Does having a partner who’s a gamer ever get better?

I (28F) have a bf (27M) who is a gamer. He loves his PC. I understand we all have a vice and I try to respect his personal time. We’ve been together almost 8 years. It never used to be this bad but lately, it’s been so frustrating. For the last year he has probably spent about 45 hours every week on his PC. (He does work full time but he’s usually on it the second he gets home until he goes to bed) He spends 90% of his free time on his PC and if he’s not on it, then he’s watching YouTube on his phone of someone playing the game. I know he truly has an addiction but I think that’s a post for another day.

And I do communicate when we need to spend time together and he always will do a date night but the other 90% of his week he’s on the game. Don’t get me wrong, I love my alone time as well but I am still a productive adult during my day. (We have no kids). I don’t want to feel like a nag but when I have to ask him to do something (like help with dishes or help with groceries) multiple times and I keep getting “yeah give me a few minutes” and over an hours gone by and he hasn’t moved…I feel like the mom to a teenage boy. It’s gross. And every other aspect of our relationship is great! “Love life” is amazing, no trust issues, & we rarely even fight.

My question is: Does it ever get better? Do they ever tone it down as they get older?

I (45F) have been married to my husband Karl (50M) for nearly 20 years. Karl isn’t the oldest child but the most responsible and he’s always looked after his mother and sister who has two children (now adults) when he was able to.

When we got married, his finances became less available to them and they’ve never gotten over getting less from Karl (i.e. he would buy school shoes for the children but not an entire wardrobe and for her birthday his mom might get $50 instead of $200).

For the record, I never told Karl he should do less. However, we had plans to start a family and wanted to travel more often so he no longer had those extras to give.

My MIL (80F) in particular uses every opportunity to remind me and anyone other than Karl how much he used to do for her.

Most recently, she spoke to our son (14) and told him to tell his dad how much she misses the extra money he sent her especially now that she’s old and might die soon.

My son had the phone on speaker (she was aware because he was getting ready to leave) and I heard it all. I told him to say goodbye to his grandma and tell her I’d call her back.

When he left, I called her and told her not to use our children for her greed and if she wants anything from Karl she better ask him directly, not her grandson.

I reminded her that she gave Karl and me a crinkled up $10 bill as a wedding gift and after all her son has done for her ungrateful self, she shouldn’t expect anything else from him but love and affection.

She started to cry (she should get an Oscar for the fake tears she’s managed to squeeze out through the years) and told me I’m being mean to her.

I told her I’m tired of her whining about money especially when she’s not wanting for anything. Karl thinks I was a bit harsh but he agrees with me.

I (39m) am engaged to Tina (32f). We work in different fields and I make about 15% more than her. When we were dating, we got along so well that we knew we’ll be spending the rest of our lives together. We talked about it often and decided early on to combine our finances when we do get married. Then we got engaged and things fell apart when I discovered the details of her finances.

I’ve always lived a frugal life. I wear ordinary clothes and drive ordinary cars. Tina has always dressed better and drove better cars. It’s been a running joke in our friend group that she’s marrying down. I’ve always laughed and didn’t mind, better she looks amazing, like she just stepped out of a magazine cover.

Now that we’re engaged, we went through our financials in detail. I don’t want to go into too much detail so I’ll be brief. The money that I don’t spend I invest. My assets and investments are roughly 20x of hers and she owes about $50,000 spread over several cards and $75,000 on her new car. If she cash out her investments and retirement, she still wouldn’t have enough to pay off her debt.

I was shocked into silence. I don’t make that much more than her so I always figured our asset levels are close. I never imagined there would be such a wide gap and that doesn’t even include her debt.

After thinking about it for weeks, I finally told Tina the other day that I want to keep our finances separate until she pays off her debt. I don’t want to say, “I do,” and immediately take on $125,000 in debt.

She argued that we always talked about joining our lives and sharing everything and now I’m having doubts. I told her I have no doubts about spending the rest of my life with her, I just don’t want to take on so much debt.

i found out my friends had a group chat where they chat shit about me

i have (had) a group of friends and they were genuinely some of the nicest, funniest, and most entertaining people to be around and last night i found out they had a group chat without me which started because a bunch of them thought i was annoying.

i think everyone is entitled to their own opinion and i don’t think anyone has to like me but i think that if they don’t they should make it clear to me that they have a problem with me.

a lot of them still talked to me like we were really good friends for months. they would respond to my stories, say me and my bf were cute, tell me their own secrets and act like we were friends but now it’s all been thrown away and i feel so shitty because it’s not the first time this kind of thing has happened to me and i don’t think it’s that everyone i meet is a horrible person- it can’t be, but i think i am the problem.

i dont know what i did to them because i was nothing but nice to them and i try to be nothing but nice to people but clearly there’s something in me which makes people dislike me. i’ve been thinking about it all night because i just can’t understand why. (please don’t use this in those stupid gameplay videos on tiktok)

My GF (23F) of 5 years has suddenly started to try enforcing curfews on me (23M)

We started dating in school and I knew I wanted to marry her, but all of a sudden she’s starting to say she doesn’t know if she can stay with me if I don’t change.

It’s never been a problem before, but now if I go out with friends she tries to enforce a curfew with me. It’s literally small gatherings with my friends that I’ve always had.

I’ve invited her before but she says she doesn’t want to be around people she doesn’t know. For example, I’ll usually head home around 2 or 3AM and now she’s saying I have to be back by 10 or 11.

I waited my whole youth to be an adult who can live life how he wants to finally. All of sudden I have someone else now (in my eyes) treating me like a child saying I’m not respecting her boundaries if I don’t listen.

I’ve never told her anything limiting where she can go or at what time she has to leave. She says if I want to be with her and marry her I have to respect her expectations.

I just feel as if you want someone you want to be a life partner you wouldn’t want to decrease their quality of life or social interactions.

Is my view of marriage immature? Is there any solution here?

Why do people give seats to young children?

I am genuinely curious why do I see people giving up their seats to children (roughly 4-8yo) on mrt when they clearly are able to stand unassisted and easily. I totally get it if i have to give up my seat to a parent carrying a toddler on them. But these children can stand on their own, a 30+ yo person like me is the one who has problems standing up for prolonged periods 😭

Edit If I stand for long I get tired, still can stand but just tired, thanks for the concern everyone haha.

Netizens’ comments

• Is to confine the kid to a small 1×1 box so they dont teleport all over the place
• I give the seat up more for the parents sake than the kids honestly. I think they’d rather have the kid sit still in one spot than have them trying to run around.
• Some give to prevent the kids from being a nuisance by running around.
• i’ve seen kids getting offered a seat and after a minute they get up and start running around instead 😭 i feel u OP
• Kids tend to get tired easier and also having them seated just stops them being a nuisance or falling over/down when the train moves unexpectedly such as when it’s switching tracks (this for example happens when travelling between Bukit Batok and Jurong East). What concerns is me is someone in their 30s saying they can’t stand for prolonged periods. Are you ok dude? (This is a genuine question) 20s to 40s should be prime health