She says words like, “If you don’t like me as a boss or if you don’t like what you are doing, you can think of going elsewhere.”
“Your performance is bad, you better improve or you can rethink your career.”
She says such things to everyone, be it during 1-1 or group setting. I have never come across a boss like this and wonder if she will get herself into trouble ?
I work in a very disciplined team (but she is never satisfied?). We are an OEM company and my team is doing order fulfilment. She felt that as we are frontline, somehow we always need improvement.
She never think of looking into internal customer satisfaction so that everyone can discuss, work together. She also likes to command respect. Basically not a people person.
Netizens’ comments
Instead of complaining about your boss behavior and all, just ask yourself if it’s an environment you want to be in. If not, then move on. If you can’t for whatever reasons, just got to bite the bullet and do your job.
Facebook user Jun Xu shared how he brought his father to a Japanese restaurant for a meal and the seafood that was served was allegedly still frozen and hard.
Here is what he said
My experience at *restaurant name redacted*. I won’t discourage anyone from
Going but after listening to my personal experience you all can decide if it’s worth visiting there.
Firstly- I was bringing my 80 year old father there to eat as he likes to eat outside. I never had time for him for a long time and I was thinking of giving him a good meal since he didn’t get to celebrate his birthday in may.
1. After arriving at the restaurant- we ordered the premium set after being told that the seafood is fresh and of premium grade even the meat. We went ahead to order the premium set for both of us.
2. However when the food arrive, the seafood was frozen and tasted so terrible. The salmon was hard like a rock, really hard like a rock, and the mussels tasted like they were kept in the freezer for weeks. It was so bitter and has a terrible smell. Worst of all fish was my father favourite and he was so disappointed with how the fish is and so hard. We ended up finishing our meal in less than 25 mins which is not even half an hour. We didn’t eat much even.
3. Worst of all when I went to pay at the counter than I was told “ THE RESTAURANT DOESNT ACCEPT CASH” this is the first time I see that a restaurant doesn’t accept cash at all. Let me remind that under the law, CASH IS STILL LEGAL TENDERED and I reserve every legal right to put this matter to MAS to look into.
Worst of all the manager pointed to a sign, the sign is as small as a ant on the cashier top, when I walked in it was no where to be seen that they don’t accept cash. I felt so humiliated !! I was like a beggar trying to find ways to pay in cash and it’s not as if I have no money! In the end the manager accepted my cash and she paid using her card however it’s really ridiculous because as far as I know as a legal tender this restaurant has failed to even show prominent signs and I mean clear signs of this rule before diners start their meal! Accept for the small miserable sign at the cashier top.
Everyone, pls… read and think twice about my experience when considering to head down. The choice is yours.. for legal reasons this is my own personal experience….
Already nearing 30s but not allowed to go overseas with SO
My family doesn’t let me go overseas with my SO because they think we will have intercourse. The only way if I can go overseas with him is if we get married.
My SO and I are both nearing 30s and we only have been together for a year. We aren’t thinking of getting married so quickly. However I would really love to go on a small trip with him.
How do people manage to convince their families to go overseas with their SO before marriage?
Netizens’ comments
The real issue is why are you still listening to your parents? But if you really want to piak piak go staycation lo.
Tell your parent you are going with another couple and that solve your problem. I am sure you also want to do it .. Which couple goes overseas and dont have intercourse Otherwise , don’t blame your parent. You can always go and stay in Sentosa… overseas.
Don’t give a F, you’re already almost 30 but still have to seek approval from parents? Tell them intimacy can possibly happen anywhere not only overseas and not only in hotel rooms
Just take ur passport and go lah. U r 30 years u can take care of urself
Two funeral companies allegedly mixed up dead bodies at a deathcare facility at Geylang Bahru, according to Facebook page Death Kopitiam Singapore.
Here is what they said
[14 June, 1830hrs] Death Kopitiam Singapore has come to understand that a case of body mix-up involving two funeral companies took place “two days ago” at a deathcare facility at Geylang Bahru. We have reached out to the two funeral companies involved, but we have yet to receive a comment.
Several sources in the industry that we spoke to have confirmed that this incident had indeed taken place between two parties, though we were given the impression that the matter has been resolved, i.e. the body mix-up has been resolved but not without the families being aware of this incident.
It is our understanding this incident took place at a deathcare facility (likely an embalming room) at 88 Geylang Bahru.
Further, based on the name of the company and address that we obtained, it appears that this facility is run and/or belongs to a member of the Association of Funeral Directors Singapore – when we last checked on 14 June 2022, this member/entity where the incident allegedly took place is listed on the Association’s website. However, we note that this entity/facility is not listed as one of the twenty-two licensed funeral parlours with embalming facilities (updated as at May 2022) on NEA’s website.
This incident comes almost two years after the National Environment Agency (NEA) released the “Guidelines for Handling Deceased in the Funeral Parlour”. The guidelines, dated 1st edition June 2020, which includes a requirement to use body identification tags bearing the name and gender of a deceased person, also requires licensees to ensure that embalming rooms are locked at all times and that the licensed parlour must have a system to check that the correct body is being handed over.
Further, the guidelines state that the licensee or an employee must be present always when the body is taken out of the parlour and record this in a register, as stipulated in the Environmental Public Health (Funeral Parlours) Regulations.
It begs the following questions: is this a common occurrence in the industry, and how can we prevent another such incident from happening?
In a dilemma of which company to choose? Currently, I’m in company A as an Executive, salary of $3,200 with a culture of so many unspoken rules.
For eg: Working hours are from 8:30am to 5:30pm. However, if you leave at 5:30pm you’ll be deemed and blacklisted as “lazy”.
Only by working OT, you’re a good employee to the bosses. Hence, I now don’t dare to leave at 5:30pm you know. I’d just stay back till about 6pm even though I have done my job and have nothing much to do.
I feel guilty for leaving on time even though it’s not wrong entirely. I always believe in work-life balance. But here don’t encourage it and bosses will get angry if you have something on & need to leave, even after your stipulated working hours. I’ve been in this company for 3 months, newly joined.
Then, my ex-internship manager approached me and would like to invite me over as a Senior Executive in Company B, with a salary of $3,800 as I have 4 years of relevant experience. The boss is pretty nice I’d say, just that the environment is a bit toxic with politics, but not too bad I guess.
Now… Company B is so attractive and I feel so bad to resign from Company A as I only work for 3 months, under probation still. I’m not too sure if it’s right and nice of me to just resign. I’m actually afraid the boss in Company A will be angry as people always say it’s not too nice to leave until you stayed for 1 year++ etc, but the opportunity is hard to come by too. What should I do? Appreciate advices!
OK. I am a mother of 2 and was seeing someone for a couple months, for the first time since the breakup years ago.
We were getting to know each other and then he disappeared for a couple of months “to. focus on his health.” Weird, but ok. We started talking again.
We met up one night and the condom broke and he started acting extremely weird. He couldn’t go to sleep and kept talking about STD testing and that he’d caught STD’s before. His heart was pounding, I could feel it. He said, ‘You could get HIV…’
I was kind of freaked out by it but I went home and didn’t think about it. But I woke up in the middle of the night with the sentence burned in my brain. ‘You could get HIV…’ I immediately knew what he was telling me.
I started researching at 3am and found out there is something like a morning-after pill to prevent HIV infection. That morning I got a babysitter and went to the clinic. They interviewed me and said because he didn’t outright tell me he had HIV and was unmedicated, they were choosing not to start me on the medication. I said I was extremely scared, and they said it was very unlikely I would get infected.
Then he started constantly texting me. Sending me negative STD results from 2 years ago with the message “I’m clean, so if you have anything, you gave it to ME…”
I just blocked him. I will test asap and that’s all I need to focus on.
It’s been three weeks and for the past few days I have been nauseous, achy, had a bad sore throat, and all my glands have come up. I can’t swallow anything. I was in the hospital last week for a random infection that didn’t respond to antibiotics.
I can’t tell anyone. I have to take care of my kids like nothing is wrong. I am TERRIFIED. I still have two weeks to test (they said I had to wait 5 weeks for accuracy).
I can’t believe this is happening. This isn’t my life. I can’t sleep. I’m so scared.
I was walking near Yishun MRT and a man in his 60s approached me and complimented my short haircut. I said thanks and the guy was not giving off red flags on the approach. Then he started walking with me… I suppose I should have stood still and not kept walking- first thing I could have done differently. He said he hoped he wasn’t bothering me and I honestly said that he wasn’t.
Well then he wanted to touch my hair and I was so… idk.. surprised? by that I actually said okay… and while I didn’t like it.. I felt like maybe that’s the end of it or maybe he actually cuts hair for a living. (He doesn’t, I asked.)
Then he wanted to know if he was bothering me and again I said no ( I was starting to be a little panicked and hoping it was over) at which point he asked if he could ask me a more personal question. oh boy.
He wanted to know if it was shaved down there. When I said I preferred not to answer he was like why not?
I said I prefer not to answer. He said the correct answer is ‘yes.’ At which point we came to an intersection and he said he was going one way and I said I was going another. I hate to think he had gotten his jollies and was running for home at that point. And now I’m at home thinking about how he knows where I get my haircut and feeling gross.
Reading this I see many things I could have done differently, but specifically, I need help with getting the courage to act differently.
My whole life I’ve been afraid of not being liked by others when I need to get out of a potentially unsafe situation, my instinct is politeness.
Some explaination of my hair first: I have been coloring my hair the same type of auburn red since 2005, the company discontinued my color in the last few years and ill be honest my hair is pretty grown out.
I work as an assistant in a clinic.
The bottom part of my hair is the auburn red, top is my natural dirty blonde color and in the middle is a lighter blonde because the red color i got after mine was discontinued apparently had lightener in it and somewhat bleached my hair… hence why ive been afraid to try other colors… so its kinda a mess, i know this. I walk into the patient room and the first thing this guy says is “Your hair is half blonde and half red” so I said, with a laugh, “Yea I’m behind on coloring thanks for pointing it out.”
He then proceeds to say I hope you don’t take offence to this, but I think women are more attractive with their natural hair color. I said that people have always said my natural hair color looks less natural on me than the red does so that’s funny you think that.
He said that my husband probably like my natural color better, and I said actually he prefers the red.
And he said that my husband probably just doesn’t want to tell me that he likes my natural color better. At this point it went from a light conversation to I felt he was getting too personal. I really just tried to end the topic and carry on with what I needed to do so I could leave the room.
But he kind of continued with the I don’t want you to be offended. I had kept my tone cheerful the whole time and assured him I wasn’t offended because I really just wanted him to stop. What makes anyone think they have the right to talk to someone this way? So rude… just wanted to vent.
Why local so many old people think that just because they are old they are right and like to kpkb in public?
I hate everything about being a girl and I feel so alone and angry and like there’s no hope for me.
I’m a 19-year-old girl and everything about it makes me want to die. It genuinely feels like being born female was a curse. It sounds like a dramatic exaggeration but it’s true. I just need to get this off my chest. It’s driving me so insane and I don’t know where to put all this anger or if there’s any way to alleviate it.
Also, sorry if there are any spelling mistakes or anything in here because I haven’t proofread it, I just need to let this out.
I love women, I think women are great. Nothing I talk about is my opinion of how women truly are, it’s about all the stereotypes and expectations that come with being a girl. I know it’s all essentially complete fucking bullshit but that doesn’t change how badly it all affects me.
Every single day I wish I was born a boy. I’m not trans — I don’t have gender dysphoria and I don’t feel like I am or should be a boy. In actuality, my gender identity is close to being some form of non binary, but I call myself a girl anyway because the way I experience my life is as a girl and as a feminine presenting person I will never be seen by others as anything but a girl.
I hate being expected to be nurturing, empathetic and loving. I’m not a bad or mean person, that isn’t what I mean, but I’m in the process of being diagnosed with some form of a disorder related to empathy. I feel so completely different from other women and girls and it makes me feel broken in a way. I see the way they all talk about how much more empathetic and kind they are compared to men and it makes me want to scream because people always put these expectations on women as a whole and I’m so sick of this stereotype. ‘Women are naturally empathetic and loving’ has been shoved down my throat my entire life.
I hate being expected to one day get married and have children. I don’t want to do either. I hate being told women are naturally good with babies or all have motherly instincts. This is another specific area I feel like I’m ‘broken’ in. This is a funny example but it’s just to show how oddly ingrained into me this is: since I was very little I’ve always hated babies which was weird since I’d never ever been around them or experienced one.
I feel a deep sense of disgust towards very little kids (not necessarily a hatred) and I know this is normal because they’re gross, but still. I hate being expected otherwise just for being a girl. I don’t mind older kids but I don’t feel anything positive towards them as a whole. I have absolutely no parental instincts whatsoever and I know I’d never have children of my own. I feel completely awkward and uncomfortable around babies and kids.
I hate being expected to be quiet and docile and not take up space. I hate how growing up I was held to such a higher standard than my brothers. They were allowed to be messy and loud and careless, I wasn’t. I was expected to be mature and logical and tidy. I was never allowed to mess up or act like normal kids like they were. In family photos, they’d be made to laugh and I’d be told to SUCK MY STOMACH IN (I was a skinny kid, by the way, but that isn’t my point).
I’m scared for my future. Every time I think about it I feel sick. I want to work in something involving chemistry but I’ve heard so many horror stories about how women are treated unfairly in STEM careers and it makes me so anxious. I hate that I can’t talk to any of my friends about it because they’re all boys and won’t understand.
I’m scared of not being taken seriously in a workplace with more men than women. And more involving my future, I hate being SCARED TO EVER HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH A MAN in case he’s in the worst case abusive and controlling, or at a lesser extent doesn’t treat me like a equal or expects certain traits from me just for being a girl. I can’t ever vision myself being anything but completely alone my entire life because I don’t know what kind of man would ever want to be with a woman like me who doesn’t want physical intimacy, doesn’t want children, and doesn’t have a single soft bone in her body.
And this one particularly hurts. I feel a complete sense of disconnection from other women and girls and it makes me so genuinely sad. All my friends are guys and I love my friends, they’re all great, but I wish I had just one girlfriend. And PLEASE don’t get this twisted – I’m not one of those ‘guys are less drama, girls are annoying’ people at all. Actually, my guy friends are so much drama. That isn’t what this is about. All I want is to feel included by other girls and be friends with them but I don’t know how. My whole life I’ve been severely bullied by other girls because they see me as different and weird. Not that guys were even nice to me whatsoever, they just didn’t go particularly as hard on me as the girls around me. I’ve never done anything back to anybody and have always completely minded my own business, but from an extremely young age I’ve always just been targeted. All I want is to be friends with other girls. I didn’t even realise how bad this affected me until right now as I’m typing this. I feel so genuinely upset at how alien I feel around other girls and I wish I was just fucking normal. This is probably because of how I was treated growing up but every time I’m in a group with just girls for a class or project or anything I feel so sick because I know they see me as weird compared to them and they treat me like shit. I don’t understand it. I haven’t done anything so why am I a target.I just don’t know what to do. There’s nothing I CAN do. I’m just stuck like this forever.
A few months ago, my (now Ex) girlfriend tested positive for High-Risk HPV. From what her doctor has told her, this particular strain has no effect on men but has the potential to cause cervical cancer in women.
Hearing this I was upset, concerned, and confused as to how she could have an STD since we have been together for the past 6 years. She assured me that HPV can remain dormant in a person for years and that she’s most like carried it since at least 2014 and points to an abnormal pap smear from then to corroborate her belief.
Now, she and I have two sons, one ours and one from her Ex who was born in 2014. I also know of two guys she dated after her ex and before me: the brother of her former best friend and the fiancé of one of her friends.
Due to this virus’s ability to spread unknowingly and its the possibility to cause cancer, I believe she has a moral obligation to tell these people, but she had stated that she had no intention of telling anyone as her doctor said she was not obligated to by law.
After a LOT of arguing, I managed to convince her to tell her Ex by saying that if she didn’t tell him, she was potentially submitting his future child to the same fate she had suffered; that is, this child’s mother dying of cancer (my (now Ex) girlfriend’s mother died of cancer).
I know bringing her mother into this was messed up, but I felt out of anyone she should understand what that’s like. Her Ex’s girlfriend subsequently got tested and also tested positive for High-Risk HPV.
At this point the reality that it was no longer a possibility that it was spreading; but that it definitely was, set in.
I felt like more than ever she needed to let these people know but she made it clear she was not going to tell anyone else and shut the conversation down every time I tried to broach it. I couldn’t understand she could possibly sleep at night knowing she could have passed a potentially cancer-causing virus to people who were and are supposed to be her friends and be completely ok with letting them possibly find out thru a cancer screening test.
So, after weeks of fighting with myself over whether my intervening was the right thing to do, and asking a few close friends their thoughts on the matter (I phrased the question hypothetically), I found her former-best friend’s brother, her current friend, and the person her ex dated after her, but before his current girlfriend on Facebook and wrote them a message explaining the situation and that they or any of their partners since 2014 should get tested.
When I told her about this she became incredibly upset and said that I had no right to tell them and that that was personal information, but I stood by my actions saying it was the right thing to do.
Since then she has said that the people I wrote to have told her that I was in the wrong and it was not my place to tell them, which has me questioning whether or not did the right thing.
