We had been married for 8 years and had a comfortable life together. We had been married for so long that I was beginning to think that our relationship was beginning to become stale.

We had been to the same restaurants, seen the same movies, and had the same conversations. I was beginning to think that I needed something new to spice up our marriage.

Little did I know that my husband had something else in mind for our night out. He went Joo Chiat area, a popular spot for uncles to hang out, when my husband said that he was going to that area for a drink. I was surprised and a bit apprehensive.

Wechat chat log

A month later… I notice that my husband was texting this girl on her Wechat and I immediately suspected that it was a girl he met drinking his drinking sessions at Joo Chiat. While he was in the toilet, I unlocked his phone and the girl send him a voice record telling him to leave me!

But my husband responded to her and said “No”. Which made me a little relive. But I still feel that I have to do something. I took a photo of the girl’s photo from her WeChat profile picture and send it to my friends.

I asked a few good sisters of mine and tried to find the girl and tell her to stay away from my husband.

When we arrived at Joo Chiat, we had no idea which bar to go into and I called my brother. He told me it’s either “here or there”.

We found the girl at the first bar we went into and immediately sat down and ordered a jug of beer.

We told the girl to come over and she spoke in Mandarin with a funny accent. I revealed who I was and told her to back off.

She looked a bit scared as my sister was talking in a threatening tone. After we told her off and finished our beer we went home.

My husband was waiting for me in the living room and started to argue with me, The Vietnamese girl had texted him what I had done. He said my actions were overbroad and he had no intention of having any relationships with the girl.

I then accused him if he did not have any intentions why he took the girl’s contact. He started saying “It was their job to do this blah blah”.

I told him there is always a choice to say NO! He diam diam. Our relationship has not been the same ever since. Infact it has gotten worse.

I don’t know what to do…

Singaporeans have always been a bit picky about where to go for meals. We’ve been known to gravitate towards finer establishments, whether it’s a restaurant or a cafe, in order to impress our dates.

However, I believe that if Singapore’s weather wasn’t so hot and humid, more of us would be willing to try something a bit different and take our dates out to a kopitiam instead.

Kopitiams are a great place to share a meal with someone. The atmosphere is usually quite relaxed and it’s usually quite affordable. The food is usually quite tasty and there are a variety of dishes to choose from.

There is something quite special about having a meal at a kopitiam. Many of us would have fond memories of visiting the kopitiam with our family and friends, so the memories of these times can be shared with our date.

Since it is usually quite crowded, it is easy to have a conversation without having to worry about being overheard. It also allows for a more relaxed atmosphere, which is always a plus for a first date.

Too hot

However, the hot and humid weather in Singapore often puts people off from wanting to go out and enjoy a meal at a kopitiam. We all know how uncomfortable it can be to be out in the heat and humidity, so it is understandable why some people might not want to go out if they don’t have to.

My suggestion is that if we want to make kopitiams a more attractive option for first dates, we should try to make them more comfortable. Air-conditioning is always a plus, but it is not always possible to have this in a kopitiam.

We can also try to make the kopitiams more attractive by adding more seating and creating a more inviting atmosphere. This can be done by adding plants, artwork, or decorations to make the place more inviting.

I believe that if Singapore’s weather wasn’t so hot and humid, more people would be willing to take their dates out to a kopitiam.

I was born in India, raised in the city of Nagpur. I was always ambitious and had dreams of becoming a millionaire. But living in a developing country meant that opportunities were limited. I moved to Singapore in 2014 in search of a better life.

When I arrived in Singapore, I knew that I would have to work hard if I wanted to make my dreams of becoming a millionaire come true. I started working as a waitress in a restaurant and eventually moved up to a managerial position. Despite my hard work, I still wasn’t making enough money to reach the desired wealth level.

That’s when I came up with an idea that would give me a “shortcut to millionaire” status – I would marry a wealthy older man in Singapore. After months of searching, I finally found a suitable candidate – an 80-year-old Singaporean businessman. We got married in a civil ceremony and soon after, I was on my way to financial success.

As my husband’s wife, I now had access to his vast wealth. I was able to purchase luxurious items and make investments with his money. I also had the opportunity to travel and experience the world, something I had never been able to do before.

But my newfound wealth came with a price. As a foreigner, I was constantly judged by members of Singaporean society, who saw me as nothing more than a “gold digger”. I was often looked down upon and treated as an outsider. I felt like I had no control over how people perceived me and it was difficult to adjust to the criticism.

My marriage also had its challenges. My husband was elderly and had a very different lifestyle than I did. I had to quickly learn how to fit into his world and adapt to his customs and beliefs. It wasn’t always easy but eventually I was able to find a balance between our two worlds.

The worse part is in the bedroom, but I would say it is the best also. He can’t do it and I don’t really want to do it. It is always awkward pauses in the bedroom.

Despite the difficulties, I’m happy that I made the decision to marry my husband and take the “shortcut to millionaire” status. It has given me the financial freedom to pursue my dreams and live a life of luxury.

It was a normal day, or at least it was supposed to be. As I arrived to work, I was filled with a sense of joy and accomplishment – I had just finished my probation period and was looking forward to my continued work with the company.

Little did I know that my day was about to take a drastic turn.

As I began to settle into my desk, I heard a commotion in the hallway. I knew something was wrong and my heart sank as I heard the news. Our company had made the difficult decision to layoff several people and my name was included on the list.

I was in shock. After all the hard work I had put in over the past few months, I was now being let go. It felt like a kick in the gut. I had been so close to achieving my professional goals and I was now back at square one.

My mind began to race as I tried to think of what to do next. How would I support myself? How would I explain this to my family and friends? What job opportunities would be open to me? All these thoughts clouded my mind as I struggled to process the news.

The shock soon gave way to anger. I felt betrayed by the company. I had worked hard to prove myself and yet, here I was, being thrown out like a piece of trash. I wanted to yell and scream, to make them understand what they had done to me. But I knew it would be futile.

“Your just another employee”

In that moment, I was filled with a sense of sadness. All my hopes and dreams had been dashed in an instant. I had worked so hard to get to this point and now I was back to square one. My emotions were a roller coaster ride and I felt utterly defeated.

It took me a few days to get over the shock and disappointment of being retrenched. I had to take a step back and reassess my situation. I had to find a way to move forward and make the best of the situation.

I had to start from the bottom again, but this time around I was determined to make it work. I updated my resume and applied to multiple jobs. I networked and reached out to my contacts. I also took the opportunity to upskill myself and learn new skills. I was determined to come back stronger than ever.

But the world is cruel, It’s been 3 months and I have not gotten any replies yet, really no point being Loyal or whatever term you like.

“Your just another employee”, disposable and expandable.

I think for a long time now I have been really fed up with guys that are always drunk. It seems like the only thing they know how to do is drink and party. I’m not saying that drinking or going out is bad, but when it’s the only thing a guy does, it just doesn’t cut it for me.

I’m a 20-something girl and I’m looking for someone to date who can match my ambition and drive. I want someone who has goals and is working towards them, someone who is passionate and motivated. I don’t want to have to deal with someone who is always hungover and wasting their time.

It’s really frustrating because there are a lot of guys out there that can make money, but they don’t know what to do with it. Instead of investing or saving, they just blow it all on drinks and partying.

It’s like they don’t realize how important it is to have a plan in life and it’s really off-putting for me.

I want someone who is going to be able to provide for me and our future family. Sure, I can make money too, but I want someone who is going to be able to contribute and build something meaningful with me. I don’t want to be constantly worrying about money because my partner isn’t taking it seriously.

I’m sure there are guys out there that like to party and drink, but also have a plan for their lives. I really want to find someone who can be responsible and work hard, but still know how to have fun. I feel like guys that are always drunk are just too irresponsible and immature for me.

It’s really important to have a sense of balance. I want someone who can make money, but also enjoy life and have fun.

It’s not an either/or situation, it’s about finding the right balance. I just don’t want to be with someone who is always drunk and has no ambition in life.

I know what I want and I’m not going to settle for less. It’s hard to find someone who can make money and still have a good time, but I’m sure they’re out there. I just have to keep looking until I find the right one. In the meantime, I’m just going to stay away from guys who are always drunk.

My experience with dining and dashing is one that I will never forget.

I had gone out to dinner with friends, and the waiter was completely ignoring us. We had been there for over 20 mins, and no one had taken our order

It all started when we arrived at the restaurant. We had made a reservation and were expecting to have a pleasant evening, but it quickly became apparent that we were not going to have a good time. We waited for close to 20 minutes before the waiter finally came to our table. He took our drink orders, then proceeded to ignore us for the next 45 minutes. He checked up on other tables, but somehow managed to avoid us.

At this point, I had had enough. I tried to flag him down multiple times, but he still wouldn’t come to our table. I was getting increasingly frustrated, and my friends were starting to get impatient as well. After an hour of waiting, I had had enough. I stood up and announced that we were leaving.

We all got up and started walking out of the restaurant. I glanced at the waiter one more time, and that’s when I noticed that he was watching us. I couldn’t believe it. He had been ignoring us for an hour and now he was suddenly interested? I decided to teach him a lesson.

I turned to my friends and said, “Let’s go. We’re dining and dashing.” I knew it was wrong, but I felt like I had to do something. We quickly left the restaurant without paying, and I could see the waiter’s face as we walked out.

I’m not proud of what I did that night, but I felt like I had to stand up for myself. As a customer, I should not have to be ignored for an hour. Unfortunately, too often, restaurant staff can get away with treating customers poorly. This was my way of making a statement and showing that I would not stand for it.

I understand that this was a drastic action, and I could have handled the situation better. I don’t believe in dining and dashing, and I regret my decision. I’m just glad that I didn’t get caught.

Working for a boss who has no money to pay salaries is not fun. In fact, it’s downright stressful and demoralizing.

I’ve been there, working for a boss who’s been so strapped for cash that he couldn’t even pay us salaries, yet he still expected us to come to his wedding ceremony and give him red packets. It was a strange request, but I understood why he wanted it.

In Chinese culture, red packets are a symbol of good luck, prosperity and blessings. By giving these red packets, my boss was hoping that our presence would bring blessings and luck to his marriage. (But of course even if I go I would be cursing him)

At first, I was reluctant to go. After all, if my boss had money to pay for his wedding, why couldn’t he pay us our salaries?

But then I realized that this was a cultural thing. I was expected to go, even if it meant I had to put aside my resentment and go without any money.

$2 ang bao

So I went, and I brought my red packets ($2 as a sign of protest). It was a strange experience, because while I was there, I was surrounded by people celebrating the union of my boss and his bride, while I was still unsure of when I would get my wages.

But I was also there to wish them luck and share in their joy. It was a difficult moment, but I was glad I went.

At the end of the ceremony, my boss gave me a hug and thanked me for coming. It was a gesture I had never expected from him, and it touched me. I realized that he had noticed that I had gone out of my way to be there for him, even though I was not getting paid.

Wait till the ceremony ends and he goes back to see how much I gave him.