Husband (32M) constantly threatens divorce over body after babies (32F)

I’m (32f)and have a 2 year old and a 1 year old. My husband (32m) and I got pregnant back to back and I gained baby weight with both pregnancies. The first pregnancy I gained 22kg and then lost 18kg before getting pregnant again (planned) and the second pregnancy I gained 27 kg. I’m currently in the process of losing this baby weight now.

I’m not proud about gaining this pregnancy weight and really struggled during both pregnancies and post pregnancies with my body image. I have struggled losing the weight quickly this second time around but I’m staying consistent and losing it slowly. I still have 9kg left to lose, and then would like to lose more weight to feel more comfortable and fit in my own body.

My husband is constantly tearing me down and telling me I’m not good enough, or some version of that. I know I don’t have the ideal body right now, I’m trying to get there. I’m also caring for the needs of a 1 year old and 2 year old full time. It’s hard. I just wish I had someone in my corner cheering me on.

He is often telling me I shouldn’t weigh the weight I am at, and anytime he feels upset by anything in our relationship, he will bring up my weight and the fact he sees other women bounce back just fine, and tells me “it’s simple, just don’t eat.” He has threatened me with divorce multiple times over my weight, over the clothes I wear (I often wear black or navy workout clothes because I feel comfortable in that right now) and he wrote me a list of what I should and shouldn’t wear, and dark colors is a no no to him. He also told me I shouldn’t purchase workout clothes in the size I am at because I am wasting money (he told me I am stealing money from my kids by purchasing workout clothes for myself), and often refers me to a family member of mine who is overweight and asks me if I want my life to end up like hers (she is divorced). we’re not great as we used to be in bed, which he also complains about and talks about how I don’t ever try to touch him. But the problem is, he’ll berate me in the morning, and then complain about it that same night. It’s hard to get there for me after he called me fat. Like, ok I don’t feel attractice, and clearly you don’t feel that way either.

I’m terrified of divorce and giving him some custody of our kids. He doesn’t take care of them mentally or physically, but he does financially.

I don’t want someone being cruel in their response, this is my life and I don’t know what to do. I feel belittled and picked on daily. I used to be so confident, I had a successful career, I was good looking, and overall proud of myself, and now I feel like a shell of myself of who I once was. Would love some advice.

My [24M] wife [24F] earns more than twice what I earn
Hi everyone. I am in a wonderful relationship with my wife, and we are almost 2 years married.

My only concern is that she earns significantly more than me and I feel pressure to progress my career to match her earnings. She is extremely ambitious and career driven. To be fair, she doesn’t mind being the main provider in the house and neither do I.

However, with such a large disparity, and especially now that we are considering buying a house, I feel guilty about not contributing as much as her. I get angry to myself about it.

Is there anyone in a similar situation who could give me advice on how to deal with this?

Netizens’ comments

1. If she doesn’t mind, then you shouldn’t either. The idea that you HAVE to absolutely make more than your wife is old news. Your wife is a hard worker and happy to help provide for the both of you. Sounds like you have a great wife.
2. I’m the main breadwinner in my marriage, and I want my spouse to be happy with what she is doing for work. I don’t care how much or how little she makes.
3. The best thing to do here is to just sit down and talk over your feelings with her. You guys are married, she should be able to lend an understanding ear for you and help you with whatever you are worried about!
4. My partner earns close to 3x what I earn. We are not married, but if we do decide to take that next step, buying a house, splitting certain financial things may seem unbalanced but it doesn’t have to be. You don’t have to buy a house you’re not confortbale with based on your finances. You also don’t have to be uncomfortable with not being able to contribute exactly 50/50 towards a nicer home if that’s the forever home you both want and your partner doesnt mind putting more towards it initially.
   I think it’s always good to be motivated to progress in life by your partner, but try to look at it in a positive way. The fact that my partner makes nearly 3x my salary definitely makes me want to progress and increase my salary, but I want that for me, not necessarily to be “as good” as her, because I’m not any lesser just because my salary is less. I want to progress for my own self worth. It’s just motivating, but in a positive sense.
   You just need to talk about this stuff and remember that you guys can work on spending mutually on things that match a budget you both agree on so it’s not such an issue for larger purchases. Also remember that it’s not emasculating to make less that a partner. Anyone who says so or jokes about it beyond anything playful is not someone you want to be around anyway. Be a good partner and that’s what matters the most.

Bf(21m) mad that I(20f) have three cats

I(20f) have three cats, my boyfriend(21m) is mad. My most recent cat I got was a Bengal cat. He now says I have too much and I’m becoming a crazy cat lady and I need to get rid of one.

I like all my cats and I don’t want to get rid of any of them. But the fact I don’t want to get rid of them makes him say that I love the cats more than him.

For some context I don’t live with him. i make my own income. He’s freaking out the new cat that I got, even tho he said I could have it.

Now he’s saying that he said that out of niceness and I should’ve known to not take him seriously. What should I do?

Netizens’ comments

1. He doesn’t live with you, he doesn’t pay for these cats, it’s none of his business, and he even said he’s fine with another cat and he’s goes and turns it around? Sounds like he’s being a little bitch baby. Who is he to tell you to get rid of a cat that he doesn’t even live with or take care of.
2. Sounds like he needs to be rehomed to a family without any other pets due to resource guarding.
3. It’s your place and you are free to choose your pets. It’s not his place to tell you to get rid of one of them. Once you took them, you took responsibility for their lifetime.
   Get rid of the bf, he seems to be more trouble than it’s worth.
4. He said you could have it?
   why do you need his permission to keep a cat on your own income?
   HUGE RED FLAG
5. This is a very weird and controlling of him. Keep the cats and get rid of the man.

When I first met her, I just knew she was the one.

Our connection was intense and immediate. I had never felt anything like it before. She was the most beautiful girl I had ever seen, inside and out. I was madly in love with her and she felt the same way about me.

We were inseparable; it felt like we were connected at the hip.

I never wanted to be without her and I could barely imagine a life without her. We had so many plans together, and I was sure that we would make it happen. We had been together for two years and our relationship was getting stronger and stronger each day. Everything seemed perfect and I was certain that it would last forever.

However, She made a mistake. She cheated on me. To this day, I can’t understand why she did it. I was so happy with her and she had no reason to break my trust. But she did it anyway.

The cheating destroyed me. I was so hurt and broken. I could see it in her eyes when she looked at me. She wanted me ti forgive her, but her heart was too broken. I couldn’t look at her the same way anymore. Eventually, she decided to leave me. I was devastated.

For months, I felt like I was lost in a dark place. I was filled with so much guilt and regret. I couldn’t believe that I had ruined the most beautiful thing in my life. I wanted to get her back, but I knew it was impossible. She was gone, and I had to accept it.

I tried to move on and find someone new. I went on a few dates, but none of them felt the same as my relationship with my ex. I was still in love with her and it was impossible for me to love another girl. I was so scared of getting hurt again. I was afraid that I would never be able to trust someone else with my heart.

3 years

Her cheating had destroyed my heart and I was sure that it would never be healed. After 3 years, I learned to forget about it and I started to move on. I still loved my ex, but I was finally ready to open my heart to someone new.

It took me a long time, but I eventually found someone who I could trust and love. She was a great girl and she made me feel safe and happy. I was finally able to let go of my past and move on.

It may have taken me a while, but I eventually realized that it was possible to love someone again. I was so scared that cheating would ruin my chances of finding true love, but I was wrong. I learned that it is never too late to find love again. I am so thankful for my new love and I am grateful for the second chance that I was given.

The last thing I expected when I decided to go to Thailand was to develop explosive diarrhea. But, that’s exactly what happened.

I had been suffering from constipation for weeks. No amount of fibre or laxatives seemed to be helping.

I wanted to try something different and thought that maybe a change of scenery would do the trick. So, I booked a flight to Bangkok, Thailand.

On my first day in Thailand, I decided to explore Chinatown. I was feeling adventurous and so I decided to try some of the local street food. I ate raw prawns and crab from a street vendor. The food was delicious and I felt excited to be trying something so different.

Little did I know that my decision to consume raw seafood would have such drastic consequences. That night, I started to feel a bit off. I had intense stomach cramps and I thought I was going to be sick. I just figured that my stomach was still adjusting to the change of cuisine. I went to bed early, thinking that I would feel better in the morning.

Unfortunately, I woke up the next day feeling much worse. I had explosive diarrhea and went to the bathroom over 40 times. I felt so weak and exhausted. I was in so much pain that I couldn’t even leave my hotel room. I was stuck in bed for three days straight.

After those three days, I finally started to feel a bit better. I was still weak, but I could at least leave my hotel room. I went to the local pharmacy and bought some Imodium to help with the diarrhea. I also took a lot of probiotics and drank plenty of fluids.

The next week, I was finally feeling like myself again. I was able to go out and explore the city. I was amazed by the vibrant culture and the delicious food. I vowed to myself that I would never eat raw seafood again.

My experience in Thailand taught me the importance of being careful when trying new foods. Even though street food can be delicious, it can also be dangerous. I’m so glad that I was able to recover from the diarrhea quickly, and I will always be thankful for the lessons I learned.

I work in a bar at Boay Quay, and while it’s often a great place to meet people, it can also be a place where some people make bad decisions.

Recently, I encountered a situation where a woman I met at the bar tried to hook up with me. She said it was her first time cheating on her fiancé, but there was something about the way she acted that made me think it wasn’t her first time.

I first noticed her when she walked into the bar.

Her eyes were bright and her smile was warm, and I thought she was quite attractive. We started talking, and she seemed friendly and fun. After a few drinks, she started to get more flirtatious, and I could tell she was interested in me. I was flattered, but I didn’t want to take advantage of her.

That’s when she told me she was engaged. She said she had been with her fiancé for a few years, but things were not going well.

She said she wanted to have a little fun and that she thought I was cute. She asked if I wanted to go back to her place and I said no. I told her that I didn’t think it was a good idea because it was wrong to cheat on someone you love.

She then told me that it was her first time cheating on her fiancé, but I had my doubts. She seemed too comfortable with the idea, and the way she was talking made it seem like she had done it before. She kept trying to convince me to go back with her, but I refused. I wanted to respect her fiancé and I knew that it was wrong to do something like that.

The girl eventually left the bar, and I was glad that I had stuck to my morals. I knew that if I had gone with her, I would have been a part of something I shouldn’t have been. I felt bad for her fiancé, and I hope that she was honest with him about her intentions.

Oh btw, I have a girlfriend as well and I do not like HIV/AIDS. Too easy I don’t want.