F21 My boyfriend M27 keeps walking in on me when I’m using the bathroom to poop

I’ve been with my boyfriend for 8 months and had noticed after we were living together that he’d frequently walk into the bathroom dude i was on the toilet.

I started locking the door, but he would unlock it saying he needed to brush his teeth or he forgot something, etc (some other excuse).

I asked him to respect my privacy and not to walk in on me. We talked about it and he agreed.

Now, he hasn’t come into the bathroom since we spoke, but ive noticed how he’ll often rush into the bathroom after I pooped to try and smell.

He has been subtle about this, but it’s made me feel violated and totally self-conscious. Im not sure if he’s into that type of thing and he’s keeping it a secret, but I need advice here on how to proceed.

Netizens’ comments

Pretty clear that he’s at least poo curious. I would call him out and demand an answer for his behavior. It’s a hard conversation so it’s ok to feel intimidated by the idea of confronting him. I don’t think you’d be asking for advice if you were willing to participate in his k!nk. Which leads me to think that you want to break up with him over this and just need people to reinforce your decision.

I’m concerned for you based on the amount of red flags in such a short post: Your age gap is a red flag, mostly because you are so young. Moving in together that quickly is a major red flag. Him not respecting your boundaries is a red flag. His perverted behavior is bothering you and that doesn’t seem to bother him is a red flag.

how to survive boomer dictator/micromanager boss???

bless me I’m in my second job and I came from a culture where it was flexible and open (e.g I could casually go downstairs for a quick stroll to grab a coffee or snack) but now I feel like I’m in North Korea

My boss (A) demands to know where I am going, what I am doing and if I just stepped out for the office briefly (e.g 4pm to grab a quick snack) she will be like “are you out for lunch?” or if I’m late for 5 minutes she will paggro me with texts like “are you working today?” – these texts may seem “normal” but if you met this tiger-mom like character you would know otherwise. tbh I don’t even dare step out for lunch these days unless she is in a good mood or something cause it’s scary when she’s in a bad mood like damn……

Sometimes, I have to go to another office for meetings (I have 2 offices to shuttle to, a bit of a complicated role cause I’m shared between 2 departments) and she will question why is there a need for me to go to the office for the meeting, what time will I be back in the office and if I give a later timing, why my meeting will take so long. She has also called to chide the other director (B) that I am shared with because of such an instance, quite an ugly scene.

The irony is she (A) needs less help than the other director and director B is literally drowning in work and needs my support more. Can understand why she’s more “possessive” over me cause the higher percentage of my payroll comes from her (A) budget but is this even reasonable behavior???

how can such a character still exist? and is this job worth staying in then………

I was in for the shock of my life. My girlfriend and I had been dating for about a year and had a lot of fun together. We had talked about getting intimate, but had never taken any action. That is, until recently.

We had gone out for dinner and drinks, and things were going great. We had a few drinks, and the conversation was flowing easily. We were both feeling a little frisky, so we decided to go back to my place.

Once we got inside, things heated up quickly. We were making out and getting more and more passionate. We were both starting to get undressed, and I was feeling a little nervous. She was more confident and when she pulled off her panties, I almost fainted.

The smell that came out of her panties was like nothing I had ever smelled before. It was like a dog or rat had died inside of them. It was so strong, I had to take a few steps back.

My girlfriend was embarrassed, but I could tell that she was also a little bit amused. She said she hadn’t washed them in a while, and that was probably why they smelled so bad. She apologized and said she would wash them next time.

I was still in shock at the smell, but I also thought it was a little funny. I told her it was okay, and we continued on with our night.

So after she came back washing it still stink so bad. Now it smelled like Jurong Fishery Port.

We ended up ordering Macdonalds and watch a movie. It was a funny experience that I will never forget. It was also a lesson in hygiene that I am sure I will remember for a long time. To this day, I can’t help but laugh when I think about that night and the smell that almost made me faint.

I remember it like it was yesterday. I was so excited to tell all my friends about my plan to modify my car.

It was my pride and joy and I had been wanting to make it even better for some time. I had finally saved enough money to make the changes I wanted.

Or so I thought.

When I went to the shop to get the parts I needed, I was surprised to find that it was going to cost more than I had planned. I had underestimated the cost of the parts and now I was stuck. I didn’t have enough money to make the changes and I was starting to get desperate.

That’s when my girlfriend stepped in. She offered me a loan so I could buy the parts and make the modifications. I was so grateful that I could hardly contain my excitement. I was finally going to get the car of my dreams.

But not everyone was as excited as I was. When I told my friends about the loan from my girlfriend, they had a lot to say. Most of them laughed and said I was a loser for taking a loan from my girlfriend. They said I was pathetic and that I had no business messing with my car.

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But I was determined to prove them wrong. I took the loan from my girlfriend and went ahead with the modifications. I worked hard and put in a lot of time and effort to get it done. When it was finally finished, I couldn’t believe how good it looked.

My friends were stunned.

I find nothing wrong with it until I found out my girlfriend only loan me the money so she can used it to control me in the future.

She will always bring this topic up to argue with me.

It all started with a random night out with some of my friends. We had heard about this unusual pub in the Geylang area, and decided to check it out.

Little did I know that it would be the place where I would meet the love of my life.

The pub was unlike any other I had ever been to. It was filled with mostly Vietnamese hostess and the music was mostly Vietnamese pop music and old-school techno.

I felt a bit out of place at first, but the friendly vibe of the place and the warm welcome from the hostess made me feel at home.

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We have been married for five years now and have two beautiful children. Our family is the most important thing in our lives and we cherish every moment we have together. We have been to the same pub a few times since our first visit, and every time we walk in, we can’t help but look back and smile at the memories we made that night.

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I moved to Singapore five years ago with the intention of finding a job and making a life for myself in the vibrant city.

I had heard about the opportunities for expatriates and was keen to make the most of them.

But my dreams of finding a great job in Singapore have been dashed. I have been lowballed and out-bid by foreign workers who are willing to work for a fraction of my salary.

The competition for jobs in Singapore is fierce.

The number of foreign workers coming to Singapore has increased significantly in recent years, and this has put downward pressure on salaries. Many employers are willing to hire foreign workers for lower salaries than they would pay to local Singaporean citizens. This has the effect of making it harder for local Singaporeans to get jobs.

I went through the usual job search process, applying to dozens of jobs and attending interviews. But each time, I was outbid by a foreign worker who was willing to work for a much lower salary than I was. I couldn’t compete with them and it became clear that I had no chance of finding a job in Singapore.

I was also shocked by the attitudes of some employers. They seemed to have no qualms about paying foreign workers lower wages than local Singaporeans. It was as if they saw these foreign workers as disposable commodities; they could be used and discarded at will. I found this deeply troubling and it made me feel like I didn’t belong here.

After months of searching, I have finally decided to give up on finding a job in Singapore.

I am disappointed that I was unable to make a life for myself here, but I cannot continue to compete with foreign workers who are willing to work for much lower salaries.

I know that I am not alone in this experience. Many local Singaporeans have been similarly lowballed and out-bid by foreign workers. It is a sad situation and it makes me want to leave Singapore.

There are many great opportunities in Singapore, and I am sure that many expatriates have been able to make a success of their lives here. But for some of us, the reality is that it is very difficult to find a job in Singapore and compete with foreign workers.

I still have a great deal of respect for Singapore and its people. I am grateful for the time I have spent here, and for the experiences I have had. But it is time for me to move on. I am now looking for work elsewhere and I hope that I will have better luck.