Why does a specific angle, in missionary, make me want to have him finish in me?

Usually when we “do the dirty”, he’ll ask me where i want him to shoot. Im not on birth control, so obviously ill answer something specific like face or throat, not inside me.

But lately he’s been hitting this specific angle , and everything inside me wants to scream “come in me daddy”

I don’t say it, but then after he finishes I’m a little sad that I didn’t say what I want, and have to remind myself how expensive getting pregnant is. Still, I’m upset I didn’t ask for or get what I want.

What’s going on? Why is it this one angle ? He’s the best I’ve ever had in bed, and I keep experiencing new wonderful feelings, we are very open to trying new fantasies and wishes …. but This one I need to control LOL

I’m 40. We aren’t in a serious committed relationship, and I’m too old to be getting pregnant.

Netizens’ comments

1. Just keep fighting the good fight, and think about having a human rely on you until you’re at least 60.
2. Is regular bc not a option? I only ask cause finishing inside ALWAYS feels better and in my experience that’s the case for both parties
3. Psychologically I think when he’s on top it may feel like a difference of power. As a woman you have recognized his power and naturally, want to give him the best feeling option available to him so he will be pleased and you’ll get to do it again. Plus. It feels HELLA good to finish inside a woman with no condom lololol
   My wife LOVES when I’m on top because she gets to see my arms and shoulders flex, loves the noises I make, and loves sharing that release when I finish inside.
   People have also mentioned, he may be hitting your g spot or stimulating you while he’s on top which is sending more good feelings to you and of course you’re body is like “Give me more of that and I’ll reward you”!
   One more thing…. if you want him to finish inside you, all you’ll have to do is utter that phrase above and it will be all over. However… “With great power, comes great responsibility”

Managing job offer

If a hiring manager offer u the job and asked u to give them an answer in the next 3 days where the next 3 days are public holiday.

What do I do if I need more time to consider and is expecting other interviews? Was told to acknowledge the email to accept the offer by Sunday.

I have tried asking for an extension but was rejected and they firmly said that I need to give them an answer by Sunday as they want to know it when they are back in the office on Monday morning.

Is there a way to ‘accept’ the offer first and ask them to provide the offer letter (they said they will only send offer letter once I provided my information when I first asked)?

How to phrase it such that I would like to move forward with the offer but do not explicitly mentioned accept offer?

I also do have some queries for clarification but do not receive any reply yet since it is holiday (but they expect me to answer on Sunday)?

If I have not signed the contract but acknowledge acceptance in email, can I still reject it?

Netizens’ comments

1. Some companies ask for verbal acceptance for whatever reason. You can still argue on grounds that the contract is not what you had thought. Alternatively “I am interested in moving ahead, but I would need to see the contract first to formally accept” might work I guess.
2. I’ll give you a neutral POV as a hiring manager:
   -Short timeframe to get back as they really like you and don’t want to lose you to other companies (since you are still looking around like you mentioned)
   -Red flag that this job can be shitty and they want someone in asap. And no negotiation can means they are inflexible
   -If you are not excited about this job offer and still want to look around, maybe this job is not what you want. Accepting an offer only to withdraw it when you find something better will tarnish your own reputation.
   -Never sit on a job offer for more than a week. The hiring team will definitely move on to the next candidate because it means they are not your first choice. By the time you regret and want this job, they might have gave the job to another person.
   -Singapore is very small and words can spread. I have seen some good candidates but when I asked a common friend who used to work in the same company as him before, the feedback was horrible. Totally not what he appears during interview. Will I give the person a chance? Definitely not because you just can never know from a 1 hour interview if the person will work and have the same attitude in their daily job.
3. Once verbal acceptance is provided, the company will kick start the chain of activities leading up to your onboarding, starting with preparation of your context. If you rescind your verbal offer, no harm no foul I guess other than cresting extra admin work for someone.
4. Firstly- it’s a huge red flag if they have people working on weekends.
   Another red flag that they are only giving you 3 days. I usually tell future employers I’ll need 1-2 weeks to consider an offer.
   Anyway, good luck

embarrassing a guy with a “shy bladder” at work.

The men’s room where I work has a wall of urinals and four stalls. There is one guy who apparently cannot use a urinal.

However he must have a firehose and a sore back because he never lifts the seat when he urinates and he pisses all over the toilet.

Like not just a little sprinkle either. He gets it on the seat, the tank, the floor. I’m surprised he doesn’t hit the walls.

I’m overweight myself and I have trouble using the urinals sometimes. So I tend to use a stall. But I sit to take care of number one as well as number two.

Anyways I put up a sign in the stalls that I remembered from my grandparents’ home.

“If you sprinkle when you tinkle be a sweetie and wipe the seatie”.

He took this as a personal attack. He ripped them all down and came into the break room and was yelling about having a shy bladder and that he doesn’t have to use a urinal and a bunch of other stuff.

The thing is none of us knew for sure it was him that did it.

I didn’t target him or anything. I talked privately to him and told him that the signs were for everyone and that he just outed himself.

He called me an a-hole for making him embarrass himself and that he was going to HR.

I was just trying to politely ask everyone to clean up after themselves.

Netizens’ comments

1. How is it a personal attack if he wasn’t personally called out? You didn’t embarrass him – he embarrassed himself.
2. I can’t wait to hear what HR has to say about “I peed all over the place and op tricked me into telling everyone”.
3. Having a shy bladder makes it difficult to “go” under pressure, ie. Public toilets, pee tests.
   It has 0 impact on AIMING for the actual toilet.
4. It’s common courtesy to clean up your mess. No one should leave the bathroom in that state. If you can’t aim, sit, that’s what my Dad said.

Working as a client serving role in Singapore is mentally exhausting

I am sorry for spreading negativity but urghhh I wish to ask those in client serving roles like health care, retail, F&B or even office workers, how do you all survive mean and nasty clients who do not treat you with respect like a normal human being?

I feel that it is not as exhausting serving clients from other countries, for some reasons. The clients/consumers are so demanding and unreasonable, they demand for stars in the sky but they are unwilling to pay a dime.

They would also stoop very low to get what they wanted, even though we have done our best to serve them. It is so mentally exhausting. Trying not to take everything personally, but I don’t get why people can be so mean.

Netizens’ comments

1. People are mean and unreasonable to get what they want because in Singapore it works. When people make complaints or kick a fuss, suddenly they are given priority and treated like VIPs.
   No way to get around this unless as a country we stop pandering to the whims of the badly behaved and instead reward/prioritise those that play by the rules.
   Once you knock off, go eat something delicious or plan an activity you enjoy to unwind. These people should not be allowed to live rent free in our thoughts
2. Have a thick skin. If you dont have a thick skin when working in customer service line, sorry you’re in for a rough time.
   Personally working in the retail banking side, for every 1 nasty customer i face i have 5 nice customers that are polite and have great conversations with, asking how’s my day and generally very understanding.
   Sure, there will be nasty customers along the way. Sometimes it’s all about perspective. There will never be a perfect day with no nasty customers. But just give your best and if they still treat you like shit, they won’t stop me from going home after work and feeling good about having knocked off from work.
   Colleagues also help. My seniors all have their fair share of experiences and we’ll all just gossip about it and laugh it off at their absurd requests.
   Over time, you’ll get used to being in the customer service line, all the best.
3. 2/10 customers are bound to be a-holes. Just remind yourself that there were 8 nice/normal ones that appreciated your service and respected you as a person. I’m in a frontline job as well and majority are nice/alright folks. But the nasty ones can really make your blood boil and ruin your day.

My (M32) recent girlfriend (F30) is asking for “spa money” from me, instead of using her own. It makes me pretty uncomfortable that she want’s me to just give her money.

So I’ve been dating this girl for a few months now and things have been going good for the most part. She’s been upfront that she wants a more “traditional” relationship, whereas I’m more modern.

If we get married one day she says she wants quit work to be a stay at home wife and homemaker. I’m more of the mindset that we should share household responsibilities regardless.

To get to the point at hand, we’re not even living together yet and we’ve only been dating since late February. She’s mentioned times in the past that she often gets her parents to pay for her beauty supplies, makeup, or spa trips now and then, despite the fact that she works her own full time job as a vet assistant.

Last night she slept over, and this morning before I left for work she asked for some spa money so she could go there and treat herself after work.

I told her I’d think about it and get back to her, but it kind of makes me uncomfortable that she’s even asking for my money to do this instead of using her own.

I’ve bought her things when we’re together before, paid the bill whenever we go out, brought her flowers and lunch to her work, but never just given her cash.

Do a lot of women expect their partners to just give them “fun money”, or pay for solo spa trips?

Thinking about it, she did buy a Keurig for my place a while back, maybe paying for a spa trip evens it out?? I don’t know. It makes me feel pretty used to just give her cash though.

TL;DR: Girlfriend of ~3 months is asking for money to go to a spa after work by herself. It makes me uncomfortable she’s asking for my money instead of using her own, even though she has a job.

Share your WORST UNCENSORED experiences working at a SME.

I will start first. I worked at a SME that had secret voice recorders implanted in the office. He had some voice recognition program whenever the staff mentioned the boss’s name, he gets notified.

He admitted to doing this to a current working staff after firing a few staff members.

Boss is also very stingy and doesn’t pay for OT. Even gave false promises to poach people to join the company, only for them to leave a few months later after they found out.

Thank god I’m out of there LOL

Netizens’ comments

1. Ratio of full time staff (including upper management which is just the boss’s family and friends) to interns is 4:6.
   Not even sure which company you’re supposed to be under, can just pull you to man booth sell their other stuff when that’s not even your main job or what you were trained for.
   Talked about that one intern many years ago that did very well then expects every single intern to be like that. Boss has anger management issues too. Actually a messed up place.
2. The startup was so new that the computers had not arrived so we were told under direct instruction from boss to use our personal laptops. After being unceremoniously fired, colleague got issued a threatening letter saying they did a cybersecurity hazard by using personal computers despite there being work computers. (There were no company computers). Also threatened to report ex colleague to their part time workplace.
3. Not very bad but i hold a deep grudge.
4. Need to work on Saturday every other week. Phone rang, person asked for manager, i said he’s not in for this saturday, then immediately ask for lady boss, so i transfer the call to her. Apparently the person need to ask things on my department, this person got her name from invoice because she signed every invoice. She called me after the call then chewed me for 15 mins just because i transferred a call that’s mentioned her name.
   I hope she’s ridden with diseases.
5. Complain when people take even 1 minute longer than 1 hour lunch break, the boss literally turns on a timer from the moment you leave the office
6. Usually in a SME, the boss will hire his/her friends.
   In my previous company, When my boss friends take unpaid leave or urgent leave, it will always be approved.
   When I take my annual leave, it will always be declined. 99% of the time. The reason is lame as hell. (Due to operational needs.) KNS.

It took me (22M) a long time to come to terms with this but I have a very strong mommy issues. (TL;DR I grew up with an emotionally absent mother and today I am turned on by women who treat me badly. Yes I am currently in therapy.)

My GF (27F) and I have been together for seven months. Initially I was too nervous and ashamed to tell her about my turn ons. At the same time neglecting my desires left me unfulfilled. However I started to trust her more as we continued to experiment and explore in the bedroom.

A couple months into our relationship I explained it to her and we incorporated it into our bedroom activities. For the first time I truly ‘let go’ and let my guard down.

Like I said…I deeply trusted her. But after a while her (female) friends started to make odd comments and jokes. It was clear to me that they knew more about my relationship than they let on. But I was in denial mode.

At first I just ignored them. However one evening we went out and one of her friends got drunk. This friend jokingly said that she still doesn’t understand how a “big, tough guy” like me has mommy issues. (Btw at the time my GF was swimming and wasn’t made aware of the incident til later).

To say I was shocked is an understatement. This information was clearly supposed to be kept secret as the girls told her to shut up and apologized to me. I just denied it and decided to go home early.

Later on I received a text from another friend of hers who tried to reassure me but it just made everything worse.

I cannot describe the level of betrayal/embarrassment I feel. I don’t understand why she told them about our bedroom activities in the first place.

I don’t know how many of her friends know. We had plenty of arguments and she said that I have nothing to worry about as her friends aren’t judgmental anyway.

I told her that she humiliated me by breaching my trust and therefore cannot trust her again. She claims that I just need to “relax” and realize that I’m overreacting to the whole situation. She even said that I’m being dramatic for being angry as her friends think my kink is “cute” anyway.

Any useful advice? I love her and she’s not perfect but Im not sure I can eve trust her again.