Girlfriend Poopshaming me?

[I dont know if this is appropriate here, but this place seems like a better place to ask]

Me (Male) and my girlfriend finally tried prostate play on me. We both enjoyed it alot! But when she took the toy out of my behind, it had a bit of poop on it.

She told me i was disgusting and told me to go poop in the toilet.. I was extremely embarrassed about it, and apologized for it, of course grabbed the toy to clean it.

We have not spoken for a few hours.. Im also fairly new to this kind of play, and am wondering if i seriously did anything wrong? I didnt exactly tell the poop to come out on the toy..

Im pretty humiliated, cause i truly feel nasty now.. I get it! I thought it was nasty too.. But im also confused cause i feel like its not really my fault..

Any ideas how i can move forward with this, and any excuses i can tell my girlfriend to maybe forgive me?

Thanks in advance! I really appreciate it!

Netizens’ comments

• someone said this on a similar post i read long time ago: don’t throw a poop party and not expect poop to arrive
  your gf was being incredibly rude by shaming you.
• Why is she surprised she went to poop’s house and it was home? Wtf. You’re fine, my guy.

Recently my department has changed a new boss.

Now all of you probably have heard of dress codes in the office but my boss implemented a ‘shoes code’ in our department as well.

Males are only allowed to wear full black or full brown shoes and as much as possible it should be leather shoes. Females are not allowed to wear open-toe footwear.

He says our department faces the public from time to time and the type of shoes we wear will affect our overall image as a whole.

So it started to get some of us in the department thinking if it is right for your boss to dictate your footwear when you go to work.

I mean leather shoes are more expensive than normal shoes and who says open-toe footwears are not professional?

It’s just his own perception of things and it seems that he is enforcing this perception of his down on us. Some of us feel that it is his strategy of subtly forcing us to dress more formally as we will match our clothing to the shoes we wear.

But to me it doesn’t feel right to dictate the ‘shoes code’ of an employee as long as he/she is not wearing slippers/sandals to work right?

Here are what netizens think:

• Make him pay for it if he insist on leather, tell him shoes not cheap GST go up inflation go up.

• It really depends what kind of office, but leathers shoes is kind of a standard if your working in an office environment IF requires long sleeve shirts.

• I work barefooted, as long as I finished my work my boss don’t care if I am naked or not.

i used to drink some alcohol before college/school so I wouldn’t be socially anxious.

I’ve always been a socially anxious person, and it was especially hard in school with all the people and in the classroom, felt like I was being watched, and found it difficult to keep the flow of conversation or talk to people without seizing up or not knowing what to say.

So what did genius me do? Well I noticed that in parties and a night out alcohol would obviously mellow me out, and make me into a massive extrovert who could talk for days.

And so I figured, that if I drink a small amount of alcohol before school each day I could eradicate that social anxiety just enough so I can flow much more better socially.

I think it kinda worked at first, but I ended up trying to see how much I could drink to get all the anxiety away. It’d be like a can of cider in the morning before I got there.

I realize how unhealthy and ridiculous of a thing it was to do, and I’d probably be better off just taking anti-anxiety medication back then if it was that bad.

Oh well. Thanks for reading.

One of my classmates got his driving license two years ago, and his rich Dad immediately bought him a 2nd hand continental car.

Throughout the period of the two years, his Dad has been selling away his car every few months and then buying him a car to replace the car he sold away.

The cars that he drove were all continental cars and even though they were all 2nd hand, my classmate did not mind because he felt that he had a lot of ‘face’ driving the continental cars.

Recently, his Dad told him that he had already bought him a brand new car as he felt that it a new car will not cause as much problems as 2nd hand cars.

Thinking that it will be a continental car, my classmate was excited about it and began to share the news on his social media that he is changing car soon and cannot wait for it to arrive.

However, on the day when he went to collect his car, he threw a fit.

This was because his Dad had bought him a Honda Civic, which was not a continental car.

Even though it was a brand new Honda Civic, it felt that he had ‘lost his face’ because he has been driving continental cars all along and he did not want to be associated with a Japanese car.

Some of us envied him for owning a Honda Civic actually but he told us not to be sarcastic and say that since its a ‘Japanese car’, he would not take care of it.

He began driving the Honda Civic like as if the Honda Civic owed him something in his past life, slamming the doors whenever he closed the door and stepping on the accelerator like he was stomping on a cockroach.

He also would hope that his Honda Civic would break down just so that he can take his dad’s continental car to drive around.

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Hello, I (F non local) am keen to date Singaporean guy as I find they r more nice compare to guys from my country.

But after several dates, I find hard to tell their intention and whther they like me also or not. Some of my girl friends also say the same, easier to tell non Singaporean intention when dating.

Is it just us or is it true that Singaporean guys dont always open with their feeling? Then how do I tell if he likes me too or not?

This is genuine question, pls dont judge me as I really want to understand.

My interest is also genuine and personal, as I mentioned, I find Singaporean guys r more nice compare to guys from my country, not because of material.

I have proper job here in Singapore, so its not material related. Thank you!

Netizens’ comments

• Have you tried asking them directly?
• Maybe the guys are more reserved and don’t want to scare you off. Could try being a little more direct. Many guys are morons when it comes to understanding the hints
• In Singapore guys are no expressive of their emotions and what they want. Asking head on is the best answer to your problems Guys are pretty quiet in general even if their talkative they won’t actually say much about their own personal desires
• SG guys r trained not to be expressive towards girls. Coz SG girls r so easily triggered. So it’s always better to just keep our mouth shut.
• I am more of an unexpressive person myself, like I generally do not openly express my feelings as it takes a lot of courage for me to do so, and of course only when I really think it’s the right person (often times the gut feeling is wrong lol). But I do have majority of my friends who are expressive and initiating when it comes to rs

At wits end with girlfriend

I’m a 30M and my gf is 29F. Been in a relationship for 4 going 5 years and at the start, it was fine hearing her complain about her bad days to me. I thought this was just sharing days with each other. But this went on every day and its not an exaggeration.

Everyday she will call me and whine about her day over the smallest things. I am generally a positive guy, happy go lucky and try not to let bad things in life get to me.

I listen to her and support her, telling her these things happen and try not to take them to heart. And there are sometimes where we get into countless arguments over the same thing: me telling her to stop whining and complaining about the smallest thing and her telling me why can’t I be supportive.

Thing is, when do you stop being a supportive boyfriend and start being used as an emotional therapist and punching bag for her to unload all those negativity onto? I usually listen and be supportive for 30mins or so before I cant take it and just walk away asking her for us to stop talking and calm down first. This wouldn’t be that bad if she allows us to calm down but she doesn’t. Just spam call and call, text, cry and say she needs someone there. Won’t stop until I call back and when I do call back she will start crying and I get even more pissed off.

This is just a snippet and I’m sure from her POV I should be giving in as a boyfriend. But I really cannot take the negativity every. day. over the smallest things like aunties rushing into trains to snatch seats etc. Am i a bad boyfriend and need to be more patient?

I am 25 (M). My highest qualification is a diploma. I currently serve in the force. Furthermore, I am not an officer so I don’t really earn that much. I just take home about 2.7K every month. I am content with the work I do but not so much about my pay and career progression this far.

I am left with about 3 years of minimum term service. Recently, I was informed that based on various requirements not made known to me, I do not qualify for a sponsorship in further studies even though I have a uni course placing. It’s really depressing as I always thought of myself being on the short end but this gets to me quite a bit. I have lost a lot of confidence in myself over the years.

Due to various developments and circumstances over the years, I don’t have any close friends. In fact, I don’t have any friends at all and it’s been like that for the past 5 and a 1/2 years.

I have never been able to really fit in and at work. I was not able to assimilate myself into any of the existing cliques. So this is the first advice I really need… I don’t really have anyone to do anything with.. What kind of meetup or interest groups are there? I am interested in sports and gaming, so maybe that helps?

Needless to say, my dating life has been really stale and disappointing. Mostly being very disappointed in myself as even when I do things right, even when I don’t make any big mistakes, even when I treat them right and cater to their emotional needs.. It always ends with something along lines of “Next pls”, “There are better options”, “You’re not an option”, “Just another poor guy”, “You’re an okay guy at best but nahhh”, “Not worth the time and investment”.

What’s your experience with dating apps and meeting others from those apps? I tried using them time and time again but I don’t really get any matches.. I do get the occasional match once every 2 weeks but I ‘ve seen someone else at my workplace who gets like 5 everyday, Idk how.. Maybe it’s the pics I use or I need to wear better clothes? Maybe it’s because he showcases his car? What’s your experience with these apps? Are there any other ways to meet potential partners? Perhaps through meetup or interest groups that I alr mentioned?

I’ve been thinking to myself that maybe doing some things solo might not be so bad afterall.. Like solo trips to other countries etc. Any suggestions on activities that are actually more fun to do alone rather than a group?

It more or less seems like I will be the type to live alone and die alone with many regrets.. For a long time, I thought that was okay but I don’t feel that way anymore. Any advice is much appreciated 🙂

If a girl is interested in you, she will never, and I mean, NEVER ask you up front whether you have a crush on her, if at all.

The one thing you must understand is that girls are never direct or straightforward with the guys they like. In your case, it is obvious that you have been showing her too many hints that you are crushing on her pretty bad.

And if she asks you the question, it just means that she has been suspecting this for a long time, and confirmed this with your confession. In my opinion, you have lost this game, and now your “crushing” fate is all up to her mercy. You fell right into her bait; she may now choose what to do with you however she wishes.

Even if she likes you back just a little bit, does not mean that she is willing to be tgt with you. Girls require a lot more than mere “crushes” to be in a relationship with someone.

Hell, even if a girl hates you to the core, she may still want to be together with you if you do the game right —> Now this is why a lot of girls end up with abusive boyfriends.

The number one rule in dating game is never, never ever confess your feeling to the opposite sex.

Whoever confess first, basically admit defeat and resigned their fate to the other’s hands. I can go on and on about what you can do, and should have done but anyway a lot of ppl are probably going disagree with me; besides, everyone has their own relationship journey. So I wish you luck with yours and take this post with a pinch of salt. Hopefully I am wrong and you will have closed the deal in the next few weeks. OR better, just move on and find a new target cuz this girl is just going to play the long game with you. It’s not worth the time. Singapore is small but not that small.

Tl;dr: gg bro.