I crapped my pants at work and never came back. My wife still doesn’t know the truth about why I suddenly became unemployed

I can’t believe I’m actually writing this out.

Six years ago I landed my dream job at my dream company and was doing amazingly well for myself. My wife was pregnant with our son at the time and everything really felt like it was falling into place.

Although I was experiencing lots of success at work, there were times where internally I’d struggle really hard. I’ve had pretty bad anxiety my whole life, but I’ve always been good at “masking” if you will.

On the outside it looked like I was this super ambitious, dedicated employee. But on the inside I knew that was the result of trying to overcompensate for my anxiety issues.

I was promoted into a managerial role after just 7 months and my team was awarded as most successful of the quarter.

Here’s where things fall apart. I have a sensitive stomach and I also have issues with pooping in public restrooms. Those things do not mix well with already existing anxiety.

I had a pretty important meeting that I was leading with a few VPs and directors present. I tried my best to get through it but I had a terrible stomach ache and needed to use the bathroom badly.

I was already nervous which made me need to go even more. I started sweating bullets and 25 minutes into the presentation, I lost complete control and crapped my pants. In the middle of the meeting. In front of so many people.

It was immediately obvious what had happened. I simply left the room without saying a word and never came back.

I didn’t initially plan to ditch the job, but the more I thought about it the more embarrassment I felt. How could I honestly face any of my coworkers ever again? My team would never respect me, and I’d forever be known as the guy that crapped his pants during a meeting at work. I just couldn’t handle the shame and embarrassment of it.

I never told my wife the truth about what happened. After a few days of me not going to work she started to ask questions. I told her I’d been fired for a mistake I made, when the truth is that I just left and never showed back up.

We struggled for a good year due to my sudden unemployment, which was especially difficult with a new baby. The guilt eats away at me some days but I don’t think my wife would ever forgive me or look at me the same way if I ever told her the truth about what happened.

Any benefits in giving birth in Singapore as a foreigner?

My husband and I are working in Singapore. We both are foreigners. I wanted to consider both the options of delivering my baby in my home country India where the cost is way cheaper ($2000) and delivering in Singapore ($8000-17000).

I have a minimal idea of pros and cons in delivering a child in Singapore. Ideally we want to get a PR here and settle as soon as possible. Will delivering a child here help with that? Any other benefits?

I am not worried too much about the cost as my husband will be coming back and forth to visit me in India. The other costs in India may equate to just delivering a child in Singapore.

Here are what netizens think

• There is no benefit in giving birth in Singapore, will not help your PR application, and if you have any complications, the medical cost will be hefty. You’ll need to have comprehensive insurance or deep pockets.
  
  The only benefit, Singapore’s maternal mortality rate and infant mortality rate is super low. The odds are in your favour.
  
• What about other family or support after giving birth? If you can get more accessible support from your husband in Singapore, then maybe it might be better to do it here?
  
  Otherwise if there are more people to take care of you back home then maybe that might be more comfortable
  
• Being born in SG does not necessarily qualify as an S.C., even for children with PR parents.
  
  You want benefits? Try your home country, and for a start, you’d be paying 60% to 90% less on costs with the delivery, and if it’s a son, you needn’t stress over NS.
  
  Genuine advice, go back to India.
  
• Singapore has better healthcare system overall, so it’s just safer, imo anyways. But it doesn’t help with your application at all I would say. If not people will just come to Singapore right before they give birth for a 100% PR/ SC status lol

When I first started working at my company, I had no idea that my every move was being watched and monitored.

I had heard rumors that companies monitored their employees’ activities on social media, but I had no idea how serious it was until it happened to me.

I posted on my Facebook something about my company and got sacked the following day

I had been with the company for a few months when I noticed something strange going on. There were things going on behind the scenes that I didn’t agree with, but I kept my mouth shut.

That is, until one day I had had enough.

I decided to take to social media and vent my frustrations. I posted a status update on my Facebook account complaining about my employer and the things they were doing.

I thought I was just letting off some steam, but I had no idea how serious the consequences would be.

The next day, I was called into my boss’s office and told that I was being let go. When I asked why, I was told that my post on social media had been seen by the company and that it was inappropriate.

I was shocked and embarrassed, and I couldn’t believe what had happened. I had made the mistake of airing my company’s dirty laundry on social media, and it had cost me my job.

I had learned the hard way that companies are watching your every move on social media and that it’s not a good idea to air your grievances in a public forum.

I had gone from having a good job to being unemployed in the course of a single day. It’s a lesson to learn and it is one that I will never forget.

So, if you’re considering airing your company’s dirty laundry on social media, think twice. Companies are watching your every move and the consequences can be severe.

My story is a cautionary tale that I hope will serve as a warning to others.

Don’t make the same mistake that I did and think twice before airing your grievances on social media.

I had been working with the same team for almost three years now. We had a really good working relationship with each other and we were all quite happy with our job.

My manager wanted to score ‘brownie points’ with the boss, made us do much more than our expected workload

But lately, my manager had been trying to get into the boss’ good books by making us do more work than what was expected.

As time went on, it became clear that our manager was only trying to show the boss that he was good at managing people and making us work harder than we should.

This meant that our workloads kept getting bigger and bigger, and none of us were willing to do more because we already had a lot on our plates.

At this point, I was starting to get really frustrated and angry. I had been working hard all these years and now my manager was trying to take credit for my work by making us do extra tasks.

I decided to speak to my manager about the issue and asked him to stop pushing us with more work.

Unfortunately, he didn’t seem to understand my point and only kept insisting that we had to do more to impress the boss.

Eventually, I had to take a stand and tell him that none of us were willing to do more work. He got really angry and scolded us for not doing our job properly.

But I was not going to give up and told him that we were already working hard and that we could not handle the extra workloads.

Threatened to give us the sack if we do not comply with his instructions

Unfortunately, this didn’t go down well with my manager and he decided to take matters into his own hands. He started to threaten us with dismissal if we didn’t agree to do more work.

This put us in a difficult situation as none of us wanted to lose our jobs.

In the end, we all had to agree to do the extra work, even though it was already too much for us. But it was clear that none of us was happy with the situation.

We all felt like our manager was taking advantage of us and trying to show the boss that he was good at managing people.

It was a really bad ending to the situation and none of us felt great about it.

We all knew that our manager was only trying to make a good impression, but it came at the cost of our own happiness and well-being.

I have been single for some time now, and it has been quite the journey. I am in my early thirties, and I know that I am not the only one in my age group who is single.

I have been on a few dates with people who are much younger than me, and I want to share my experience to warn others.

Thinks that dating someone too young and immature is tiring

I am of the opinion that dating someone too young is not a good idea. I believe this is because they are often still immature, and this can often lead to arguments and fights over little things and honestly speaking, it is very tiring/

I also think that those in my age group are more mature and better suited to me. However, most of the people my age are already attached or married.

It was clear to me that if I wanted to find someone to date, I would need to look outside of my age group. This is why I started to date someone much younger than me.

However, we ended up arguing and fighting over small matters all the time. I realized that I had made a mistake in thinking that she was mature enough for the relationship.

I think that this is because no matter the age, some people are just not ready to commit to a relationship.

I also realized that it is not only the age gap that can cause issues in a relationship, but also the maturity levels of the people involved.

I think that if two people are at the same maturity level, then age does not matter. However, if one person is more mature than the other, then there can be a problem.

Wants to find someone around the same age, but mostly taken up

In the end, I decided that I would be better off dating someone closer to my own age. I think that this is because there is a better chance of finding someone who is at the same maturity level as me.

I also think that it is easier to build a stronger connection with someone who is closer to my own age.

Then, the problem comes again because people around my age are mostly already attached or married and some even have kids already.