(27F) (32M) My wealthy fiancée wants me to be a stay-at-home wife?

My fiancée and I have been engaged for 11 months, and have been together for 2 years. He’s very wealthy, we live together in a beautiful home, and I have been fortunate enough to be supported by him while I focus on finishing my education online.

I have expressed my desire to have many children with him, and he told me that he would only have children with me if I didn’t work, and became a stay-at-home wife, who looked after the children.

I’m very hesitant to agree to this because my education would go to waste, and I’m just generally not sure.

I’m having trouble deciding, thanks for the advice.

Netizens’ comments

• You have to decide if this is ok for you.
  Given that he’s wealthy, I’d suggest you both spend some time with a marriage/family counselor you both trust and like.
  Negotiate these things with the help of a third party who literally makes this kind of conflict resolution their profession!
• You need to have a proper discussion about what this marriage would look like. Outline a clear set of expectations on both sides.
  Make is a business plan. Not kidding. If he’s making you this job offer, what’s your salary? Vacation? Working hours? Medical leave? When will he clock-in to be dad and husband? When do you get to retire and what does your second career look like? When can you start it? When do you work the SAHM part-time? Full-time? What does you annual bonus look like? How does your salary increase given an increase in responsibility and volume?
• Never give up on your career. Nowadays you never know if the marriage will last or if you might have a reason to have to leave someday. If you have a bad situation, you won’t be able to leave if you’re entirely financially dependent on your husband. And yes, your education would also be wasted.

Disruptive Neighbours

None of us slept a wink last night. Neighbour started kicking the gates at 1.30AM and asking everyone to get up to listen to him.

Each time the police was called due to the noise. Police came to his house but he will not respond. Once police is gone, he will come out and start his bullshit again.

He’s currently in another civil court case with another neighbour. What else can we do? We are not sleeping at the rate…

Netizens’ comments

• You need to gather evidence. Take videos with his face plus also time and date it happen
• Well, he has got to sleep some time. All those affected by his antics just go kick his gates every half and hour or so.
• Kick his gate at 10am while he is sleeping
• It is beyond me how you guys have tolerated for so long. I’d have confronted the guy face to face and recorded the entire interaction.
• Everyone have a phone yeah? Take it out and put it to good use. Police needs evidence, they don’t deal with hearsay

My pregnancy changed how I feel about my husband

If I had to describe how my relationship was with my husband, I’d probably just say comfortable. We never really had a honeymoon phase and going from friends to dating to marriage just all seemed to happen naturally. But a few months into my pregnancy some switch seemed to just flip and I am just so obsessed with him now.

I can’t seem to get enough of him and I find myself following him from room to room like a lost puppy, and he’s taking it like a champ. He works from home and I’m currently not working so I’ll just hang out with him in his office all day, and he always makes sure to take regular breaks so I can sit on his lap for a few minutes here and there.

Just little things about him are my favorites now. I love feeling his slow, steady heartbeat when I lay my head on his chest when he sleeps, and I love feeling that same heartbeat speed up against my back when I sit on his lap and he’s fighting a big battle in his video games.

I love his muscular build, because it feels like getting wrapped up in the warmest, coziest blankets.

I love that he treats my cravings and complaints with an urgency I can’t even match.

And most of all I love that if I really think about it, none of this behavior is new. I’m so excited to build a family with this man and I hope that these feelings I get with him don’t go away after our child is born.

[22m] [22f] My bf likes me better with makeup. I feel awful

I’m an okay looking girl but I’ve been told I look like a “bombshell” with my hair and makeup done. Without it, im just okay. Not pretty.

We went out last night and I dressed up for the first time in a while. He was fawning over me the whole time, staring at me, kissing me.

When we got home he was telling me that he’s so lucky he’s with me, I’m out of his league and he can’t believe we’re together and he’s with the prettiest girl in the room.

It made me feel so good. We got intimate and he was so into it and had fun.

I don’t know. He doesn’t act like that normally. It made me feel like a princess but it also made me sad that he’s not always complimenting ne like that. Am I being crazy

It’d be nice if he was sweet with me even if I didn’t spend hours getting ready. It’s not like he calls me ugly but he just doesn’t really say anything

My boyfriend 23m is mad I 21f won’t pay for him to go away with his friends

For context I come from a quite wealthy family I travel often around 3-6 times a year depending on the length of the trips for which I pay for myself as I have a good job, but my boyfriend comes from an average income family so he can’t afford to do that.

When we go away together I will pay all expenses except for his food and anything unnecessary he chooses to buy.

Im currently away on a holiday with my family and my boyfriend called me last night telling me all about a holiday him and his friends had planned.

he kept mentioning the cost but I was assuming he was just happy he was able to pay for himself but no, when it got to the end of the call he asked “so can you transfer me over the amount” I was confused at the time.

I asked him what he meant by that and his response was “ well you’re paying no? You know I can’t afford to myself”

we then got into a huge argument which is still currently happening but I’m still refusing. I feel as though he sees me as kind of his bank account where I should pay for everything.

If that’s the case I want to/will end the relationship but In another way I feel as though it’s my fault for him being that way for me always paying for him to go with me.

Edit: He’s now the ex.

I am so annoyed that people keep thinking I’m dating my father

Whenever we go out we always get strange looks. If I call him dad in public people think he’s my sugar daddy.

It’s so annoying when people immediately assume this. I can’t have a public relationship with my dad in public because people think we’re dating.

I get it, I’m conventionally attractive. But that does not make me automatically attracted to older men.

I’ve literally had to loudly state he’s my father and married to get people to stop looking at us. I just wish that people just mind their own business and stop thinking I need help.

No, he is not emotionally manipulating me. He is my FATHER.

Thanks for coming to my rant 🙂

Netizens’ comments

1. This happened to my youngest daughter and husband. He took her to the store to pick up a few things and this old b- said she’s awfully young to be with him. He turned to her and said she is my daughter and you’re sick in the head. Mind your own business.
2. My dad stopped holding my hand in public because people would glare at him. It’s sad, I totally feel your frustration!
3. My dad and I used to go out to all-night diners bc that’s when we could spend time together. I will always regret giving a shit what people thought of us instead of cherishing the moments.
4. This happens every time I go do stuff with my mother. I’m a guy.
   In most cases when I’m out with my mother, people think that we are either married, dating, or brother and sister.
   It’s weird most of the time and sometimes I have to roll with it but it gets awkward real fast.

Had this friend years back. She was my primary school friend. We met again in JC and in uni; and hang out.

Whenever we share a meal together, she’s always eating more than her share. When payment comes, I always have to pay first then she return half.

Once, she went to Japan for work. I sent her off, even bought her a scarf, gloves, toothpaste and toothbrush because she forgot all of these.

When she came back, she didn’t bother to buy any souvenir or snacks for me, but she would tell me how much she bought for all her colleagues in the Japanese company based in Singapore.

She even said there were many leftovers for her colleagues. Those were just small things like biscuits. But I was even worth a biscuit. Not even a thank you or whatever. I let it go but didn’t mention anything.

Then when she got a bf, she didn’t bother to meet up or pretend to contact. A few years later, she invited me to her wedding and I just ignored her.

She expected me to go to her wedding and pay for an ang bao? Til today she doesn’t understand why I ignored her.

Know how to take advantage of people and pretend. This kind of friend, I don’t need.

I’ve just started to date this guy. He’s actually my secret crush and I’m so excited he’s started to ask me out.

I’ve been happy for the past few months and everything has been blissful until he knows about my ig account. He also doesn’t know I model occasionally .

Recently I mentioned I have a business account with a following of xx,xxx followers. It’s just a part time for extra income where I do ads for a small fee and didn’t see the need to mention it early in the relationship.

He got upset that I “kept a secret” and said what’s the point if I’m not making much money and that I should give it up and focus on my studies.

He does not use social media, his last post was over 5 years ago and he’s been using the same profile pic since he created his account.

So he doesn’t see the point of trying to make money out of it. I am upset by his lack of support and how he chided me.

I agree it’s not going to be my bread and butter but I’m making some money now. So what’s the issue? Is this a red flag?

I have been having these recurring thoughts lately, and since they are more frequent than ever, I know these are emotional baggages that I have to release before I move on.

Having just entered my 30s, sometimes I look back at the last decade and wonder how things could have been had I done them differently, especially during my uni years.

Many times, I wish I could have done way more back when I was in NUS. I felt like I mugged too much, closed myself from several opportunities, and did not spend a lot of time doing the things that I love to do (and I wish I did).

These things include but not limited to signing up for more gigs and making more music (since I have always loved music from Day 1), joining more student clubs and societies in NUS, and making more friends in and around the campus, even though those were arguably some of the most carefree times I have ever had in my life.

Being a somewhat shy individual back in the day, I did not have the self-confidence to do many of these things out of fear of what others were going to say. It was only after I graduated that I realised it was already too late.

Now that I am very confident of who I am as a person and know myself a lot better over the years, while acknowledging that it is certainly impossible to turn back time, I sometimes still wish I was a lot more outgoing and open as a person 8-12 years ago. Maybe things would have been rather different back then.

Nevertheless, thank you all if you read this till the very end.

P.S. I am good and healthy by the way! I just want to express a few regrets that I kept to myself for years, that is all.

Friend tricked me and set me up with a guy. I wasn’t even looking for a relationship. Now the guy wouldn’t stop bothering me.

For context, I met my friend for lunch, before our food arrived, she said a guy friend of hers was in the area and asked if he could join us for lunch. I agreed since it would be mean of me to let him eat alone, knowing we are nearby.

I know him briefly but just as an acquaintance. So the 3 of us managed to keep the conversation going for a short while till my friend said she had an emergency and left me alone with the guy.

I tried to be polite and stayed till we finished our meal. That is when the guy confessed our friend set us up. He said he had good feelings about me and wanted to get to know me.

That was when all my politeness went out the window. Firstly I was upset to be lied to. Why can’t he just be upfront instead of tricking me to show up at a restaurant? I was also upset with my friend for being involved in this trickery too.

I declined meeting him again but he insisted I give him a chance and continued to contact me. How many times do I have to say no? Now my friend apologised to me after knowing he was so persistent and creepy.

His looks is barely average. I don’t care if he’s loaded. That’s a hard no from the creepy vibes he’s emitting. I’ve since blocked him. I can sense him wanting to bed me from the way he looks at me and it’s a huge turn off.

Guys, have some dignity. When a girl says no. It’s a NO!. Stop trying to hard sell yourself. If you’re so confident of yourself, don’t use tricks to get a date!

Netizens’ comments

1. “His looks is barely average”…bet if he looks like Jackson Wang she would had hump at him at the very 1st moment
2. Now this story would have very been different if he was good looking.
3. “His looks is barely average”
   Are you actually Scarlett Johansson
4. Would love to know how the poster looks like.
5. My friend knows you. He said you’re not chio that’s why your friend set you up.