My coworker (39F) wants to hook up with me (26M) to get back at her cheating husband.

Edit: I’m single. She also showed me the messages showing proof that he’s cheating.

We’re coworkers, but I also consider her a friend. Her husband cheated on her for a second time. This time however, she’s not going to forgive him and will be divorcing him.

We got to talking because she seemed down while at work. There, she discussed how she’s feeling about his infidelity.

She then asked me if I want to hook up with her to get back at her husband.

She doesn’t plan on telling him, but she wants to get back at him this way. Initially I thought she was joking, but she’s not.

She even apologized for asking, but I told her it’s ok; but I need to think about it. In any case, I would like some advice on how to handle this situation. It’s tempting for sure, and this is a first for me.

TL;dr coworker wants to hookup with me to get back at her cheating husband. Not sure how to handle this as I’ve never been in this position.

Netizens’ comments

1. This is a good way to get killed.
2. That’s a whole mess you don’t want to get yourself involved in OP. She’s almost 40, why is she wanting to play the tit for tat game with someone she’s planning to divorce anyway. I’d keep well away.
3. She might be the person making the choice, and regardless if you think her husband has no right to be upset. He might be and their could be consequences for you because of this.
4. Cheating or not, you don’t want to get involved in that whole mess bro.
5. You don’t want to be part of this mess. Tell her you are flattered by her offer but you respect her to much and that should she divorce her husband you can reconsider the offer.
6. Jealous husbands are a wildcard. And even though it defies logic that a cheating husband would be jealous, he certainly will be.

Met a guy on a dating app. After the 2nd date, he said he didn’t like me, and was seeing someone else.

But days went by and he always updated me on his day everyday, we still arranged to meet up, each time ending in intimate acts because he wanted to, hence I consented. I had hope.

On the 2nd date, he told me about his past relationships and that he still miss his ex, but she had already blocked him on every platform hence he couldn’t contact her. He still had photos of his ex on his IG despite friends telling him to delete it, but he defended himself saying that all his past made him who he is today.

His ex wasn’t local, and was married in her hometown, but he loved her and it didn’t matter to him, even though his parents weren’t supportive either.

He was always telling me to work out, his type is very specific, skinny girls. His ex had many kids and he would say that you can’t even tell that she had that many kids from her figure – skinny. He was visibly in awe of her.

I’ve always known that I’m the least of his priority as he always made time for his friends or to do assignments as he’s studying part time, and would always tell me that he’s busy Fridays-weekends.

It’s been roughly 10 weeks since we’ve known each other, but I made the decision yesterday to end it. My last straw was when I asked if he missed me and he said no, the last I saw him was 2 weeks ago, albeit not that long ago, prior to that was >1 month ago, and the meetups would usually be <2hours, since he said he needed to do his assignments. I asked if he liked me and he said he wouldn’t msg me if he didn’t.

My sixth sense told me that he had never foresee a future together with me, and he always say that marriage is not on his cards due to financial constraints. I didn’t mind that he earned lesser than me, but he would always compare himself to his friends and me.

It still hurts as I’m typing this, but I know that what should’ve been would’ve been. :’(

Just a rant because I’ve no one to tell to get this off my chest. Thanks for reading this guys. I hope the ppl who you love will love you back.

I’m a 24m that will be graduating this year i’ve been dating this girl(37F) for 11 years.

Not going to the detail how it started, except she was my maths tutor since P5. No we didn’t start dating when I was a kid. It only happened many years later.

My parents aren’t aware of our relationship but I’ve tested them before and they were generally accepting of large age gap.

My guy friends treat me like a champ for a hot OL gf. While the girls think that it’s some what acceptable

We recently met a couple, 36M and 25F that have been dating for 10 years. But their treatment is completely 180.

I can’t help to think why at this age we still have such ancient thinking when it comes to love. Shouldn’t age gap be okay as long as you don’t f and dump?

Netizens’ comments

1. Your parents will approve la, they find this tutor for you what! Well at least one of them (ur dad) will be happy.
2. I hope you are scoring aces in maths….. If not, at least u seem to be scoring elsewhere.
3. Actually… aren’t you concerned that with this manner of inclination when you’re absolutely out of the attraction age range
   What about when you have children? Would they then be attractive to your gf also ya when they are in that age range? Works she know also?
4. In such rs, the older woman will definitely like a younger, more energetic man.
   U may be ok with her age now, but u must accept she’s gonna grow old faster than you.
   When u r 40 , u r 男人四十还是一朵花， whereas she’s approaching the elderly age group with more lines one her neck and face ( suddenly someone started calling my friend auntie when she reached 50 despite looking young in her 40s!
   If u can accept, then ok.
   The older man and younger woman marriage is more common than young man, old woman marriage..
5. If you truly loves her yr friends attitude does’nt matter. Yr parents are ok. Alot of problems cld be avoided believe me shld you both tie the knot

Okay so. I have a story to tell, in exchange give me some advice man.

Here it goes:

So recently I met a guy. To me, he’s charismatic and charming. So he texted me on Facebook for the first time and asked me out for dinner. I usually don’t agree to things like that because I have social anxiety. But that day I just happen to feel a little confident and I actually agree to meet. So we did.

He drove from his place to the place that I am at, and after a short conversation, I “up his pirate ship” (上了贼船) and then we went for dinner. Everything went well, i offered to AA for dinner, but he said it was fine. Then he sent me home. I thought the night was just gonna end like this, but we somehow agreed on going for a night drive and so we did. I brought him to meet my friends and we had a super long night. It even ended with a kiss. It was one of the cutest night I’ve ever had, and romance is totally my thing. But omg this is where my emotional nightmare begins too.

We started talking more and everything seem normal, we did talk about some intimate adult topic too, he started it, but because I have a HSD, so I went along, it was a norm to me. We were able to talk for hours and it was amazing.

The next meet up happen because he offered to send me home on his own. Just nice we both ended work, and he went like “I send you home”. My god, ofc I said yes. Long story short the night ended with a bj. LOL

To be honest, he kind of did everything right. No red flags seem to appear. However my 6th sense told me to CSI him, and I did. His FB was super private so it was kinda hard.

Well, I found out he’s married with a son.

The timeline seem a bit off, they aren’t friend on Facebook, but the wife profile picture is still their wedding photo, so I actually gave him a benefit of a doubt maybe he’s separated.

The last time the wife posted a photo of them was on April. But I also saw on September, another girl tagged him tell him don’t find Asian gf.. What does that even mean… ????????‍

Slowly I found out even more evidence and it kinda make me sick in the stomach. I also found out that he has actually been planting his presence around me after I CSI him, he has been texting me since 2015. LMAO

Right now we are still talking, but it wasn’t as passionate the first time anymore. I do kinda like him, but I don’t know what to do. Do i confront him about it and ask for the truth?

I’ve consulted my friends and they say “Married man will always choose family in the end”, I agree but I am not sure if they are still together. Or do I just ghost him, block him and forget about him? Im someone that needs closure, so I really don’t know what I should do. LOL

I encourage cheating, and here is why.

This might be a controversial take, but my partner and I have cheated multiple times. It does not sour our relationship at all.

In fact, I feel that allowing it to happen strengthens our bond and builds trust. We all have our needs, wants and desires, and sometimes we are unable to fulfill it with just one person.

What Person A can provide, maybe Person B cannot give. And what Person B can give maybe Person A can’t provide. So look for the missing puzzle pieces from others and everyone ends up happier.

Not to discredit my partner as she is a nice and intelligent person, but she is not good at everything, and I admit that I am not either. So sometimes we have to look for other partners to fulfill our needs.

Netizens’ comments

1. Do what u think its best for u…u want to cheat, go ahead…do whatever u want to do…all the best to u and tc. do remember..what goes around comes back around ya………
2. You mean you encourage cheating only to your type of people.
3. So… both ok with cheating… meaning you are in an open relationship…
4. “Paradox: Cheating builds trust”. This thesis I wanna read
5. Heartwarming! Straight Couple Discover Polyamory For The First Time
6. You’re cfm the kind who uses aimbot and still loses. Lol.
7. Have fun while you can. Still have to face the ending. See who cry only.
8. if it is consensual, mutual, and communicated, can you even call that cheating
9. You know what they say in the army, the SAF 9th core value, you can do anything you want, just don’t get caught. However since both parties are fully aware and consensual of the cheating, then there is no risk or fear of getting caught. Go ahead and f around, no need to worry about anything. Except maybe STDs.

New staff I hired is paid higher than me

How do you manage the emotional imbalance and confusion if you are to hire your new staff whom is paid slightly higher than you?

And what about your new peers whom are also paid higher than you? I am not privy to such information but happened to chance upon it and being the longest staff around.

I am happy to welcome new members who will of course take on or support some of my overwhelming work section but I don’t know how to make out of my inner thoughts when I know all these people are paid higher than me whom I will need to teach and guide over time..

And for those who will suggest I speak to my boss for increment, how do I just do so without showing that I am aware of these people payscale?

Or should I just be contented and purge all those thoughts out of my head and mind my own biz? Overall, I enjoyed being in this organization as a whole.

Netizens’ comments

1. Being too comfortable in a place is never good thing in terms of salary progression & growth. Loyalty no longer bags you bigger bags, jumping does. So usually people would jump out then back in after a few years outside to get that salary increment if they like that workplace environment . All the best OP!
2. If you don’t know your own worth, nobody else will.
   If you don’t ask, you won’t ever get.
   Steer the conversation away from the irrelevance of how you found out. The fact is, you know and if you have seniority and are expected to teach others, then you should be offered a pay rise.
   You do need to show why you deserve it so sell yourself and your achievements.
   Be prepared for the possibility of a no but make sure they give you a damn good reason. If not now then negotiate a timeframe on when you can expect to get one.
   If it’s an outright no then either live with it or start looking for someplace where they will value you more.
   If they say no, don’t feel obligated to teach the newbies everything.
   Now that you know, it will be very hard to let it go so do something about it….at the very least try and ask for a raise….something you should already have been doing through the years. If you don’t have the courage to stand up to ask, then why should they bother to give it to you?
3. Show your work performance and the benefits that you have brought to your company from your years of working there and ask for increment.
   Before that, try going for other job interviews and talk to your boss when you have an offer from another company?

Are guys in sg just more willing to simp?

i do streaming full time and get most of the money from sub and more sponsors nowadays but mostly guys who think they might have a chance with me.

ive opened up about dating someone for a while now and there will still be guys that are delusional enough to simp LOL..

Like yeah i want to have a community where i can just chill but guess i need money somewhere i guess.

i can like just dm someone that i rarely respond to with a random excuse like “test my subscription alerts” and years later they would forget about it and continue subbing until their bank runs dry.

Most of them arent even financially stable enough to afford to sub because they are still probably studying and they would still do it to “prove” that they are capable or something.

They can just say no, like ive even told some of them im not interested when we literally have nothing in common and they will still be willing to do anything.

Yeah i feel guilty sometimes, i came from a much more well off family + feel bad for my bf especially in a he isnt from Singapore.

Netizens’ comments

1. If you are making money from them I feel that you should have the decency to keep such comments offline.
   This is a demand and supply issue.
2. I find this is too cancerous for me to read… So it’s like trying to see she’s proud to be a full time gold digger streamer and after taking their money she slams the guys who support her with words like delusional lolz
3. that is why i dont watch livestreams.. haha.. somemore comment till like this, i gotta pity u for not having some sympathy for others, for not being able to keep such comments to urself.. hahhaa
4. I beg to differ… just look at how those school girls to aunties simping over their oppa BTS, stray kids, boy bands, and Korean actors. Same same but different.