Do you wonder how your ex is doing?

Do you sometimes wonder how your ex is doing?

I mean I’m happily married and happy with my current life. But someone I wonder how is my ex doing. I won’t intentionally seek him out and talk to him as that’s not what I want as I also think it’s best to leave things in the past.

I was with my bf for a year. Throughout the entire time I know he has some family issues because of his parents. Sometime he skips school for days because he has to help his mother or something happened to his dad. I had a fairly secure childhood so I know I am more sheltered compared to him and may not be able to fully understand the stress he feels at home. I do try to be supportive but he doesn’t really want to talk about it much.

Once he went missing for almost a week and skipped school. He did respond to me but only after long hours. I was oblivious even though I asked as he didn’t tell me much until it’s over. He said they were trapped at home for days because of loan sharks and they moved out in the middle of the night. He didn’t want me to worry so he kept conversations to a minimum that time. I was horrified for him but glad to know they have since resolved the issue. He said he found a solution together with his siblings. I also found out this is not the first time they suddenly moved house.

Not long after that his dad had a vehicle accident. He didn’t tell me until his father was discharged from the hospital. He went missing on and off during that time too. I wished he told me so I could have at least supported him.

Come Christmas week, we finally had some time to meet as he’s been so busy working part time after school hours. I had visited his workplace just to see him on days when I miss him but he discouraged me once exams were near.

He finally told me he wants to break up. He said he doesn’t want to brag me into his life. He also thinks I will no longer be my happy self should I continue to be with him. It was then he revealed more of his family issues to me. He’s been working for someone who pays better. As he needed the money to pay back his family debts he continued the job even though it was not a decent one. He didn’t want me to be tainted by any of this so he felt it’s best that we end things. He said he can imagine me living a happy life with someone else and he definitely won’t be able to give me any of that because of his family.

As he left me, I cried and cried. I couldn’t understand why he chose to keep these a secret from me. I couldn’t eat or sleep for a few days and I felt something inside me literally died. By the time I tried to ingest food, I remembered I vomited repeatedly. It took me a while to recover enough to go through the daily motions of life. Our friends didn’t know about his family situation so I had no one for support. I didn’t tell my family either. Everyone just thought he got tired of me and dumped me.

Eventually I let go and moved on from what happened. I guess I was a wreak then and combined with my poor judgement, ended up with a narcissistic stalker. Even though it was short lived, it traumatised me for a year. After that I was angry with myself, I was angry about everything for quite a while.

It took me another period of peace before I met my husband who I’ve been with for the last 15 years. To live a peaceful life is truly a bliss. I’m grateful to end up with my husband.

I’ve not heard from my ex since he left me. I don’t know if he’s left the country, started a family or anything. I do hope he pulled through and that he’s happy today. After all, he was a kid stuck in an awful situation. Looking back, I respect his maturity for stepping up to help his parents.

A few times over the years when his birthday gets near I will be reminded of him and wonder how he is.

Happy birthday, O. You’ve probably long forgotten about me. Wherever you are, I wish that you’re happy.

Help! My girlfriend has a wet armpit problem.

Large patches of sweat often appear on her armpit area and her back is always wet. It does not help that she often likes to wear tight-fitting grey clothing or a light-coloured shirt and therefore the wet patches are very obvious.

And mind you – it is not that she is working out; we could be in an LT attending a lecture together and I could see wet patches forming with a musty sour odour

Sometimes it is soaked to the extent that the fabric sticks to her skin. Worse when she wears white and her skin and undergarments become see-thru. She has tried deodorant and even putting pads on her armpits but the sweat seeps thru.

Do you think she has hyperhidrosis? How should I approach this? Frankly, I don’t find that too much of an issue but I’m afraid my reputation will take a hit when I go out with her. Anybody here can give health advice? I’m in a dilemma!

Here are what netizens think:

• All the people posting here think that they are perfect and their other halves are not Sometimes I wonder are they even suitable to be in a relationship?

• What reputation you have? You’re JJ Lin or our national treasure ah? Find solutions with her luh.

• A friend had this issue. It was a medical problem and she got a minor surgery done for it. Didn’t eliminate the problem but reduced it. Do ask her to see a doctor… if it bother her. You haven’t mentioned much about how she feels about it.

• everything was going okay until you mention it was because of your reputation

• The solution – only hang out in Aircon environments. No taking bus or MRT. And u pay everything for her. Then your reputation and approval ratings will surely be stellar.

I had been dating for almost five years. We had met while we were both in poly, and had grown closer and closer as the years went by.

We agreed that marriage was the next logical step and had started to make plans for the big day when suddenly her parents stepped in and threw a spanner in the works.

My GF had come from a traditional Chinese family and her China parents had always been very conservative.

They had never been particularly keen on the idea of her having a Singaporean boyfriend but had grudgingly accepted it until now. Her parents had suddenly surprised us by demanding I pay them a dowry of $100,000 if we wanted to get married.

Yes in Singapore dollars!

This was a huge shock to me. I had grown up SG culture and had never even heard of such a thing. I had no idea why his parents were asking for such a large sum of money. To me, it felt like a bribe. I was offended and angry at the same time.

My gf was also taken aback by her parents’ demand. She tried to reason with them, explaining that we loved each other and that money had nothing to do with it. But her parents refused to budge. They said that if I didn’t pay the dowry, then our marriage would be a disgrace in their eyes.

I asked why so a huge amount, and her reply made me explode: “Because you Singaporean more money that’s why the amount is higher”.

I was so hurt and confused. I felt like I was being judged on my financial status rather than on my character. I also felt guilty that my relationship with her was causing so much upset. We had no idea what to do.

We eventually decided that the only way forward was to split up or she goes behind her parents back.

But being the traditional PRC woman she refused and we eventually split up.

I was on vacation in Thailand, and I was looking for a good massage.

I had heard that the tuk-tuk drivers were a great source of information, so I decided to ask one of them for a recommendation.

The driver smiled and told me about a place that was filled with over 100 women, all waiting to give me a massage. I was sceptical at first, but he assured me that it was a great place and that I would have a great time.

I told him if there is really 100 women I will tip him 500 baht.

So I took his advice and hopped in the tuk-tuk. We drove for about 20 minutes, and eventually, we arrived at a hotel. I was a little nervous, but I paid the driver and went inside.

He followed me inside and I had to really tip him 500 baht after seeing a gigantic fish tank there is 180 degrees curve fish tank. There were so many!

As soon as I walked through the door, I was greeted by a sea of women. They were all smiling and beckoning me over, eager to give me a massage. I felt a little overwhelmed, but I decided to go with my gut and choose a woman who looked friendly and approachable.

She led me to a private room, and I sat down at the massage table. She started to rub my shoulders, and I felt my tension and stress melt away. I was starting to relax and enjoy myself.

She was gentle and skilled, and I quickly relaxed and let go of all my tension. As she worked, I couldn’t help but smile – I was in heaven.

When the massage was over, I felt incredible. I was relaxed and happy, and I

I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost a year now and we are both very happy. We’ve been through a lot together and have grown closer and stronger as a couple.

We recently decided to take a trip together and agreed that a visit to Legoland would be the perfect destination. My boyfriend was very excited and began planning the trip, but little did I know, he had something else in mind.

A few days before we were supposed to leave, my boyfriend told me that he had a surprise for me. I was beyond excited and couldn’t wait to find out what it was. To my surprise, he had bought me a one-way single ticket to Legoland. I was shocked, and a little bit confused, but I thought it was a really sweet gesture.

However, my boyfriend then explained that he had bought himself a one-way single ticket to Japan and was planning to go without me. I was completely taken aback. I couldn’t believe that he would do something like this without discussing it with me first.

When I asked him why he was going to Japan without me, he told me that he wanted to surprise me and show me how much he loved me by giving me the opportunity to experience something new and exciting.

He said that he didn’t like Legoland, and he would go to Japan instead.

At first, I was hurt and angry. I felt like he was taking advantage of my trust and our relationship. I felt like he was trying to manipulate me into doing something I didn’t want to do.

This was his way of telling me to break up

He said that I did not consider his feelings and always insist on going or eating what I want and he never had a chance to object or suggest.

He said that I will always find problems and start quarrelling with him if he disagrees with anything.

Am I really such a B**?

I dono what to do…

How do y’all cope?

Broke up with a guy I’ve been seeing for a year and a half hrecently because we seem to bring out the worst in each other and have major unresolvable issues- quarrelling every week over silly lame things, calling it quits at least once a month and attempting to go thru with it, not being understanding to each other’s wants and needs, and jus overall, a bad fit due to circumstances.

Can’t believe this tiring situation actually went on for so long.

Not sure abt him but… Despite evaluating everything and knowing that this is the right choice to make, the feeling I have for him is still real and it still hurts a crazy lot.

I know we shouldn’t be together and a part of me shudder at the thought of having to go thru all these again but I can’t seem to let it go and this feeling really sucks big time. Feels like a mental torture.

I know it’s standard relationship fanfare and many have gone thru this phase but…

Any suggestions on healthy ways to move forward from here?

Here are what netizens think:

• You are trying to forget something by focusing on it , won’t work well that way. Go n do something else you enjoy to keep yourself occupied:)

• That’s call life lessons. Not everyone who enters your life is going to stick around or meet your expectations. The sooner you realize it, the easier your life will be.

• Focus on yourself. Pick up a healthy hobby. Talk to someone that’s reliable. If not, just write things down in diary. Go out and walk around in nature, beach side or just nearby park. Things can be tough, but with time, eventually everything will pass by.

• It’s good that you realised that it’s bad and worse to continue. And having the courage to cut it off now is probably the best decision you ever made in your life. Go out there, meet new friends, talk to people, go do activities that you’ve never done before… Catch up with friends, enjoy singlehood! Applause to you babe !

• think hard….if he is a pain ..would you go back to the pain? just go out and enjoy yourself..mixed with more people..love self more, improve on self…learn to sing..learn to bake ect… there are so many things to do besides “love” really…walk towards pleasure in life

• This kind of stuff time is the only cure, plus keep yourself occupied with your hobby.