Everything also baby

I’m seriously so tired of people who constantly use their baby as an excuse during work.

Now before anyone comes after me and say “I’m not understanding” or “you wait until you become a parent”, having a baby was YOUR choice and not having a baby is also MY choice. I don’t see why I have to be penalised for your choice or why I have to be more “considerate” of you because of a choice YOU made.

Having and not having a baby comes with both pros and cons, and just because I don’t have a baby, doesn’t mean I need to absorb the cons of someone who has one.

At work I let parents take the school holidays off as I know parents are busy prepping kids back for School or that is the only time they can go overseas with their children.

Our office operationally cannot close during last week of the year either. That is the compromise I am willing to make as I know how stressful it is to prep kids back to school and yes, I feel that it is quite generous as if given the option, I would like to take the last week off to unwind.

I can tolerate up to the point where a child falls sick and needs their parent to care for them because everyone falls sicks and it’s also not a weekly occurrence.

The one thing I cannot stand, is when people end up using their babies as excuse to “evade” work or under the guise of staying home or even get people to do things for them. Then they proceed to ask other people to wipe up their backside and do things for them because they have a “baby”. I consider baby and children a part of personal life, and it if it affects your competency to do work, then maybe you’re a lousy worker.

Lord can’t wait to leave this shitty company after I get my bonus for the FY *rolls eyes*

I love chubby men

Growing up I thought I was into defined abs and fit bodies. Although those are still attractive, I’ve realised I just have a thing for chubby men!

There’s something about a man with a chubby stomach and strong arms and legs, it’s sooooooo attractive to me! To all the chubby men out there who don’t get enough appreciation, we see you!!

Edit: i like to describe chubby men as strong teddy bears 🙂 i think the description fits!

Netizens’ comments

• Rip to your DMs lol
• Strong teddy bears <3 Perfect name. I already describe my boyfriend as a teddy bear, cause he’s gentle, chubby and hairy. I love it so much.
  He’s got such strong arms and legs also. Seriously dad bods are underrated! (No, not the dad bods that are like.. hollywood bodies)
• I hope you get yourself a nice teddy.
• These posts make me insecure bc I have a chubby man w but warm hands n strong arms and an awesome beard n I wonder if other women’s love him tooa😩🥹
• I have to agree with you, larger men are a lot more attractive and tbh I feel safer with them. Not sure why but there’s just something about their presence that’s calming and hot too
• Same, chubby guys are the best! muscular/skinny guys don’t do it for me and are pretty much meta.. though I do fancy a meta girl..
• Perfectly defined muscles are great to look at but when it comes to touching someone , a nice layer of solid fat over those muscles feels so much better.
• It’s nice to make someone’s day with a little comment and get Extra attention because they have so much to give. Have a blast OP 😘
• Honestly I came to this realization a few months ago. I just prefer bulky men, like chubby muscle. I would feel weird dating a very lean and muscled guy.

My (F19) new bf (M23) has an STD

I (F19) have been dating this guy (M23) for 4 months, we recently made it official. I lost my virginity to him a month ago and decided to go on birth control.

Last night he had trouble getting hard with a condom on and asked if he could try it without and promised to pull out.

I agreed because I wanted to make sure he finished too. He didnt pull out in time and was really freaked out about it.

He was really sweet and bought me a plan b just incase because the birth control is new.

Today I got a text from him saying that I might want to get tested just in case because he was given an STD by his ex.

Ive been doing research and im freaking out and asked him why he didn’t bring it up.

He said there’s a huge stigma around it and he was afraid I would’ve ghosted him if he told me. I probably would’ve earlier on in the relationship but I really have feelings for this guy now and don’t know what to do.

I can’t talk to anybody else about this because my family is really religious and doesn’t even know I’m dating.

Update: He’s driving me to urgent care because I don’t have a car and he’s taking 100% responsibility for any medical cost.

Thank you guys so much for your responses!! I feel so stupid I’m gonna end it tn. I appreciate all of you so much this has been so helpful, thank you thank you thank you

I’m okay with using women and leading them on

(27M) All throughout my formative years I never had much luck with the ladies. I wasn’t ugly but I was awkward. Still I tried my damnest without success.

There’s only so much rejection one man can take before he becomes bitter and resentful. I was the last in my friendship group to lose my virginity and that was when I was 21.

Being around all my active-in-hook ups friends caused me great insecurity in school and university.

Fast-forward a few years, I’m not exactly rich but I have my life together at least. I have a great job and I’m in much better physical shape than before. Needless to say, this has helped considerably with my dating life.

Rather than settling down though, I’m out to make up for all those years I lost. Many of my partners are cool with casual hookups but others I’ve had to deceive a bit.

In the last couple of years I’ve probably led on a dozen women under the false pretences of a relationship.

I know this is immoral but I just think they had their fun, now I’m having mine. They’re probably used to it by now anyway.

Netizens’ comments

• Sounds like you have a hate problem with women dawg. You need to figure that out otherwise it’s gonna haunt you for the rest of your life
• There’s a decent chance if you dont resolve that it will come back to bite you in the ass when you find someone you do like OR you’ll do it for long enough and wake up one day and everyone else is paired off. Time goes quicker than you realize and can appreciate.
• So you’re hurting and punishing women who never hurt you, just for fun?

advice on some legal matters 🙁 please help

hey everyone, first time posting on here. i’ll just get straight to the point.

basically, im currently going through a divorce, since end of August 2022. i wont go into much details (unless required) however, lets just say that i found out he had been in a bad financial state and had debt. he had been hiding it from me from the entire duration of our relationship before we got married, about 5 years-ish. not only does he owe me a hefty sum of money, he owes others as well.

since end of August, he blocked my number everywhere and have went MIA. i have no way of contacting him at all. i have been receiving letters of the money that he owed from multiple entities. a money lender even came to my house looking for him because he hadnt updated them of his new address. last night, a letter came from a telco company addressing to me (as he had previously signed a contract under my name to use my CIS benefit) stating that he owed that a sum and if it isnt paid within (7) days, legal action will be taken.

as of right now, i also have no sight of the status of the divorce as well as the status of our BTO that will be ready by this year.

its been pretty mentally draining for me because i just want everything to be over. ive tried many ways to contact him, even by going through his friends and family but theyve all ignored me reaching out too.

so im just wondering if there’s anything i can do legally to at least just get him to reply me? or if theres any suggestions on how i can reach out to him?

thanks in advance and i really apologise for any formatting/grammar errors.