Do you know last time my NS pay only 50$? You are very lucky now.

I can’t stand people saying that we are lucky now because we are paid 600 and above.

When it’s the same people telling us that things are so expensive now while reminiscing about the past when 1 bowl of noodles was 1 dollar LOL.

If you do the math, we are getting paid, on average the same as they did last time based on how strong the money was last time

Netizens’ comments

• Yes, last time food so cheap, u can’t compare last time to now, last time $50 can buy a lot of stuff, now $50 buy what? Gst now 8% going to 9% soon
• Now I need to pay $1.5 to buy milo for my buddy.
• All those old boomers always use their circumstances to undermine ours. Different times, different cost of living.
  They always gonna make it seem they have it harder. Ignore them, they have no better advice, that’s why they say such things.
  Makes them look tougher but it’s all just ego.
• My girlfriend taught me a comeback for these kinds of boomers.
  “Yea but back in the day, you can afford a 5-room flat with like 2 raspberries.”
• The counter is telling the person what their pay would be now with inflation.
  I earn $20 less than a random encik during his time. And it wasn’t even 10 years ago that he enlisted. Lol it shut him up about it.
• I heard last time ippt still pays around the same as now though, so if anything we are losing out more, let me know if I am wrong
• I think they are trying to make us feel better. The absolute amount does make someone feel better even though in real terms there is no change. LOL.
  For example, you have 50k sgd but if you convert to baht, you are a millionaire in Thailand. Actually bad example cos things are cheaper in Thailand. You get the point.
• I suppose and you guys do have a point about how times were different back then and how the pay now may not be as big of an increase from last time if you take things like inflation into account. But for those in the older gen, let’s cut them a bit slack as some of those that I hear this from were genuinely nice guys who just want to make you feel better. I know it varies from person to person but for those who are genuinely nice, we shouldn’t ridicule them as they mean well but they just lack perspective.

What is the weirdest dog name you have encountered?

I was walking my dog and saw another dog owner. Asked for the dogs name and she said the dogs name is CB short for cute baby.

It was very weird to hear her keep shouting CB stop, let’s go CB. No she was not Singaporean.

I honestly kept giggling each time she called the dogs name.

Netizens’ comments

• Knew someone who named every single one of their pets after what they were commonly known as, I.e pet hamster was called Hamster, pet dog was called Dog
  LMAO and these pets responded to their names. most creative /s
• Not really weird but funny. The name is Money. So “Money come!”
• Monkey D. Luffy, for a dog. He responded to both “Monkey” and “Luffy”, so forgetting and yelling “Monkey! Monkey!” in public didn’t always go down well.
• True story. I have a neighbour who had two golden retriever, missy and fortune. Every day i swear I hear misfortune come misfortune go.
• As long as you don’t name dog as Snake or any other dangerous predators names, otherwise people will run away like zombie to busan once you call your dog’s name.
• My husband works at a vet clinic and he encountered one rabbit that was named “Stupid Rabbit” by the owner. I’m not joking.
• this one time i was cycling in a park n heard someone say ‘stupid come’. i thought she was scolding her kid or smth, but then i saw her dog coming near her. then i understood that the dogs name was stupid
• Someone got a dog when studying in Australia and called it Angmo . She brought it back to Singapore when she finished her studies.

My husband wants a second wife. But thinking of the possibility of him with another women completely breaks my heart.

I just want him happy. He says that he loves me unconditionally but I still feel like I’m not sufficient enough for him if he’s willing to peruse a relationship with someone else.

I feel like I can’t completely tell him “no” because I don’t want him to resent me in the future or have doubts of things he wish he could have done in his lifetime.

We’ve been arguing a lot and I’ve been fleeing the house when I need a good cry and I still can’t admit to him that I can’t let him be with another women.

My heart is broken and I feel crazy cause every time he touches his phone, my head races with a million thoughts. Idk what to do.

I’m mentally and emotionally drained. Sore to the stomach with anxious thoughts but I would never throw my marriage away.

Netizens’ comments

• if you don’t tell him now it will completely destroy you and ruin your marriage, try and get the guts to do it it’ll be hard but you have to for your own good. if he doesn’t accept that then he has already thrown your marriage away. i’m sorry my heart hurts for you
• He does not love you unconditionally if he’s changing the conditions to suit himself. He loves only himself if he chooses to disrespect you so intensely as to bring a whole other person into the marriage. Do you get a spare husband on the side? If not, why not? Why does he get to have a second when you have to make due with only half of what you committed to. He sounds weak and greedy, imo.

[23M][37F] My wife and I have an open marriage but she doesn’t want me to do anything while she does

I [32M] have a open relationship with my [37f] wife Trisha. She wanted a open marriage and I’ve been loving it. I use condoms and don’t kiss these women on the lips or eat them out I just do my thing and leave.

We use to go to clubs together and bring women back and have fun. I can say I’m a solid eight some would say a ten so getting women isn’t hard for me and I have zero emotional strings with them so a win is a win.

I haven’t slept with my wife because I’ve been doing my thing with this woman my wife knows about her and it’s been amazing. So my wife told me she doesn’t want me to see just that woman even if it’s with her. And she doesn’t want me to sleep with the women anymore she wants me to just watch.

Of course this made me feel a certain way because she’s the only one who can have fun while I watch watching doesn’t do anything but make me mad. So whenever she does the deed with a woman I leave to my friends house a play cards for a few hours.

This has caused a problem because she thinks I’m not attracted to her anymore or that I don’t want children with her because I stopped sleeping with her.

what’s your worst tekan story in NS?

Mine was being given 5mins to run to bunk, change into FBO, and come down after having done our morning workout. And then changing parade for several times cos no one could reasonably meet that time limit.

Netizens’ comments

• Standby bunk in parade square, had to bring cupboards and bed down and place exactly like your bunk layout.
  Encik even played the part of opening the “bunk door” to enter the bunk.
• Knuckle push up on an asphalt road in the mid day sun, the instructor got a boat load of complaints afterwards
• hearsay someone jumped from height onto a tonner canopy during change parade to meet the timing, which then caused change parade to be banned
• Due to the officer believing the misinformation that wet clothes hung indoors cause pneumonia, we were told to standby universe in an unreasonable amount of time. When we inevitably failed to make the timing, he ordered that we brought our CABINETS downstairs to the parade square. Of course this was impossible, so he changed the orders and told us to drag our cabinets to the corridor.
  In an effort to move quickly, one of the cabinets tilted over, and the hook left a cut in one of the recruits’ head. He bled profusely but was otherwise fine.
  This was in BMT in 2006, and our coy line was right at the end of school 2. So no one saw us, except maybe the one other coy line across from us. All this started because one recruit contracted pneumonia.
  The officer sign don’t know how many extra and was duty officer for the remaining time we had there.
  Tbh I’ve had more siong tekan in officer school, but this memory really sticks out.
• Our entire company had to do 50 x 10 sets of pushups because we failed to sing out loud during a route march that was being led by our red beret wing commander.
  Btw, for the first 5 sets, we were in our SBOs. The last 5 sets, my arms were literally shaking uncontrollably.
  FYI, it was OCS, so nobody gave a crap about the maximum cap of punitive pushups written in the SAF SOP.
• We were marching to our bunks after lunch, for some reason this fella walking past wanna tekan us: Push ups, sit ups, jumping jacks, basically a full intense workout for 10 min.
  Most of us threw up on the spot LOL not the worst but wildly uncomfortable
• 16 guys took MC after BMT outfield, Platoon SGT got pissed and started SBA right after book in. Found every single speck of dust they could plausibly find and forced us to do 200+ pushups, crunches, buddha claps EACH. The guys who took MC? They got nothing.
  This wasn’t even pre-2010, this was late 2020. When Covid fears were high. Yeah, lets fuck everyone else to scare the ‘sick’ guys back, that’ll definitely not potentially get a C+ case to report to duty.
  Sgt HS, you were quite out of line that day.
• Not mine but a certain OC of the infamous Ninja company lost his temper when he found out at a field exercise that the recruits did not cover up the communal shit hole as they were getting ready to leave the site.
  He made the recruits dig the shit up and then did a whole bunch of rolling maneuvers all over it. Dude got down ranked and sent to my unit before I ORD. He seemed chill though.
• FBO High Kneel with assorted arms over head for 1 hour. I lost count of how many times I changed legs. Meanwhile my CSM that made us to this was eating maggee in training shed
• 2 incidents came to mind:
  This one happened during BMT. I didn’t feel it was that bad but it was feedback to me by one of the 3sg afterwards that it was one of the worst tekan they have ever administered.
  It happened during one of the outfield activities, and the task was to build up our tents in neat rows, I was the IC for that phase. When we were done and being inspected, we were told to remove everything, and set up everything again in a different area within a certain time (can’t remember the duration).
  Not only did we meet the timing, our tents were so straight that the PS was stunned and had nothing to say. They clearly didn’t expect us recruits to be able to do it.
  The second happened during the professional phase of Combat Engineer OCS. We were in our civilian, marched to the front gate, then told that 7 minutes have started (for the non CE guys, it means to be in the parade square in FBO with items laid out), so of course we have to run back and do the change parade and kena other punishments for not meeting the timing.
  In hindsight, it’s not the most physically taxing activity, but one of the most sian and unexpected one.

MLM Companies

Anyone has bad experience with MLM Companies?

Like.. knowing your upline isn’t as committed to his/her work as desired?

Then when you want to change upline, you need to gain a certain number of signatures to get out of their chain of people?

After you have pursued to being removed from the chain, then your direct upline throws his/her anger at you.

Like why, why throw tantrums just because someone doesn’t want to be your downline anymore?

If you’re always wanting more from a person instead of giving more of yourself, when you’re constantly approaching new people to establish new connections, doing stuff behind someone’s back and not giving 100% to helping others through your work, what’s the point of supporting you continuously?

I guess one will reach a point and age whereby they want to protect themselves for self-preservation and not give to others unless necessary.

I have given my share to a group of people, but despite my giving, I felt that my concerns have not been approached appropriately. What’s the point of giving my time and effort to a bunch of people and having others people being favoured in the end?

For now, I want to put myself and my loved ones as my priority, not a second fiddle who may not be considered as a priority when certain decision are being made.

May those who have been burnt from the MLM folks recover and pursue a life they desire with an upline they have chosen correctly from the start. Should they have made the wrong choice, may be they able to change their uplines ASAP and remove themselves from the misalignments.

My(30F) husband’s (30M) snoring is legitimately damaging our relationship

im literally at my wits end actually typing this out on the couch as he’s snoring away in our bedroom.

So we’ve been together 7 years. He’s always snored but it’s only ever been this bad when he’s sick. He’s tried the strips, a mouth guard from his dentist, we have a humidifier in the room and it doesn’t seem to matter anymore whether he sleeps on his side or his back.

I’ve seen videos of tongue exercises (for real, don’t make it dirty) he can do and sent them to him but he doesn’t seem particularly interested in them. He makes some effort but I don’t think he understands what this is doing to me. I hate sleeping next to him and it makes me hate being in our bed together at all. I definitely have no interest in getting intimate because of the pure sleep exhaustion and anger I feel towards him for hours throughout the night. I’ll wake up and see if I can go back to sleep through it. If I can’t I nudge him to change positions. If this happens enough times he gets irritated saying he can’t help it and I should let him sleep.

I use ear plugs and spend much of the night with my pillow wrapped around my head which is uncomfortable. I’ll be up for hours in the night each night just trying to get back to sleep through constant snoring.

He thinks he needs to lose some weight and that will help which could be true (his BMI is still healthy but on the higher side these days). He is eating better and still working out but I need a solution now. He’s been to the doctor before and the doctor doesn’t take it as seriously as I need him to. A sleep test has never been ordered even though I’d guess it sounds like sleep apnea.

What do I do? I’m so angry at him all the time because I’m not sleeping.

Also if anyone says this is abuse or we should get a divorce I wish a hundred stubbed toes in your future. I know this sub goes there over everything but I’m not interested.

Sg life meh

My friend is the definition of getting his life together. We are all in our mid 20s. I have a fiance and he is married.

He and his wife combined earns multiple 6 figure a year. Has a fully paid BTO and brand new car (also fully paid). He is 100% self made, doesn’t come from a rich family. He is also generous. An angpao from him, regardless to whom or wdv event, will be at least $50. I have seen him give a $800 angpao for a church wedding before. So yea.

I’m just a normal employee, worrying abt the upcoming wedding and housing expenses. Naturally, I asked him for advice.

His advice is extremely simple and logical. But I will absolutely hate my life if I follow his advise.

My fiance and I want a big wedding, to celebrate our special day. I don’t want to have no wedding, just sign ROM and zhao.

I also wanted to propose first then apply fr the flat, for romantic purposes. I don’t want to bto while still being a student to max out the grants. But this means now I got less grants than him, even though he earns multiple of my income.

I want my ideal home to fit my aspirations, not just do a simple reno to fit my budget.

Are we Singaporeans destined to live like a dog? If I want to build my ideal life, it doesn’t feel possible to do it here.

Here are what netizens think:

• As long as you continue to compare, you will never be happy. Work within what you have. There’s always someone better or worse than you. By whining your wealth also won’t grow.

• And come to reality. You want to have a big wedding. You want super romantic proposal, maybe with doves flying and butterflies fluttering. No matter where you do that, it will be expensive. If you’re average here. You’re average everywhere with all else being equal.

• 90% of the lavish weddings always end up in red and couples either burn through their savings or take a loan to finance that 1 day “special” day. Latter usually takes years to pay back.

• We are very blessed already. Look at our neighbouring countries, some doesn’t even have the opportunity to study and need to leave their home just to survive. Why want to compare? Just be contented with the little things in life and live according to your means.

My (35F) best friend (34F) got engaged at the end of last year and is getting married this year in November.

I was very excited for her until she told me that she wanted to have a destination wedding.

Once all is said and done with the cost of airfare, hotels, food, transportation, etc – the trip ends up costing me about $8,000 for myself and my spouse.

The cost of this same trip during other times of the year averages about $3-$4,000 however my bff is set on her wedding date and destination.

In my mind, it isn’t worth spending that much money but I had promised her I’d be at her wedding before I knew what she had chosen.

I told her it was too much money and now she’s upset with me because I’m saying that “our friendship isn’t worth it” and that as her bff, I’m not supporting her to make her dream wedding come true.

For context, for my wedding, she only had to pay for her shoes, which were about $75. I bought everything else including her bridesmaid dress.

Girlfriend dumped me because I wanted to share my feelings.

I wanted to share my feelings with my gf but she didn’t want me to.

I tried to talk to her about my feelings a few times. It’s good to be open and close to your partner. I always let her talk to me about things like stress, hard days, family/friend troubles.

However, if I ever wanted to talk to her about similar kinds of things she’d turn away.

I tried a few of times to figure out how to communicate better with her, asking people irl and online. I got some interesting tips but it didn’t work.

I tried again to explain why it’s important but she’d had enough of me trying saying I was relying on her too much (she talked about her problems to me more than the other way around) and that I need to do this on my own.

After that she dumped me. I don’t really know how to explain how I feel. She talked about how much she liked sensitive guys but that wasn’t true.

I wanted her to be a partner but I guess that was foolish to expect. I want to think this was for the best but it hurts too much.