Difficult traveling partners

Bg: we’re a group of 4 adults in our late 20s who are friend for 10 years or more!

We often travel together to Malaysia for a one day trip or 2D1N. We have a fix driver, a female who enjoys driving and a back up driver.

The driver have a brother who is 4 years her senior. We know her brother (B) but is not close with him.

Anyways we decided on a 2D1N trip to Melaka and B decided to join us since he have to clear leave. Our driver was quite hesitant but it still happened.

When the trip started, we understand Why.

Her brother is the kind if super spoiled child. And worst, the kind that didn’t went through army training (managed to siam with doctor letter of an old injury + some acting)! Anyways, don’t know the details.

Also not saying all males that didn’t went through army is as spoiled as him!!

Back to story, he is very temperamental like something random can trigger him. We booked a AirBNB with 2 rooms. One of which have a 2 bunk beds.

Being the only 2 females, we are allocated the room with a queen size bed. The guys sleep in the room with bunk beds.

B went all quiet about the decision but he probably think it’s too ‘unmanly’ to snatch the room from 2 females. Especially with all the other guys agreeing.

The next morning, he kept asking for Teh but there’s none at the place we took breakfast and we drove to another cafe to let him have his Teh but then the cafe was closed. We suggested Starbubks or Coffee Bean but he say they’re expensive and not as nice. In the end we decided to go to the souvenir shop first then try to find Teh for him. But his face black already.

Later it was his one man show – showing how a man baby is like! Basically kept throwing unpopular and insulting ‘jokes’ whenever we tried to get him involved in our conversations and whenever we try to lift up the mood.

We thought it’s just a one time off incident that it could be a bad/tiring day for him bt we quickly know it’s always! And his tantrums just get worst – TV volume turn ip to 20+ When 13 is loud enough, not eating etc.

On the night of our last day, he sort of argued with his sister and then refused to help pack the luggage. In the end we all help him pack just to leave on time as planned.

Now we are planning another shot trip and he wants to join us too. Wondering how to turn him down without my friend kena sia…

How should I move on? (Part 2)

I am the OP of this story.

Part 2

To further elaborate, we are both single. The complication lies in the nature of our work. Let’s put it this way, we are in an industry where it is unlikely possible to “switch career”.

Our jobs have a certain level of exposure. One wrong move and it can be disastrous. This is why I am struggling. I don’t want to look back and regret but at the same time, making an advance might cause a bigger regret.

It is not as simple as making that first move and see where it takes us because the uncertainty that comes after will be our greatest fear to move forward. Like I mentioned in my earlier post, no matter what the outcome is, most likely one of us still have to sacrifice our career. Why? If we are together, there will be a conflict of interest. If confession failed, the bond will never be the same again. We cherish this connection so much that we will not do anything funny to destroy it.

I don’t think anyone here can truly feel my struggle.

And I am not expecting a perfect answer. I just want to know your thoughts in general. Should I just continue loving him in a different capacity?

And if YOU are reading this, I just want to tell you that I genuinely care and want the best for you. It’s unfortunate that we are caught in this limbo.

Then again, I think of the present moment and feel blessed that this job allows us to connect deeply, emotionally though in a different context but still, in that moment. ily

I started to fall for my boyfriend’s friend.

I’m falling in love with my boyfriend’s friend (let’s call him H here). Something about H attracted me a lot. It started few months back and I thought it might be just a silly crush.

I don’t always hang out with H. It’s always in a group. But somehow he caught my attention. I don’t think he is interested in me because he just got out of a relationship. And obviously, I am attached. I will not act on it but these few days H is constantly on my mind.

Few days back, we were all out drinking together, and the club got crowded and we all wanted get out of the place. So my boyfriend was standing in front, he hold my hand and signalled me to hold whoever is behind me and let’s get out of the dance floor.

So H was behind me, and I didn’t think much and just grab his hand. Out of all the guy friends that I had would not respond when I grab their hand, or just stiffed up their hand, but H actually readjusted his hand so that we could hold each other’s hand properly. I felt the sparks in that short 10 sec. I feel guilty and happy at the same time.

I really don’t know what I’m supposed to do. I’m with my boyfriend for about 5 years now. Should I talk to my boyfriend about this feeling or just let it go away? Please help. I know I will not act on it. Just need some advice before I do something that I’ll regret.

Thank you in advanced.

Here are what netizens think:

• Let it go. Telling your boyfriend will only make him feel uncomfortable, and you already know you won’t act on it no matter what, so don’t put him in a spot. That crush you’re experiencing is only temporary and will fade.

• I think with the presence of this crush of yours, there’s already a problem within your relationship. If you don’t love your bf anymore, better to break up, heal and move on without taking any action on his friend. There’s always karma.

• Let me first warn you, if you break up with your bf and go with H then things might get ugly because he is your boyfriend’s friend. They 2 will definitely fall out as friend or some may even fight because of you. Do you want that to happen? Ask yourself do you still love your boyfriend? If yes, honestly tell your bf you still love him but somehow you got this crush. Tell your bf not to bring you out in group when H is around. Let time erase this crush. If your boyfriend is mature enough he will understand you tell him out of love and he will know what to do.

• I bet your bf doesn’t have a brother else I’m sure you would have fallen for him.

My wife has decided to change careers and try her hand at real estate.

My friend had mentioned in past conversations that he and his family wanted a bigger place but the market was too high at the moment and they want a particular house in a particular district, so they are fine staying put for the moment.

I had a shock when I checked the amount on my credit card bill one day as I do not really use my credit card and hence thought that I might have been a victim of a credit card fraud.

However after some investigations, I realised that it is not a credit card fraud but rather it is my boyfriend being a fraud.

We do not really stay together as my parents are more conservative and so usually I would just go over to his house and go back home by the end of the night.

He must have took my credit card and used it when I accidentally left my wallet at his place one day.

The scary thing to me was actually not the amount on my credit card statement, but the company which the transactions were made to.

After questioning him about the usage of my credit card, he finally admitted that he had used it to subscribe to some ‘premium’ content on one of the ‘special sites’.

He even showed me the collection of those ‘premium’ content and asked if I wanted to watch together.

Am I being too conservative which made my boyfriend decide to do what he did?

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My best friend used to work as a waitress at a pub where all the waitresses are Singapore girls.

While the pay scheme for waitresses in these type of pubs are good, she will always complain that she has to end work late and that the pub boss does not provide transport to them.

Guy sends her home everyday

There is this customer of hers who would text her from time to time, trying to make small talk and ask her out every time.

He had ask for her number on the first time she served him at the pub and she gave it to him because it was easier for her to make reservations for him which would in turn make her money.

Every time she was working, he would show up faithfully and even wait for her to end work, at times just sitting alone and drinking alone because she had to hop around to entertain other customers.

After she ends work for the day, he would always offer to send her for supper and then home and she would never have to pay a single cent whenever she goes for supper or take a ride from him.

She even said that at times, he would tell his friends who go to the pub with him that he cannot join them for their second round or supper because he needs to wait for her to end work and send her home.

She said that she has never asked him to do so, but enjoys making use of him for free food and to save on Grab fares and therefore she allows him to continue doing so.

She claims that this is the best way, killing two birds with one stone because on one hand she can let the guy think that he has a chance and on the other hand, she still gets to earn from the guy in terms of her commission from his reservations, free food and free transport home.

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Guys please beware and check your car regularly if you decide to go out and chiong and don’t want your wife or girlfriend to know.

Nope I’m not talking about the basic lipstick that the girl will purposely leave in your car or lingerie, I’m talking about GPS trackers like Apple AirTag.

Got caught going to Geylang by wife

I have always went to chiong Geylang etc discreetly from way back and I would take all necessary precautions to make sure that no one spots me.

I would only go on alone without jio-ing anyone and would choose timings that no one in my life would be able to catch or suspect me.

Recently I realised that my wife has been asking me where did I go and what did I do for the day.

I thought that maybe she was just being caring and showing some concern about my life, but turns out that she had a while ago put an Apple Air Tag in my car when she borrowed my car to run some errands and because of this piece of technology, all my escapades at Geylang has been discovered.

Cannot be I tell her I go and eat frog leg porridge a few times a week at Geylang right?

So beware guys, don’t be an Ah hai like me.

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I work as an Insurance agent and as you guys know, being in the insurance industry is very competitive.

Being competitive means that people would think of all sorts of ways to give themselves an edge to be able to achieve more sales.

Some insurance agents spend a lot on marketing while some agents spend a lot on entertaining their clients.

For myself, I choose to spend on revealing clothes to dress myself up so that I can ‘put half ball’ when meeting my potential insurance male clients.

One of my insurance colleagues have tried this before in the past and it really gave her a lot of sales, parachuting from almost nothing to achieving her MDRT in just a few months after she used this method.

Bumped into her father one day while wearing a revealing dress to meet client

My father has always been more traditional and believes that as girls, we should dress more modestly.

One day while I was wearing my new dress that showed more than ‘half ball’ while trying to sell insurance to one of my clients, I bumped into my father outside.

This was the first time that he saw me and my ‘half ball’ and I could see that while he was angry, he did not know where to put his eyes.

My potential insurance client that was with me could sense the awkwardness but his eyes were still glued to my ‘half ball’, which angered my father even further.

After I got home from my insurance meeting, he screamed at me and refused to talk to me thereafter.

We are now more okay but I still don’t think that I did anything wrong and would continue to ‘put half ball’ when meeting my insurance clients.

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Back in the days where I was studying in Polytechnic, I guess we could all say that people at that age group were all at the phase of growing up with raging hormones, and we tend to think and act not with our brains but with our ‘inner urges’.

I have a female classmate called J, whom is older than most of us by 1-2 years as she went for her nitec studies first before coming to Poly.

So being older than most of us, she had an earlier exposure to clubs and the party lifestyle and was more ‘wild’.

We hit if off quite well, much more than the others as we were always paired with each other for group work.

Invited me to her place one day after school

One day while doing work in school, the topic of conversation suddenly went to cats as some of my classmates were talking about feeding strays in their area.

I had a liking for cats since young as I grew up with one at my place but sadly that cat had passed on.

Out of the blue, J suddenly extended an invitation to me to go to her house to play with her cat, after hearing that my cat had passed on.

I agreed immediately and was excited for school to finish.

Reached her home and realised it is not the cat I thought it was

When I reached her place, I looked around and could not find her cat.

She told me to go into her room to wait for her as the cat is in her parents room and she did not want her parents to see me at her house as she did not want them to mistaken that I am her boyfriend.

So I went into her room and few minutes later, she walked in without holding any cat, but simply stripped off, held my hands and directed me to the ‘cat’ she was talking about.

Don’t ask me what happened after that 🙂

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I work as a receptionist at one of those budget hotels in Singapore and am often assigned to be on duty at night.

It usually gets busy at night at these hotels as there would be many ‘couples’ that will walk in to check in to the rooms for a ‘short time’ of 2 hours or so.

As a receptionist who works as these hotels, I have seen many types of couples coming in.

Some are here at the hotels to have a tryst with their lovers and it is also obvious that some of the patrons are those that provide ‘services’.

Saw my grandfather coming in with a girl around my age

One day while working, a familiar face came into the hotel with a young girl to book a room for a ‘short time’.

It was my grandfather and while I have heard that he has a habit of womanising and fooling around, I have never expected that I would see it with my own eyes.

He must have been feeling embarrassed to see me as he avoided eye contact with me while the girl with him asked me if there were any hotel rooms available for ‘short time’.

She looked about the same age as me, I am around 25, while my Grandfather is about 68 years old.

I wanted to tell him off and not let him get a room but my hotel manager told them that there were rooms available and asked me to check them in.

After about 1 hour, my grandfather and the young girl checked out of the hotel room and I saw my grandfather passing her cash and she cheekily smacked his bottom and told him that ‘she enjoyed it’ and told him to call her.

Up till today I still wonder if my Grandfather’s conscience feels anything about ‘checking in’ to a hotel with a girl around his granddaughter’s age.

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