My (31M) son’s resemblance to my brother (30M) is shaking my confidence. How do I handle this while keeping my family together?

I am desperate for some guidance or advice. I have literally no idea what to do and the anxiety is too much.

“Clara” (28F) and I have been in a committed relationship for 8 years. We were over the moon when she gave birth to our son “Nathan” a couple of months ago.

It’s a joy watching him grow, but there’s been this lingering thought that I can’t shake off.

Nathan, as he’s beginning to show more distinct features, has started to look uncannily like my older brother “Alex.” Even friends and some family members are pointing out the resemblance.

Feeling overwhelmed, I approached Clara about my concerns. She seemed hurt but tried to reassure me by highlighting the genetic similarities within families and mentioning how Alex and I looked alike in our childhood photos.

The thought of a DNA test crossed my mind, but Clara is entirely against it, saying it undermines the trust in our relationship. I’m torn between my love for Nathan and the need for peace of mind.

How do I tackle this sensitively without jeopardizing my relationship with Clara? Is it unfair of me to want some sort of confirmation?

Netizens’ comments

1. My daughter looks exactly like my husband’s sister. It’s annoying as a mom because I kinda was expecting her to look like me (maybe not expecting, but hoping…lol). My husband and his sister do not look alike at all. It’s funny how genetics work!
2. You are aware that a child gets access to your entire family tree for DNA, right? It’s not a button you hit that blends your features and your wife’s into some average of the both of you.
   If the kid looked uncannily like your father or grandfather would you be acting like this? If the kid looked uncannily like one of her siblings would you be accusing her of incest?
3. Come on mate. This sounds like something you need to unpack with a therapist. You are your brother share genes. You and your son share genes. I’ve got three kids and the whole family loves pointing out features that are ‘family traits’. It’s completely normal. As he ages you’ll find his face changes and he’ll look more like you, or your wife, or your father-in-law. It’s all good.

Why are old people in Singapore such c-ts? I’ve never met a group of more selfish, kiasu, racist, inconsiderate fkers anywhere, especially in public spaces.

This mfker was occupying the entire escalator right in the centre this morning during peak hour. I brushed past him and he genuinely tried to shove me like a weak b-ch lol.

This is the problem with Singapore being a police state I guess. People not afraid to act like a-holes cause there’s no chance of repercussions for lack of civic mindness.

I asked him if it was his mother’s escalator lol. Fking dog. Where are they all in a rush to anyway

Netizens’ comments

1. I don’t think you understand what the phrase “police state” mean lol, you’re using it wrongly.
2. You haven’t seen the old and wealthy yet
3. Old people in Singapore are entitled.
   It’s a well-known fact.
4. because AsIaN vAlUeS or something makes them think the world owes them deference.
5. Bruh those that cut queues in MRT too. Especially those really crowded mrt and most of us are just queuing at the 2 sides of the door and hoping to be able to squeeze in but always some fker just cut the queue and enter from the middle
6. Because we moved from third-world to first within one lifetime. Hence, many of the old mentalities still exists.
7. Rushing to get reincarnated. It’s their time
8. OMG , I experienced the same issue this morning!! When the lift was fully occupied, some idiots just won’t understand the logic of waiting for the other lift. They kept pressing on the button outside causing our lift to not close
9. A lot of old people are rude, not just in Singapore. It’s everywhere. Let’s hope we don’t end up like them when we grow old.
10. Sometimes saying “excuse me” also pointless just ignore. Old people here just dgaf .

Requested time off a month ago, it was approved. GM didn’t pay attention when making the schedule and claims I have no choice and need to come in. Do I have too?

How is that fair? I requested 3 days off a month ago. I got the first two off then I was scheduled on the 3rd day.

I told them hey you accidentally scheduled me and the GM told me “find cover or come in, not my problem.” Do I seriously have to go in?

I already requested that day off because yesterday was my birthday, and I knew I was gonna get drunk. You only turn twenty one once!! I’m reaaallyy hungover today.

GM said I HAVE to come in. Why? It’s not my fault they made the schedule wrong. My time off was approved!! I have evidence of it being approved!

Can they legally fire me if I don’t come in today?

Netizens’ comments

1. Your mistake was calling the schedule to his attention. I know you only turn 21 once, but there will be many times in life that you want time off. So next time, just keep your mouth shut, stay away from work and don’t answer your phone and tell them “I didn’t see that — I didn’t even look at the schedule because my three days off was confirmed a month in advance.”
2. Tell him it was his job to find coverage and he messed that up. You’re not the one who made the mistake. And if he tries to get you in trouble (like a write up) don’t sign it. If you don’t sign it HR has to get involved.
3. Don’t come in. It’s his fault for not checking who had scheduled time off. Make him solve the problem he caused. If he punishes you in any way, contact a lawyer.
4. if you have the proof, especially in writing, he can’t do shit. if he fires you, you’re well within your right to sue him for wrongful termination.

Tinder chick says she’s 8 months pregnant

Back in mid December me and my gf had an argument and we didn’t talk for over a month. In that time, I ended up having a one night stand from tinder.. it was oral then penetration (no condom, pulled out) the event took no more than 45 min.

Fast forward to sept 1 and she messages me under another alias name on ig and says she’s 8 1/2 months pregnant and is not sure who the father is between me and her ex.

She would like to know who the father for the sake of her baby… Since then I have deleted my social and have been stressing about how potentially this could be my child…

I am torn between wanting to own up and be a dad but I’m also not sure if im ready. I’ve pretty much just have it in the back of my head every day and hope that I’m not the father.

So I come here to see what should i be doing in this situation. I don’t want to open communication with her because I really don’t even know her, I had completely forgotten all about her.

What happens in cases like these? Any moral or legal advise?

Netizens’ comments

1. i love how he adds “the whole event took no longer than 45 minutes” like there’s some rule that you have to be inside someone for an hour to get pregnant lol
2. Y’all are crazy and dumb for having unprotected intercourse with people you don’t know. Pulling out is not effective and doesn’t protect you from STDs either. It’s your own fault for not taking proper measures.
3. Dude get a paternity test once that kid is born. Do not agree to anything until you have proof.
4. I met a chick on tinder and as I went for a condom she said, “oh you can just pull out.” I stopped, laughed out loud, and lost all my desire to get laid.
   When she said those words I just envisioned her getting pregnant and my life falling apart.