There are always complaints here and there about their first jobs. A man said not to be so picky on their first jobs.

Here is what he advice

“Want to put some encouragement out there to graduating students. Especially those who received less than satisfactory offers and feel disappointed at what employers are offering you out of school.

It doesn’t matter that much. It matters what you do after getting a less than satisfactory salary (If you’re satisfied, don’t read further).

I’m not from CS or well paid courses so when I took on my first job with a salary slightly below 3K monthly, it was pretty amazing. I ignored culture and got into a really bad job. Thank goodness I manage to get myself out of it.

Remained motivated, kept working hard and did not restrain me to my job scope. Looking back, this helped me because I always had so much to share during interviews.

Finally, after changing a few jobs (I was “approached” each time), I’m earning at least triple of what I had 4 years back.

So, friends, you are what you set yourself up to be. If someone paid you less, try set yourself to accomplish tasks that could justify why you should be paid more (help the company earn more, help others in your team grow, help your boss get recognised… etc). That way you’re setting yourself up for success.”

Here is what netizens think:

Go for the job, learn what you can and move on. Remember that there is no such thing as loyalty in a company. When you leave thousands more are behind you waiting to get that job. If you have an offer take it first. You can always omit those short jobs in your resume.

If the boss is good stay around longer and see what you can learn.

I am a 19F local dating a China guy with a really curious trait. Whenever he has trouble remembering how to pronounce cheem-sounding English words, he will transliterate it into Chinese and memorize that instead. For instance, “doing it” becomes “谁输儿 阴特扣死“ (shei-shu-er yin-te-kou-si), which I find so funny I make him say it every time he wants to do it.

But yesterday when I was helping him to spring-clean his room for CNY, I stumbled upon this army notebook of his. I recall that he told me as a second-gen PRC he had to serve, and he was a Platoon Sergeant, so I was curious and had a look at what he wrote. Lo and behold, it was full of Chinese transliterations of army commands and on one page, there was a full-blown Tang dynasty-esque poem:

扑了吞吐握右方 (pu-le-tun-tu-wo-you-fang)

扑了吞吐色迪呀 (pu-le-tun-tu-se-di-ya)

可可男露无乳撕 (ke-ke-nan-lu-wu-ru-si)

盘蛋卡拉盘盘蛋 (pan-dan-ka-la-pan-pan-dan)

巴黎死色囊地利 (ba-li-si-se-nang-di-li)

I only recognise “sediya” and “senangdili” cause I hear that all the time in morning assembly back in school, but the rest look like gibberish. Anyone understand this?

Here is wht netizens think:

• thanks for the morning lolz.Anyway it’s not uncommon. Japanese Katakana was derived for the same reason – to deal with words and phrases not in their native tongue.

• Reminds me of Wong Fei Hong learns english from 十三姨

• Platoon watch your front..platoon Sedi-a! (Attention).. Ke-Kanan Lu – RUS!(Right dressing).. Pandang Ke-Hadapan Pan – DANG! (Eyes to the front).

• Very impressed! At least he make an effort to remember the commands using his creative!

• Once u go tiong u cant turn back

• 3rd one is me kanan lu rus (checking alignment when falling in)4th one is Pandan ke hadapan pandan= turning head back to the front after checking alignment5th one is Baris Senangdiri= contingent? At ease.

My husband is an extremely expressive and affectionate man who will shower me with “I love you” and “I miss you” daily. Even if we just met that morning, he will text me “I miss you” in the afternoon.

On the other hand, I can’t. I almost never send such messages or say these things first, and I even find it hard to say I miss you. The only time when I really felt that I miss him was when we were still dating and our busy schedules kept us apart for about 2 weeks. That was when I told him “I miss you so much can’t wait to see you”

Apart from that, I am not a very caring person as well, I realised this because I don’t show much care and concern even to my own family and friends.

Someone can post an extremely emotional post and I wouldn’t comment or get in touch, my husband can injure himself (so far only minor injuries) like hit his shin against the bed frame, stub his toe, or I accidentally elbow his stomach but I wouldn’t feel inclined to be like “omg are you ok?” and show lots of care. Instead, I’m like “you see la, tell you don’t run into the room” or “be more careful lei”

I sometimes wonder do I have a problem? Do I not love him enough that’s why I’m like that? Or is it normal to be not expressive? I feel bad because I do love him, I just cannot bring myself to lovey dovey with him like other couples do, and it’s sad that he cannot receive the same kind of affection he gives me.

Here are what netiezns think:

• There’s many forms of love language. Some use actions like hugs, some use words, acts of service etc. You can google and understand more.From the things you say like “you see lah…. ” it reminds me of my parents who would say similar things to me when I fall down as a child. Basically who you are now as a person, how you react to things, is basically how you were brought up as a child, your experience growing up in situations like these resulted in who you are. There’s no right or wrong way. Basically for me, my husband is the lovey dovey one when we got tgt and I would cringe fr it. Bcos my parents aren’t the ones who would shower me words of affection but rather the tough love sort. But over the years, I appreciate what my hub do more for me and the love language from him. Everyone loves differently. And it’s ok!

• It’s ok sis. My wife also like that, different people express love differently.When I tell her “I love you”, she will reply “k” or stare at me and say “You got other woman!”. I think she feels my overwhelming love! Just that she dunno how to reply because she’s no good in words. I don’t mind. I think your hubby won’t mind too.So It’s perfectly ok not to be expressive in words. There are different love languages, acts of service is also a way to express your love for each other.

For Parents in Sg: Asking a stranger to delete a photo of your toddler

I was at a clothing store with my toddler today and I caught one of the sales assistants quietly snapping a picture of my daughter with her phone. I know she didn’t mean any harm as I overheard her mumbling the word “cute.”

Regardless, I was very uneasy with a stranger having possession of my toddler’s photo and requested that she delete the picture. She complied (at least, I think she did).

Now in hindsight, I’m wondering if I overstepped any boundaries. Technically speaking, the lady didn’t do anything illegal. If she had denied my request, there was probably nothing I could have done either.

Fellow parents in Singapore, have you had any similar experience and what would you have done?

Netizens’ comments

1. No you didn’t overstep any boundaries. It doesn’t sound like you were nasty to the salesperson either, so it’s all good.
2. This is one example that you can control. Sure, go ahead. But there are situations you can’t, eg school photos which might be shared by other parents on their social media etc. So I have to manage my expectations as a parent myself, I can’t feel uneasy with every stranger who has my kid’s photo, because they do. But we can nurture our kid, ask them to learn to say no/consent.
3. Yes, this has happened to me before.
   Correct it’s not illegal. But that doesn’t make it right either. It’s inappropriate to take pictures of children without asking their parents consent and people need to learn that.
   I once had a lady taking pictures of my child at gardens by the bay in the water play – in swim wear. I was sitting behind her on the stairs and I could see on her screen how she was zooming in on my child, taking pictures. I told her she needs to delete these immediately and also from the “delete” folder with me watching. Imagine this had been man. Then you might understand how very very inappropriate it is.
   Another time I witnessed a young man on the bus filming a sleeping baby in the stroller. I asked the mother with a loud voice so everyone could hear if she is aware this man is filming her sleeping baby. The mother was shocked and close to tears. Again I asked the man to delete the material. EDIT: the mother thanked me for calling out the situation as she didn’t notice what was going due to where she was standing. She was in complete shock.
   This is a completely unacceptable practice and it needs to be called out and stopped. Get the parents consent. But not like this.
   In your case OP, I’d say had she denied I would have left a hefty review on that shop’s Google page to tell everyone their staff is taking pictures of children without the parents consent and then refuse to delete it.

i work in a coffee shop and it was one of those days where it was a bit slow and many of my co-workers were on leave so it was just me and him.

we always were good friends with each other so we were talking about stuff when i wanted to show him a pic of something i made on my phone.

thats when a customer walked in so i put the phone on the desk with the screen still on and helped the customer.

now a couple days ago i did take a steamy, just out of the shower and all wet photo of my chest…

when i walked back to my boss i could see he didnt touch my phone but he was looking at that pic in the bottom where it shows the other pics in my photo album.

he smirked at me and stared at chest and i felt a bit uneasy until i saw my phone and got very flustered and left for home early…

two hours after im home i get this message from him saying he’s havin a boring night and if i wanna come over and hang out and watch a movie with him..

now this mf has always been hottt and he has a crazy ripped body and i could see his bulge his picture…idk what to do.

update : im on my way over to his place

update: i went over and we spent all but 1 minute watching the movie before he grabbed my face and we started making out. he was very rough with me… and then the night led to a lot of things.

i left his home around 7 am.we never slept… i really enjoyed it but im kinda nervous about seeing him at work now