I(M) have a crush on a friend(F) from uni, we texted almost every day, she’s usually the one to initiate a convo, and we occasionally hang out one to one together.

Recently, after a day together, we were texting and she suddenly asked me if I have a crush on her, I was, of course, taken aback as I did not realize that she had already caught on.

Then she asked why am I suddenly so quiet, and that it’s scary, I don’t think I’m scaring her, I assume it was her being nervous about my answer.

So I confirmed my feelings, and then I reassured her that I wouldn’t try anything funny, I assumed the feelings aren’t mutual so I’m ready to face rejection.

But surprisingly, she didn’t reject me outright and told me when she started noticing my interest and etc. After that, our convo resumed back to other topics. she’s a pretty shy person so I’m not sure if she’s trying to give me the green light or not. Also, can anyone let me know when a girl knows that a guy likes her, does she gets disgusted about him, or if not, what is actually going through her head?

Does this mean she has an interest or even a slight interest in me? I’m pretty confused.

Here are what netizens think:

• If I don’t like someone I would continue to imagine that he’s just a nice friend. Also I think if she doesn’t care about what u think she wouldn’t find your silence “scary”  why you immediately assume the feelings aren’t mutual without ASKING bruh

• This green light so bright that you should almost be blinded by it however please don’t hold her hand or try to give her a kiss to gauge her interest level like what some commenters have said. If she’s as shy as you say, that will scare her and it gives off major creep vibes. Just ask her out on a date!

• So sweet. Cross the road, hold her hand. Don’t let go. See how she react. If she act shy or super happy. Congrats.

• Sorry bro. If she was, she would be straightforward. Cos she can be straightforward asking u the question so why so ambivalent after your response? She’s on the fence for 2 possible reasons: she has no other guy interested right now so u are her entertainment for the time being or she treasure this friendship and want to let u down slowly. U should prob reconsider.

Rs and marriage

A relationship while dating is like testing whether he or she is suitable for you.

Firstly there must be some sort of liking, gradually love, while you observe the characteristics, background of the partner. Marriage is like an agreement signing ceremony, negotiation is carried out during a relationship while dating. During which, both must discuss their goals, spending habits living habits, what they wanna be after marriage and how much they earn (impt), their family relatives and so on.

Both must compromise and come out with an agreement (your money is your money, my money is my money, but joint acct is out money), earn relatively the same pay unless u wanna pay for ur partner, how to pay for wedding expenses and so on.

Only when agreement is out then can you proceed to 求婚。Be realistic, love is practical. Girls, pls wake up from ur princess and tai tai dream and pay for 50% of expenses. Given that current society girls earn more, Chinese tradition of girls losing out when wedding thru angbao and all those should be abolished, if not the marriage rate will continue to decline.

Yes, rising cost is the main factor but with the girl working and contributing , rising cost will be less of a problem and the guy likely agree to marriage. If not, girls, no meter how u pressure for marriage,, the guy wun move cos you are not worthy though he love you. You haven’t proven urself to be for the family. Those tai tai deserve not to get married, single forever.

Guys, do not go after pretty girls and tai tai who expect you to pay,it is not gonna work and they are just a 花瓶。

Here are what netizens think:

• Guy like you deserve to be single. If you can ensure that you can take on 5mths of pregnancy along with all the morning sickness as well as labor pain and management then talk about 50%. If not, life is never fair. If life is fair, botok will have hair.

• everything wanna split 50:50. Pregnancy, childbirth, all the household chores & taking care of kids you do 50%?? If not then where’s your 50% contribution? Want to split everything 50:50? Get a housemate.

• No wonder fewer and fewer women want to get married nowadays. Have to work full time, have to do all the household chores, take care of children, shoulder the burden of pregnancy and childbirth alone, have to take shit from in laws if you’re unlucky…. what do men bring to the table exactly for us to take on all these burdens And having any standards at all and wanting to be treated well apparently makes us “gold diggers” and “leeches”. Yucks. No thanks!

• Got princesses around, also got man child around. No wonder more and more youngsters don’t wish to get married.
• Everyone is thinking about what are they going to get out of a relationship instead of thinking of ways to be a better partner.
• OP I think you stay single better. You could have met a princess, but you don’t sound like a great catch either from the way you wrote your post.

It did happen to me once. I took a cab from GOLDEN Mile Complex to drop someone at Jalan Bahagia at Kim Keat before to Upper BUKIT TIMAH condo .

I told the taxi driver he missed the U turn to Lavender Street.

He told me it was his taxi and he liked to do his way. I told him that he went a big round along KPE, PIE, then CTE back to Moulmein before he could u turn back to Jalan Bahagia. I told him I had a iPhone applications that tracked the movement.

He said he would give me $5 in compensation. He was talking in defiance as if he was the big boss.

I told me I knew about the contract laws on taxi. I told him I could report him to police or authority and revoke his licence. I got evidence in my phone application “MOVE” that he did go a big circle to Moulmein Road. Later he softened his stance and apologised.

He spoke good English. I refused the discount reserving the right to go after him.

That’s why I prefer to take a grab instead. At least the fare is fixed and no matter what route the driver takes, it will be the same stated amount. It happen to me and my wife too. We boarded a cab at waterway point taxi stand and wanted to ho to Tampines.

The driver actually took a much longer route and to rub salt into the wound, he actually went round and round Tampines looking for street 82 even after I told him my destination is just opposite OTH.

So sad. Too tired to argue. Paid the fare and took it as a lesson learn. I have not taken a taxi from then. The above opinions are mine alone and not intended to cause any harm or misunderstanding to anyone or parties whatsoever.

I am a 26 year old female, working in a corporate job.

I love to engage in ‘piak piak’, but there’s one thing I absolutely hate: when the air conditioning is on during ‘piak piak’.

It doesn’t matter how the weather is for the day, I just can’t handle the cold air on my body while I’m trying to get intimate with my partner.

I think the main reason why I hate it is because my ‘vagina’cat; dries up very easily when the air is too cold.

It’s like an instant reaction and I can’t help it.

Not only does it feel uncomfortable, but it also makes it much harder for me to get ‘high’ and enjoy the experience.

When I first started to experience this issue, I was really confused and scared. I tried to talk to my partner about it, but he didn’t really seem to understand what I was trying to say.

I eventually had to figure out a way to make it work so I started applying some ‘wet stuff’ on my ‘cat’.

That way at least even if the aircon was cold, I could still remain wet.

However, even with my makeshift solution, I still found it hard to really enjoy ‘piak piak’ when the aircon was on.

I would dry up easily and it would take me a lot longer to reach the most ‘shiok’ point.

I think the worst part is that my partner would often get frustrated and start to think that I wasn’t into it, which would make me feel even worse.

At this point, I just try to avoid having ‘piak piak’ when the aircon is on at all costs.

My partner really does not understand what I am going through so it gets to me at times.

I feel like he only cares about his own enjoyment and completely ignores mine.

This isn’t a perfect solution as it can sometimes lead to arguments and disagreements.

I’m still trying to find a better way to handle this issue, but until then I’m just going to keep trying to explain why I hate it when the aircon is on during ‘piak piak’.

I am currently a 2nd yr undergrad in a local university (non-NUS) and occasionally dip into the sugaring scene for extra pocket money.

Recently on one of the sugaring sites, a guy messaged me and the vibe was quite good so I agreed to meet him for a date to see if we can hit it off. My heart was palpitating a bit when he arrived in a lambo to pick me at my block and he whisked me off to a nice michelin star restaurant.

In terms of looks, he is about average but we got along quite well and had a nice time. He said he was a trader and was very comfortable moneywise but not looking for any commitment which was great as I am still studying and don’t want anything serious. After that night, I thought he would make a proposition for an arrangement but there was no contact from him for almost a week.

Suddenly, he popped up again on tele and asked me out for another date. The same thing happened again and in total we went for 4 dates. It was a sense of deja vu as the dates went well but never got intimate. On the last date tho’, we were at a scenic restaurant looking at the Marina bay view when he came up from behind, hugged me and kissed me. He looked into my eyes and said he loved me but we never progressed beyond that. He sent me back after and that was the end.

The next day, I msg him to thank him and asked if he was serious about having an arrangement with me but no reply.

Still no reply after a day so I decided to test him. I said that I really liked him and wanted to have sxx with him but he would have to commit to an arrangement with a regular allowance. He finally replied and said that he is game for a ‘trial’ makeout session but he would not compensate me and would make decision about an arrangement after that. I replied that he told me he loved me and even kissed me.

What more does he need to make up his mind? After that, there was silence from him. I decided then to just block him on tele but a week after that I got a message from him on the sugaring site saying he misses me and wants to discuss further.

Should I give him a chance or is he just taking me for a ride (literally and figuratively) in his lambo?