Tomorrow, I’ll tell my mom that my father is cheating on her and it will destroy my family

About three weeks ago I found my father’s laptop on with a conversation open, he was talking to a woman, asking her for pictures and sending her money, I thought she was a prostitute and took a picture of the chat.

I confronted my father the next day and he admitted that he had a long term relationship with her and tried to justify himself, I’m so disappointed and frankly, he could die right now and I wouldn’t care. He asked me to please not tell my mom, but I don’t have any considerations for him anymore, I was just waiting until new year had passed.

He’s a workaholic, he was almost never present in mine or my younger brother’s life and my mom basically raised us alone, he was a provider and seemed to be a good enough person (though he didn’t really show much interest in our lives unless my mom said something).

My mom works but earns a tenth of what my father makes, so if they were to get divorced, we will be screwed, my mom and I earn very little and my brother is still in university. I don’t know what’s going to happen but I can’t hide this from my mother, she deserves to know and I know she’d feel even worse if I were to hide it from her and she found later.

I’ve spent many nights thinking of what to do and how to tell her, crying and wishing this was a nightmare, but I know we just have to live through this.

My boyfriend is so cheap that it’s literally a turn off

Sure everyone likes a good deal or looking around the clearance section but this is ten times worse. My boyfriend is the cheapest person I’ve ever known. But what’s funny is that he’s extremely wealthy. Before y’all say I’m some sort of gold digger, I fell in love with him way before I knew he had money.

He always brags about how every article of clothing he has is used and how it was “only $2.” You can totally tell because his clothes are faded and ripped in some places. In fact, I pay way more than he does. I always pick up the bill whenever we go out, I’ve given him money for driving us places because I can’t drive due to medical reasons and he literally calls me sugar mommy as a “joke” but in reality it’s really annoying.

I think what kind of made me realize how cheap he was at Christmas time. I got him things for his gaming computer and a couple customized things.

What did I get in return? A very flashy, tacky, plastic necklace that he got second hand, an empty plastic picture frame and a stuffed $3 dinosaur that you can draw on.

I’m a grown woman why the hell would I want that junk? I sorta went off on him saying how these gifts were cheap and thoughtless while mine were well thought out. He ended up getting mad at me then told his friends and parents how “ungrateful I am.”

The list really goes on as far as how cheap he is but I wanna keep this as short as I can. It’s quite the turn off when he tells me how “ridiculously overpriced” restaurants are when he’s not even the one paying. I think what upset me the most was when he started making fun of me for having expensive shoes, clothes and an iPhone.

Like a pair of Vans are only $60 and they last awhile if you keep them in good shape but according to him vans are too expensive and that’s why he wears off brand sneakers. Idk what to do but it’s extremely unattractive.

I’m 22F and he is 27M and we’ve been together for a year and a half. I thought he was my soul mate. I actually do not have any friends apart from a small circle that he allowed me to have and I really thought we would have a lifetime together.

When i found out I was pregnant last week, I wasn’t worried because I really thought he would be there 100%. He always said he never runs from his responsibilities. And i believed him.

However, he went to see a “psychic” she said i have been cheating on him with a man named “Alex”. The thing is, I do not know of anyone named Alex.

I have no exes, friends or even acquaintances named Alex. But he wouldn’t hear a word I have to say. The so called “psychic” also said that he is unable to father any children.

How is that so when I have living proof that it is untrue? I have never cheated on this man ever since we started dealing with each other. Even before we made the relationship official.

I had no intentions to because I valued our relationship too much. I’m just confused and angry that he left when I need him most because of something someone else said that I do not even understand! This is all too much!

I was set to finish my bachelor’s degree in 2022 but due to negligence on my part and not really caring for anything apart from my relationship and time spent with him, I will have to complete it this year which sets me back from the rest of my peers.

I know that I will eventually have to move on and care for my baby. My family is very supportive and they will no doubt help me in this time of hardship.

I just really thought that he’d be here. For me. For our baby. He just left, broke up with me via text like I meant nothing. Like our baby isn’t growing inside me as we speak. Like a DNA test isn’t a viable option if he has doubts. I would’ve let him get one if he really didn’t trust me. All he had to do was be here. I don’t even know if I’ll ever see him again. I’m just heart broken.

MIL’s mom passed away so I’m banned from seeing my friends and family for a month?

My MIL announced in the family group chat that her mother (SO’s grandmother) passed away. She then said that we’re not allowed to visit any friends, family or go to anything celebratory for at least 4 weeks as per her culture and tradition.

Apart from that being a terrible way to mourn someone, this also happens to be the month before my best friend’s wedding so we have a whole lineup of bridal activities. There’s no way I’m skipping all of that for the mourning of someone who I never met!

I decided to just block her from seeing my posts on social media and am just going to live my life. I’ll happily comply to not see her or her family for a whole month, but she can’t dictate what I do in my own life.

Netizens’ comments

1. You can actually put MIL on to a restricted list as opposed to blocking so it allows her to see what posts you decide she can see. Maybe a handy tool for the long term. If your DH has fb, he might want to do so also so she doesn’t find out about something you have hidden via his fb page.
2. No way! MIL can be miserable for the next 4 weeks due to her cultural beliefs but that doesn’t mean you do! Go enjoy your best friends bridal festivities!!
3. Absolutely the right thing to do. No need to confront her or challenge her on this. Simply go about your life and handle the mourning in your own way. Just be careful that whoever else is on your social media isn’t a person who would report back to her. I’d keep that social media posting very, very low or tightly controlled.
4. This is customary in my culture as well. We’re not even allowed to get take out. We have to eat all home cooked meals.

Sometimes people will go a year without celebrating big occasions. It’s meant to be a “grieving period” and a bonding period between the family, as new roles are figured out.

Sometimes it’s about how you look to others on the outside too. A lot of ppl in my community would gossip if family moved on too soon.

However, my parents would never impose these traditions on my husband or anyone else. So if you weren’t close to your GMIL (grandma in law), don’t sweat it too much. Restrict her on the social’s so she doesn’t know.

Check in with your husband to see what support he needs (cause he just lost his grandmother), to see if he’s cool if you celebrate your best friend’s wedding, and make sure he’s cool about keeping it from his family.

Wife got great in bed while I was working overseas?

I travel a lot for work and noticed after being gone for a few months that when I got home her BJ skills went from good to world-class.

She also started grabbing my taint and fingering me while blowing me. It is serious next level and I think it is amazing.

Am I being paranoid, or has she had some experience while I was away? Should I ask her?

Netizens’ comments

1. Maybe she wanted to blow your mind and has been doing her research reading and such. I learned how to do the things you’re mentioning by reading tips and tricks and talking to girlfriends about it. Don’t be so quick to imagine infidelity. Why not praise her for learning new things to surprise you with and see what she says?
2. Ask her what happened, but not in an accusing tone but oke more passive.
   There are sometimes when my gf seems like she has got a lot better at doing stuff, but it’s just that since it has been a long time since we’ve seen eachother, she has been craving it for longer, so she puts more enthusiasm into it
3. My wife out of nowhere got way better at bjs all of sudden. No way was she cheating, we were too close and busy. She massaged my prostate out of nowhere so I asked her where that came from. She said her gay friend taught her how to do it.
4. Honestly, the quality of my bjs depends entirely on how much I want it in the moment, and time and distance definitely make me desperate for that D. Like I can give you anywhere between 2% and 100% depending on the mood. My technique evolves so much and it’s completely random, sometimes I’m asked to replicate this amazing thing I did and I have no recollection of what it was.

I’ve been accused of cheating because of this before and I can tell you there’s no better way to turn a woman all the way off and ensure you’ll never get that kind of bj ever again. The idea that cheating gets you new skills seems like a hoax to me, like you’ll learn how someone else likes it but that’s not to say it will help you better pleasure your own partner.

If you need to clear your doubts, just let her know how impressed you are with her performance and ask her what’s making it so good.

I remember the night I broke up with him like it was yesterday.

He had always been a bit too clingy, but lately it had become unbearable. He had become overly jealous and needy, and I just couldn’t take it anymore.

The night I told him it was over, his reaction was heartbreaking. He started crying and begging me to stay with him. He said he would change and do anything to make it work but it was too late. I had already made up my mind.

I felt so guilty and upset for him but I knew I had to stay strong and end it. I had been seeing him for about five years and I just couldn’t take it anymore. We had been through some really tough times and I was ready to move on and find someone who could treat me better.

I had been seeing him for about two years when he started to get overly jealous and needy. He would constantly text and call me at all hours of the night, asking me where I was and who I was with. He would get angry if I didn’t answer the phone or respond to his messages right away.

He started to get suspicious of every little thing I did, questioning my motives and accusing me of cheating. He would get angry when I wanted to spend time with my friends and family, and he wouldn’t let me go out without him. It was like he was trying to control me and I felt suffocated.

I tried to talk to him about it but he wouldn’t listen. He would get defensive and say that I was the one who was wrong and that it was all my fault. I tried to be understanding but it was too much. I knew I had to end it before it got any worse.

So I did. I told him it was over and he started to cry. He begged me to stay, saying he would do anything to make it work but I was firm. I said goodbye and walked away, leaving him standing there in tears.

It’s been a few months since then and I still think about him from time to time. I can’t help but feel guilty for how I treated him and for how he reacted. I know it was for the best but it still bothers me.

The other day I heard he was trying to get in touch with me. Apparently he’s been calling and texting me, asking me to come back and saying he’s changed. I don’t know if I should believe him or not, but I can’t help but feel a little bit sorry for him.

He was always a good guy and I know he’s still hurting from our break-up. I can’t help but wonder if he’s really changed or if he’s just trying to get me back out of desperation.

Whatever the case, I know I made the right decision for me and I’m not going to let an overly jealous and needy man in his 40s cry and beg me to return.

6 weeks pregnant and I need someone talk me off a ledge

How to get over lying in relationship?

so just for context – gf and I used to be from the same office. she hated this one girl from my lunch clique because she was the manager of the girl and the girl can’t do her work properly hence she is mad at her.

So she told me she doesn’t like this girl and doesn’t like when I have lunch together even if it’s a group setting (never have I ever been to lunch alone with her or spoken to her about any personal life). I drew a very clear boundary and tried to avoid having lunch with my group on some days just to avoid the girl. I respected the relationship and didn’t question.

Recently we both found new jobs and she met a new guy colleague who stays the same area as her and takes the mrt home together. I am abit insecure I must say and I voiced out that I don’t like her going home alone with the guy. She said okay. However I already have this feeling that she is lying to me because she usually reply fast to my messages but when it’s between 530-6 when she’s traveling home her replies are slow and she told me she’s playing game or netflix. recently we got into a fight and she blurted out that she lied to me all this while. She was actually with him and she didn’t tell me.because she knew what my reaction would be.

I am super hurt and disappointed. She can’t even respect the relationship to avoid this new guy when I did all that for her when she hated the girl.

I am thinking if I should call it quits. I think lying is a deal breaker to me. Before you bash me for my reaction, I’d like to make it clear that I’ve never shouted at her, stopped her from talking to guys or ghost her etc.

My reaction was just this black face because I don’t like it. Why are girls such complicated people?

Here are what netizens think:

• Her liking for the other guy shows that her feeling for you has dwindled. It is a matter of time that she will jump ship. Don’t waste your effort on her. Move on.
• Move on, there are better females out there who are more suited for relationship and marriage. You just have to find them at the right places. Haha.
• This gf didn’t seem to present herself to be a reliable and an accountable partner. Moreover, she lied. Time to move on.
• Lying is a fundamental issue to break trust. So, if you think it is so important to you, then you know the answer.

I was in a bind. My mother had been harping on me to get married for years, but she seemed to have reached her limit.

She had made it clear that if I did not find someone soon, she would arrange a marriage for me.

Marriage had always been a daunting prospect for me, but being forced into it was an even worse one. I had to find a way out of this situation without offending my mother.

That’s when I had the idea to find a friend to pretend as my girlfriend. I knew it was a crazy plan, but it seemed like my best option. With a friend pretending to be my girlfriend, I could buy myself some more time and get my mother off my back.

So, I started looking for a friend who might be willing to help me out. It didn’t take me long to find someone who was up for the challenge. We had been friends for years, so I knew I could trust her.

Once I had found my pretend girlfriend, I had to figure out how to make it convincing. We discussed what we would say if anyone asked us about the relationship. We decided that we would say that we had been dating for a few months and had just decided to make it public.

The next step was to come up with a plan for how we would make our relationship seem authentic.

We decided to go on a few “dates” here and there, take some pictures together, and post them on social media. We also talked about what we would do if we ever ran into my mother together. We figured out a few stories to tell her if that ever happened.

Once our plan was in place, we started executing it. We went on a few “dates” and took pictures together. We also posted those pictures on our social media accounts.

To my surprise, it worked like a charm. My mother was convinced that I was in a real relationship. She stopped asking about my marriage prospects and seemed to be content with the idea that I was dating someone.

I was relieved that my plan had worked, but I also felt a pang of guilt for deceiving my mother. I knew that I could not keep up the charade forever, so I had to figure out a way to tell her the truth.

I had no idea what I was getting myself into when I decided to take a stroll down Temple Street in the city centre.

I was looking for a restaurant to Grab a late-night bite when I heard a weird voice from the other side of the street.

I looked over and saw a man in a long robe and weird Taoist priest-like hat, beckoning me to come closer. I was a little sceptical at first, but I decided to take a chance and see what he wanted.

He introduced himself as a mystic, claiming to have the answer to all my problems. He said he could make any woman I desired to fall in love with me, just with one spritz of his ‘magic perfume’.

Naturally, I was a little taken aback. I had heard of crazy things like this before, but I was sceptical. I asked him what he meant and he proceeded to tell me a story about an ancient potion that was said to have magical properties. He said that if I used it, I could make any woman I wanted to fall in love with me.

I told him I wasn’t interested and started to walk away.

But he kept following me and pleading with me to at least give it a try. He said he could offer me a free sample and if I wasn’t convinced, I could just walk away.

Finally, I decided to give it a try. I took the sample and sprayed it on my wrists. I waited for something to happen, but nothing did. I was about to give up when I noticed something strange. Women who had been walking past me were suddenly stopping and looking at me.

I couldn’t believe it. Was this the ‘magic perfume’ at work?

Then I think again, I’m standing beside a weird guy in a weird costume of cause both men and women will be staring.

I told him it doesn’t work but he demanded me for money said I have already use his product.

I quickly ran off as I know it’s scam.