Attracted to my (33F) friend who is 10 years older than me (23M)

I’m 23, we met about 2 months ago through some common friends. Since then, we’ve been speaking with each other almost everyday, and went out a couple of times with that same group of friends.

Last time we went out (with that same group) to a couple of bars and had some drinks. she held my arm and said that she was afraid to fall since the sidewalk was slippery.

She would immediately grab me as soon as we left a bar, even though there were plenty of people there with her age that could hold her.

She already said that she feels comfortable around me and i can tell that she doesn’t mind when our lips are like 2 cm a part (usually happens at the club since the music is so loud) and being touchy.

At the same time she could also just really like me as a friend and since im really bad at reading people i’ve come to ask for your help.

Tomorrow we are going to watch a movie so i might get more hints as to where i’m standing.

Im not good at my job and and have wasted years in a career that’s going nowhere

When I was 22, I got a job at a startup as an executive assistant. Being a chaotic startup with no structure and few employees, they allowed me to work in areas I wouldn’t have been able to off merit alone. Basically, they put me on the marketing team with no education in marketing but didn’t have anyone there to teach me anything about marketing.

Well I spent three years at the company. Every 6 months or so they’d move me to a different position where they needed someone. I could figure out just enough to get the job done okay but never became really good at anything because I was constantly switching positions.

I then left the company and based on my resume with a 3 year “marketing” background, I got a really good job. I’ve had a year now at this company riddled with anxiety feeling like I have no idea what I’m doing. My coworkers are great at what they do and I’m an amateur. Now my resume says 4 years of marketing but I feel like I really have the equivalent of a year and have realized I don’t even like marketing. I was kind of thrown into it and figured it was a great opportunity but now I feel so stuck.

I feel like I’ve wasted so much time and still no idea where to go from here or what I’ve done to advance my future. The jobs I could get with my resume, I wouldn’t be capable of accepting. I just know I don’t have the skills.

Lusting after a male colleague

Started a new job this year, best move I’ve made as the last job I was in was full of toxicity. Everything was going great, brilliant team, absolutely adore all of my colleagues, we all get on very well.

One in particular, one of the few male colleagues, stands out to me. I find myself getting kind of nervous around him, almost like when I was in school and fancied someone.

Now, I’m in a relationship and have been for nearly a decade. He is married, but recently broke up with his wife.

I feel guilty because I want him, but I’m happy where I am and I’m too scared to say anything to him, I also don’t think it’s appropriate given his situation, but I can’t help but lust after him. What do I do?

Netizens’ comments

1. Crushes on colleagues are pretty normal. Enjoy the fantasy, keep it to yourself, and let it pass.
2. Here is the best advice you will never take. Don’t shit where you eat…feel free to not take it like most of the population.

I never thought I would find myself in this situation.

I am a 29-year-old man who has just been caught sniffing my sister’s panties. It’s a confession that fills me with shame and embarrassment, but I feel like I need to get it off my chest.

It all started when I was rummaging through my sister’s drawer, looking for something to wear to go downstairs.

I didn’t have anything clean and I figured she wouldn’t mind if I borrowed one of her shirts. But as I was going through her clothes, I came across a pair of her panties. I don’t know why, but I felt a sudden urge to sniff them. I know it sounds weird, but I couldn’t help myself. I picked them up and took a deep breath in.

The smell was intoxicating

It was a mix of her natural scent and the smell of her perfume. I don’t know how long I stood there sniffing her panties, but before I knew it, my sister walked in. She was shocked and disgusted to see me standing there with her underwear in my hand. She screamed at me and ran out of the room.

I knew I had done something wrong, but I didn’t know how to explain it to her. I tried to apologize, but she didn’t want to hear it. She accused me of being a pervert and said she never wanted to see me again. I was heartbroken. I had lost my sister’s trust and respect, and I didn’t know how to fix things.

I decided to seek help and talk to a therapist about my behaviour. I learned that what I did was called fetishism, a condition in which a person is aroused by objects or body parts. My therapist helped me understand that my behaviour was not normal and that I needed to work on changing it.

It’s been a long and difficult journey, but with the help of my therapist and the support of my family, I have been able to overcome my problem.

I still feel ashamed and embarrassed about what I did, but I am determined to move on and become a better person. I have learned to respect my sister and her personal boundaries, and I am working on rebuilding the trust and bond we once shared.

An idiotic boss

I just tender my resignation after 10 years in the company.

During this 10 years i did commit a couple of mistakes at work. The problem is that those who is gang with the boss commit mistake get away scot free.

My mistakes are always publicised, emphasised and highlighted to the team and the whole company. This is to a point my reputation and personal well-being is affected as I always need to look behind my back.

Exit interview I am again reminded of the mistakes of the boss.

Is there karma in the world? Why does she have to keep on biting on my shortcomings?

I felt terrible and demoralised and internalise that I am simply no good.

Here are what netizens think:

• Just focus on your well-being and find a better job. If it’s not possible, you can consider starting a business of your own.

• Yes, I do think there’s karma in the world, but you may not get to see your ex-boss get her just desserts. Just focus on your well-being. Hopefully your next job will be so much better.

• Your boss name starts with Ong right?

• I understand mistakes are normally due to one of three things: workload, training, or personal reasons. The employee may have too much on their plate, they may need to be trained further, or (most difficult of all) they may have a personal issue that is affecting their performance, such as a sick relative who needs frequent care.

• Berating people for their past mistakes never achieves anything and doesn’t put them on a path to improvement. If they were nagging me about past mistakes at the exit interview, I’d be even more glad I’m leaving

As I checked my bank account, I couldn’t believe what I was seeing. There were multiple charges that I didn’t recognize, and they all seemed to be from my girlfriend’s favorite stores. I immediately knew what had happened: she had stolen my credit card.

I felt a mix of emotions wash over me. I was hurt and angry that she would do something like this to me, but I was also confused. Why would she steal from me? Didn’t she know that I loved her and would do anything for her?

Confrontation

I decided to confront her about it. I called her and asked her to come over to my place so we could talk. She sounded surprised and a little nervous on the phone, but she agreed to come over.

When she arrived, I sat her down and showed her the charges on my bank statement. She looked shocked and guilty, and I could tell that she knew she had been caught.

“I’m so sorry,” she said, tears streaming down her face. “I don’t know what I was thinking. I was just in a really tough spot and I needed some money. I didn’t mean to hurt you.”

But then, something caught my eye. I noticed that one of the charges on the statement was from a jewellery store, and the amount was much higher than any of the other charges.

“What’s this?” I asked, pointing to the charge. “What did you buy at the jewellery store?”

She hesitated for a moment, and then the truth came out.

“It was a gold chain for him,” she said, her voice shaking. “I’m sorry, but I’ve been seeing someone else. I was going to tell you, but I didn’t know how. I didn’t mean for things to go this far.”

I felt a wave of shock and betrayal wash over me. Not only had she stolen from me, but she had also been cheating on me. I couldn’t believe that she would do this to me.

“How could you do this to me? How could you betray me like this?”

She looked at me with tears in her eyes. “I’m so sorry,” she said. “I never meant to hurt you. I love you, but I was in a tough spot and I didn’t know what else to do. Please, forgive me. I’ll do anything to make it up to you.”

But it was too late. I couldn’t forgive her for what she had done. She had stolen from me and cheated on me, and I couldn’t trust her anymore.

I told her to leave, and I didn’t see her again after that. It was a painful and difficult time, but I eventually moved on and found happiness without her.

Recently, I found out that she cheated on me because of a PRC man. The man has been scamming her and took almost all her money.

Karma is real

I learned that it’s better to be alone than to be with someone who doesn’t appreciate and respect you.

I (M43) have a girlfriend (33) who decided to go back to school in 2019. We have been together for five years and we are planning a future together.

I was on a holiday with my husband in Bangkok and I told him I will be at the Spa, he said does not like massages and said that he will rest in the room.

So after about 2 hours I went back.

I caught him

As I walked into the hotel room, I couldn’t believe my eyes. There, on the bed, was my husband, tangled up with another woman. I felt a mix of anger and hurt wash over me as I stared at the scene in front of me.

I had suspected for a while that my husband was cheating on me, but I never had any concrete evidence. I confronted him about it multiple times, but he always denied it, telling me that I was being paranoid and that he loved me.

But now, here he was, caught red-handed. I didn’t know what to do. Part of me wanted to storm out of the room and never speak to him again. But another part of me felt like I needed to get to the bottom of this and figure out what was going on.

I decided to take a deep breath and try to remain calm. I walked over to the bed and stood there, staring at my husband and the other woman. They both looked shocked and embarrassed, but I didn’t care.

“What the hell is going on here?”

My husband stammered and tried to come up with an excuse, but I cut him off.

“Save it,” I said. “I don’t want to hear any more of your lies. I’m done with this. I’m done with you.”

I grabbed my luggage and turned to leave, but not before taking a photo of the two of them in bed together. I didn’t know what I was going to do with it, but I figured it might come in handy later.

As I stormed out of the hotel room, I felt a mix of emotions. I was angry at my husband for cheating on me, but I was also heartbroken and devastated. How could he do this to me? How could he throw away our marriage for some fling?

I didn’t know what the future held, but I knew that I couldn’t stay with him. I was going to have to figure out how to move on and start a new life without him. It wasn’t going to be easy, but I was determined to do whatever it took to get through this difficult time.

Happened about a week ago. A few colleagues and I were talking during our lunch break and just chilling a bit and somehow we got on the topic of feet and how some people think they’re hot.

Without thinking, I made a comment like “yeah idk why but I think feet are kinda hot”. Of course it got a few laughs and some of my colleagues started to probe more and disturb me but it wasn’t a big deal.

One of my female colleagues who sits in the cubicle diagonally in front of me at the office was also there, heard it and started giggling to herself.

She comes in the next day and literally slides her shoes off and starts wiggling her toes and rubbing them on her legs and such.

She also angled her chair in such a way where I have a full view of her feet.

The only time she puts them back on is when she gets up from her desk and every time she walks pass my cubicle after doing all the foot action, she would look at me and wink at me.

She also started to make comments complimenting my foot for example she would say come and tell me how ‘big’ they are and would say that she wonder how my toes look like.

She also asked me if I would like to go to her condo for a swim one day which clearly is a pretext of seeing my feet.

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