My brother and I had been trying to find a way to make some easy money for a while now.

We had heard that our friend had a lot of money and thought it would be a great way to get some of it without having to work for it.

We decided to try to bluff him into giving us some money.

My brother’s plan was to pretend that he was in need of money desperately and that he would do anything to get it. He thought that our friend would feel sorry for him and would be more likely to give him some money.

He also said that if he was convincing enough, our friend would think that he was desperate enough to do something drastic and would be more likely to give him money out of fear.

My plan was much more subtle. I suggested that we tell him about a great new business opportunity that we had heard about and that he should invest in it.

I thought that if we made it sound like a great opportunity, he would be more likely to invest in it and give us some money.

I also thought that it would be a good way to get money from him without him feeling like we were trying to take advantage of him.

My brother thought my plan was foolish and said that his plan was much better. We argued back and forth for a while before finally deciding to try both plans.

We waited until our friend was alone and then tried our plans. We started with my brother’s plan and he put on a really good show. He was convincing enough to make our friend believe that he was really desperate and in need of money.

Our friend ended up giving my brother some money out of pity and my brother was really happy.

I then tried my plan. I told our friend about the great business opportunity that we had heard about and he seemed very interested. I was able to convince him that it was a great opportunity and he decided to invest some money in it.

Eventually we both got our money in our own ways but my brother’s method became unusable after a while because people are mostly likely to be ‘kind hearted’ once or twice only while mine is still doing well because the friend is a sleeping partner and would part with money for the ‘business’ when needed.

Just found out wife is pregnant again and I’m miserable and terrified at the idea of another kid.

My (38m) wife (38f) just found out via several pregnancy tests that we have a surprise baby on the way. We already have an 8 year old who was a monstrous baby with colic, sleep issues, and explosive tantrums in their toddler years.

Aside from our first child being such a challenge, we realized we don’t really like babies, and value our time together. We agreed we’d be one and done but any time I suggested getting a vasectomy she objected saying she’d feel bad if we changed our minds.

We live in a small 2-bedroom home and have zero savings. My wife felt the same as me at first but very quickly started to get excited, and change her entire outlook about the new situation. Our 8 year old is smart, funny, and the center of our world, so she figures how bad could another be.

The reason I’m here is because while I’m gently honest with her that this wasn’t something I wanted, I find myself being devoured by resentment and anxiety to the point that I’m hoping the first ob-gyn visit reveals it was chemical/false positive.

I don’t know how we can make room for this new addition, financially, emotionally, mentally, or physically and I’m worried to t

I (25F) slept with my new boss, “A” (27F), and I don’t regret it.

For starters, I didn’t know she was my boss. I got hired for my dream career in a high position with high pay as an architectural engineer/designer for a real estate development business.

It was the manager of my division who interviewed and hired me, so I never met the actual boss/owner beforehand, she was also away on a business trip the first week I was there.

On the weekend, my friends took me to a club to celebrate being their new “sugar mama” as a joke. After a couple hours of some fun, my friends and I got separated.

I met “A” and was very attracted to her. We kept making eye contact so I went up to her. We talked and flirted a lot, and my night ended up with her.

In the morning, we exchanged numbers because we wanted to get to know each other. The next day I went into work everything was a fine and normal day at first.

Then my manager told me the boss is back and she wants to introduce me because we’re going to be working on some projects together.

When I entered the office and she looked up at me I was in complete shock and I could tell she was too. It really felt like my heart stopped.

We played it off as if we never met before. The following day it was awkward and we didn’t speak a word to each other, but all I could think about was her.

When we passed by or saw each other we made eye contact but that was it, and I could still feel the tension. After work, she texted me to meet up and talk, and we finally had a deep conversation about everything.

We admitted there’s something that’s attracting us and we still wanted to get to know each other because we had an amazing time together but it felt wrong now that she’s my boss.

We’ve been talking and seeing each other a lot outside of work ever since, and we don’t want to stop because we feel so deeply connected, I could even say I’m falling for her.

I know to society it may seem wrong because of the whole “power imbalance” thing, but being with her feels so right.

Do I (23F) tell the person I’m seeing (24M) I have money

I (23F) recently jumped back into dating after a long dry spell and I’ve been seeing somebody for a few months (24M) and things have been going really well.

This being said, I’m having trouble navigating a specific situation.

Just over a year ago a very close family member passed away out of the blue and I inherited a significant amount of money.

To be clear, the family member was not rich, it was an accumulation of their pensions and life insurance which ended up being just over half a million.

I never grew up with this amount of money and to be honest have found it a pretty weird thing to deal with but I’ve tried to do my best, employing a financial advisor and infesting in stocks etc.

The only thing is that I don’t know if this is something I should tell the person I’m seeing and if so, how do I do it? I really like them, and don’t want mess it up by saying too much or too little.

[38m] my wife [39F] never liked me going out with my friends and we always argued over it now I stopped she started going with her friends

We have been together since our early 20s, got married mid 20s and had 3 kids in our late 20s. Even since before we had kids she never really liked me going out with my friends, I would only be allowed maximum once a week and she would always call sms and next day be upset. When I went out with my friends we would go have drinks at one of our friends houses, go for a drive, go get something to eat, hang around, talk do what most guys in their 20s and 30s do be a bit stupid and immature but not over the limit. Nothing bad or illegal immoral or unethical ever took place.

Fast forward to when we had kids, she would be very not happy and basically set the curfew at 12am for me. Have alot of talks how married and family guys my age (30s) don’t do this. She said if I went bars or clubs it would be over (i don’t like bars or clubs anyway so no issue). I do understand half where she would be coming at the time, being home alone with the kids and probably feeling lonely. From my side of the argument I would always say but you can go out with your friends too the next night, and the kids are already sleeping so im out for only 4 hours really, its like im watching 2 movies in the next room. My time seeing my friends would be stressful, always watching the time, my phone and my messages then dreading opening the door when I get home to be told off.

Anyway fast forward to me being close to my late 30s, I slowly succumbed to the view and idea that staying home with the family is the thing to do. I’ll be also honest and say perhaps I got it out of my system, got older more tired and enjoy sitting home now. To be perfectly fair I had my fun had the time with my friends (perhaps not as much as I wanted to and always under the fear of not being gone too long but I did)

And Now suddenly came a time where she made some new younger friends (late 20s) and they are going out to bars and having girls drinks. I find it very hypocritical and very hurtful. I think the part that hurt me the most is she never confronted me and said look, things changed maybe I was wrong and now I want to live it up a bit go out etc. It started with her saying they are going for dinner but later she told me they went to a bar and drank until 2am. Just like that like nothing happened, everything I was told is wrong and bad for the last 15 years has been undone and is ok now.

We have had many arguments over it since, not acknowledging any of the past and making me the bad guy for getting angry at it makes me crazy. I don’t know if I am right to be angry or upset.

I am at the point where really im questioning my own reasoning and logic behind my whole attitude and logic towards the situation.

When I look at it from her side, I do understand she must of felt very alone at the time and she didn’t use to go out with her friends. Perhaps she is making up for lost time now, she must be actually so I guess its fair since I had the time with my friends.

Looking at it from my side, I did have some good times, had fun with my friends. Had constant calls and messages and a time limit along with alot arguments and lectures which slowly made me into not going out anymore.

The raw emotion of it always makes me want to break up and walk away, for the sake of our kids I could never do it and its a emotion that dies after 5 seconds but it resurfaces quiet alot.

Talking about it is not good, she gets angry at me tells me to leave the past where it is and move on.

I don’t know what I can do, probably nothing but my resentment grows and I am becoming a less happy person overall.

Reunion dinners are a time for families to come together, catch up and celebrate the festivities. But for me, my reunion dinner few years ago was one of the most unexpected and shocking experiences of my life.

It all began when I decided to bring my girlfriend home for the reunion dinner. We had been dating for a few months and I thought it would be a great opportunity to introduce her to my family and for them to get to know her.

I knew that it would be a little daunting for her, so I made sure to prepare her as best as I could, telling her all about what she could expect.

When the dinner started, everything seemed to be going smoothly. My parents welcomed my girlfriend with open arms and everyone seemed to get along well.

As the night went on, I noticed that my dad seemed particularly interested in my girlfriend and was talking to her more than anyone else. I thought nothing of it and just assumed he was being friendly.

It wasn’t until the end of the night that I found out the truth. My dad pulled me aside and told me that my girlfriend was actually his ex-mistress.

I was completely shocked and couldn’t believe what I was hearing. I asked him why he hadn’t told me before and he said that he didn’t want to ruin the dinner and did not want my mum to find out that he had been having an affair.

Needless to say, I was mortified. I was shocked that the girl I have been dating is actually my dad’s ex mistress and that I had been completely oblivious to the truth.

I wanted to leave the room immediately but my dad insisted that I stay and talk to him about it. After a long conversation, I eventually came to know the whole situation.

He explained that he had been seeing my girlfriend, who used to work for him at his workplace for a few months back then and that he had grown very fond of her.

One day while they were having a department gathering at Orchard, my girlfriend got drunk and kissed my dad and that was how everything started.

He said that he was scared of how I would react when I found out and that he didn’t want to ruin the dinner. He also said that he wanted to make sure that I knew of his relationship with her before I moved on deeper into the relationship and at the same time, he was afraid that my mum would find out.

He said that he had went on with the affair because my Mum was always too busy and had not given him any attention or fulfilled his needs for a while during that period of time.

He had never expected me to sort of know her as well.

This was awkward for me and the more I thought of the whole scenario, I felt a little bit disgusted as I couldn’t imagine that my dad and myself were poking up the same ‘hole’.

Eventually, I decided to confront my girlfriend and we ultimately still decided to let the past be the past and moved on with our lives.

As for my Dad, he became a super devoted husband after the incident and the affair which he had was never brought up again.