Literally writing this after meeting a guy from CMB.

From the moment i sat down he’s been asking things like whats your inspiration in life? Are u looking to climb the corporate ladder? U dont seem to have any aspiration? What’s your struggle in life right now? Are u happy in ur job right now?

I straight up told him “look, i dont feel comfortable to be honest. Tried holding up the conversation by telling him more about myself and that generated even more questions from him.

He told me that by telling him that i feel uncomfortable means I’m putting the blame on him for my negativity.. and that I should chill and relax and if i dont, i wont be able to do anything great in life.

The entire experience was just…. weird AF. Kinda ended the conversation and get my ass out by saying I have to go and meet my friends later (which is the truth anyways).

Dunno if its me or he is just “special”.

Edit: And for some reason, he was talking about the economy and bringing the biden administration into the conversation and how it is going to impact the entire world and then talking about AI. Ok. Serious shit.

Feels illegal asking for my own money back

A friend in our common clique refuses to pay us back his share of the bill everytime we head out.

When reminded, he explains that he is ‘tight these days’ and will transfer us asap, however, it goes on for months and many of us don’t get our money back.

It’s not that we are unsympathetic towards his financial difficulties, but this friend seems to be clearly living beyond his means and we have to foot the bill for his indulgence.

For some context, this friend orders alcohol when the rest of us don’t, leading to his share of the bill becoming the largest. When it’s time to get the bill, he magically disappears to the washroom.

Edit: We tagged him in the group all the time and pm him individually well but he just replies ‘ok will inform when i tsf’ or ‘am tight now’

Netizens’ comments

I sympathise with people who can’t afford their meals but to order beyond their means… that’s not it man. Growing up I didn’t have a lot of pocket money to go out with friends.

I will try to order within my means even in a group setting. It’s basic curtesy to pay back, even if it’s your closest group of friends.

I think just split the bill whenever you hang out with him. Like when he goes to the wash room, get the bill and pay individually. So when he’s back, he will have to deal with his own bills. He is obviously overstepping here.

It’s my wife’s dream to own a condo. We have no property in SG at the moment but already got a BTO with eta to completion in 2024.

Wife wants to either forgo the bto and buy a condo or rent out the bto and buy a condo.

If we were to get a condo we will end up paying a monthly mortgage of 2.6k a month. Not including maintenance fees.

I do not wish to purchase a condo as logically a condo would be a financial burden on us. My wife does not care for this and believe we can and should purchase a condo because it’s her dream. We don’t earn much but a combination income of approximately 7k a month.

What should I do? We have been fighting for weeks. About this and she refuse to back down from the idea of buying and living in a condo.

Thank you all for your comments and insights! Appreciate the support and advice!

Netizens’ comments

1. 7K a month combined
2. Wife does not care
3. Wife dream to get condo
4. After discussing and arguments, refused to back down.

Damn bro.. this is just a tip of the ice berg. Your life is going to be a living hell from here. You are not going to have too many good night sleep 💤

My GF and I were discussing about family plan for the future. One of the topics was naming children. Studies have shown that bad naming is bad for kids as they may become a target for others.

I experienced that when I was in primary school due to bad name given by parents.

Name is one of the biggest challenges for parents. I wish parents to know naming kids is not creating a new username.

My partner and I talked about it and we came out with names to avoid:

1. Kok Long or Long Kok (you know, you know)
2. Jayden, Aden, j’den, Eden, Caden or whatever den
3. Chinese names with the initial of CB
4. Abcde (god this is legit name)
5. JJ, jay jay
6. Jezebel
7. Unisex names
8. Arson (God knows whether the parents know the meaning behind it)
9. Abcde
10. Virginia (people will call you as virgina instead)

Netizens’ comments

• I mean… I know a Dickson idk why would anyone name their son that. And pls don’t Jun Jie, Wei Xiang, Jia Jun, Wei Hao, Wen Jun, Heng Jie, And definitely not Daryl Ian Koshy
• Dont use “ting” or “ling” at the back
  Eg: Shaoting – shouti
  Yi ting- eating
  Yaoling- yellin
  Avoid “den” names.
• I saw someone in army with the name tag LJ Cheong
• Dont name your son as “Chee Wai” or “Chee Hong”. If your surname is Lim, dont give first name “Beh”.
  Go ns the encik ask: “Recruit! What is your name?”
  Your son: i am Lim Beh.

Why is dating so hard in Singapore?

26/M here, so one of my resolutions for 2022 is to date someone and hopefully settle down with her a few years down the road. Till date, I’ve dated a girl for 4 months, another for 1 month and recently just ended things with another girl after dating for just 1 week. Might sound like a player but trust me, I got played real hard.

I’ll summarize what they told me when I asked them how we should proceed with our relationship:

4 month girl: I like you a lot, just not how you want me to so I was really struggling (basically friend-zoned). I don’t think I should date you cos I can’t be the best of myself and that’s unfair to you.

1 month girl: Sorry I decided to give my ex another chance (her ex asked to reconcile when we were seeing each other) and I am not over my ex.

1 week girl: I don’t know what I want and I feel like we’re moving at different paces and dating isn’t a priority for me now.

Sorry just wanna rant, I think I’m generally a decent guy myself but I just haven’t met the right person. That’s life but I’ll still be actively finding the one, wish me luck everyone!

SG no longer allowed to run shirtless?

Was just running along ECP in the afternoon, to improve 2.4km timing.

There I was running along ECP track, run halfway suddenly a lady I believe in mid-30s, came to me and stops Infront of me, saying the following to me.

“Excuse me Mr, can you put on your shirt? There are females that are jogging here too, ok? Can put yourself in their shoes?”

Me trying to avoid any further shit, I just put it on and carried on running. That is of course, after a certain distance, I took it off again.

The weather was super hot today, and I remember pre covid, there were guys who are exercising shirtless too.

Netizens’ comments

• That lady should start asking men in swimming pools to shirt-up then.
• I think u should continue running, she probably won’t be able to catch up anyway
• You should tell her, you are free to take off yours too.
• What about women running in sport bra? If I were you, I would ignore and continue running, otherwise can educate the lady about the benefit of running shirtless under hot and humid SG weather, and let her know women also run shirtless.. Just that the put on sport bra..

Singapore is quite conservative & people are shy comparing with most western countries, I feel it’s extremely rare here to get comments/compliments from random passerby strangers, not to mention how much courage a girl has to build up to approach a stranger dude here.

So I wonder for guys, have you ever been approached by any stranger girls?

Or at the least, ever get random compliments from stranger girls? (exclude shuai ge calls from cai png stall aunties)

Here are what netizens think:

Yes, they usually tell me they not selling me anything. Then proceeds to sell me something.

Yes, Great Eastern ladies.

They treated me like egyptian king and even shared with me their pyramid schemes.

My friend’s younger brother was sitting at a bus stop and got asked out by a girl lol and now they’ve been dating for like 6 months. She’s brave as hell, I wish I had that kind of courage to ask a random boy out

Nowadays everyone wearing mask so if you ask a guy out it’s like gachapon haha

Yes I get approached all the time by foreigners trying to find their way around in SG

When I was younger I (a dude) was approached by a dude saying, “Hi I’m from such-and-such an agency and I really think you have a look about you blablabla…” And I laughed so hard the dude walked off. I can’t get girls to give me a first glance and here this idiot thinks I’m gonna buy his bullshit. Lol. Anyways no never been approached unless she was an agent of some sort.

This happened a week or so ago, we’ve been broken up for about two months but spent the last week sorta rekindling/hooking up.

Anyways I was at home smoking and minding my own business, she had went out drinking with some girlfriends and ended up texting me around 11pm asking if I was ready for her. Me being a man of course I say yes.

Anyways she comes over and immediately gets naked, we start doing the freaky freaky and as per usual when she is drunk she wants it doggy.

So anyways we continue going, she says to me “you know what I need” and I’m like “yup I do” like a good old golden retriever. I give my old thumb a good lick and insert it into the back door.

We keep going for a few more minutes and decide to change positions, it’s at this point when I pop the cork I realize I had some doodoo on my thumb, me not caring I jump up quick and go to my washroom to clean said thumb before we continue. This is where she asks what I’m doing, I quickly tell her I’m just cleaning your brown stuff off my thumb. Well, that wasn’t a good idea. Apparently, I killed the mood and it instantly reignited a fight

Why did I bother cleaning my thumb off, how much was actually on there, etc. it was enough that it covered my thumb nail, I wasn’t going to rub that in her hair or my bed.

I thought I was being a gentleman by cleaning my thumb instead of rubbing it all over her, but I guess I embarrassed her.

Hey all. Kind of hard to find unbiased opinions irl so I figured I’d turn here.

I (29M) had a kid with my ex-wife (32F) 10 years ago, my daughter. And there’s no real way to sugarcoat this but as soon as she was born, I left and I never ended up seeing her in the hospital as a baby. Was never really present in her life at any point but ended up getting a divorce 11 months later with her getting full custody of course.

I married young, was really stupid and thought I’d end up being a good dad despite no skills but got scared that I’d turn out like my dad and chickened out. Not really an excuse but an explanation I guess. I paid child support for the first 3 years but stopped afterwards.

I’ve been speaking with the girl’s mother about reconnecting with her, but she thinks it’s best that I stay out of their lives majorly. But I think making amends is always possible so I’m not sure, I just really want to make things right but I will respect their decision. I’ve seen her a few times but her mother has always introduced me as a friend. She says she will tell her when she is ready.

I’ve been dating a girl (28F) for about 10 months, and I really like her. I think I could definitely see a life for us and I know that sounds weird but she’s also said the same. I was also speaking to my daughter’s mother about meeting this girl, but she says absolutely not and that’s a bad idea. But if I want to reintroduce her into my life isn’t it fair that she gets to see my life too?

Am I wrong for doing this? Her mother says it’s a very bad idea, so it’s making me think I am but I just genuinely cannot see why. Obviously I care for this girl and I will care for her life too, but a relationship has to be two-sided I don’t think it’s out of the question to show her my life too.