinda am I take screenshots of their messages and send them to myself.

The next day rolls around and I didn’t sleep at all my fiancé goes to work I take the day off and my ex-best friend texts me asking if we could hang I make up an excuse and that was the end. I take a long walk contemplating what I should do next, those text messages keep popping into my head and then I just kinda snap out of it. I had a bad childhood where my parents who would take away things I loved to teach me a lesson so I kinda master the art of snapping out of love just like that

I go home and take a long bath and by the end of it I was over him and her they deserve each other, anyways a week goes by and I’m at my cousins wedding and their interaction is hilarious there just so awkward it’s entertaining, I have a revenge plan that is going to come into plan on my wedding day in a month

yes you guys I have my Financials in order well actually there separate from one another, we might share the apartment but I own it, it’s in my name his car is in my name “our dogs” are mine , and for the people telling to just leave imma go with no. Why should I leave and let them get away with this if only you saw how they were talking about me in there text messages it was disgusting and just cruel. I’m going to do everything to look clueless and play stupid just for a little while and then boom it’s over. OH AND HES PAYING FOR THE WEDDING NOT ME OR MY FAMILY!

Boyfriend’s female colleague keeps texting him after work.

I’m in a relationship with my 3 years boyfriend and we never really fought until 1 day I found out one of his female colleagues texts him a lot.

She likes to update him about what she eats today, what she is doing, her random thoughts AFTER WORKING HOURS. Sometimes she texts him late like 1-2am. They talk and text during work too. He claims they are just close friends at work and I overthink things. I have talked to him about how uncomfortable it made me feel so he replied less but she continued to text everyday after work still. He said he has to reply to all this nonsense to be polite to colleague at work so I don’t know what to do.

He also said he thinks she is attractive. Am I overthinking or is this girl damn weird since she knows very well he has a girlfriend?

Here are what netizens think:

• Just text her that after work is his private time with you and you are not comfortable with her msg to him. Ask her if she wants you to intro a bf to her. Sometimes this kind of people have to be direct to them. If you bf is fuious that u do that then you should is time to drop him. He is properly building the relationship, once stable then he will drop u.

• Meet the girl face to face to discuss. If the girl is single introduce your single friends to her

• If your bf respects you, he will draw the line. If he doesn’t, reserve your love for someone who will.

• 3 years is enough of a time to decide if you should continue this relationship. Also 3 years never fight doesn’t really mean it’s a good thing. Its likely there’s no stressors or both of you have been avoiding conflicts. Know your boundary and don’t be afraid to communicate it. If you’re afraid to even say it then what about after marriage because I can assure you there will be more tough topics to talk about. From the looks of it, it’s time to cast your net wider. A man who finds it hard to reject a woman is not a good husband material.

My EX-SO owes me a 5-figure debt and is now ghosting me, what can I do to recoup my money?

I am 25M and just broke up with my 20F. We had been together for ~2 years. When we were together, she was still a student, and as a working adult, I was there to support her (dates were mostly paid for by me).

Now that she had graduated and transitioned to adult life, she found a job in the design industry. Things were difficult as they work on a comms basis and do not have a fixed salary. Dates were mostly paid for by me until recently she started to fork out some of her own share.

During the first week of work, she needed a laptop, so I bought a MacBook for her (initially was mentioned to be paid on an instalment basis but I guess she took it as a graduation gift and I as a supportive BF left it as it is).

She also needed a car to meet clients so she used her family car for work, however whenever she needed money to pump petrol/season parking, she would ask money from me, and I would pay for her. When she decided to lead a healthy and fit lifestyle and wanted to sign up for a gym and asked me to help pay for it, to encourage her, I did.

However, the money I am writing today is not about the money that I have paid for during our time together, but the money she had borrowed for her own needs (e.g., paying off outside debts, and fixing her car, etc).

Recently we had an argument in which I told her that I felt neglected by her since we only met once every few weeks. After that argument, she basically shut off from me and ghosted me for 2 weeks and I had no choice but to initiate the breakup because we were supposed to go on a family trip together (which I had paid for), but things were so dire that I just wanted a clean break. But when I mentioned the money that she owed, she left me on single tick and did not answer my messages at all.

Now I just want my money back. I do not care for the money we had spent together during our time; I just want those that she legitimately borrowed from me.

To be honest, all the money that I have spent on her amounts to much more than this (birthday trips, my dinners, luxury gifts), but I just want those that she had borrowed because it is still not a small amount…

Please help and give any advice, TIA.

Job applications are something many people go through in their lives unless you are born out of a silver spoon.

A man recently posted on Facebook stating that there are some jobs that are just not worth the time to apply for as that are too many applications.

He stated that for a job role such as an admin, there might be several hundred applicants and it requires them to apply for at least 20 different admin jobs before securing an interview.

He then compared it to a job such as being a security guard stating that he only needs to apply for one job and often gets the job on the spot.

Here is what he said:

Office admin jobs are the most useless jobs in sg. Salary 2k plus. Many people applying for 1 job. Company post 1 admin job vacancy in jobstreet, can easily have 100 to 500 pp1 applying for it.

I need to apply 100 to 200 admin jobs and go for 10 to 20 interviews before i may get lucky and get 1 jab offer. Even if i get the admin job, most likely it will be a stressful job. I work as security officer also can earn 2k plus a month. I apply and go interview, on the spot they hire me.

I don’t need. apply 100 to 200 security jobs and go for 10 to 20 interviews to get 1 security job offer. Although securityjobs is work 12 hours a day, but iM mostly easy job. If i suay kana a stressful security job, i can easily leave and find another security officer job.