I work with this girl and we have a good relationship. We both jokingly tease and flirt with each other but I jokingly tease and flirt with other female friends/colleagues as well.

She’s always bubbly and friendly with me but not with everyone else. She’s taken and in a serious relationship.

Whenever I flirt with other girls and if she’s around, she doesn’t like it and acts jealous. She says things like “why are you flirting with her?” or “stop flirting with her”.

I once said something about a girl I like whom I’m talking with, but then her mood changed from bubbly and friendly to disinterested and annoyed.

She didn’t even let me finish my sentence about this other girl and just walked away. I’ve never expressed any real interest in her since she knows our flirting is just for having a laugh and when I text her off work, she barely replies.

Why does she act jealous when I flirt with other girls? Does she like me? If she does, why does she barely reply back to me when I text her?

He is failing to do the adult stuff, should I leave him?

So my boyfriend of 3 years (known him 8 years) is actually great guy. He really good to me and my family loves him.

But whenever he goes out or hang out with his friends, he goes out of control with alcohol or if they don’t drink, he would do something to harm himself.

Then he comes home a complete mess, he rarely have energy to even remove his cloths and have a bath. Then he just pass out. One time or two he even spits near the bed and he says he will clean it up. He also uses washroom and leaves it a mess too.

It annoys me deeply and really losing my vibe for him. I kind of lost interest in sleeping with him and it can be really not fun for me with him.

But he is the best in terms of matching my energy and having fun but afterwards when it comes to real adult stuff, I kinda don’t trust him.

Also he doesn’t do dates or special things like that because he says “he is not good at it”. I really do love him but are these reasons that I should leave him? (Btw we both are 28+ age)

Do I F up for telling my gf she has no ass and her belly is big

Maid or no maid?

Sorry for the rant peeps but.. May I do a survey 1st?

Usually, if you all employ maids, do they cook for you? I’m not sure why is my maid here for since she hasn’t been any help in assist in prepping meals for the family.

Generally, her main job is to cook, our house is small, no pets no elderly. Taught her many things and many times repeatedly same cooking instructions still cannot cook even 3 dishes in 7 month of employments. Every time when I’m back from work, my kids will tell me they are hungry. Almost most of the meal I cooked for the family. Then for her, she can just cook for herself using a lots of good ingredients. Usual after my son comes back from school, he must eat because he’s hungry. But she nv prepare.. So I cooked for him too. What she can cook is luncheon meat and hotdogs for my kids only.

Liked no brainer food. I think might as well i quit my job and stay at home in order to let my kids have a balanced meal but then our pockets will be tighter as only 1 person working. Already programmed her, before cooking must put table mat. Did not put. Everything i do it myself.

Till now, I start to question myself. Why is she here? Is she be in any of the help. If you were in my shoe, will you still want to continue this employment? But my hubby warns me, if this maid cannot then forever dun employ maid in future since is so troublesome.

So I’m in a dilemma. Please help and thanks in advance.

Here are what netizens think:

• let him eat the no brainer food she cook for your kid. it is normal to change a few times because you will only know when she actually works for you

• Can she make a sandwich? Lettuce, tomato, egg, ham, avocado etc, sandwiches can be very nutritious.

You need to have lots of patience to have a helper. I have one for 2 years and she is still forgetting routine things. She could only cook simple soupy dishes and fry finger food for my kids, and most of the time I cook the – meals for the family…and I’m working. Imagine the rush when I get home.

• You would need to repeat instructions for her and keep reminding her what needs to be done on a daily basis. You may want to train her to prepare the ingredients beforehand since you are the one who does the cooking.

• Look for experienced maid instead. It is worth the pay, at least mine.

• She is pure lazy. Stop buying canned/processed food and be VERY strict with her. Give her stern warning. Ask her to give you a list of menu for the week. If no improvement, get a replacement. Don’t waste time.

I’m frustrated with him I don’t have any love for him

My husband love kids in 4 years of marriage 1st and 2 year we both postponed.

In 3rd year I got pregnant but got a miscarriage..still now we are trying but we didn’t succeed..if I eat something alike, immediately if u eat this u will never baby. if I took a warm bath u will never get a baby every time he mocks me and even in food .your not prepare good food that’s y we don’t have the energy to have a baby..and are fond of money all time. he always discourages me in my career and does nothing. But he never cares for me. Even If I fall sick during my periods he doesn’t take care of me and instead mocks me that everyone has felt more than you, for this pain also you are not able to tolerate.

He opened the company, for himself to earn money which I never suggested. No, he is blaming me, I’m doing a lot of work. What u do is just simply sit.

I worked as a project engineer after marriage he didn’t send me to work. But before others, he would behave s such as he is treating me like a queen.. He used to be an aggressive person whenever we fight he breaks the phone, laptop tv mirror etc.I should not oppose to what he says. I’m scared a lot to convey my side to him whenever he suggest something.he do mostly business on interest without financial background and brings trouble financially and mentally.

Sometimes I do feel like do I need to live like this till I die.. or every marriage life will be some problem if we started breaking nothing will remain ..or am I thinking too much…

Here are what netizens think:

• If u already knew that the relationship is toxic, why bring children into the pic? Talk to him abt his behaviour and your feelings and if he does not change for better, u really need to consider your options. Dun keep quiet and expect miracles. It just wont happen.

• So many warning signs to get out of this relationship. Leave him.

• if you are looking for a sign… you already got the answer, everyone must be prepared to walk out of a toxic relationship no matter how painful it is…just imagine u have to spend the rest of your life in a toxic relationship? Be nice to self and love self..this is the basic of living, why should we come into this world to be abuse by our partners??? So in a way everything that happened in your life is you allow it!!!

• I can relate. Especially the throwing and breaking things. Even self harm during fights. Traumatic time truly.

Is it a red flag for a guy to constantly ask for free things?

This guy (who’s interested in me) keeps asking me for things for free. I feel like he’s doing it just to start a conversation, but it is such a major turn off. For example, if i’m having ice cream, he’ll say hey when are u gonna treat me to ice cream, or you wanna share that with me.

Or when I bought some socks he’ll say it’s nice and to give him a pair (so we can match).

He’s not rich, which I don’t have an issue with. But he seems to have no ambition and he keeps asking for things for free.

Is this a red flag or should I give him a chance?

Here are what netizens think:

• Same as girls, no difference

• i may be wrong, but it could be his way of breaking the ice and starts a conversation going. He could be the shy type and not sure of how to find ways to continue to connect with u, except in finding things connected with u to say ba. If he is really really a cheapo, he would have insisted on the items. But so far from the above, seems that he is saying everything in jest but didnt really make u do it. If u like him enough, give him more time and observe further. If not, then just drop him since u never like him from the start, it seems.

• When guys don’t pay you call them a cheapo, then woman leh? prostitute ah.

• I’m not really ok with the guy asking for free stuff and also not okay with him having no ambition. But if u prepare to raise him then ok la~

• Give him a chance? He’ll want double chances cos he wants to matchy-matchy. Drop him la. Don’t even be friends cos he will continue to want things. Lol.

• Definitely some Prince or some wealthy kid who got a Mount Everest of inheritance trying to be humble and act poor. You’re sitting on a pile of diamonds and you don’t even know it.

During covid, I gained weight and have struggled with depression since.

Two months ago I moved to Singapore for work and moved in with this guy that was mutual friends with one of my old coworkers.