I’m skinny and boyfriend watches SUPER CURVY “videos” of other women (24F, 22M)

Let me start by saying I’m naturally very slim and I struggle to put on weight. My bra size is an A cup, and my bottom half is nothing special either.

I never gave it much thought, until my first boyfriend broke up with me. He cheated on me, and when I asked him why, he proceeded to tell me (and I quote) “Your body doesn’t turn me on. By the time you’re 21, your shape will fill out and be perfect.”

Well, I’ve passed 21 now, and I still look the same as when I was 16. Over the years, I’ve heard similar insulting comments many times over by men, and hearing “you’re not hot” in all its wonderful forms has really driven my confidence into the dirt. But enough with my sob story.

I found a wonderful partner, and I’ve been dating him for nearly a year. I was afraid to get naked with him, but eventually with his reassurance, I felt less insecure. Recently though, we don’t “do it” as often, it has gotten significantly less frequent and when we do he takes longer to finish.

Around this time, I also noticed he was taking extremely long trips to the bathroom while we were in the middle of hanging out together. Out of concern, I asked if everything was okay, and he told me he’s been constipated (how lovely)… I took that at face value for a while.

After weeks of this, I got curious and listened by the bathroom door while he was in there and heard moaning on his phone. I’m not against playing with yourself, but I found it insulting that when we were literally in the middle of watching a movie and eating dinner together, he left to go do that.

That brings us to today… I was sitting at our desk opening some bills and he told me I can pay them on his phone, which isn’t unusual for us since he has the apps to do it. Usually, he has no tabs open but THIS TIME as you can probably guess, there was a big old “video” staring me in the face.

The woman in it had a MAMMOTH chest and ass. The polar opposite of my physique.

I had this sick feeling in my stomach, and impulsively pressed the history button. You know that feeling when you know it’s bad, but you can’t stop?

I scrolled and scrolled. And there is was displayed. Day after day, week and week of videos and ALL of the women (literally every single one) had the same body type. Cartoonishly proportioned ultra voluptuous curves.

Clearly he has a type.

I haven’t mentioned the bathroom or the phone situation to him. I’ve put on a smile and tried to pull myself together but it stings a lot.

I would have felt a bit better if the women were varied: you know some thin, some curvy, some in between. But he actively searches for that body type every time.

I’m back to feeling rejected, not good enough, and ultimately not sexy.

I’m tempted to let him be free and find someone who really gets his motors running, since that’s what he’s apparently lusting for, but we otherwise have a great connection and loving towards each other so I’m torn.

I’m in need of some advice on how to proceed. It may sound silly but I’m really heartbroken about this discovery given my past. Male and female perspectives appreciated.

I dumped my girlfriend because of her friends, not because of anything she did.

I’ve been with my gf for just over a year and overall she’s a nice person but her friend’s are absolutely cancerous.

The main ringleader has a kid and muscled her long term boyfriend into an “open relationship”. She parties severals times a week and bangs other dudes whilst the pathetic wormy doormat of a boyfriend looks after their 2 year old. The other one routinely cheats on her fiance and even slept with one of my bros in a bathroom stall the first time my friends and my girlfriend’s friends hung out.

They’ve pushed her into starting an onlyfans and all sorts of other grotesque shit, but my girlfriend justifiably tells them to kick rocks because she’s in a relationship. This only results in them throwing “controlling boyfriend” accusations my way. My girlfriends last two boyfriends were complete deadbeats, one of whom was a recovering addict, so this is the only “normal” relationship she’s been in for the past 5 years.

I knew it was only be a matter of time before she caved. You can’t be around serial cheaters and dirtbags without dabbling with it yourself at some point. And I can’t exactly tell her to cut off her childhood friends without some sort of resentment festering, so I did us both a favour and ended the relationship. She freaked out but I just told her I was in a “dark place” and couldn’t be in a relationship. I didn’t have it in me to tell her it was because her friends are actual human toilets.

This isn’t the first girl I’ve broken up with because their friends.

I am not sure if I did something wrong or not for not agreeing to go into debt to go on a vacation that only my husband wants to go when we agreed we wouldn’t do any vacations this year.

My husband spent almost $500 on Onlyfans and custom content from random women.

I (f25) saw some questionable charges on my husbands (m29) credit card and when I asked him about it he pretended he had no idea what I was talking about and that it must be fraud.

Okay I won’t argue. He has a history of making impulsive purchase so I expected I would have to investigate myself.

I logged into his email and looked at the emails from the same day of the purchases and saw a bunch of PayPal transactions.

Long story short I was able to trace it to only fans subscriptions, custom content purchases and saw he was sending money to random women for god knows what.

In the span of a month and a half he’s spent almost $500 of OUR MONEY on this shit. My birthday was two weeks ago and he said he was low on money but would take me out next time he got paid.

Now I know why. I haven’t confronted him yet bc idk what to do. I feel completely disrespected, disappointed and angry and I know that I can’t talk to him right now when I’m so worked up.

Also I’ve been trying to be more adventurous sexually and feel like we’ve been great lately so this just feels like such a slap in the face and like I’ll never be enough.

I’m so angry and I have no one else to talk to about this bc it’s so embarrassing. I don’t know what my next step is going to be. I don’t deserve this.

While scrolling through Tinder I found that my friend’s wife had made a profile which said she was looking for new friends. The photos were from her Facebook so nothing too provocative. What concerned me was the lack of any mention of her being married or having kids.