My boyfriend and I had been together for almost two years and I thought that I knew him inside and out. We had a great relationship, but there was one thing that had always been an issue between us—his hygiene. 

He was an incredibly sweet, kind, and funny person, but he was not the best when it came to taking care of himself.

There I was, standing in the bathroom, looking at my boyfriend with a mix of shock and disgust. I had just asked me to go for a ‘boyzilian’ waxing or else I wouldn’t go down on him.

He’d always had a bit of a problem with the hair down there. It wasn’t like he had a full-on bush, but it was more than I could handle. I’d tried having conversations about it, but he’d just brush it off or make a joke. I’d even offered to help him shave it, but he’d always refused.

I was starting to get to the point where I was ready to call it quits. I’d put up with it for too long, and I just couldn’t take it anymore. I knew that I deserved better and that I should just walk away. But then something changed.

One day, he surprised me by asking me to go down on him. I was shocked and a little bit scared. I was scared because I knew that the hair down there was going to be a problem. I decided to take a risk and tell him that I would go down on him, but only if he got a Brazilian wax.

At first, he was a bit taken aback. He’d never heard of such a thing, but I explained that it was a way to get rid of all the hair down there. He was hesitant at first, but eventually, he agreed to do it. I had to give him a lot of encouragement and remind him that it was the only way I was going to do what he wanted.

A few days later, he returned from the salon with a huge grin on his face. He was so proud of himself for taking the plunge and getting the waxing done. I was so relieved that he was finally taking care of himself and that I wouldn’t have to worry about the hair down there anymore.

The experience of going down on him after the wax was incredible. It was so much smoother and I could really focus on the pleasure. It was a totally different experience and it made me realize how much better it is when you take the extra step to take care of yourself.

My girlfriend of 4 months is in a really tough spot right now. She is broke and needs to pay her rent asap.

She became homeless after her parents chased her out for some problems.

I pay for everything in our relationship (she offers to pay for little things when she has it) but it’s rare. She’s been extremely overwhelmed and has been snappy/lashing out at me a lot. It’s causing a great deal of stress in our relationship and I’m mentally exhausted by it.

I was the kind of kid who always thought I could be the next big tech mogul.

I was inspired by the success stories of Mark Zuckerberg and Bill Gates and wanted to follow in their footsteps. So I left school at a young age to pursue my dreams of becoming a tech mogul.

Nothing but a dream

Little did I know that I was in for a rude awakening. When I left school, I had no idea how to make money. I had no experience in coding or tech development, so I ended up taking low-paid jobs to make ends meet. I was working long hours for very little pay and it was a harsh reality to face.

I realized that I had made a mistake in leaving school in pursuit of my tech dreams. Without any formal education or training, I was limited in the kinds of jobs I could take. Most tech companies wanted experienced coders and developers, so I was out of luck.

I also found that the life of a tech mogul wasn’t as glamorous as I thought it would be. I was working long hours and not making much money. I was barely scraping by and it was a tough way to live. I was far from the life of luxury I had envisioned for myself.

I eventually realized that I was never going to become the next Mark Zuckerberg or Bill Gates. I had wasted my time and energy trying to be something I wasn’t. I needed to accept the fact that I wasn’t going to become a tech mogul and that I needed to focus on more realistic goals.

So I decided to go back to school and get an education. I enrolled in an IT course and started learning the basics of coding and software development. I also had to work part-time to pay my bills, but I was able to save enough money to eventually get a job in the tech industry.

Now, I’m finally able to appreciate the success of Mark Zuckerberg and Bill Gates. I can look back on my experience and understand that I was never going to be like them. I was never meant to be a tech mogul, but I can still work in the industry and make a comfortable living.

I’m thankful that I had the courage to chase my dreams but also wise enough to know when to accept reality. I’m now living a much more stable and secure life than I ever would have as a tech mogul. I’m able to pay my bills and support myself without having to worry about the future.

So if there’s any advice I can give to anyone else who dreams of being the next tech mogul, it’s this: Don’t be afraid to chase your dreams, but also be realistic about what you can achieve. You may never become the next Mark Zuckerberg or Bill Gates, but you can still find success in the tech industry.

Dating, especially first dates are so hard nowadays.

Everyone is bringing their own set of beliefs, ideas, expectations and checklists to the dating table instead of just chilling, vibing and enjoying the other individual’s company.

Like the last girl, I went on a first date with.

All she could talk about is money, ambitions and what a guy is to do for her. I gave her time to warm up thinking she might be anxious but in vain. I just couldn’t vibe with her even though she was very attractive.

An indifferent attitude about not wanting to really know about the other individual and couldn’t take it easy. It was a bloody turn off. I had to leave.

I reckon beauty is getting so common nowadays that it didn’t matter when the vibe is not right.

What happen to having fun and going with the flow during dates?

Here are what netizens think:

• Ask what she can do for you then. Is fair game at this point. Then you will realise other than S many of these women don’t bring anything else positive to your life. Just enjoy watching her stutter and stumble.

• I think it also depends on where you met this person. Through dating app? Through friends? Through common interests? Through other means? Not trying to stereotype but where and how you met the person may give you a clue how to adjust your expectations.

• If you want to meet a more giving person, what are your odds on a dating app? Not saying its zero but it’s quite common to meet someone who’s already tired of the game and is laying all her cards out to not waste her time. I think it’s a blessing she is showing her true self. No disguise, you saved your time.

• Personally I wouldn’t be interested in a male version of the person you’ve met either. But this is how it is. Some people are tired lol.

• Loool it’s sooooo common to hear em talk about money, ambitions etc..etc.. keep trying to find the next one, the odds are kinda like weekly 1st prize 4D, doable, just rare. And don’t get me started on toto

I have no idea how to go about dating. I keep on getting the advice that if I work on myself, then I will find the a good partner.

I find my life pretty good on its own. My pay is average but is very meaningful. I have high goals which are not monetary-based but more on the impact I can create on people’s lives.

I have a couple of hobbies like learning spanish, fishing, etc.

I do have great friends and we hang out frequently despite graduating a while back.

I think I am generally a good person but not perfect, I mean no one is lol. I do try to work on myself.

However, all of these are useless in dating. No one cares if I knew Spanish or if I caught massive fishes before. I think it doesnt matter if I am good person sometimes. Lol, I saw one of the holiest girl get together with the well known (but good looking) cheater friend. Honestly, I dont even know what they care sometimes.

I am not your traditional hunk but I am fit (running, badminton, basketball, etc). I am not exactly handsome but I do my best to dress well.

I dont exactly know what else to do. I have watched dumb youtube videos on flirting or playing the “game”. Nothing seems to be working. Worst of all, I dont even feel like I am myself.

I tried being myself and being authentic but it gets me nowhere either. It is like a lot of girls dont even consider me as a possible partner.

The worst advice was to wait passively to meet the right one. It was the worst advice because it was just absolutely stagnant. At least, while trying, I was at least getting to meet girls.

Already tried online dating, joining interest groups, social event… Same results. I am not in their considerations as a partner.

Do I need to be rich and/or handsome? It is like nothing makes sense to me anymore.

Any advice on what to do?