Valentine Day is around the corner. Looking back, there are many things that I want to share.

Throwback to two years ago, 23 years old, I never had a boyfriend. I am that kind of girl with pimples and oily skin. I deemed myself to be single.

Throwback to one year ago, 24 years old, I had my first boyfriend. A boyfriend who loves you for who you are, when he tells you you look better without makeup.

A boyfriend who accompanies you ups and downs. However, as a ladies man, he was talking to other girls too. I was unable to accept it and the relationship fell apart.

Currently, I am in a loving relationship with my fiance.

He is everything I wanted, smart, caring, generous and kind. Most importantly, treats you well, protects you and encourages you. What I want to say is don’t lose hope. A failed relationship does not mean that you are doomed. Be at your very best, be yourself and you will attract the right one. No mind games, no forced convo, and everything just flows.

Here are what netizens think:

• You sound like a person who let your emotions rule your head. Less than a year of being together is still honeymoon phase. Most people who are level headed will ride out at least a few years of being in a relationship with the same person before committing.

• One year ago you are with first boyfriend. Now you have a fiancé? How long was the relationship with the fiancé?

• I couldn’t help but to compare the two…. Ex BF and fiance. A ladies man and one who is not. Good looking and charming against one who is neither?

New staff I hired is paid higher than me

How do you manage the emotional imbalance and confusion if you are to hire your new staff whom is paid slightly higher than you?

And what about your new peers whom are also paid higher than you? I am not privy to such information but happened to chance upon it and being the longest staff around, I am happy to welcome new members who will of course take on or support some of my overwhelming work section but I don’t know how to make out of my inner thoughts when I know all these people are paid higher than me whom I will need to teach and guide over time..

And for those who will suggest I speak to my boss for increment, how do I just do so without showing that I am aware of these people payscale? Or should I just be contented and purge all those thoughts out of my head and mind my own biz? Overall, I enjoyed being in this organization as a whole.

Here are what netizens think:

• Being too comfortable in a place is never good thing in terms of salary progression that is. Loyalty no longer bags you bigger bags, jumping does. So usually people would jump out then back in after a few years outside to get that salary increment. All the best OP!

• You should be thankful you have a job.. Don’t compare.. If not happy.. Just go look for another one and demand more.. No one is stopping you…

• 1)i thought hiring managers should not know thier staff salary except HR ..Are you in the HR?
  2)you train or not..sorry to say companies wont care unless you have not explain in your yearly performance.

• Nowdays its like that. Previous batch n new batch have different salary. This is company decision so if u want to know u have to ask them. U also can make a decision to see if u can get higher pay but maybe with other company

My friend (24,M) who got together with his girlfriend (23,F) about a year ago had a pact to not check each others’ phones in the name of trust. This pact got revoked for reasons unknown and he realized he is in deep trouble.

How to influence the algo???

Bro has won in TikTok’s algorithm. XMMs, university students, OLs, you name it, his FYP has it.
When did TikTok come out? Google says September 2016. Mans spent hours daily scrolling and liking any content that has girls he finds cute, maybe a few food videos, maybe some cats.

The things we do for love

Alas, now that his phone can be checked by his gf, he needs to clear out his ‘liked’ content. On the first day of operation: CLEANSE, he spent 3 hours in bed un-liking as many as he could. A friend was helping him to check and scrolled through his liked content to check their progress only to find out that he has been literally scrolling down for 4 minutes and the liked videos has not yet ended. If I had to put a number on the number of videos he liked I could safely say it’s above 5000.

When asked “bro why you have so many liked videos?”, he looked at us and he really said: “Ting ting ting tang tang ting”

He hopped on the computer cause pointing and clicking might be faster than un-liking them on an iPhone. We will all chilling at a friend’s house together and when it was time to go home he was still at it. See, this is why you download and save them elsewhere instead of liking them you don’t like so much content.

I have not heard from my friend in a few days.. I hope he is still alive. #1view1prayer

A man recently shared that he used replica AirPods and boasted about its quality.

Here is what he said:

I used to be a Jabra Sport Elite fan. Until they started hurting after wearing them for more than 1.5 hours. It was during this period that AirPods became the latest tech craze. However, as a broke student, this meant purchasing them = eat grass for 6 months.

Then I stumbled upon the random chinese replicas, discovered more models, sellers, chips, features and just went down the rabbithole.

As of writing this post, I can safely say today’s replica AirPods have come a long way (AirPods Max also have horh). Battery life is fantastic, transparency and noise cancellation works perfectly (I compared to my brothers’ retail AirPods).

Sound quality: 9/10 Honestly, these reps have much better sound quality than my previous V4.8 (AirPods Pro Gen1 rep). And I don’t know why some people complained about the bass, it’s actually great! However, it doesn’t get as loud as my V4.8, as the V5.1 using 7mm drivers, while the V4.8 are based on 13mm drivers.

Features (ANC/Transparency)

ANC: 8/10 I have tried original AirPods Pro 2. And I have to say that ANC is almost 1:1. That’s great for this price. No, the original Pro2’s are not blocking out all noises for 100%. It’s just reducing the amount of noises you hear, mostly in a quiet way.

Transparency: 10/10 Absolutely amazing, original AP Pro 2’s are just a tiny bit better than the V5.1.

Force touch controls: 10/10 Can’t complain about all of the controls. They work just fine, and I hope they do work anytime.

Microphone quality: 8/10 Absolutely fine. Records fine, call quality is good too. Could be a little bit clearer, but it’s okay considering the “low” price I got them for.

Spatial audio: 7/10 Works, but I’m never gonna use it. Chinese voice plays when switching between Spatial audio modes. Battery life: 9/10 Used for almost 3h, with 36% volume, and still had 62% remaining. Keep in mind that it’s the first day, so this numbers will probably change in the future.

Expect around 80SGD in damage

(Disclaimer: Not promoting for any supplier, not advocating for replicas, not affiliated with any brand nor supplier)

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I (29f) found years worth of explicit messages between my partner (45m) and another girl and not sure what to do next

As the title says, I found at least three years (I stopped scrolling at that point because there were too many and my hand was aching) of texts between my long term boyfriend and some girl.

We’ve been together since 2019 and these go back at least to 2020. There were even texts where she was asking him if I was around and if he really loved me.

I’ve never gone through his phone before, don’t really know why I did now, but I did and I’m torn on what to do next.

At this point int the relationship, our lives are pretty intertwined. We live together, we share a bank account, this list goes on and on.

My first reaction is to want to confront him and leave him right away but i know realistically i should stop and think.

What if anything should I do or prepare before I bring this up with him?

Netizens’ comments

1. YOU BREAK UP. I am so sick of seeing posts where the older man is clearly a predatory, and a creep on top of that. This should not even be up for debate. He’s 16 years older than you AND he cheated. You don’t prepare to bring it up at all.
2. Make an exit plan. Where are you going to go immediately? Can you get a place on your own? If you can, do that first. If not, figure out who you can stay with. If you have a current lease, figure out what you need to do to get off of it and get your name removed from any utilities or other shared bills. Cancel any insurance policies that are in both of your names and get one for just yourself.
3. Go talk to your own divorce lawyer, and do it on the sly. Get some advice that actually applies to your situation.
   If you do break up, you want the best terms you can get. For instance, you keep the home (whether rented or owned). Lawyer may tell you how to keep the most money from your shared account, etc.
   Even if you stay with him, knowledge is power. Please keep reminding yourself: He has cheated on you.

I (25m) have never felt more more dejected, unattractive, and unwanted as I do now.

I have tried online dating in the form of tinder, OKC, Hinge, Bumble, even Badoo multiple times in my life. But now it feels worse than ever.

I dated the same girl all through my uni so I didn’t really understand just how much easier it is to meet people then.

I broke up with her (long story) and tried to move on. I actually had a single success on Tinder, getting my only ever date and turning it into a decent relationship for ~6 months.

It didn’t work out though and so I ended up back at square one.

Fast forward 6 months, now I’m working full-time and have absolutely no real world connections or opportunities to meet women at all.

I know I’m decent looking, around a 6.5/10 or 7/10 according to others. I’m young, relatively fit, well groomed, and I dress well.

However, that all seems to count for absolutely nothing. If you’re not an 8/10 or higher you’re invisible, or at least that’s the way it feels.

I have tried optimizing my profiles with better pictures, bios, etc and yet I’m lucky to get a single like across 3 apps in a week (and it’s rarely someone I’m interested in).

Idk if it’s the fact that I look really young or if my profile is buried under better ones, but I’m getting desperate.

There just seems to be no options for guys in their mid twenties at all. I’ve never been one for going to bars but I just might have to resort to that. I’m at a complete loss, and am pretty much ready to consign myself to a solitary life at this point.

Work alone drains me for everything I’m worth. I rarely have the energy to even consider trying to go out. For those that might say work on yourself etc etc I do that plenty.

What little energy I do have is spent staying in shape, spending time with family, and taking the occasional hike (my other hobbies consist of reading or watching things which is a little easier).

Ultimately none of it does anything to solve the crushing loneliness in my heart.

I’ve been having an affair for two years and neither my husband nor my affair has any idea.

I do want to start out by saying that I realize how horrible a person I am.

There are no excuses for what I’ve done but some of the main reasons I started resenting my husband are as follows:

My husband is almost completely unable to have intercourse due to a medical issue, even with medication.

My husband lost 7 figures by gambling it away last year. It was his own money, but we still had made plans to use it for a home.

There was a brief stint where my husband was texting some other girl inappropriate things but nothing ever happened between them.

Husband has always been addicted to adult videos and lies about it often.

We have been married since 2018. In 2021, I began my unexpected affair. My affair was 35 years my senior. I was 31 at the time and he was 66. He was a client where I used to work and we always got along really well. I dropped off a Christmas present at his house one night and a couple months later, we slept together.

It was an incredible experience to have real, passionate intercourse for the first time in my life. As wrong as I knew it was, I couldn’t stop it.

We fell in love. As we grew more serious, we moved in together a few months ago. I told my husband I didn’t love him anymore. Sunday night I left my affair’s home because I have problems controlling my emotions. I didn’t want to leave and I knew I would be miserable going back to my husband, and I am.

There is no going back and I am stuck in this moldy apartment with a husband I pretend to love.

I feel constant anxiety over having lost my affair, and no remorse for what I’ve done.

That’s it.

My (21F) boyfriend (M21) can’t get over the fact I slept with someone else while we broke up for 3 months.

For some context, my boyfriend and I have been together for around 3 years now (excluding the 3 month break up) We go to college in the same state, so we see each other quite often.

At the end of last year, we broke up and it was our first time not talking to each other for 3 months. No contact at all. It wasn’t like a break so we didn’t intend to get back tgt.

When we ended up talking later (and have since rekindled the relationship), he found out that I had slept with someone.

As we were together for so long, he was the only person I had been with and random hookups aren’t normally my thing at all.

My boyfriend, however, had a thing with a girl and they also slept together (they were talking, hanging out…). We were also each others first everything.

I have gotten over the fact that he’s been with another girl, but he can’t get over the fact that I slept with someone else.

In his eyes, he can’t believe I gave it up so easily (a week after meeting the guy) and says it’s different from his situation as they had been talking even though they also hooked up.

It’s been a month since we have rekindled things, and things are perfect otherwise, but every time this comes up he just gets so upset and shuts me out completely (has happened twice since we got back tgt).

I want to be with him, and I believe he wants to be with me, but we aren’t sure how he is able to overcome this.

I can’t go back and change my actions,and that seems to be the only way to fix this, but he doesn’t know what he can do to move past this or if he ever will be able to and we are kind of just stuck and unsure what to do. This is the only problem in our relationship.

So I basically need your guys’ advice on how he could potentially overcome this, what I can do to help aid this process or in general, what I can say or do for him to make him feel better, and just advice about this in general (we want to keep talking but this just seems to be an obstacle that’s been hard for us to overcome).

Thank you for reading and please give me advice!

Editor’s note:

I (M32) don’t want my girlfriend (F33) to follow me on social media any more.

She cyberstalks my friends and constantly accuses me of having romantic interest in them. I’m only interested in her and could literally not be any less piqued by the people she’s accused me of liking. (I try to reassure her of this on a daily basis).

Her jealousy and accusation have gotten to the point where I have deactivated my IG, privatized my YouTube, and deleted all my other social media accounts.

(She would go through my posts/comments and attack me about them…all of my posts/comments were mild, at best, and incredibly SFW. There was nothing in my history that I would want to hide or be ashamed about).

I have very little to no agency in our relationship when it comes to social media and just want a place where I can be myself, without fearing that something I said online will upset my gf.

I just want to be able to be myself. Not because I have anything to hide but because I know we’d end up fighting about it sooner than later…

Netizens’ comments

1. It sounds like social media is the least of your concerns. She sounds possessive to a deranged extent. You should safely exit the relationship.
2. And you are dating her, why?
3. Dude, Red flag. Run for the hills and don’t look back.
4. Break up. It will never improve. Do you want to spend the rest of your life like this? She needs to see a mental health professional, but that’s not your burden to bear.
   I would also recommend filming/recording your breakup, or any other threats she makes. As she’s mentally unstable and not thinking rationally she might accuse you of things that could ruin your life