Two men and a woman, aged 20 to 25, will be charged in court on 28 September 2023 for their suspected involvement in various offences connected to money mule activities, which include cheating and facilitating unauthorised access to computer materials.

A 25-year-old man and a 20-year-old woman are alleged to have sold their Singpass credentials to criminal syndicates to create new bank accounts. A 21-year-old man is alleged to have sold his bank accounts to criminal syndicates. He had purportedly deceived banks into opening bank accounts before handing over his ATM cards and Internet banking credentials to the criminal syndicates.

The offence of cheating under Section 417 of the Penal Code 1871 carries an imprisonment term of up to three years and a fine. The offence of facilitating unauthorised access to computer material under Section 3(1) of the Computer Misuse Act 1993 carries an imprisonment term of up to two years, a fine or both.

The Police take a serious view of these offences and will not hesitate to take action against individuals who may be involved in scams, and perpetrators will be dealt with in accordance with the law. To avoid being an accomplice to crime, members of the public should always reject seemingly attractive money-making opportunities promising pay-outs for the use of their Singpass account, bank accounts or allow their personal bank account to be used to receive and transfer money for others. The Police would like to remind members of the public that individuals will be held accountable if they are found to be linked to such crimes.

For more information on scams, members of the public can visit scamalert.sg or call the Anti-Scam Helpline at 1800-722-6688. Anyone with information on such scams may call the Police Hotline at 1800-255 0000 or submit information online at www.police.gov.sg/iwitness

I have a friend, let’s call her Jane, who is the kind of person who believes that her actions determine her social status. She will do anything to act as though she’s higher class than everyone else. She’s the type of person who only drinks wine because she believes that it’s the only “classy” drink.

I was recently at a dinner party with Jane and it was pretty obvious that she was trying to show off. She was constantly talking about how she only drinks wine and she was making sure that everyone noticed. I felt a little sorry for her because it was obvious to everyone that she was trying too hard.

I decided to have a little bit of fun with her.

I knew that she wouldn’t be able to tell the difference between wine and vinegar water, so I filled a glass with vinegar water and added a few drops of food colouring to make it look like wine. I then placed the glass in front of her and watched as she eagerly grabbed it and took a sip.

At first, she was taken aback by the sour taste of the vinegar water. But then she immediately tried to play it off and acted as though she was enjoying it. She even went as far as to say that it was “refreshing” and “unique”.

It was obvious to everyone that she didn’t realize that she had been tricked. She just kept drinking the vinegar water and pretending that it was wine. It was pretty funny to watch, but at the same time, it was a little sad.

It was obvious that Jane was so desperate to act like she was high-class that she was willing to drink something that she didn’t even know the taste of. It made me realize how easily people can be fooled and how we can easily be taken advantage of if we aren’t careful.

It also made me realize how important it is to stay true to ourselves and not try to be something we’re not. We can still act classy without having to drink wine or act like someone we’re not. It’s better to be ourselves and be confident in who we are, rather than trying to act like someone else.

I’m glad that I was able to share this experience with Jane and hopefully, it will help her to see that she doesn’t need to put on an act in order to be accepted. She can be herself and still be respected and accepted by everyone

A netizen shared how he recently lost his father to an accident and is experiencing grief for the first time, not knowing how to handle it.

Here is the story

Long story short, lost my father to an accident recently. As I’m only in my 20s, this is my first time feeling what actual grief is like.

We have always been close and I would always make it a point to eat dinner with him, no matter how late it is.

How do you guys handle grief? I understand that there’s always professional help but I would like to hear some other methods on getting over this hurdle. TIA.

Netizens’ comment

• There are 5 stages of grief. They’re like checkpoints for you to cross. You don’t have to cross it linearly. There will be days where you regress and have to ‘rerun’ this race. There is no special sauce in dealing with grief other than trusting that time will heal your wounds. You have to trust the process. When my grandfather died, I thought about him everyday when I wake up. It felt depressing but as the months rolled by, I thought of him less and less. That’s when I know I’m making progress.

Moving on and dealing with grief doesn’t mean we forget the loved ones that has passed, but rather, accepting the situation for what it is, taking the time to process your emotions and do our best to live a life they would have wanted us to live.

Today you might not be alright, and for awhile that might be the recurring theme. But one day, you’ll be okay. Lots of hugs for you. You’ll be okay. Keep busy in the mean time. As quickly as the negative emotions overwhelm you, as quickly it will recede.

• I lost my dad in my early 20s too. Even a decade later, I still dream sometimes that he’s alive and we somehow mistook somebody else’s death as his and we all happy after reuniting with him. The dream is always so happy, wake up and feel like shit.

The frequency of such dreams have reduced over the years but still happen occasionally man. Death of a close loved one is tough.

One quote from the marvel series that resonated with me a lot is: “What is grief if not love persevered”. just have to process it and accept it. There’s no other fucking way

When you enter into a relationship with someone, it’s important to recognize that everyone carries some form of emotional baggage. Whether it’s past relationships, family issues, or personal traumas, these experiences shape who we are.

Here is the story:

Right person, wrong time

We had 3 short years together. I know the love we had for each other was special, we both had never felt this way towards another. But we both had baggage that either of us couldn’t overcome, no matter how hard we tried.

I finally came to terms with it, and gave you the ultimatum. You decided to walk away, and i agreed. It was hard, super hard to walk away from you, from a love that was beyond special, from my twinflame. It was especially hard since we also work in the same company, luckily different offices… so we could avoid each other mostly.

We didn’t contact each other for months. And i moved on first. I found someone else who could accept me, and my baggage. You got to know, and you got angry, implying that you had the intention to find me back again.

My heart breaks that you’re reacting this way. I do understand the hurt and pain you must be feeling, but i feel its unfair coz we broke up cleanly, with no intention to get back together again. I still care deeply for you, even though I’m with someone else. I hope the future is kind to you. And i hope you’ll find someone who’s better suited for you, and loves you more than me, F.

Love,

F.

1. Understanding Their Baggage

The first step in dating someone with baggage is to understand the nature of their emotional burden. It could be a divorce, a difficult breakup, or unresolved family conflicts. Taking the time to listen and empathize with their past experiences is crucial. This lays the foundation for trust and open communication.

2. Patience is Key

Baggage doesn’t disappear overnight. It takes time for individuals to heal and work through their issues. Patience is a virtue in such relationships. Be prepared for moments when your partner may need extra support or space to process their emotions.

3. Open and Honest Communication

Communication is the cornerstone of any healthy relationship. Encourage your partner to share their thoughts and feelings with you. Create a safe space where they can open up without fear of judgment. In turn, express your own needs and concerns openly.

4. Boundaries

Establishing boundaries is essential when dating someone with baggage. Discuss what you’re comfortable with and what you’re not. Respect each other’s boundaries, as this will help prevent misunderstandings and conflicts.

5. Be Supportive

Offer your support but avoid trying to “fix” your partner. Sometimes, they may need a listening ear rather than solutions. Be there to reassure them that you’re by their side, no matter what.

6. Seek Professional Help

In some cases, the emotional baggage may be too heavy to handle alone. Encourage your partner to consider therapy or counseling if needed. Professional help can provide the tools and guidance necessary for healing.

7. Self-Care

Remember to take care of yourself in the relationship. Dating someone with baggage can be emotionally draining at times. Ensure that you have your own support system and engage in self-care practices to maintain your well-being.

8. Evaluate Your Compatibility

While love can conquer many challenges, it’s essential to assess whether your partner’s baggage aligns with your own values and long-term goals. Sometimes, despite the strong connection, compatibility issues may arise.

I just had an argument with a ‘feminist’ about why I shave my legs and armpits

I’m a young woman who suffers from sensory overload. The best way I can describe it is like having strobe lights being flashed into your eyes whilst being spun around and then being made to walk in a straight line.

It’s that kind of disorientating.

I know it’s not the same for everyone, but that’s my experience. I usually experience SO when there’s lots of noise, but every now and then when my arm and leg hair gets too long, I freak out.

It begins to hurt, first of all, and I get this thing about bugs being inside me. It freaks me out. It’s only happened a few times and I learned when to shave to avoid that feeling.

I recently got into an ‘argument’ with a roommate of mine who refuses to shave. I don’t give a shit, but they care about me and my habits. I was freshly shaven and in the communal area when this roommate comes in.

She looks at my legs and asks why I shave. I tell her I want to (I don’t like telling everyone about my SO unnecessarily). She then went on about ‘well you do it for men, no?’ and all of that.

After enduring a few minutes of this, I turned and said ‘if I don’t shave, I’d literally skin myself alive to get the imaginary bugs out of my skin. get lost.’

I’m so angry AND SHE CALLS HERSELF A FEMINIST.

Netizens’ comments

• Same for me!! my body hair drives me insane like when it rubs up against your pants! I shave for the same reason, i’d rather not be overstimulated or overwhelmed in my own body constantly!!

• Nothing to do with a feminist. She’s just full of hate imo. Hope you can change of roommate.

Also sorry to learn about SO and you suffering from it. Ofc carry on shaving if it helps!

• Some people just hide behind the word feminism to bully women and manipulate the narrative in a way you’re the one in the wrong for doing what’s best for you. They don’t even get what feminism is so don’t even bother with them.

A netizen shared how he is planning to divorce his wife on the 5th birthday of their son.

Here is the story:

Tomorrow is my son’s fifth birthday and i am going to give divorce papers to my wife.

This pandemic has destroyed my relationship. Her company fired her senior and she was promoted. From then on, my sweet and caring wife became a demanding and volatile freak.

She became a perfectionist and would yell at every little thing which isn’t done according to her. She started spending most of her time at her office.

When i tried to communicate with her about our relationship, she involved both of our family in this mess and i was labled as being jealous of my wife’s growth and wants to sabotage her.

Only thing which have kept me sane is my little one. And by my knowing of her, she wouldn’t let me have any custody of child.

Now when my son will turn 5, I will finally file for divorce and custody. But honestly, I am still in love with my wife and maybe it can open her eyes and save our relationship.

Netizen comments

My mother gave me a letter to give my dad on the day of my high school graduation asking for a divorce. I didn’t realize how messed up that was until I became a parent.

Instead of celebrating my own accomplishment… I was worried about stuff between my parents… that was my normal.

Don’t let this day be about you.