Times when you think things are just ridiculously priced in SG?

I had a cavity in one of my teeth after having braces and wanted to get it filled. I went to the dentist, and he quoted $150. Since it wasn’t urgent and my tooth wasn’t decaying, I told myself that I’ll get it done the next time I go to the dentist ($150 just made my heart ache).

Last year I went to India and I saw a nice dental clinic (not those shady ones). I went in, asked for a filling and they got it done.

The price BLEW my mind. After conversion, $10. T E N.

I couldn’t stop thinking about how crazy the price difference was. I thought the Indian dentist MUST have done a shitty job for how cheap it was.

Went for my braces appointment recently in sg and I asked my orthodontist to check if the filling was ok and he said it was.

Went to Malaysia recently and got gel nails done for 25 ringgit. It’ll be easily $70-90 here. Why such a huge discrepancy when I see absolutely no difference in the service provided?

Any times in sg you thought “This is daylight robbery.”?

Netizens’ comments

1. Same reason why services and COL of living is cheaper in Zimbabwe vs here. It’s not a fair comparison.
2. Land cost and other overheads in sg is very high. You can’t expect same pricing for the same good or service in a developing economy/ country. That said, some business owners may use this as a reason to overcharge.
   My own take is that many of them have their hands tied because they don’t own the land or premises on which they run their business. Landlords, both private and corporate, are squeezing as much as they can from society and this is a main driver of prices.
3. dental care in SG is just crazy. far better to just cross the border to do any dental work. often get my scaling and polishing done in JB instead

How do I (23F) get my boyfriend (28M) to be rougher with me in bed?

I want to start off by saying I have communicated with my boyfriend on countless occasions telling him how rough I like things in bed (or out of bed).

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years now, and he is okay in bed..but what really gets me off is when someone is extremely rough with me.

He’s more gentle with me during and prefers being passionate over being rough and dirty in bed

I like to be used, played with, slapped, and would even go far enough to say i like bondage-esque intimacy (well really to be tied up and what not).

I’ve voiced to him what I like, told him about a few of my fantasies and even asked about his fantasies.

But when we have intercourse he’s rarely rough with me, and when he is it’s not to the extent that i’ve voiced that i like, it’s always the same almost vanilla passionate PIV that he likes…

It’s pretty boring honestly, i try to get him going by talking dirty while we’re fucking but it doesn’t really work.

we also don’t get intimate enough as is (yes i’ve communicated this concern with him as well) so on top of not having enough intercourse and feeling frustrated i feel like my needs/wants aren’t being met.

What else can i do/say to get him to be rougher with me?

Hey y’all, I’ll try to keep this short, but mostly looking for some feedback/WWYD. My husband of ten years loves being pegged.

He brought it up a few years ago and I, wanting to be open minded as well as give him space to explore whatever fantasies he had, decided to try it out so he could experience it.

He really wanted me to use a strap-on, which I did for awhile. I could not STAND it.

No offense meant to anyone, just not My thing. It was painful, uncomfortable, a strong turn off, made me feel like I was going to puke.

After time of him complaining I didn’t use it enough on him, I told him gently that I wasn’t comfortable with it. He was really mad for awhile but got over it.

Now, the problem I have is that he’s so obsessed with this stuff. No matter how cleaned out he is, it smells like crap. There’s usually stuff in there and it gets on me or on the towels/bedsheets.

He constantly asks me if it was “hot watching his hole get stretched so wide by the toy” and I never know what to say because At the moment doing it to pleasure him I can get over it and am willing, but when he wants to talk about it I feel like puking and it makes me cringe.

He constantly wants to talk about it and the only thing that I think about when he does is the smell and the stuff getting on me all the time.

I’ve told him he needs to be cleaned out more and he does try but nothing seems to remove everything. Idk, I just am so not into it.

Thing is, he derives an insane amount of pleasure from it and I don’t want to take that away from him. I do think his obsession with it is borderline unhealthy not gonna lie.

But outside that, I want to meet his needs. I just don’t know what to do with how disgusting I find the whole process.

There is absolutely NOTHING I find hot about a hole where poop comes out. someone help me lol. What do I do? How do I overcome feeling so grossed out by this?

Landlord’s aggressive cat keeps attacking me, and I’m told to just take it.

I came to Singapore a few months ago, and moved in to a HDB flat with a landlord, her daughter that owns 2 cats. I love cats but never owned one. I was also promised that the cats would be friendly. When they were introducing me to the cats, despite me being gentle and calm, one of the cats scratched my leg. We tried again another day, but he bit my leg, and further injured the landlord. From that day on, we followed a schedule where the cat was to be kept in the cage when I’m home, and out when I’m at work. There were instances where the cat was accidentally left out and tried to attack me, growling at me. And there were also times when the cat would scratch at me door, howl really loudly, when i opened the door, it would try to attack again.

I know that it thinks I’m intruding on his space, and he has territorial aggression. So I started eating meals beside him while he remained in the cage, and fed him treats as well. All the while, the landlord was trying to defend herself saying “if I knew the cat would respond like this, i wouldn’t have taken you in”, and “I was trying to give it a chance”, while fully telling me a history of its bad behaviour with other strangers.

Last week, we booked a cat therapist to come and advise us on what to do. To my horror, she tells me that they have to let it out while im eating my dinner, have it attack me and I cannot react to it. I have to let it get used to me not being a threat. We tried it the first time yesterday, and now I’m dreading all dinners. It was horrible. The cat bit me on my arm and left two deep marks that kept bleeding last night.

More context about the room. It’s a very nice room, spacious and has a queen bed. It is near to my workplace as well with a less than 20 minute commute. And moving out now means to dive into the high rental prices to seek for a decent place. I am very comfortable where I’m at currently, but I am at a loss. How is everyone willing to have me as a tenant, that was forced to be in this situation to compromise in this manner. On one hand, I do understand that it isn’t right to have my safety at risk like that. But on another, I know that this room is the best I can get with this price. I just want to know whether it’s reasonable for me to continue staying on until my lease ends. Will the cat eventually change his behaviour or should i just give up and move out?

Tldr: Moved into HDB with an aggressive cat, and it has to stay in cage when I’m at home. Cat will attack any chance it gets. Landlord calls in a cat therapist that asks us to let the cat roam while I’m having dinner, and not react if it attacks me. It left deep bite marks on my arm, and now I’m at a loss what to do. Love the room, location and space, just unsure whether my efforts of taking more bite marks or scars will even have an effect on it.

I love my boyfriend but he is very bad in bed.. Consumed with thoughts of cheating.

Me (34F) and my boyfriend (35m) have a great relationship and connection, I love him and love spending time with him however, he sucks in bed.

I have a very very high libido, and his is okay but it just feels like we aren’t compatible. He’s a big guy, not well endowed, and plainly put just doesn’t “hit the right spot” for me. Ever.

He goes down on me but isn’t good at that and doesn’t really listen to my advice. Even when he fingers me he doesn’t listen and isn’t good at it.

I’ve tried to gently express the issue, but he seems to think that he is great and just because I come, that it’s great for me too.

Lately I have been consumed with thoughts of cheating, I never have cheated and don’t plan to, but I don’t know what to do.

I don’t want to lose him because personality wise we are perfect.

Netizens’ comments

1. Naw you need to be direct with him and not hint or be subtle. Tell him straight that he is bad, but you want to figure out how to make it better.
   The only way for this to happen is he needs to allow you to show him how to make it better for both of you. I have been there before and it can cause tension in the relationship and if he is a great guy, he will understand and work with you.
   Never stay with someone if they are only minimally meeting your wants and needs. It causes things to go down hill
2. Don’t cheat, state the issue plainly of how you feel unsatisfied and what he could be doing to improve that (maybe not the well endowed part, he can’t change that so it would do nothing but be hurtful) and stress that he needs to listen. Make sure he is aware it is a serious discussion and important to you. Be aware it may take some time to adjust.
   But if things don’t improve and you still feel an urge to cheat then just break up. If he is an amazing person you don’t want to lose then he doesn’t deserve that. Beyond him it’s disrespectful to yourself. Better then to break up and realize that love and personality aren’t the only things you require for a successful relationship.

My friend(who I love) told me that she wishes she could find a guy like me and I couldn’t be happier.

I made it clear early in our friendship that I had feelings for her, she couldn’t reciprocate but We still remained friends. Mind you I have still loved this girl since then.

with my actions I have truly tried to give her every ounce of love that I can to her. We stopped talking for a while but tonight she was struggling and I felt like she needed me to be there.

seven hours of her drinking and she told me that she was sorry that she will never love me, but she wishes that she could find a guy like me.

she said that she believed I would give her the world and that I could love her the way she needed to be loved and that I could treat her better than any man she had been with in the past.

She told me that every woman prays to god for a guy like me( I know it’s exaggeration but I laughed at this one) and that she really didn’t understand why she didn’t want me.

Of course I told her it’s ok, I am not entitled to anything because I help her, but She has been through so much and has been hurt so many times.

I know she was drunk but hearing her say all of that made me feel like all my efforts to show her love was worth it.

Netizens’ comments

1. Bro don’t even dare I promise you it won’t end well. Be her friend if you want but don’t ever and I mean ever get into a relationship with her.
2. If OP makes her feel this way, if he took 10% of that energy and put it into himself OR SOMEONE ELSE COUGH he’d probably change another woman’s life and find what hes not getting at the same time.

Who could, you know, reciprocate? And he’d not have to wait years to feel vindicated in investing all that love and energy into someone to be single and watch them date around and be hurt by it?

Idk man I love my friends, but he needs to let this go- it’s not healthy for either of you. You because of the aforementioned, and her because it’s not conducive to a stable relationship to have people who are THAT invested proximal to her relationships, on be leaning on you in the capacity she does if you WERE in a healthy relationship. (Or at least looking for one)

Like you sound like a great guy, and I’m sure you have changed her life for the better, but this is turning staler than a microwaved oatmeal cookie and it’s not beneficial in ways that satisfy either of you.

You won’t ever get what you’re looking for if you keep thinking she’s the only one who can give that to you.