To all those who rate people by fractions or simply rate others by how much they earn and look. There’s always someone worse off than you.

I think I’m a 2/10 woman or maybe a 1/10. Simply based on how I look. It doesn’t matter how much I earn. By the way I earn around 6k and I’m already in my late 30s. I get passover for promotions because I don’t look like a leader or I’m not pretty enough to be in meetings with the others. I notice the high fliers usually are the better looking ones and they are very engaging when they speak with others. I know I have none of that charisma. This is my first and only job since graduation. I know I have no drive and I am content to not work my way up.

I have already planned to stay with my parents and take care of them until they pass on so that’s where my money is going should I pass on earlier than them.

All the men in my social circle have friendzoned me a long time ago. I have already resigned to the fact in this lifetime I will be attending everyone’s wedding but my own. I will be buying baby gifts for everyone else’s baby other than my own. I know my looks are way below average. So I never bothered with make up. I just made sure I’m neat, tidy and presentable for work.

I don’t put myself out there so there is zero risk in being rejected. I’ve also started to only hang out with friends who are also single like me because I am tired of the pitiful looks other couples give me. I also know no one will ever have anyone in mind to introduce to me.

I do feel miserable sometimes. But I know no man will ever want to date me or even get to know me romantically. There’s always another prettier girl. If there’s a group photo of girls, I’ll always be the ugliest one. The one that everyone don’t remember seeing in the picture.

I do have other hobbies. I watch k drama. I like BTS. I play online games. I read books. Most of the time, I live in solitude.

Without knowing my looks, would any man dare to give me a chance? No.

There’s always someone worse off than you.

To anyone still searching for their special someone, as long as you continue to search, they will be found.

I hate the cycle of going to work and coming home. I’m stuck in a 12 hour loop every day, with no end in sight. I wake up early in the morning, get ready for work, drag myself out the door, and start my commute. I spend the morning listening to the traffic reports, avoiding the potholes on the highway, and watching the clock tick ever closer to my 9:00 AM shift.

Once I get to work, I spend the next eight hours staring at the computer screen, answering calls, and dealing with customers. My job is not particularly difficult, but it’s also not particularly enjoyable. I’m just a cog in the corporate machine, doing the same mundane task over and over again. By the time 6:00 PM rolls around, I’m ready to get out of there.

But, of course, my day doesn’t end there. I still have to drive home. Depending on traffic, this can take anywhere from 30 minutes to an hour. I’m usually exhausted by the time I pull into my driveway.

Once I’m home, I try to relax and unwind, but it’s hard to shake the feeling that I’ve just wasted 12 hours of my life. I wish I could use that time to do something more meaningful or enjoyable, but instead, I’m stuck in this endless cycle of work and home.

It’s not just the wasted time that I hate, it’s also the lack of control I have over my life. I feel like I’m stuck in a never-ending loop, with no way to break out of it. Sure, I could quit my job and find something else, but that’s a huge risk. Plus, I know that I’d just end up in the same situation somewhere else.

I wish there was a way to break out of this cycle and take back control of my life. I want to find a job that I actually enjoy and use my time for something more meaningful. I want to spend my days doing something that I love, not just something that pays the bills.

Unfortunately, I don’t know how to make that happen. I’m stuck in the cycle of going to work and coming home, with no end in sight. I’m wasting 12 hours of my life every day, with no real way to break free. It’s not a happy thought, but it’s one that I have to live with.

Need some advise. Some context here, M(34) working in a ok job and studying part time as well and planning to get married within the next year if possible with partner of 2 yrs+ who is 1 yr younger.

The dynamics of my own family has changed quite a bit at the start of the year due to my father falling down and accelerating his dementia as well.

The things have changed even more so as I have became a part time caretaker of my own father but it has been proving difficult for me to do so due to sudden changes for a dementia patient and add to the fact that I am fairly terrified of my father even at my age due to past traumas as a kid and it became very hard to take care of him by not being able to see him as a burden.

Thankfully my mother is doing most of the work with a helper by calming him and taking care of him but his sudden loud voice can affect me quite badly and it has affected my sleep and well being where I have lost 5kg over the course of 1 month ever since he came back from the hospital. Things are becoming better but I cant seem to see it that way even though I am now mainly a support role due to the fear I have of him. Also I am not that close with my family as well as you can call me the sensitive one and the other members will shake it off as ‘You think too much’ and would not listen to me and I have to help myself most of the time when problems arises unless it is a very major problem where I break down entirely.

I am doing as much as I can to move on to the next phase of my life which is marriage where I am researching the best way to purchase a new home or what I should or should not do in a marriage by going for marriage counseling with my partner as well. However the issue would be my partner’s uneasiness of moving on to the next phase of her life. She is helping as much as she can for helping for suggesting ideas but the issue would be her parents where we have not made much progress as I have made a mistake once two years ago over a dining table where perhaps due to miscommunication and different thinking between the young and the old, I have not seen one of her parent for at least 2 years.

I have been slowly getting into the good books of the other parent but it would definitely be very hard to do so for the other parent. So right now she is sort of stuck in between her parents and her feelings and me on moving forward as well.

I have been doing the best I could as well by being supportive, reading up, trying to get into the parents good books and I def want her in my life for the rest of my time but at this point it feels like I am stuck not being able to move forward as I cant do this nor that and any action that is needed by my partner cant be done or she does not feel comfortable doing it.

So at the moment it seems hopeless as I am stuck in a very unhappy place and I want to get out of it but my circumstance and financial burden on myself would be great if I do move out as rental right now in SG is quite high. We did talk about this but as her capabilities of handling these kinds of issues arent that great and the more I share with her, the worst it becomes for her and I tend to keep things to myself more often now

I know there is a solution out there but at the moment I think I am in a ostrich in a hole where it seems I am fighting a war by myself and solving everything by myself as well.

P.S I have been seeking help regarding my mental health but it has been a recurring battle with myself over the past decade as new problems keep coming up and it does not help when I’ve lost family members one by one in the 2nd month of 2023 and as of now I have been to 3 funerals where one of them I had to handle the rites and any final paperwork regarding that particular member. Add on with my new role as a caretaker, a part time student, a son, a aspiring son-in-law and a partner to my beautiful gf, I have broken down a few times.

Would appreciate any advise for anyone who has reached the end of this post. Thank you all