A netizen shared how his wife works for a minimart as a storekeeper, working from 11am to 8pm, and her employer refuses to let her go out for her lunch break.

He said that her employer makes her eat at the shop and she has to stop eating when a customer comes in to serve them.

He also said that the employer monitors her via the CCTV and asks her where is she if the employer can’t see her on the CCTV.

Here is what he said

Denied Lunch breaks by employer

So my wife is working at a minimart as a storekeeper/cashier. She is the only employee. She works 5.5 days per week. 11am to 8pm on Mon to Thurs and Saturdays. She works 11am to 3pm on Fridays.

On Saturdays(busiest day), her employer does not allow her to close the shop for her lunch break which means she eats in the store and has to stop everytime a customer comes in. She is still technically at work, and working.

I have been on MOM and she is entitled to a minimum of 45 mins break for every 8 hours of work. i have also seen shops with the ‘closed for lunch break’ sign so its perfectly normal.

Being the only employee, if she were to bring this up to MOM, she would be found out and could risk being fired. Plus her employer is quite the a-hole, always monitoring the cameras and asking her whereabouts if she cant be seen.

Is there any way this can be resolved?

Female boss hitting on me, GF wants to breakup 7 yr relationship

For a bit of context, I (28M) have been on a 7 year relationship with my GF (27F) and we have been living together for almost a year now.

However, for the past 5 months, I have been approached by a senior manager (who is 2 levels above me in my company). First she (31F) invited for some 5 minutes coffee machine breaks, then she started a project and choose me for that project, and then for a drink and for dinner.

I thought that I was being valued for my performance and developing a good relation with my boss, however she told me she had feelings for me, and I explained to her that I didn’t feel the same, I had a GF and was building a life with her. After this conversation, she stopped the moves for a while.

Some weeks later, she called me to advise there was an open position for team leader in another department and that I should apply to it. She also told me she could give some tips, and we agreed to meet after work, and I cleared up that it wouldn’t be any date or something, just as work friends.

Long story short, I always told my GF what was happening, however seeing as she reacted, I hid some things from her, and this is where i messed up.

I didn’t tell my GF of all the times I was with her, and lied to her about not being woth her. Also, there were some company events where she was and I didn’tell my GF to avoid a fight. However I NEVER considered cheating, and wasn’t attracted or anything.

My GF saw some messages in my company laptop and found out about it. She moved out and thinks I cheated on her. I have no idea what to do. Any help?

I’ve known this guy for years. He works in USA, 14000+ km away. He earns like USD 9k per month minimum, the company paid for the car and housing, and he got bonuses for being expat in a foreign country.

He can only return to Singapore once a year. We talked on a daily basis for hours using whatever means of communication – videocall, whatsapp, instagram, everything. I literally switched on my camera the whole time by the time he got home until his bedtime, like a CCTV, solely to make sure he’s not lonely in such a foreign country.

My (F29) cousin Nicolas (M30) has always acted like he was better than me for as long as I can remember.

From primary school (we went to the same school) to uni, to my adult years, he always has something negative to say about me and what I’m doing in my life.

It has always bothered me, but I mostly always just take it and gritted my teeth.

For context, I am saving up to buy a home in the next year or so and get married to my GF.

Initially, we were going to get a place together but held off as she was not ready for that step. We have been dating for a year and four months.

My girlfriend is staying on her own as she moved away from her parents for personal reasons. I have been staying in a small flat and I am in the midst of renting it out for some extra income.

For the time being and to save money since we did not get a place together, I decided to stay at home with my parents. I suggested that for the time being until her rental lease expires next year that she use my stuff and wait to buy new furniture until we moved in together.

This was initially fine but now she wants nothing to do with my furniture.

She said: “It’s ugly and I don’t want it in our new place“.

I am willing to accommodate a style that is both hers and mine as my old flat definitely has “bachelor” vibes.

So while I am okay with getting new furniture I don’t agree with buying all this stuff before we even know what the new place we are going to move into looks like let alone shell out a bunch of cash for stuff that only she approves as acceptable furniture.

I think waiting is the smart decision but with black deals going around and the couch she specifically wants heavily discounted this has been brought up again and is causing turmoil in our relationship.

She has been spending money on a lot of new furniture and it is affecting her share of the monthly savings as she bought most of it on credit card instalments.

Here are what netizens think:

• Take your furniture back and put it storage. If she wants to spend her money that’s her choice. Don’t contribute to her purchases. The fact that she got an apt rather than live with you, isn’t a good sign. If you’re buying a house solely in your name, it’s for the best that you don’t make any joint purchases on furniture. If the relationship fails, than it’s less hassle when she moves out.

• If she wants new furniture that’s fine, but make sure she realizes that when y’all live together you do not agree to her having sole say over the decor. How she reacts is important.

• Some people prefer to enjoy now and suffer later. You might have to think twice before marrying her.

Just by thinking about how long you will need to work in order to earn the amount you need to pay the car loan off.

Buying a car is a huge turn-off but many people who don’t even need a car are buying it to fuel their Ego.

Am I better off spending that $1000+/mth elsewhere?

e.g. Car ~$73,000, monthly income ~$3,800. Are you willing to trade about 19 months of your life just to own a car that will last you 10 years? Then trade some more of your life to fund ownership costs?

99% of the time you can grab anywhere every day (even if more than to and from work) and still come up spending less per month.

I used to own a car for convenience, which adds up if you make more than 2 trips a day. Plus I bring my dogs around. Plus I really appreciate sleeping more each morning before work, which is relatively near but difficult to travel to by public transport.

Even if I grab (assuming 2x$20 )a day, it only works out to be ($40X5 working daysX4 weeks) $800 a month. Not to mention the fact that I can choose to take public transport on some days if I want to. It’s probably a more financially woke idea to not buy a car. Unless you really need it xd

Is owning a car a bad financial choice in Singapore?

I can grab/gojek to work and back every single day and it still costs less than owning a car. The other potential uses for a car just don’t add up to justify it.

A car is good if you can afford it. Problem is, that many people think “affording” it means being able to meet monthly instalments and maintenance. I already have a few friends in trouble right now. They could meet the monthly payments, but those amounts were also a big chunk of their now non-existence pay.

My 5-year anniversary with my husband was last week. The traditional gift for 5 years has always been some jewellery. I wanted a new gold chain and told my husband that he could get it for me as a gift.

I knew he wanted an Apple Watch and I bought that as my gift to him.

On the day of our anniversary, I read about the latest prices of gold and how people are wearing fake gold to flaunt their wealth. But I think it could never happen to me.

When the time came to exchange gifts, he gleefully opened his Apple Watch and began setting it up. I figured in all the excitement he forgot to give me my gift, so I gently prodded him. He told me to check my bag.

Ladies and gentlemen, my husband placed a toy hamster in my bag and said that was my gift.

I knew that he liked to joke, so I waited, and he finally gave me a nice thick gold chain at the end of the night.

While I was checking out the gold chain, I accidentally fell down and hit the chain against the kitchen counter.

I pick myself up and the gold chain and realised that the gold chain had chipped and it reveals a dark metal inside.

I realised it is a gold-plated chain or either it is not even gold at all and thought if I should confront my husband about it.

What should I do?

I have been working with a company for five years. I am very grateful for my job and the opportunities it has given me.

Recently, I have been experiencing major burnout and am on the verge of quitting and getting another job.

Our management is not the best, we’ve had to get at least 4 new store managers in the time I have been there, there’s a lot of favouritism and people getting involved with each other but that’s beside the point.