The day started off like any other for my husband and me. We were on vacation in Bangkok and were spending the day sightseeing and exploring the city’s vibrant culture and bustling markets.

Little did I know that my husband had other plans.

As the evening approached, my husband announced he was going out to get a beer and would be back soon. I thought nothing of it, and assumed he would be back shortly. But he was gone for hours.

When he finally returned, my husband was acting unusually suspicious. He was avoiding eye contact and was quickly trying to get to the shower. I asked him where he had gone, but he just said he had gone for a beer.

But then I noticed something strange. He had returned to the hotel room smelling like soap. Now, I know my husband well and he’s not the type of person to smell like soap.

It was then that I knew something wasn’t quite right. I asked him again where he had been and why he was smelling like soap. He said he only drank a beer and came back.

I was in complete shock. He had been gone for so long and I had no idea he had been to but I suspected he had went to a massage parlour. He had gone behind my back and lied to me. My trust in him had completely evaporated.

I was furious with my husband and it took me a while to get over the shock.

No matter how I asked him he denied going to any soapy lands or massages. I suspect that he might have visited those dirty establishments that provides funny services.

The next 3 days of the trip was terrible, he refused to answer my questions and I kept thinking about it until the trip felt like torture.

Even after we are back in Singapore, I have no idea how to move forward from here.

I recently experienced a traumatic situation that I never thought I would go through.

My Thai girlfriend at the time was posting every argument we had online for all of our mutual friends to see and it was beyond humiliating.

It was like a nightmare and the ultimate lose face.

At first, all was good and we were having a great time. When disagreements started to arise, I was surprised when she started to express her frustrations online.

Whenever we would argue, she would post about it on social media, giving her perspective and her side of the story. She would post screenshots of the conversations we had and her friends would comment, giving her advice and support.

It was like a show, and we were the main characters.

The more she posted, the more people started to take sides and create a narrative of events based on her posts. People started to form their own opinions about me and my character, which made me feel uncomfortable and exposed. It felt like I was being attacked and judged in public, which was really difficult to deal with.

I tried to talk to her about it but she didn’t seem to understand why I was so upset. She thought that by speaking her truth and having her friends support her, she was doing the right thing. I explained to her that it was wrong to post our arguments online and that it was embarrassing for me to be the subject of such public scrutiny.

Unfortunately, she didn’t listen and continued to post our arguments online. It felt like I had no control over the situation and that my words and feelings were being twisted and used against me. It was a really difficult time for me and I felt like I was being attacked for no reason.

Eventually, I had to end the relationship as it had become too toxic. I was tired of being humiliated and embarrassed in such a public way. I felt like my privacy had been violated and that I had no control over the situation.

Later on I found out from my friend who had Thai girlfriends before shared that they have encounter similar situations as well. Guess I’m not alone.

In hindsight, I think that the problem was that we didn’t have a healthy way of communicating with each other and expressing our feelings. We should have been able to talk in private and discuss our issues without it becoming so public. I think that if we had been able to do this, the situation would have been less damaging and embarrassing for both of us.

Hi, I’m the previous OP of post of this.

Current Update:

Yeah I’ve read your comments calling me a Bridezilla but hey turns out my instincts were true after all.

Just ytd, I saw a social media post of my MUA saying hr is leaving this … bridal company. I texted him and ask why both of the people that were my salesperson to my wedding package have quit from … company?

One of the salesperson called me up and said “All this while they have been overworked, the … bridal company is UNDERSTAFFED, UNDERPAID and OVERWORKED! Hence the reflection I had on myself, no wonder they always reply late and never really get back to me with like site-viewing… now I know they have to handle all that with such a low pay.

She even tell me her pay and trust me I was shocked as hell as it’s only 3 digit salary… their taxi also can’t be claimed by … bridal company as the boss said all that is included in your 3 digit salary. Wtf. She told me the reason they quit cuz they feel they were being bullied to do everything for such super low salary. They told me almost all the wedding outfits were bought from their own pockets and since they have quit, they have opened up their own bridal company bringing along all the wedding outfits from … bridal company studio to their own new bridal company studio now… the fridge in the studio is hers.the drinks for customers is from her pocket. She said the owners can’t be bothered.

So all this while, my instincts were true. Now I already paid 30% deposit, the staffs that quit told me to liase with their new bridal company and they will try to work things out with the 70% balance money… what should I do? If the boss or owners have such low integrity as to not pay their staff, why would I want to continue engage them with their … bridal company services… ?

Hais. What bad luck. To ALL future brides, engage with … company at your own risk.

Related post:

I am the OP for this story.

I have read the comments and I just wanted to say that i am 100% not intending to pursue or get into another relationship. most of you rightly mentioned that i am still married and should sort my current one out first. absolutely agree. but in order to do this i need to be in the clearest mental state as possible so i need to remove feelings i have for this new person.

i believe i will get rejected if i confess, and so i really hope that hearing that rejection will help me give up on her. like i said i really want it to be platonic but i am suffering because of the feelings which i cannot control. i am open to other ways of helping me get over her, but believe me i have tried things like throwing myself into work, expand my social circle, and starting a hobby.

but because we still have regular meetups, the feelings keep coming back again and again. many of you have also pointed out the impact i will have on her by expressing my feelings, both emotionally and professionally. that is something i hadnt consider so thanks for sharing that.

i am also seriously thinking of ending the mentorship as an option, so i am thinking of a possible reason to say other than “i have feelings for you”, because of the reasons pointed out before on how confessing my feelings may have an impact on her.

Thank you all for the comments, though some were harsher than others.

Part 1:

My husband accused me of cheating, beat the shit out of me and ran off to another country within two days.

Yeah, eventful two days. Yay me.

I got married at 19, it hasn’t all been bad but here lately it hasn’t been good. I’ve kicked the uterus and the substance abuse and am almost done with school and his blaring paranoia has gotten worse and worse.

It came to a head yesterday when I got back from a 10-minute food da bao run and he started interrogating me saying he had proof that I had slept with this man to get some money. It went on for hours, culminating in him slapping me. I punched him back. I shouldn’t have but no one’s slapping me around.

It was 10 pm in the evening and I was getting ready to sleep when I heard a strange sound coming from my neighbour’s house.

At first I thought it was just the wind, but then I heard it again. It sounded like furniture shaking, and I wondered what could be the cause.

I had been living next door to my neighbours for over a year now, and I had never heard anything like this furniture shaking sound before.

I was sure it was coming from their house, since there was only one more unit nearby our corner estate, I decided to go and investigate.

I slowly made my way toward their house, trying to be as quiet as possible.

When I arrived, I could still hear the sound of furniture shaking. It was definitely coming from inside their house.

At first, I thought maybe they were having a party or something. But then I remembered that neither of them had said anything about having a party.

That’s when I started to wonder if they were up to some ‘hanky panky’.

The furniture sound was getting louder, and I was starting to get really curious.

I wanted to know what was going on inside their house. I decided to take a look.

I slowly crept up to the gate and peeked inside. I couldn’t believe my eyes.

It was true, my neighbours were indeed having some ‘hanky panky’ on the garden furniture on their front porch.

They were both completely not wearing anything and going at it on the furniture with no regard for who might see them.

I felt embarrassed and quickly ran back to my house. I was in shock.

I had never seen anything like this before and I didn’t know how to react.

The next morning I decided to confront my neighbours about what I had seen.

I knocked on their door and asked if I could talk to them. They were both surprised to see me, but they agreed to talk.

I told them what I had seen the night before and asked them why they were having ‘hanky panky’ in such a public place like on their garden furniture in their front porch.

They both seemed embarrassed and told me that they had always wanted to try doing it on their garden furniture and they didn’t think that anyone would walk pass because theirs was a corner unit.

They apologized for the inconvenience and asked me not to tell anyone.

I agreed, but told them that they should be more careful in the future if they wanted to try something as wild as having ‘hanky panky’ on their garden furniture in full public view.

It’s been an interesting few weeks for me, and I’m sure the gossip among my colleagues has been even more interesting.

I’m a PRC man who has been in Singapore for my studies since young and now I am working here, and I’m the talk of the office after it became known that I’ve been dating three Malaysian colleagues at once.

I’m sure a lot of people think I’m a bit of a playboy, but that’s not the case. I’m just someone who has a big heart and loves to have fun.

I’m a bit of a romantic at heart, and I thought that it would be nice to get to know three women who I work with.

After all, we spend so much time together, so it makes sense to get to know each other on a more personal level.

At first, I didn’t think much of it. We would go out for lunch or dinner, and I would buy them flowers or chocolates.

It was all very innocent and platonic. But it wasn’t long before I realized that all three women were interested in me.

I was a bit taken aback at first, but I eventually realized that it was a great opportunity to get to know all three of them better.

So, I decided to ask each of them out on a date. We went to the movies, had dinner, and went to the beach.

We had a lot of fun, and I was getting to know each of them better and better. After a few weeks, it was clear that I had feelings for all three of them.

At first, I felt a bit guilty about it, but then I realized that if I could play it smart and hide it from three of them were okay with it, then why not?

We had a lot of fun together and I was really getting to know them. I ultimately decided that I wanted to date all three of them.

Needless to say, it wasn’t long before word got out amongst my colleagues about this situation.

It spread like wild fire and also caused tension between the three Malaysian girls i’ve dated.

However instead of them breaking up with me, the three of them fought over me like I was some treasure.

I was ultimately asked to choose between them but I definitely was not going to give any of them up.

So I came up with some excuse to make three of them leave the company and join different companies.

I then tried to work between their schedules and continued to see all three of them.

Till now, all of them think that they are my one and only and I hope things remain the same way.

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year now. We have been through a lot and overall our relationship is great.

But lately, there’s one issue that’s been driving me crazy. My boyfriend needs to go to the bathroom to poop five times a day.

At first, it wasn’t a big deal. He’d go to the bathroom and I’d wait for him to finish up.

But then it started happening more often. He was going to the bathroom three times a day, then four, and now he’s up to five.

It’s really starting to get in the way of our relationship. We can’t go out to dinner without him having to excuse himself multiple times.

It’s embarrassing and it’s really starting to wear on me.

I’ve tried to talk to him about it but he just brushes it off. He says it’s normal and there’s nothing he can do about it.

But I know there has to be something he can do. It’s not healthy or normal to go to the bathroom five times a day.

I’ve suggested that he see a doctor but he’s not interested in that.

He says it’s too expensive and he doesn’t want to make a big deal out of it.

But I think it is a big deal and I want him to get help.

I’m really at my wits end here. I’m frustrated and angry and I don’t know what to do. I love my boyfriend and I want to be with him, but I can’t handle the constant bathroom trips.

I just don’t know what to do or how to make him understand how serious this is.

It’s not fair to me that he’s putting me through this.

I’m tired of feeling embarrassed every time we go out and I’m tired of always waiting for him to come out of the bathroom.

It’s ruining our relationship and I don’t know what to do.

I’m at the point where I don’t know if I can take it anymore. I love my boyfriend and I want to make this work, but I just don’t know how.

I need help, and I need him to understand how serious this is.

I’ve been employed by a friend of mine for the past two years. It’s not a business, just a good friend who’s been helping me out with a little extra cash.

I’m grateful for the opportunity, but lately I’ve been wondering if I’m really getting the most out of my work.

The thing is, I’m not receiving any benefits. No health insurance, no vacation time, and no sick leave. It’s all just a handshake agreement between me and my friend.

We both know that if I need to take a few days off, I can do so without any repercussions.

But I also know that if I’m feeling really sick and need to stay home, I’m not able to do so. My friend is relying on me for help and if I’m not around, it could seriously hurt his business.

This means that I have to go to work even if I’m sick like a ‘dog’.

This has been a tough situation to deal with, especially since other people I know are able to take off work when they’re feeling under the weather.

They have the comfort of knowing that their job is protected and that they can take some time off without any repercussions.

A few months back, my friend had promised me benefits once his business picks up and till date, even though his business has picked up due to my help, my job still has no benefits apart from if I need off I can request for it at anytime.

If I’m too sick to go to work, I can request for time off but I’m not eligible for any kind of compensation even for MC.

So, I’m stuck in a difficult situation. I’m grateful for the opportunity to work for a friend without much stress and anyone managing me, but I’m also feeling a bit taken advantage of.

It’s a difficult balance to maintain, and I’m not sure what the best solution is.

All I know is that I need to focus on taking care of myself, even if that means having to go to work when I’m not feeling well.

I’m hoping that in the future I’ll be able to find a job that provides me with the benefits I need so that I don’t have to worry about these kinds of situations.

I used to be a regular Joe who lived a rather ordinary life. I had a steady job and a comfortable lifestyle.

Little did I know that I was about to make a life-changing decision that would turn my life upside down.

It all started when I met my girlfriend. She was a lovely girl and we instantly hit it off. We started going out and I soon realized that she had a passion for steamboat.

She would talk about it all the time and how she loved to eat it.

That’s when I decided to take her out for dinner one day and surprise her with steamboat. I was expecting a normal dinner like any other, but it turned out to be super costly.

She was ecstatic at the sight of the steamboat and kept asking me to take her out for it every week.

I didn’t think much of it at first but after a few weeks, the bills started to pile up. I was spending almost $4,000 a month on steamboat! I was shocked at the amount of money I was spending just on one meal.

I tried to talk to my girlfriend about it but she didn’t seem to understand why I was so concerned. She said it was a small price to pay for making her happy.

I knew she really loved steamboat and I didn’t want to take that away from her, so I continued to take her out for it every week.

It’s been a few months since then and I’m still spending almost $4,000 a month on steamboat.

We would go around Singapore to try different Steamboat places every few days a week and of course, I had to make some lifestyle changes to accommodate this new expense but I’m happy to do it for my girlfriend.

If I did not spend this money on her, the money would probably be spent on drinks and other entertainment so might as well make her happy.