Toilet is my safe place….

Its a bit weird to say that my toilet at home is my safe place but i am not lying and just want to share my thoughts.

When i was young my mom would always say that i should not stay in the toilet for so long because there is a lot of jin and setan there and that i should do my business and get out but as i grow older i just like to stay inside the toilet doing nothing.

For someone who do not have their own room or private space i would always run to the bathroom if i feel in need to escape reality…

yeah weird right? Haha but even when i am outside in public and if i encounter an uncomfortable situation i would go to the bathroom and sit there for hrs. Literally sitting on the toilet seat and do nothing but stare in blank space.

Its a weird habit but i was wondering if anyone is doing the same thing or is it just me?

Here are what netizens think:

• if you find toilet is a safe place then it is..nothing wrong..but I can’t imagine sitting in the public toilet for hours though..why not find another safe place? like staircase, park, ect ect…now they also have those cubicle in shopping for rent , you can consider too.. you are what your mind think.

• The only way for you to break this cycle is to go in after me. Something I wouldn’t wish upon my worst enemy, but if it can help. Why not . Lol

• You like to sit alone, enjoying the solitude. You would like any place similar to toilet that gives you same experience of having your own time away from anything else. Try looking for another place like park, beach and see if you feel the same there.

• Even when I have my own room, I still like to spend a long time in the toilet playing on my phone

First of all, I have my own savings from working through sch, so no parents support other than staying at home, and I do pay my share of bills.

And it is tech related job, I think the market is quite bad now, I have seen many postings, requiring 10 yrs exp for 7k and it is still hard to find truly entry-level jobs, 4k salary job, req 3 years exp and proficiency in many stuff, the job req list and the exp required did scare me off.

I didnt even dare to apply for most of them, esp the jobs that req knowledge on like 5 languages and frameworks I havent even heard of (under ‘required’ and not ‘good to have’), and that was only 4k to 5k job.

1 whole page of what to do, req high proficiency in so many languages and frameworks and software, and the pay not even 4.5k, honestly demoralising.

Normal peasants like me prob get a 2k to 3k job and suck it. (Ya I saw a swe job for 2k lol). The agents I spoke to also told me 3k is the normal starting salary for tech industry, is this true or lowballing me?

It’s fine, not in a hurry, I just rejected the 3k tech job w possible OT til midnight, cos I feel that it is really too much. I’m considering to go back to the customer service job for now (hybrid, pays the same w no OT) while I find other jobs hahaa

Thanksss

Hi everyone! Just a clueless fresh grad from cs here asking for some help and opinions

I have been searching for many entry level jobs, analyst type roles or swe, and most if not all req 2-3 years exp.

Do projects in uni count? But I have nothing to show since I didnt save the codes to github or something….

And I’m finding it difficult to find a job w my existing skillsets, let’s say I only have half of what the job requirements states, should I still apply? Like I only know AngularJS but the job requires me to know another 2 types of JS(idk why??). Ngl The job requirements and exp are turning me away from applying, feels that they will just throw my resume away cos I’m not the candidate they are looking for. I have seen like 5 diff SQL coding req for just 1 job, not sure if they meant they req any 1 or need to know everything.

And some jobs dont state their salary on the job postings, had bad experiences w gg through the interview rounds only to find out they are only paying xxx amt, but it seems inappropriate to ask for the salary during the 1st round of interview? How do you go about it? Or should I skip those that dont talk about salary? It’s either like this or they put a salary range that is like from 3k to 8k, how do I know I’m not lowballing myself?

saw another post and had ptsd about the ‘tight knit’ and ‘good manager’ parts, got taken advantage of to work free OT before and didnt like it one bit, pay was low too.

Thanks, sorry for the long question

Here are what netizens think:

• No, your University project is nothing compared to the real world

• It is better that you stop dreaming and start somewhere, you can always jump later on.

• Any fresh grad from local university thinking that they are big shots now with a degree. Everyone also have just another piece of toilet paper.

I think many Singaporeans are too realistic, too materialistic and too selfish, with disregard for everything else.

EVERYTHING is about money, and must be viewed in the perspective of profit and loss.

Eating out, family relationship, friendship. Their philosophy in life is too…selfish and calculative. And they generally have a fragile ego about Singapore – if anyone says Singapore or Singaporeans no good, CONFIRM jump, even for honest feedback or personal feelings.

Super predictable like knee jerk reaction.

You know, people elsewhere are not like that – there tend to be a higher percentage of objective and opened minded people. I know if this gets published, sure got people curse my eighteen generations of ancestors, and ask me to F off to other countries etc., “not happy, leave” etc… But I don’t care! Admin, pls publish if possible. I’d just like to rant. It’s so tired dealing with people like that.

At the end of the day, Life is more than profits.

Here are what netizens think:

• We are led to behave n do this way since starting school, and we learn by the adults n leaders example, no culture like the older generation, it may be a way of self survival mentality influenced alone the growing up experience.

• Don’t blame people instead,blame yourself not happy leave this what the system is…

• We speak english, have the greatest airport, airline, passport, strong currency and most competitive economy maybe behind US … I paused for sec reading the word “jump”. Ya it’s annoying, I know you know they know right,

• The irony

My (26F) boyfriend (27M) proposed, but I don’t know how to say no without hurting his feelings

Me (26F) and my boyfriend (27M) have been together for almost 6 years, and he recently proposed.

I wasn’t prepared for this and I didn’t know how to react, so I said yes as it was the expected thing for me to do, and he’s super happy and excited.

I love him a lot and I know he loves me too, I want to marry him someday, maybe in a few years, but not now or anytime soon. Nothing wrong with him, I’m just going through a lot in the moment and I don’t feel like this is the right time for me.

We always talk about absolutely everything, but this time I’m afraid of hurting his feelings. I’m scared that if I say no, or if I explain that I don’t have any plans of marrying him in a near future, this could potentially change our relationship.

How to say “no” to a marriage proposal when there’s nothing wrong with the relationship?

Just editing to include more information: I don’t want to marry him for now because my mother has cancer and I’m not going anywhere until she gets better or passes away. Unfortunately I can’t give him any specific timeframe.

Netizens’ comments

I’m sorry to be blunt, but you don’t. You don’t get to not hurt his feelings here, that’s just not an option.

If you turn him down, it will hurt his feelings. It will change your relationship. It may lead to a breakup, but will absolutely lead to a conversation about what your timeline does look like. And you need to be ready to answer that, with a concrete timeline, if you intend to continue dating him, or even having a long engagement.

Unfortunately, there’s no way to have this conversation and go back to how things were before the proposal happened, there’s just not. You need to accept that, and do it anyway. Sometimes, to do what’s right for yourself, you have to be the bad guy in someone else’s story.

is $1450 rental cheap or expensive?

hi guys, im a foreigner renting a master room in bukit timah for $1450, been staying here since oct. previously i was renting a room in choa chu kang but the landlord put the place on sale.

ive been getting mixed responses when i tell ppl im paying 1450, some says its too expensive, some says its cheap as their friends with master room pay $1500-$1800.

i like the place and everything, im just concerned about the price. before, i thought it was a good deal, but then ppl’s negative reactions started to get to me so im thinking if i should move out when the minimum period finishes (6months)

my friend offered me a common room at her condo at woodlands for $1000 but the place is quite small. moreover, im scared for the long commute to my office in orchard. moving to bukit timah which is 30mins commute to orchard has helped me feel less tired and not waste time

my financial advisor said that ideally rent should be 1/5 of salary. my salary is 5k for junior position in tech. idk if i will be able to reach 7k?? im not that good:(

i guess i know all of the stuff to consider about choosing a place to live, like location, room size, amenities, etc. i guess i want more opinions on if 1450$ might be financially disruptive for me in the long run. thx

Netizens’ comments

1. Local here, I’m paying 1400 for a small condo common room at the city fringe (sharing toilet with 3 others…) so I think 1450 for master bedroom is very good already. Bukit Timah is considered a central/affluent area in Singapore.
2. Is this a master bedroom in a HDB or a condo? Generally, I usually assume it’s a HDB Master bedroom when the words ‘Master Bedroom’ is used.
   Generally, this kind of price for a Master bedroom (with an attached toilet) is really quite quite okay. Although I do not know what are your arrangements for utilities are.
   I have seen HDB Master bedrooms going for $1800 in very good locations. I don’t know where your exact location is. But HDB Master bedroom rents have been surging upwards due to high demand (singapore opening up it’s borders + more married couples renting while waiting for BTO).
   You can probably get greater savings if you downgrade to a HDB common room

My neighbour has their own incense bin and they burn it outside their front door, which is also directly infront of our front door.

We are actually facing each other directly so its abit difficult to avoid. They started burning at night and my whole bedroom smell like smoke.

I tolerated it for awhile now but I’m starting to feel a little bit agitated because the smoke would permeate our home and into our bedroom, so the smell lingers throughout the night when we sleep.

Typing this at 2am as its happening, and I feel so suffocated from the smell.

But I do feel like I should tolerate it since I have a 1 year old who cries like nobody’s business. I honestly feel like lodging a complaint would be useless and just cause bad blood between me and my neighbour.

Anyone face this? What are some of the things I can actually do without complaining?

Netizens’ comments

• Burning incense paper in HDB common corridors is no longer allowed.
  Since you don’t want it to happen anymore, just write into your Town Council and they can speak to your neighbour on your behalf, and you can request them to keep your identity anoynomous. Your neighbour won’t know its you since there will be other units along the corridor and any of them could have made the complaint.
• I also have a chinese neighbour. While our door don’t face each other,i live corner unit,so generally the wind will blow towards our unit.
  During our early shift to that house,we tolerated by closing our door until they have finished burning. Nowadays,they burn at the staircase,away from our door.
  Although still smell,but the ashes won’t flew towards our home. Sometimes we need to tell them ‘i have a baby & i also have allergy’. If they are smart,they will burn elsewhere.