Dear men, what is something us women do that baffles you?

• How they don’t dress for the occasion. They dress for the arrival. And then after 5 minutes they aren’t comfortable.
• How you all manage to sit with a phone in your back pocket
• Always baffles me just how much they share with their friends lol especially around intimate matters in the bedroom. As someone who’s worked with a lot of women there’s a few times they had me straight blushing, and I’m far from a prude lol. They think guys always talk about it but usually ours is limited to “yeah we hooked up, yeah it was good”
• Take whatever time you need to get ready whether it be 30 minutes or 3 hours, then rush us when we’re about to leave to put our shoes on
• When a woman says she was into me a while back, but is not anymore because I didn’t make a move when she was communicating her interest through extremely subtle and undetectable signals. I can’t read your mind. If you’re interested, just tell me.
  The signs, hints, signals all look like you’re just being nice and want to be friends. I can’t interpret your desires, just tell me
• Being mad at me for something “I” did in your dreams.
• Talk like we’re sitting in a library and then get mad when I couldn’t hear what you said
• “What’s wrong babe?”
  “Nothing…..”
  “No really, something is obviously bothering you, just tell me baby.”
  “I said nothing…”
  *Later that night you get a text:
  “I can’t believe you didn’t even try to comfort me tonight. Something was obviously bothering me and you just went on like nothing was up, asshole. I can’t believe you”
• Speaking with subtext and implications. Girls think they’re being obvious, but it’s really difficult picking up on their attempts to communicate.
• you’re willing to spend an eternity in a shop you like and complain at me when i say i’m ready to go, but if it’s one i like i better be ready to drop everything and leave when you say you want to
• You’re allowed to be mad about something without us being mad about it but when we get mad about something you feel the need to also get mad but then direct it towards us.
• When you’re ordering food and you ask if they want some, and they say no. And you ask if they are sure, cause you’re happy to buy them some, and they say no. And then they want just a bite of yours which turns into three bites and now you’re a jerk because you don’t want to share.

My (29F) husband (31M) got fired again today. He had, no lie, maybe 10 to 20 jobs in the 6 years we’ve been together.

He never had to give a 2 weeks’ notice. He constantly blamed the industry, bosses, coworkers or the companies for the reason he keeps getting fired. But it’s never his fault. I’m sick of it.

Every time he gets quits/ get fired, I have to pick up the slack. Last time this happened, he said he would get a job ‘right away’ but took 4 months and had to dip into our saving significantly.

I’m tired of being the financially responsible one and the responsible one in general. When he is unemployed, he just sleeps all day, plays guitar, or watch TV/ movies.

He does the same amount of chores whether he is working or not. He sleeps all morning but won’t apply to jobs after noon since employers don’t like that (his words).

I proof read his resume one time and it had so many spelling and grammatical mistakes I can see why only the desperate hire him.

For example, it said “mountain relationship with customers” instead of “maintain”. But he says employers don’t care about small things like that and I tell him they do. He won’t let me help with applying.

Right now I’m at writing this at work trying to keep my sanity and questioning my life choices that led me to be married to this man-child who can’t hold down a job.

Hi guys, so my gf and I have been together for quite awhile.

Coming 5th year on 14 Feb :p so..some context, both of us are 21 this year (2022).

I’m going NS soon she’s going uni. We also discussed abt bto etc etc all the adulting stuff. My plan was to propose aft NS that puts me at… roughly 23? University for 3 years 26yo. Apply bto on my 2nd year in uni, so thts 25yo or mayb apply at 24yo.

public housing prices are getting higher over time As a potential in the public housing market, I have seen the prices for rent steadily increasing over the past few years. This has been a major source of stress for me and many others who are trying to find an affordable place to live.

The first sign of rising prices was right after covid. We have no choice but to bring forward everything as soon as possible, from marriage to BTO.

I did my research on bto n grants n correct me if I’m wrong, young couples are allowed to apply for bto under the Fiancé/Fiancée scheme, young couple can also apply for both staggered down payment (5% upon booking and 5% upon key collection).

Deferred Income Assessment (3mths before key collection) to determine the amount of grant we get. I also believe that thts when we apply for the housing loan too?

Since bto takes roughly abt 4-5yrs with the current pandemic, applying at 24yo means bto will be ready by 28-29yo, by then at least my gf will have 12mths working experience to be eligible for housing loan n the income assessment.

What is the best excuse to refuse an insurance agent’s invitation to financial talks?

I received a cold call from an insurance agent recently. Apparently she got my number from my profiles on one of the job seeking websites.

She tried to invite me to one of those financial talks from insurance companies and also tried to recruit me into their company because she knew that I was unemployed.

I told her I am busy on the day of the talk but she said she could arrange an zoom meeting to replace that talk. I got quite irritated at that point as I had already told her many times that I have no interest in joining the financial industry or getting any investment products now.

Do they really think that their sales pitching skills are that good like the Wolf of Wall Street that they can convince me to sign some ILPs or join them on the spot?

I ended up saying that I will call her back to confirm when I will be free and I managed to get her mobile number (she called using her office number).

I blocked both of her numbers because I didn’t want to deal with her anymore.

This got me wondering, how do other people turn down such a persistent insurance agent and what kind of excuses they use? I would try not to block them as they could always call back with another number and it would make things more awkward.

So what are some of the best excuse that you have used to make an insurance agent back off?

I’ve been using my parents’ money to pay for my boyfriend’s expenses without him knowing

I (19F) have been with my boyfriend (19M) for four years. I come from an extremely wealthy nuclear family, and he is the child of a single, now-retired parent with very little money.

My parents are the most altruistic, generous people I know; my whole life they modeled and taught humility and financial responsibility to my siblings and me. They love my boyfriend dearly, and see the incredible potential that he has to exceed iN his future career.

My boyfriend worked several jobs at a time, but due to the rigorous nature of his studies he doesn’t have the bandwidth to work during the year.

Recently, he’s been going hungry sometimes because he’s a commuter without a meal plan and can’t pay for his food. He also doesn’t have the money to replace worn out clothes, so I give him new clothes as gifts or sew up the holes for him.

I realize that this is a common living situation for many people, but due to my circumstances, this is the first time I’m really seeing how hard it really is and I want to help.

I work during the holidays, but since my parents emphasize the importance of education, they give me a sizable monthly allowance that eliminates the need for me to get a job at school. I am grateful for this “safety net”, but I often feel as though my bf needs it more. He will not accept handouts from anyone, so I use some of my money to pay for things like haircuts.

Circling back to the food situation, I was venting to my parents about how worried I was about him, wanting only a listening ear. However, they are offering to give him a decent amount of money to cover living expenses until he can work during the holidays.

He doesn’t know that I’ve done this, and I’m worried that he will not accept it.

20F never been in a relationship, trying to figure out what’s going on

I’ve had opportunities, have been asked out quite a bit, and even got into my first situationship last year, but for some reason I always cut it off after the first or second date (or with the situationship I just got a really bad ick) either because they weren’t what I was looking for or because I got scared and said no to a second date

Im a total virgin, never even kissed. I think im just scared? But I don’t even know what I would be scared of

Im in school so I’ve been told this is the time to meet people and gain experience but I feel like im not and I feel like im behind

Does anyone have advice on how to get over this and date? I came from a really sheltered background so I have no experience actually pursuing relationships and am in general very confused about how they begin

Netizens’ comments

• The best advice I can give is don’t worry about dating just do it because society says you have to. I didn’t start dating until I was 26 so you have time trust me. Do it when you feel right. Do it when you truly love yourself and are comfortable with who you are on the inside. I have found the only way we can love one another is when we love ourselves first.
• Don’t force yourself into something that doesn’t feel right if you think you’ll regret it. I’ve been lucky in meeting “the one”. But I would honestly rather stay single than throwing myself into something with a person that doesn’t feel completely right
• Same here. I’m 24M and never been in a relationship. Never flirted with anyone, nor anyone ever flirted with me? My advice: Don’t push yourself beyond your own comfort.

17M this year, turned out to be a brat/yp during 14 and treated my mother badly, wanted to have authority at home etc..

as i grew older to 16 17, i still took part in gang fights / all that corny s–t. however, i also grew to respect my mom more. and i have stopped all that yp activities and cut off those ppl.

My mother single handedly raised 3 kids working double jobs when i was 3. (father left when i was born) after maturing a little, i always think of the hardships she went through and want to treat her better.

However, seeing my 2 sisters treat her like crap after they’ve gotten boyfriends is so infuriating to me.

Usually my mom and sisters get along but after my sisters got boyfriends, they like to rant on the phone about how my mother is useless, can’t afford to send her to Uni etc.

Then they come up with s–t like “i didn’t choose to be born” (rly makes me wanna smack their face in) i hate seeing my sister discredit my mom’s hardwork even after we are living a decent life now, (have a stepdad to help support income).

Anyone experienced this? having a ungrateful piece of s–t acting like parents owe her the world for giving birth to her. 破出去的水。

my boyfriend (M21) keeps calling me (F18) bro, bruh or some version of that.
i know this sounds stupid but hear me out.

this is a very fresh relationship (1 1/2 months) and we are still getting to know each other and our quirks.

i actually didn’t have an issue with him calling me dude or bro before but it’s gotten to a point where it’s really turning me off.

i actually don’t mind bro, but he calls me broski, or broseph. i don’t mind it in casual conversation but he never uses any cute pet names for me, or even my name.

i joked with him saying he calls me that so much he must’ve forgotten my name, and he told me my name in his phone is broseph…

it’s gotten to the point where i’ll sleep with him and he will call me broski/broseph after and once during it. i have literally never been drier.

i’ve tried lightly mentioning this or asking if he has any cute names for me, to which he replies he can’t think of any. i don’t think i’ve ever heard him use my name, just bruh or broski.

i know this is how he speaks (he’s very articulate and intelligent but this is just his slang) and i don’t want to offend him by telling him that it rubs me the wrong way.

does anyone have experience with this? or know how to handle it without being rude?

 I can still remember the day I lost my V. I was 18 and I was beginning to enjoy adulthood.

I gained freedom after I got into poly and I was eager to explore the world and experience new things. I had heard about the famous Jo Chiat road from my friends and had decided to check it out.

It was a busy road filled with people from all walks of life. There were Vietnamese food vendors selling food, store owners trying to make a sale, and of course, the occasional “prostitute”pok pok gei” looking for her next customer.

I was curious and decided to explore further.

That’s when I saw her. She was a Vietnamese woman, standing in a doorway, looking out into the road. There was something about her that drew me in. I don’t know what it was, but I knew I wanted to get to know her.

I approached her and asked if she was interested in having a drink with me. She said yes and we went to a nearby bar. We talked for hours and it became clear to me that she was not a “chicken”, but rather a woman who had just recently come to Singapore in search of a better life.

We connected on a level I had never experienced before and I knew that I wanted to be with her.

The next day, I asked her to come back to my place. She agreed and we went back to my apartment. We talked for a while before I finally mustered up the courage to ask her if she wanted to have S. She said yes and I will never forget what happened next.

It was a slow and passionate first time. She took her time teaching me the ways of love and I will never forget the way she made me feel that night. I had lost my V to a stranger, a Vietnamese woman from Jo Chiat road.

Here comes the problem, after we completed our deed she wanted $200. I was stunned and paid her up.

I never saw her again after that night.

I am now married to a wonderful man and I am so grateful to have found the love of my life. But I will always remember that special night with the Vietnamese woman from Jo Chiat road who took my V.