My 20-year-old daughter has a troubled relationship with her boyfriend who is one year older.

They’ve been dating since the age of 16 and break up constantly. She is moody and proud, always picks fights over small things and has a hard time apologizing. I was widowed last year and she has been living with me ever since. She’s not a good girlfriend, but she’s a great daughter.

Last year I noticed that she uses a really stupid tactic to attract him. She keeps some important things from him and when she wants to get back together, she tells him to get them. They talk, go to the bedroom and are together again. The funniest thing is that she always keeps important things hostage: school books, documents, work materials… This time it was a PlayStation 5.

I just don’t understand all this drama. They have broke up once more and I saw his console in a box. She wasn’t home, so I decided to send the box through a delivery app and text him to let him know. He thanked me a lot. When she arrived, she noticed that the box was no longer at our house. I said what I had done and now she is mad at me.

She says I’m being an “extra” for having delivered an object that wasn’t mine. In my defence, I said the console wasn’t hers either.

She calls me a busybody and I’m feeling guilty, but I believe she needs to stop acting so immature.

Did I do wrong?

Here are what netizens think:

Get your daughter some help and tell her you won’t tolerate this kind of behaviour in your house.

If she’s been doing this for years then the boyfriend is probably used to it, yet strangely doesn’t pack all his stuff up when he leaves.

This is a typical Stockholm syndrome, ur daughter might be a psychopath.

My family is low key wealthy, but my parents have made sure that we are never flashy about it. We live in the same place we’ve lived for about 15 years, don’t have flashy clothes and cars, and generally make sure we’re spending money on experiences rather than objects.

Cue my younger sister, who is totally spoilt and for some reason feels extremely entitled to “her share” of the wealth. She just turned 21 and I think part of it is her finally getting information about her trust and in general how we stand. I’m 25, and the older one, so I sorta known about all this for a while now.

Anyway, long story short, my sister ended up going car shopping with my GF for expensive new cars (Porsches!). My dad had not approved anything so I don’t know what she’s going to do but apparently, she flashed my dad’s credit card and talked up to the salesmen about how much money she had to spend. My GF was shocked that me driving a simple unassuming 10-year-old Toyota will have a sister throwing 150k at a 2nd hand car!

We had a huge discussion and ended up fighting about it – she was shocked at roughly how much money we had and told me I was a tad selfish for not mentioning it when she had uni debt. Honestly, we’ve only been dating for 2 years and I was thinking after about a year I would propose if things are going well and start this discussion. It’s all happened a little too soon.

I’m really mad at my sister and kinda laid it out on her. Told her how immature and selfish she was and how she is undoing everything our parents worked hard for to instil values in us.

She told me I had to grow up and I’m a wet blanket.

When I was four years old my father and mother divorced because he cheated on her. They had a really rough divorce and had lots of fights. Eventually, the divorce was settled and my mother and father could move on.

My father married his mistress, who I’ll call ‘E’ as to respect her privacy. My father was really happy with her and me and my sister got a stepbrother and two stepsisters with whom we got along really well.

Skip forward two years and ‘E’ started acting different and so was my father. My and my sister often couldn’t visit our father because he had to ‘work’, whilst in reality he was free.

When I and my sister were there we often weren’t allowed to eat at the table, which seven-year-old me didn’t understand.

Eventually, my father started becoming more distant, he didn’t wish me happy birthday anymore and missed a lot of important milestones in my childhood, like learning to ride my bike or events at school.

When I was nine my sister and I could only visit four days a month and had to sleep in separate rooms. I vividly remember that during one weekend that we were there I had accidentally broken a glass and ‘E’ had turned furious. She send me upstairs and had me take my socks off which nine-year-old me found really weird.

Then she showed me a piece of glass she held in her hand and said that this is what I deserved for my clumsiness. She pushed the shard of glass into the sole of my foot. I yelled and cried and tried to remove my leg from her grasp when I felt a hand on my shoulder.

It was my father’s hand, he was helping ‘E’ do this, I don’t remember what happened after that.

‘E’ also got into a huge fight with my sister and had pulled her by her hair down to the basement. After these two occasions, we decided to break all contact and tell our mother what had happened (we hadn’t told her before because, well he was our father) .

My mother knew this was serious but she was too afraid to alert the police since my father had threatened her with violence before.

Skip forward another five years, I was fourteen and at the same school my former stepsiblings attended.

Once I saw them all the memories started rising again. My two stepsisters were mean to everyone and lots of people hated them. Me and a couple of friends decided to retaliate and secretly put cigarettes in their bags

Apparently, this had caused a huge fight in their home and my father and ‘E’ decided to divorce. After this ‘E’ got into serious financial troubles and even became a prostitute, and my father became an alcoholic.

Yet in some sick way I don’t feel any remorse. My sister has been dealing with a severe eating disorder after all the ill-treatment from ‘E’ and has been hospitalised twice.

Now me and my sister are doing better, though we still have traumas.

We’ve thought about starting a lawsuit but because of our ages during the incidents legal advisors have advised us to just ‘move on’.

Anyway… I’m in a real moral dilemma: I did something that caused horrible things, yet I don’t feel any remorse, am I a psychopath?

yesterday my dad went through my phone and now im uncomfortable around him

yesterday my dad decided to take it upon himself to go through my phone. it wasnt that big of a deal, as i have nothing to hide from him, but i did ask him to not go through my photos.

he and i both know that i have some pictures that i would much rather him not see, but he did go through them. multiple times.

he went through my snap memories at least three times, slowing down his scrolling when he knew that “naughty” photos would visible.

he swiped to “my eyes only” and tried to figure out the password, knowing exactly what was in there as well.

now, he already knows that “active” with other guys, considering i am legally an adult. we even talk about intimacy sometimes, with little to no detail.

afterwards, though, he asked me in detail about my kinks and i told him that i wasnt comfortable discussing that topic with him.

i said that 3 times, and each time, he continued to talk about it. i didnt say anything. he told me about his worst kink, which i did NOT ask for at all.

he said it was a “sleeping mommy” kink. the worst part about that is the fact that his wife, my stepmom, was sleeping on him at the time.

he told me that directly after asking me if i wanted to squeeze her chest. i said no. he insisted once before apologizing.

it was then that i realized he was trying to use me to fuel one of his kinks. i no longer feel comfortable with or around him but i dont have the means to move out yet. i feel sick to my stomach now. i hate him.

side note: i changed my password on my phone and will not be giving it to him if he asks.

I work a mini-mart and a customer came in to buy a bottle of drinks. Her total came out to be $1.50 and she proceed to drop a whole bunch of change on the table. She then separated the 5 cents from the rest of the small change and gave me $1.45. After realizing she was short a 5 cents, she then tells me she’ll bring me the 5 cents the next day (while holding a bunch of coins and notes in her other hand).

I asked her why not just give me money and switch out some of the smaller coins and we’ll be even. She said no. Then I asked her why not just give me one of the $2 notes that she’s holding right in front of me. She says no. Usually, I let this go but she literally has extra money that she’s flashing in front of me. I asked her again and she yells at me “I’LL BRING IT TOMORROW”

Five days have passed and she shows up. She aggressively drops her bottle at the filling station and walks away to the market. When she comes back to pay, she gives me 5 cents and then gives me 2 dollars to pay for her bottle. I told her I wasn’t upset about the 5 cents but was upset about the fact that you had the money but refused to pay.

She said she needed the coins but then I asked her about the notes she was holding that day. She then got upset and yelled out “I’M NOT COMING BACK HERE ANYMORE”

So am I wrong for arguing with a customer about 5 cents?

Here are what netizens think:

She is a cheapo and just wanna get rid of the 5 cent coins.

You should call the Police, not paying and not enough paying is the same as stealing. later your boss scold u then u know.

I am a research fellow (31 y/o, 171cm, 56 kg) doing research in AI at a local university with a bring home monthly salary of $7.5k. The thing is, there is a shortage of ladies in this field and even the remaining few are either attached or married.

Moreoever, I do not want to use Tinder or other dating apps because I find those a waste of time and even if I get matches, the girls will show their true colors during actual meet up and exploit me for free treats. Anyone who is 30 yo and above in a similar situation as me? How do you guys find your SO?

Here are what netizens think:

• Better to be single than u regret later. Let fate take its course better. Dont force it.

• 7.5k is not enough to survive. better stay as single

• From your past experiences, we can conclude you deem to be single for good. What is wrong with free treats free holidays free gifts? A lady who earns double your salary won’t look up on you anyway. Grow up!

• Why don’t you put your research skills in researching on how to woo a woman with your 7.5k salary… I’m sure you will be able to settle this in no time the rest of us here who had a partner are all just plain lucky 

• It’s better to be single n happy n to be with a gold digger. or some high maintenance lady with princess syndrome. Usually such marriage doesnt last long. Just be yourself n spend time with your loved ones and what make u happy

• I think we actually should be single in life.. what’s the point of having babies? The olds said.. have someone in futures.. but.. how sure u r to take cares of u?

• In the old days…there was a term called “potong jalan” ….the rest is up to you…