I’m glad my stepdad is sad after I barely associate with him

My sister revealed how sad my mom’s husband felt about me barely talking to him, and I’m happy about it.

Like any other black sheep of the family, he treated me like crap by doing his dirt behind the scenes blaming everyone else, mostly me, for his actions, and releasing any other anger he had onto me.

I finally got my big girl job and packed my bags, moved into my apartment, and barely talked to those who did me wrong growing up without any regrets.

Now, he’s all alone because no one in the family really likes him anymore and just knowing his karma has arrived brings me joy.

Netizens’ comments

• What he did to you wasn’t right, but time dilates and dilutes, forgiveness is a form of healing for you as well, you could try reaching out and help each other move on.

• Good for you!

I went out a couple of times with this guy, but I think we both knew we shouldn’t be a thing, amicably called it off, said we’d stay friends, and naturally never talked again.

I started using LinkedIn to get more job opportunities around the same time and he came up as a suggested connection. I remembered this was his only sort of social media and clicked on his profile. I checked out his profile a few more times whenever he popped into my mind for some reason with the most recent being today. I told myself it was kinda weird and decided to stop. About an hour later I get a connection request from him. Why would he think it’s a good idea?

Then it hits me: LinkedIn notifies people when someone views their profile. He got a notification, Every. Single. Time. Also turns out that there’s a private mode and this could’ve all been avoided. I don’t know what to do now besides simmer in the embarrassment.

He then text me last week asking me if we should talk, I think I might have gave him the wrong signal by stalking his Linkedin profile.

What should I do? If I meet him, he will get awkward if I don’t meet him he will think I’m some creep hiding behind my computer and looking at his photos.

I asked my boyfriend why he kept cheating on me. His answer completely broke me.

So me (30F) and my (EX) boyfriend (32M) were together for over 3 years. After 1 year of us being official, I discovered that he was cheating on me.

I was devastated, but I also believe in second chances. I desperately wanted to give our relationship another shot, so I forgave him. That moment kick-started the downward spiral of our relationship.

I would discover him cheating on a regular basis with multiple different people. Every time I would confront him, he was honest with me. Because he was upfront, I would always give him another chance. I believed that, because he was honest, what he was doing wasn’t that bad. After this catastrophe of a relationship dragged on for the next 2 years, I finally reached my breaking point!

2 days ago, I was in the bedroom and he was in the living room watching TV. I peaked at his phone that was charging on the nightstand. I saw that he had created a new dating profile and was texting other women. I felt so defeated!

This had happened so many times and I just couldn’t figure out why he was hurting me. I came out of the bedroom sobbing and confronted him for the millionth time.

He was completely unfazed and just sat there calmly listening to me. I blurted out, “Why are you doing this to me?? Don’t you love me?? I do so much for you! I cook, clean, sleep with you, support you..everything! What else can I possibly do? Just please tell me…why?!”

He looked me dead in the eye with zero emotion and said, “Because I know that you won’t do anything about it.”

I don’t know why, but what he said opened my eyes for the first time. He was absolutely right! I knew right then and there that I was letting him walk all over me. He didn’t need to come up with bullshit excuses, deny it, or even hide it from me!

So here I am, sitting alone, feeling like the biggest and weakest loser on the planet.

My husband and I feel like we failed as parents

We took our daughter ( 15F) to her doctor’s appointment and, while we expected the number on the scale to be a bit on the heavier side, we were not expecting her to be nearly 220 pounds.

This didn’t seem to shock our daughter at all.

How she got to this weight, we already know. I work late hours often, as does my husband and for years upon years, it was a case where dinner for her was something microwaveable, frozen, order pizza, or, wait until one of us was home for a quick minute and we’d rush through a fast food drive thru.

As we reflected on it, we realized we’d been sleepwalking essentially, through plenty of things that should’ve alarmed us, like how often we’ve had to let out her pants for school, or how even getting off of the couch has become laborious for her.

We are a bit shocked that after seeing that number, she isn’t more alarmed and seems fine continuing a sedentary lifestyle.

My husband and I are lost as to what to do next with her.

Netizens’ comments

Start exercising as a family. Walking outdoors, at the park. Dancing is a fun activity as well. Try new recipes together as a family that are healthy but flavorful. Make sure to have a weekend treat like pizza, ice cream, etc.

Most importantly, don’t make her feel bad. Motivate her, encourage her. But tread lightly. My mom destroyed my self esteem when I was younger by harping on me. And I wasn’t even heavy.

Hi, would need some advise on how to deal with noisy neighbours…

At first, the unit living directly above us (they are PRs, not trying to mean anything here but for context purpose) makes pounding sound every morning at about 6am onwards and it can last about an hour. This disturbed our sleep and we tried to went up to talk to them about it, but they turned their backs at us and did not to talk to us. So we filed a complaint to hdb.

Then they stopped the noise for a few weeks and do it again. This time, they added more noises like dragging of chair from one end of the room to another and stomping loudly around the room. Probably they are unhappy that we complained about them.

We endured for a few weeks but it seems like the noise is getting louder so we wrote back to hdb again. But it seems like of no use because each time we write the complaint, they will stop for a while then come back again with more noises.

This is very frustrating as we want to solve the issue but the other party is unwilling to open up… please help.

Netizens’ comments

• Make friends with the unit above them and ask for their help to make noise at unreasonable hours. See how they feel.

• Like good old days, just knock back the ceiling with a pole.

• The only way is for you guys to move out. Honestly, first hand experience here. My family moved out eventually because the noisy neighbors won’t stop.

You can call the police, go for mediation at court, and get help from town council or hdb or your MP etc. Your neighbours will quiet down for a week or so. And then they will start again. Because to them, they are making noise in their own house, it’s their right. The authorities unfortunately cannot do anything to help you. They will seek your neighbour’s understanding to lower their volume. But if your neighbours don’t wanna listen and follow, the authorities cannot do anything. They cannot possibly stand at your neighbour’s house 24/7. So really, trust me, nothing can be done if your neighbours don’t care at all.

If you are adamant to continue living there, your only way is to call police every time they decide to make a lot of noise in the middle of the night or wee hours of the morning. Get the police to go knock their door every other day. But honestly this will end up being too tedious for you and you will ultimately just be like… let’s just sell this place and move elsewhere.