Why are Malaysians so engrossed with being gastronationalistic against Singapore, including making belitting, mocking or trashing remarks?

First and foremost, such a thing is subjective. How the food tastes, how it’s prepared, as well as its ingredients. Different places have different variants.

Personally, I love food from almost everywhere in the world; be it from China, Japan, Korea, Thailand, Italy, France, Indonesia, India, etc. I’m always open to tasting new foods. In Southeast Asia, there is no ill-will or hostility when talking about cuisine between Singapore and Indonesia, Thailand, Vietnam, etc. For some reason, when it comes to Malaysia, it becomes a different story.

If you look at Malaysian online pages, news outlets, journalists, etc, there are always constant mocking of Singaporean cuisine, being referred to as shit, overrated, tasteless, horrible, and that everything is superior in Malaysia. It’s an obsessive trope at this point.

Furthermore, when foreigners make remarks of having positive experiences trying out the food in Singapore, there are always a bunch of Malaysians coming in to mock the food. You can find this on TikTok, Instagram, YouTube, especially in vlogs. Is the hostility really necessary, with more more pressing issues to dedicate your energy to?

The question is – Why? Why the need to behave this way, especially if such a thing is subjective? If Malaysian food is so good, surely it’s able to stand on its own without resorting to belittling other nations? Singaporeans hardly do this. In fact, Singaporeans praise cuisines from other countries a lot, including from Malaysia.

And we haven’t even gone to the messy topic of the origins of some dishes, with Malaysians constantly claiming that everything was invented there when talking about Singaporean food, as well as with Indonesia and Indonesian food.

My friend said there is no such thing as luck and poor people need to work harder

That was honestly hurtful to hear.. especially cause she has never had to “work harder”… everything has been handed to her.. I’ve never told her or anybody up until this post that I once ate spaghetti from her sink drain and a tart from the trash when I was at my brokest. My friends assume I have a lot of savings cause I’m frugal but I’m frugal cause I have no money..

I’ve been working for 14 years. I haven’t had a weekend night off in about 5 years.. I wasted my 20s.. and I have nothing to show for these sacrifices. I don’t have debt.. at least there is that.. my credit score is great but I can’t afford shit anyway.. but I cannot leave.. cause my parents are in their mid 60s and still working for minimum wage .. I know one day soon I’ll have to help them out financially

It feels like life is kicking my ass. If it’s not one things it’s another.. most of my teeth have holes in them.. I can barely chew.. all stemming from parents that didn’t teach me the basics… my parents are immigrants who only know work. I was a latchkey kid.. been on my own almost all my life.

I’m so sick of how my life currently is.. I can’t handle worse.

I feel hopeless.

I don’t even know whether I’m in the right or wrong….. Gf and I are in a 5Y RS.

Basically what went down was, my girlfriend had a bad day so I surprised her with Mac delivery and she was dumbfounded by why I only ordered for her, and in her opinion I should have ordered for her family as well.

Her argument was that if she was the one ordering for me, my family can’t be watching me eating only (but what’s wrong with that???) she goes on to comment that why do i do such things, the things I do are weird and we have diff mindset.

Anyway my POV is that I’ve never met her family before and ordering for them just didn’t cross my mind, all I knew in my head was: gf feels down > order food to make her feel better

Never thought that I’ll have to deal w this negative feedback from her.

Edit to add in as to why I haven’t met her family:

I’ve recently ORD (23M) just started my career and will be starting PT uni soon.

I haven’t “met her parent’s standard” yet and she doesn’t want her family to worry or feel disappointed for her since I started dating her when we were 17 and I had nth to my name while her sister’s bf were I’d say kinda rich(?). Their bfs lived in condo, had cars and already had a degree. My family was completely the opposite, we weren’t well off, had debts to clear etc. I guess that’s the part that she thinks will worry her family.

Am I wrong for thinking I should inherit my late mother’s house over my sister?